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MrHandsome2013:
You see why I blame him, he knew he was from a poor background, he still went to marry from a poor background.
He knew he was from a polygamous family, he still went to marry from a polygamous family.
He knew he was from a family where dey hate each other , he still went to marry from such family.
That seed of hatred still exists among our siblings.
Baba this man is evil and worst than Lucifer

Omo, this na serious family evil pattern o according to MFM. Ur Papa need serious deliverance o. U need to go for délivrance ASAP make u no end up like am.

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Chill bro, na the age of 30 family curse dey fully activate, as you dey open your mouth dey abuse your papa say na failure. E go still hit you too and you go explain tire for your own children too no evidence!!!

As you come public come mock ur father, because he no prosper you go reach that age and explain too…

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Just curious. Was he an alcoholic? Did he womanize?

but i think their time was easier, there was fuel subsidy..our time is toupher as tinubu has removed shock absorber....not supporting OP words tho

Myrepublic:
You go and start your own family,and see if you can do better. When I dey grow up I thought my parents weren't trying,until I started paying bills,I started honouring them more.

Frustration make op dey para for him pman. Cux if you don make am,u no go dey reason say your p man no try. I have once seen a situation when a son made it,and took his drunk father off the street. That he ogogoro papa no train am o,yet he helped his dad when he was made. Op let this bitters leave you now please

Op I don't want to call you a failure but you're behaving like one.
You're even worse than your father because your father has lived his life or is living his life but instead of you to face your own life and try to do better than him or uplift your family from penury you're here bashing your father.

To be honest, I have zero respect or regards for anyone that bashes his father or mother worst of all online..
Tueh!

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

We are watching how you gonna be Elon musk in years to come. Miga

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

O boy, shut up and work hard to be a better dad when you have one or more kids of your own. it's outright stupidity before God and man to label your father evil because he is not rich. Go out and work, stop ranting when you have an able body.

I have nothing to say to you on this...I will remind u when u become a father with responsibilities

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Let's talk about u....
What have u achieved?
And if u have, u can sponsor ur dad's wedding, there's no shame if a man doesn't have money for marriage,
All hands are not equal, the way government are owing civil servants today is the same way they owed them back then, do u know how much salaries were in 1977 ?
I don't like kids who blame parents for everything,
U go and make money and sponsor them, let's see ur own capability

I just wasted my time to read through the damn rubbish you put up there, I was thinking that your dad did something wrong/ terrible that made you called your father a wicked man.

Please what have you contributed to your father ever since you became a man to knows when to termed someone a wicked person? what have you done to support him in your little way or you just fold your arms, crossed your legs and expect your father to do everything for you.

My advice for you is to get busy with something good to support your parents.

You have to be very careful with what you say against your Dad, if you are a male child then think buh if not I comment my reserve

Lighterx:
Oga no need to hate your father
U sef go born
U sef take responsibility.
Nobody is perfect, you didn't know the problems he had as at then. He did what he did with the limited knowledge he has then.

.....My brother the thing weak, your old Man don do Im own, played a fast one on your mother, and according to you he has wasted his 35 years working life. That is your father, he has ran his own race to the best of his abilities. Learn from your father's mistakes and run your own life race accordingly, ensuring you navigate around your father's errors.

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

As much as i will agree with you, your dad is not the reason why you are poor.

Let me lecture you..

I am from a poor background, my primary and secondary school was not easy, i remember my mum of blessed memory will mix garri and sugar in my pocket and ask me to go and eat it in school, i will finish this garri before getting to school imagine the distance!

What did i do?
I finished my secondary school, moved to the city and i started hustling any kind of business and labourer job that is available, then i ran into a calabar girl who almost killed me with s3x, like i was hustling jejely only for this jezebel to come into my life, before i could know what is happening, i don dey loose my God given blessing, na so i let her be, yes i miss her s3x style as young as she is. but my life was better of.

So went back and face my hustle, met my current wife who is also from a poor family, just after 4 weeks i knew this is my wife, we hustle together, no billing, no show off, no nagging just focus, we decided to get married when i earn 20k salary

12yrs down the line, where are we?

4 beautiful kids 2boiz and 2 gals.
A house of our own
Good paying job with side hustle.
Bills paid with ease...

My brother, never blame anybody for your predicament

Your dad not doing what you expected of him doesn't make him evil as long as he didn't commit crime.

You writing and blaming him endlessly is who i will advice to work on yourself so as not to repeat exactly what you are blaming your dad of.

Life moves fast. If you keep on this way, it might be worse than that of your dad. You might say you are doing well, but the tone of your writing doesn't prove it.

Work on yourself.

