₦airaland Forum

COOL10:
The worst thing a man can do to himself is to rush into marriage just to please society. Many men have destroyed their lives because of this.

emkz:
If you don't leave your house, police will visit you because someone will tell them you are doing yahoo.

Another thing people do because of what people will say is supporting one presidential candidate who has demonstrated the incapacity, incompetence and uncharacteristic qualities to manage crisis in a small party but wants to rescue Nigeria.

tunnyl:
Our society can be very critical. People are often judged not by who they are but by how well they fit into what society expects. If you are quiet, introverted, or simply minding your business, you are likely to be called proud, jobless, or even strange. There is a lot of pressure to behave a certain way just to avoid being talked about.

Take VeryDarkMan for example. When he became popular during the Mohbad issue, many influencers attacked him. Not because of what he was saying but because of how he looked, his financial status, and the fact that he did not try to impress anyone. But he stood firm. Today, he is one of the most influential young Nigerians simply because he refused to be shaped by public opinion.

Here’s the list, you can add your own too:

Leaving the house and walking around aimlessly just to avoid being seen as jobless:
You know you are not lazy o. You know you are just taking your time to rest or figure things out. But because you do not want people to say you are doing nothing with your life, you go comot for house begin move around Lagos like Igbono without any real purpose.


Forcing yourself to associate with people who do not add value to your life:
You stay close to people who gossip, insult you, or do not respect you just so they will not say you are proud or antisocial. You would rather tolerate nonsense than be misunderstood.


Borrowing money to buy things you cannot afford just to impress others:
You take loans to buy a car, rent an expensive apartment, or wear designer clothes not because you need them but because you want people to think you have made it. Meanwhile, you are under pressure financially.

Taking a longer route home just to avoid being seen by olofofo in your area:
Instead of passing your normal street, you go the long way just to avoid people who sit outside and turn everyone into a topic of discussion. You are avoiding unnecessary attention.


Over-respecting people who constantly disrespect you:
You greet someone who talks down to you, allow them to speak to you anyhow, and keep quiet all because you are hoping that one day they will realize who you really are and start respecting you. That day may come, but why go through all that?


Getting married just to avoid pressure from family and society when You are not ready:
You have not found the right person. But because everyone keeps asking when will you marry, you rush into a marriage just to avoid being the topic of discussion.

occfx:
You are very intelligent... I live in a street where everyone is either a civil servant or business owner outside the estate but I do my online things clean and legit from home but they say am jobless. I keep thinking what the hell in this modern age people still think like idiots. However, they are confused because, they see currier bring goods and tools for me and they don't understand. I mind my business because I dont like small talks they say am strange person. Black man is very useless.

anonimi:
Is the woman in your picture a Nigerian who does the yẹyẹ things that you listed

occfx:
Black man is very useless.

occfx:
You are very intelligent... I live in a street where everyone is either a civil servant or business owner outside the estate but I do my online things clean and legit from home but they say am jobless. I keep thinking what the hell in this modern age people still think like idiots. However, they are confused because, they see currier bring goods and tools for me and they don't understand. I mind my business because I dont like small talks they say am strange person. Black man is very useless.

occfx:
You are very intelligent... I live in a street where everyone is either a civil servant or business owner outside the estate but I do my online things clean and legit from home but they say am jobless. I keep thinking what the hell in this modern age people still think like idiots. However, they are confused because, they see currier bring goods and tools for me and they don't understand. I mind my business because I dont like small talks they say am strange person. Black man is very useless.

emkz:
If you don't leave your house, police will visit you because someone will tell them you are doing yahoo.

Another thing people do because of what people will say is supporting one presidential candidate who has demonstrated the incapacity, incompetence and uncharacteristic qualities to manage crisis in a small party but wants to rescue Nigeria.

DeepSight:
You have no idea how useless whites can be.

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occfx:
Classify the whites... I don't regard Indians and labanese as whites... Only Europeans and America look more like it. I didn't stay much in Europe but they are sensible

occfx:
Classify the whites... I don't regard Indians and labanese as whites... Only Europeans and America look more like it. I didn't stay much in Europe but they are sensible

Milekedesigns:
Nigeria will humble you if you’re not careful.

Many people are just existing to avoid being judged. You can’t be quiet, you can’t stay indoors, you can’t even say no—before someone labels you “jobless”, “proud”, or “anti-social”.

We really need to normalize living for ourselves and not for society’s expectations. Peace of mind should be the goal, not fake approval.

Chief2410:
To survive this Nigeria,you just got stubborn.No dey send anybody,just do you. If I greet you,you no answer me I stop greeting you.No be the person dey pay bills for me. Life will be much better if we stop forcing people to conform or fit them in a mold.

DeepSight:
Conformists are weaklings

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jimmyolasun:
I actually have been someone who doesn't give a damn right from my teenage years. Me wey go greet you and don't even wait or listen for your response.. When outside cold and my landlord increase rent pass 1m, I carry my two legs go my papa house as per na only my mama dey stay there as how I go dey pay over 1 million as rent when my family get house with compound for the same Lagos.... I accumulate funds use build structure inside the compound and renovate it because I plan say my family will be together .. I no even know whether Dem dey talk my matter for the area because " I look everyone, Nigeria economy is dealing with all of us".. so everyone gets him problem for body.. you talk my matter finish, you go enter your house go drink garri..

Though I am actually not too broke. But that pressure?? Mba.. I don't have it.. Na my peace of mind be the main thing.. Who I wan impress?? The goal is to make mama proud..

