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franchasng:
There are tell signs that most men ignore.


Women don't just change overnight, there must be obvious signs you are married to an unreliable woman or you have been maltreating her and she has been praying for an escape route via migration abroad.


No sensible woman wakes up one day and initiate divorce with her husband just because they migrated abroad; it doesn't work that way.

The truth is, most Nigerian men oppress and maltreat their wives in Nigeria just because they are the breadwinner.

Your wife and children are always in fear the moment you step into the house; that's a sign that you are a failed husband and father, and if by mistake you relocate abroad with that woman, she will so deal with you eh lol



And to the men that enjoy extramarital games, continue playing it openly without remorse, continue splashing it to her face thinking she doesn't care, she cares oh, she is burning inside oh, she is only keeping quiet and pretending that all is well simply because Nigeria have no laws that protect married women and because she is not yet financially buoyant to live her dream life without your money, once she gets financially liberated through migration abroad, just count yourself a single man, it doesn't matter how many millions you spent sponsoring her abroad.



What do I even know? Let me go back to Tel Aviv from there will make a stop at Tehran to see if Ali Khamenei was smuggled out of Iran some days ago or not, see you guys tomorrow

Your narration depicts women as not capable to do evil, this shows you are really naive of hoe the world works. This is the reason most ladies aren't accountable or see accountability as a very difficult thing. I only read you first two paragraphs. This is the reason why you will meet 100 single mothers and 100 of them will tell you the man is the reason wby she is a single mother , to you when women initiate divorce the man must have caused it

SINisSIN:
If she sells her lands and car, she should be able to gather 20m but no, she wants me to chest everything.

oh ok she can raise 20m , now without dabbling too much into your business, how easy is it for you to raise the 40m ? Are you capable or it will be a struggle ? . I am trying to understand her psychology

Chilipepper:
After spending ₦30m to sponsor her to the UK, she’s now filing for divorce after 6 months” — Nigerian man seeks legal help to protect his interest.

3 threads on women in less than 12 hours pushed to front page !!!

This forum is gone. Otilor! It is finished (in Jesus voice)

cr7lomo:
✓ Hope u know your comment only proves alfa males right.... u are making it even worse for women

Prove them right in what way? I really don't know what you mean.

2special:
Never you upgrade or sponsor any girl/ wife at all

And that is how your life and that of your children will remain downgraded, because you dont want to upgrade your Wife.

Stop with the backward thinking. What you should be planning and praying for is to be with a Woman worth upgrading.

Stop with the poverty mentality.

HEAVEN4444:
does she have 20 million ? Please answer my question so we can look at this interesting matter

Sometimes I just laugh at these people
I think a lot of people need to understand the hidden knowledge and wisdom about life in general

GoodSpirit:
Your narration depicts women as not capable to do evil, this shows you are really naive of hoe the world works. This is the reason most ladies aren't accountable or see accountability as a very difficult thing. I only read you first two paragraphs. This is the reason why you will meet 100 single mothers and 100 of them will tell you the man is the reason wby she is a single mother , to you when women initiate divorce the man must have caused it

Before a Nigerian woman born and raised in Nigeria initiates a divorce with her husband, check very well, the man have a hand in it. Let's not be bias on this. I say things as it is without bias. When I am wrong I admit, no caps

Chilipepper:
After spending ₦30m to sponsor her to the UK, she’s now filing for divorce after 6 months” — Nigerian man seeks legal help to protect his interest.

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I love stories like this. Do they ever learn?

Women are easy to understand.

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GoodSpirit:
✓ Use ur head sometimes, not every time you say nonsense, someone you are married to or dating one shouldn't spend on her ? Make una get sense. ...

That is exactly the problem here. He should be spending on someone he is dating or married to. That is common to all. However, the OP reads as though by spending on her, his expectation was that she becomes property to him.

