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Kobojunkie:
He is not actually lying, you know. Child abandonment na culture for Nigeria. The only pause dey come typically when the child in question na boy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

That is what I'm saying. He's having the mentality that once it's a boy child then he will come back later to look after his father

I wonder where he got that school of thought from

Villa12:
That is what I'm saying. He's having the mentality that once it's a boy child then he will come back later to look after his father
I wonder where he got that school of thought from

. You know say our people dey always like to believe in the strangest and the illogical. If you ask for the source of the delusion, they'll try to convince you by recalling a tale or two of boys finding their way back to estranged fathers many years later. All this while conveniently ignoring the 1000s of other cases of boys who never bothered to find the fathers who abandoned them— like these other boys are not human beings.

NassBoy

It's funny how you think another man is readily available to willingly date and take care of a single mother and her child in this era.

Men are no longer behaving like that so don't worry about another man claiming your child bro and don't bother chasing her. Just focus on making money so you can either take your child or give her money to support your child

ediko5:
➜NassBoy, It's funny how you think another man is readily available to willingly date and take care of a single mother and her child in this era. Men are no longer behaving like that so don't worry about another man claiming your child bro and don't bother chasing her. Just focus on making money so you can either take your child or give her money to support your child

Stop lying to him in what seems a sordid attempt at comforting him. He has every reason to be worried about his girl and his son. 🙄

NassBoy:
I thank you for your understanding. I'm not too disturbed or worried about her but my son. That little boy needs a father around him

Please pay attention to finding your footing, you must do it fast if you want to keep your family intact, being around her can lead to another pregnancy without job is equal to poverty raised to power 2, you goal should be how to secure business , learn a skill and start making money, then get a comfortable accommodation and bring them back to you, but for now she has made it easy for you to run fast without load but you must be serious and do it fast, it’s not really hard to get something doing and start making money but the mistake most people are making is that they wasted a lot of time trying to find a job

FutureFocus:
Please pay attention to finding your footing, you must do it fast if you want to keep your family intact, being around her can lead to another pregnancy without job is equal to poverty raised to power 2, you goal should be how to secure business , learn a skill and start making money, then get a comfortable accommodation and bring them back to you, but for now she has made it easy for you to run fast without load but you must be serious and do it fast, it’s not really hard to get something doing and start making money but the mistake most people are making is that they wasted a lot of time trying to find a job

Thank you my brother and friend.
Thank you for the encouragement. I appreciate. I'll act fast sir

ediko5:
NassBoy

It's funny how you think another man is readily available to willingly date and take care of a single mother and her child in this era.

Men are no longer behaving like that so don't worry about another man claiming your child bro and don't bother chasing her. Just focus on making money so you can either take your child or give her money to support your child

who told you men don't marry single mothers? Some of una go just dey talk anyhow as if you're in control of every man on earth.

There are millions of men that will marry her with her child and op may likely not see the boy again, as we all know say na who train pikin get pikin.

The only way is for op is to be sending monthly allowance to the boy just to be part of his life and for the boy to recognize him as his father while he's grown.

Why not find your footing and watch her come back trying to win you in a frantic and dramatic way. Face the reality, you said it yourself you failed in the place of provision though it take two to tango but you already determined yourself Na you dey carry responsibilities. If I were you, though I can't be you, I'd invest this time into revamping myself. Like restrategizing, unlearning and relearning and personal and financial growth. Let her go with the child if she wants to, work on project you and few years from now watch how she will start begging you to coming back.

Let her go.. no one can claim your son. Your son will forever be your son or else the DNA says another thing.

Adebisi444:
Let her go.. no one can claim your son. Your son will forever be your son or else the DNA says another thing.

who told you that? Na who train pikin get pikin if you don't know.

Villa12:
who told you that? Na who train pikin get pikin if you don't know.

That is the part he must work on. He should make sure he train the pikin even if the mother is not living with you. Train your pikin and keep all the evidences.

NassBoy:
The mom is stylishly in support of her moves

Let her go. While she's gone use the time to double your hustle.

IkeIgboNiile:
For me, I'll advise you to focus on finding your feet first before running after her and the baby. As long as the child is a boy, he'll ask for his father when he's of age,that's if you're still struggling by then.

so if the child is a girl, she won't ask of her father when she's of age? Una go dey talk anyhow

MufasaLion:
As a man, never be with a woman that has no father figure in her family. It will end in pain and regret.

exactly you are very right. Most of the ladies in that condition do settle out on been a single mother