Dbeautyy:
There are cycles and patterns which repeat itself in families, either good or bad. From your explanation, this is a gloomy pattern which you will have to break if you don't want your kids to accuse you like you are doing to you dad now. Believe me, it will take time, dedication, watchfulness laced with spirituality hence... you as well might by mistake slip into it. Please do it for your own lineage, sacrifice all to be the liberator.

don't mind him. All his complaints shows that he too is a lazy and unserious being. What takes a man to change the direction of a cursed life? 🤷

I think you have committed an abomination by saying this against your Dad. All i thought was maybe he maltreated your mother or you.Some of our fathers made mistakes, but I would never see my Dad as wicked and deserve not to marry

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

A mistake most of you make is that the 1970's was good for everyone. It wasn't.

Also, the 1980's and 1990's was tough economically. Very tough. If your dad worked through those times, he would have suffered a lot. Most people suffered back then.

Things did not get better till the 2006-14 period.

Finally OP...what degree do you have, and what job are you doing.? You can't blame your dad for everything.

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

Is this some sort of excuse to your own path in life?

Sorry to say This but Your father didn't do his best, yes!

But calling him a failure means everything he has done, or is his is also a failure and that includes you!

Why not let him be and focus on doing better than he did.

My own dad was a drunk and a smoker, I though was sick I made it a vow not to be a drunkard or smoker.

Let at all let his failure push you to succeed. He has played his path in your life.

There is an adage A man who beats and nakeds his wife for the world to see has exposed his own unclothedness.

Why carry him. Here to rant!

Man! Get off the phone and go plan your life and be better.

Your father has only played his path in your life. His seed brought you to life. For God sake! You think everyone doesn't have a story in the family? I am disappointed in you sir. Thankfully i don't know you, you i suppose sit you down and talk sense into you. Will you make up excuses for yourself because your dad who you have no idea what ever that was going on with him didn't do well.

If everything he has done is a failure, then call your self. His success.

I grew up with very not so great family members, I don't blame them for what and how i was treated. I thank them. When tomorrow they call on me, i will answer. A man who knows where he is going doesn't need to ask people for the direction.

PuZZyNegro:
Did his father leave any wealth for him as you expect him to leave for you? If he was born in a poor background and you are also born in the same poor background, then do what you expected him to do so your children will not be born in a poor background too.

You're blaming your father alone, what happened to your mother? She's also an adult with complete body, so she's capable of working and giving you the good life.

Sometimes people don't think. I'm sure you're an adult already so get up and create the life you desire and stop blaming your father.

Somebody with sense speaking, why did your mother just tag along with your father, without carving out a career path for herself.

MrHandsome2013:
A civil servant that started working when Nigeria was booming in 1970s.

He Worked 12 years being single before getting married.
That 12 years he worked was useless.

He didn’t marry his wife properly. No wedding pic of them as husband and wife.
No house of his own, no property,
No car , nothing.
What did he do with those 12 years.

Is it the remaining 23 years remaining to serve or retire , he will achieve anything being married with responsibilities.

This my unfortunate dad never achieved anything throughout his 35 years of working.
He was busy blaming his wife for putting him in chronic debt,
Now I sat down and began to think that this man was already a failure before he got married.
Because you have use 1/3 of your 35 years as a single man yet no single achievement.

Some men don’t deserve to married.
My dad is an evil man seriously speaking,
He knew he was a devil that has failed and instead of him to go to one seminary school.

He choose to go one village to deceive one illiterate girl to marry so they will bring innocent kid to suffer untold suffering.
Is this not pure witch crafts

sounds like the apple did not fall far from the tree - here you are an able bodied man unwilling to take any kind of responsibility for your life but content to blame your father

nonsense

i thought i was going to read about a deadbeat who abandoned his family or who blew all his money on carousing or beer or side chicks

MrHandsome2013:
He should have been a rev father,
He knew his kids will find life unbearable why did not first sort his life before getting married,

When you get married and have your own children, maybe you will understand. I am sure that you and your siblings are educated and maybe you are also well fed from his job... Anyway, when you start your own family, you will get cues.

You're a bad and prodigal son. Don't go and hustle keep waiting for an inheritance. Mumu

May God not give us useless and lazy children like the OP

Iseeeeeeeee!

translux:
I just wasted my time to read through the damn rubbish you put up there, I was thinking that your dad did something wrong/ terrible that made you called your father a wicked man.

Please what have you contributed to your father ever since you became a man to knows when to termed someone a wicked person? what have you done to support him in your little way or you just fold your arms, crossed your legs and expect your father to do everything for you.

My advice for you is to get busy with something good to support your parents.

From his message I suspect he/she is from a toxic home where one parent is turning the children against the other parent.