Solofresh2:
Sometimes I just laugh at these people
I think a lot of people need to understand the hidden knowledge and wisdom about life in general

lol bro some of these guys carry wetin I no know put for house. Can you imagine this case ? The serpentine behavior 😳

Chickensoup:
True. I have heard many stories of that happening. Marriage becomes a gamble mainly because we ignore some red flags in the name of trust and love.

Even if all boxes are ticked right, it's still a gamble. You don't know who's with you until certain circumstances happen. More reason your family should always be prioritized also even when you have your own immediate family.

Women have no memory.

What is it with the proliferation of fake 🤔 online stories. Is it his legal wife or girlfriend? I want waste brain cells on these things. 😄

Why didn't you go to the UK yourself as head of the household. While she comes later

SINisSIN:
Na you no where you go carry your own woman my bro. In my wife's village, the consequence is untimely death for such woman and her children. It's their family taboon, before you can sleep with another man, you have to do cleansing and in the case the husband died, they will do separation so the wife can move on with her life.

Lol. Why una dey deceive unaself.

Make una no wife dis gender una no dey listen. No be today yansh dey back. If dat one dey work, a large percentage of women for Naija go die within 2 months.

SINisSIN:
2023, my wife kept disturbing that we should relocate, the disturbance was so much that I had to tell her that if we are moving at all, then we will share the relocation fee 50 50. Bring 20m, I drop 20m then let's start the planning.

I no hear pim again. I told her if you want to relocate, in all honesty and fairness, if you have the money to take care of your journey, you are good to go and I will be coming over to see you. Since then till now, I no hear any relocation wahala again...

wow
She get plans be that. Smart move by you. She fit reach there ditch u

In cash, no. Properties, yes but I can't sell house, lands, cars because I'm moving to another country I don't understand. So she wants me to start rehusling for things I sold off in Nigeria?

Our children can go when it is time but me, I'm not selling properties to relocate. Btw, we just sent my brother and her own brother to Portugal last year for MSC and I paid almost all the fees at least 85% from me. She only drop 1.5m

HEAVEN4444:
oh ok she can raise 20m , now without dabbling too much into your business, how easy is it for you to raise the 40m ? Are you capable or it will be a struggle ? . I am trying to understand her psychology

Ruke1990:
Maybe before spending heavily to upgrade a woman (girlfriend or wife), we may need to serve them agreement papers to ensure the marriage or relationship lasts atleast 5 to 10 years after sponsorship, otherwise they refund in full the entire cash spent plus 9$ per year interest before breakup/divorce can be served. Every woman must be made to sign such documents before they get a dime from their boyfriend/husband for their upgrade. Universities like ABUAD serve such paper before agreeing to sponsor their staff abroad for further studies. Companies abroad serve same paper before sponsoring a candidate to work abroad (especially those Nclex sponsoring agencies for nurses). Thesame idea must be brought home and applied to marriages. You mustn't confer blind trust on a woman. There is a difference between blind trust and earned trust

This is one area that underscore the lack of creativity amongst black race. The whites invented pre-nuptial to solve their own problems of being taken advantage of. Blacks sit idle, lament and are unable to do something creative to solve this sponsorship scam problem that pervades the nigerian society

You were doing okay until your last paragraph. The color of your skin determines nothing.

If you look down on your race, that is wrong. If you feel your race is superior, that is also wrong.

I can tell by your statement that you've never travelled overseas. I am certain 99.99%. If you have actually travelled or lived there, I have a family friend who before leaving Nigeria thought white people were angels. After leaving in the UK, he detests British girls. He'd rather date a cat. He would serioysly discourage me.

Next time, it's better to say the average African. You can even niche it further by saying the average Nigerian. Your background and the culture you grew up in has a greater influence on your character.

The prime reason why there are fee pre-nups in Nigeria is because there really is little need for it.

The society is misogynistic. Men can treat their wives how they like with little retribution. Even if she files for divorce, she might gain very little financially. What hurts them the most is that their husbands cheat to their faces, and they have to put up with it. If they complain, society can even turn against them.

When these same women get overseas and the same husband tries the same nonsense, what do you expect? She might want to teach you a lesson for her past abuse.

It is not as simple as just blaming the woman. Married men need to remove the rocks blinding them to see the small stone in their wives eyes.

There are several successful Nigerian marriages overseas, and most often, the man is faithful to the wife, The man too helps around the house. In Europe, most women contribute to family expenses. It's not like here where the man is expected to shoulder most of the financial burden. The man therefore handles a lot at home.

Maybe you didn't do your assignment properly in choosing wife before marriage.

I married from a remote village where I served. I was the one that trained my wife in school. That kind village where no Muslim, no Christian stuffs. They are pure traditionalists then.

Firstcitizen:
Lol. Why una dey deceive unaself.

Make una no wife dis gender una no dey listen. No be today yansh dey back. If dat one dey work, a large percentage of women for Naija go die within 2 months.

Suits you well. You never knew what women are. Sorry. Look well next time.

TempleHouse:
Ask why Mumu no send himself abroad first ⁉️

Abi she forced you ❓

or any of his siblings..... I reject giving birth to simp. He fit never visit airport in his life, but spending millions to send a girl abroad

Na una sabi ... abeg say something else na everyday una dey hear say no send woman g9 abroad but no you wan satisfy the world and break yaself ... if she want divorce guve her , yiu wan force her stay by force .. you don do ya own for Gid ...move on
Abeg make who get good business idea wey person fit invest good money jare...

SINisSIN:
In cash, no. Properties, yes but I can't sell house, lands, cars because I'm moving to another country I don't understand. So she wants me to start rehusling for things I sold off in Nigeria?

Our children can go when it is time but me, I'm not selling properties to relocate. Btw, we just sent my brother and her own brother to Portugal last year for MSC and I paid almost all the fees at least 85% from me. She only drop 1.5m

That woman get parasitic and entitlement tendencies. She trying to get you to destroy yourself so her fantasies of japa can be fulfilled but she is unwilling to destroy her own self. Bro sleep with one eye open 👀👀

Chilipepper:
After spending ₦30m to sponsor her to the UK, she’s now filing for divorce after 6 months” — Nigerian man seeks legal help to protect his interest.

"Oluwa Gbotemi"... What an apt name that reflects his current situation. These women aren't smiling at all.

Poverty is dangerous.

Is it the money or the idea behind what happened that's troubling Nigerians? This is why a man would beat his wife, and once some idiots hear that he tried to get her cooperation in marrying a second wife with five million naira they suddenly believe he has a point.

I see people on this thread who believe a woman is only good when she's sharing bills with them, and a host of other things they expect by default. Things they will never do.

Good woman === sharing bills

Poverty did a number on you all. You're all gold diggers, but you think it's only women who are.

All these plenty lies which populate the internet. I will soon take a hiatus to protect my mental health.

You people don't hear at all stop spending on that species you said no at least you have learn the hard way.

EmmyMaestro:
This is one of those moments where you will hear that guy that will say

" Oga, if you no meet your wife as virgin, bla bla bla . . . ". You can complete the rest if you know it

lol! Dem don dey run free DNA test for every child born in UK....

I come remember u, lol!

pquaver:
✓ Why dont she spend it on her self and make herself her property? The way human reason nowadays, in the next 20 years nothing like help will exist.. If u die in ur problem nobody will care because humanity has show dey have no regards to sacrifices

We don't even have background information on the man and his marriage but you already have an idea of what took place? :

HEAVEN4444:
lol bro some of these guys carry wetin I no know put for house. Can you imagine this case ? The serpentine behavior 😳

Most men don't understand the feminine nature
These women are brutally manipulative

Imindmybusiness:
She is now making the plans with someone else. Don't just sleep on the matter, be alert and prepare yourself and your mind to lose her.

Only a fool would make such plans with her lol. Over 20 million to relocate an already married woman? No mentally balanced Nigerian man can do such. Baba no need bother himself lol