GloriousGbola:
sounds like the apple did not fall far from the tree - here you are an able bodied man unwilling to take any kind of responsibility for your life but content to blame your father

nonsense

i thought i was going to read about a deadbeat who abandoned his family or who blew all his money on carousing or beer or side chicks

The thing tire me oh. I am shocked at the abuses the guy is raining on his father like that.. Its crazy

Dear OP,
What you need is proper counselling to remove certain things from off your head... Before you can have a future better than that of your innocent father.

Your write-up reveals more about your own brokenness than your father’s failures. And before you throw another stone at a man who lived through a different era, let’s put the mirror in front of you.

Here are 10 hard truths you need to face;

1. You are shamelessly dishonoring your own father:
Whatever your grievances, dragging your father's name through public mud makes you look worse. No matter his shortcomings, he's still your father. And your disgraceful words don’t just shame him—they shame you.

2. You judge a man’s life based solely on material things:
No house? No car? No wedding picture? You sound like a shallow soul obsessed with vanity. Some men live quiet lives and give their all with little to show. That doesn’t make them useless—it makes them human.

3. You’re bitter, not bold:
A strong man rises above his pain. A weak man hides behind blame. You’ve made a hobby out of blaming your father instead of breaking the cycle. That’s cowardice, not courage.

4. You expose your family’s private pain to the world:
Even if your dad failed you, airing it on Nairaland helps no one. It's not healing—it's public slander. That’s immaturity dressed up as venting.

5. You haven’t asked what he went through:
You never stopped to ask: Did he face setbacks? Was he misled? Did he fight battles you know nothing about? You're loud with judgment but silent on empathy.

6. You’re trying to justify your own failures by exaggerating his:
Stop using your father as your excuse. What have you achieved that sets you apart? Or are you just another man lost in his father's shadow?

7. You sound entitled:
You act like your father owed you luxury. He owed you love, guidance, and effort—not wealth. If you didn’t get that, use it as fuel, not poison.

8. You insult your own mother in the process:
Calling her "an illiterate girl" deceived into marriage is a low blow. Your rage is blinding you to the fact that you’re spitting on the woman who gave you life.

9. You call this witchcraft? No sir, this is your pride speaking:
You speak of witchcraft, but the real darkness is in your ungrateful heart. Witchcraft didn’t make you bitter—your refusal to forgive did.

10. You have become what you despise:
You say your father failed his family. But with this write-up, you have failed his legacy, your mother’s dignity, and your own name. Fix up before you pass that curse to your children.

Final Word:
You think you're exposing your dad. But you've exposed your own emptiness. Take responsibility. Break the cycle. Grow up. Heal. Forgive. And make sure your own child never writes such filth about you one day.

i wish I can counsel you beyond here.

MrHandsome2013:
You see why I blame him, he knew he was from a poor background, he still went to marry from a poor background.
He knew he was from a polygamous family, he still went to marry from a polygamous family.
He knew he was from a family where dey hate each other , he still went to marry from such family.
That seed of hatred still exists among our siblings.
Baba this man is evil and worst than Lucifer

.... Nonsense talk, like attract like. A poor Man will never have the confidence to toast a rich woman unless he is extremely handsome and can do the business and in the other room, because we live in a vain world.
Women are always looking for what the Man is offering, Money or good looks.
If as a Man you don't have any of those then go for your own class, a woman ordinary looking and maybe local

And you have continued the circle of blame games. You are almost using your life finish, still blaming your father.

If your father failed, must you also fail?

MrHandsome2013:
He should have been a rev father,
He knew his kids will find life unbearable why did not first sort his life before getting married,

African mentality....am not opting for your failed father according to your narration but am more concerned about you who is about to be a failure for complaining the same way your father that you are calling a failure was complaining and helping blames on your Mum....

My Father owns me nothing apart from bearing me as a Child and supporting me when I couldn't work the whole length of growing up....

For you to be able to type this mess here, shows you are now an adult , so what is keeping you from doing the best to show a difference?

Can it be Spiritual battles?....how good are you with your prayer life or are you busy blaming a man who was in darkness , caged by all oppressions

Your father never had Nairaland where he can gain advice, so what are you going to do with the advice you are receiving here

Your own case will be doubled because your own children will not remember their grand father as who made them poor and gave them poor vision , but YOU!!!!!!!!!....who is now their Father....

So you see, it is not the fault of your Father that you are in the condition you are now, because you no longer remember your grand father who put your Father in the condition he was , now your Children will never remember your father who put you in the condition you are now, but will remember just YOU and lay the same curses you are laying on your father to you....

This should teach you that you are on your own as a Man and wherever your father stopped , every limitations in his life , you were born to conquer them and create a better history....

YOUR FATHER OWNS YOU NOTHING BUT TO GIVE BIRTH TO YOU TO COME AND SHOW THE GREATNESS YOU WHERE BORN WITH INTO THIS WORLD!!!!!!!

!......if he happened to be rich, is a good step, if he happened to be poor, is also a good step to start....