Whois:
You can't please people. Human expectations/wants are unending. Know this and know peace

Notavictim:
Lol. U cracked me up. Why on hell will someone have to pay that huge on rent just become u wan proof yeye stereotype that a man must leave home when u can chip in with Ur people and save yourself from landlord, tenant pressure Nd wahala.

A family friend recently lost his mother who was abandoned in a 4bed flat. The woman died in her room, the maid living with her met her lifeless body early in the morning she wanted to go greet her.

The son who was suppose to stay with her mom, knowing fully well of her health issues Nd how his father abandoned the woman which led to loneliness for her, also pull away from her when he got married.

Right from onset, I have known I won't leave home, my mom stay alone and she has really suffer alot, mentally and health wisely. Her husband really dealt with her, drained her of her resources during her active year in service and abandoned her. I am the only one that can stay behind as all my siblings are female and married off. If I should leave her and something happens to her enemy, I'll never forgive myself.

I was able to convinced my partner and we have been managing with ourselves that way, I can even tell you, the way we pull up funds to cater for everyday bills really put off load on my head in this tinubulation, my life would have been miserable. It's very tough out there...

I will make sure I erect a structure like u do in our compound and continuing living peacefully. Whatever people want to say, ino dey care ooo...

When God finally bless me and I was able to erect a bigger structure, I'll still move my mom along, I can never leave that woman behind...

jimmyolasun:
Actually my own dad is late.. and no maid except for my nephew that stays with her and he is just 9 years old. Reason I erect the building is to create a bit of privacy.. even as my mama no get wahala but I still no want any see finish between her and my babe... But my life have been peaceful.. no landlord wahala, I eat good and I get excess save up... As in never felt this kind of freedom in years till I decided to move back home.. na we from average and poor family dey stress ourselves dey think about what people who aren't even doing any better than us will say.. if you look all these rich old money family, majority of the children still stays within the family.. check davido for example, I can bet his wife and kids still stay with his families.. the whole banana island apartment is just to have his own property.. it is mostly occupied by his boys.. the wife stays with the family until he is around..

jimmyolasun:
Actually my own dad is late.. and no maid except for my nephew that stays with her and he is just 9 years old. Reason I erect the building is to create a bit of privacy.. even as my mama no get wahala but I still no want any see finish between her and my babe... But my life have been peaceful.. no landlord wahala, I eat good and I get excess save up... As in never felt this kind of freedom in years till I decided to move back home.. na we from average and poor family dey stress ourselves dey think about what people who aren't even doing any better than us will say.. if you look all these rich old money family, majority of the children still stays within the family.. check davido for example, I can bet his wife and kids still stay with his families.. the whole banana island apartment is just to have his own property.. it is mostly occupied by his boys.. the wife stays with the family until he is around..

tunnyl:
Our society can be very critical. People are often judged not by who they are but by how well they fit into what society expects. If you are quiet, introverted, or simply minding your business, you are likely to be called proud, jobless, or even strange. There is a lot of pressure to behave a certain way just to avoid being talked about.

Take VeryDarkMan for example. When he became popular during the Mohbad issue, many influencers attacked him. Not because of what he was saying but because of how he looked, his financial status, and the fact that he did not try to impress anyone. But he stood firm. Today, he is one of the most influential young Nigerians simply because he refused to be shaped by public opinion.

Here’s the list, you can add your own too:

Leaving the house and walking around aimlessly just to avoid being seen as jobless:
You know you are not lazy o. You know you are just taking your time to rest or figure things out. But because you do not want people to say you are doing nothing with your life, you go comot for house begin move around Lagos like Igbono without any real purpose.


Forcing yourself to associate with people who do not add value to your life:
You stay close to people who gossip, insult you, or do not respect you just so they will not say you are proud or antisocial. You would rather tolerate nonsense than be misunderstood.


Borrowing money to buy things you cannot afford just to impress others:
You take loans to buy a car, rent an expensive apartment, or wear designer clothes not because you need them but because you want people to think you have made it. Meanwhile, you are under pressure financially.

Taking a longer route home just to avoid being seen by olofofo in your area:
Instead of passing your normal street, you go the long way just to avoid people who sit outside and turn everyone into a topic of discussion. You are avoiding unnecessary attention.


Over-respecting people who constantly disrespect you:
You greet someone who talks down to you, allow them to speak to you anyhow, and keep quiet all because you are hoping that one day they will realize who you really are and start respecting you. That day may come, but why go through all that?


Getting married just to avoid pressure from family and society when You are not ready:
You have not found the right person. But because everyone keeps asking when will you marry, you rush into a marriage just to avoid being the topic of discussion.

COOL10:
The worst thing a man can do to himself is to rush into marriage just to please society. Many men have destroyed their lives because of this.

Rexie59:
Another one that needs to enter this list is housing pressure. The way people dey rush go rent or buy big house just so others won’t talk like “na only you still dey live for that side?” Meanwhile, na borrowed funds and silent suffering full inside.
These days, I just dey advise people ; if fhouse no reach you now, start small. Even real estate get levels now wey person fit enter bit by bit without noise. Some platforms even allow you buy land gradually or own a piece of it without killing yourself.

Keble, for example, get options wey no require millions upfront. The goal no be to impress anybody; na to build at your own pace. Quietly.

Gentlesoul2021:
You're spot on. Na yeye mentality dey worry many, looking at how things are hard and not easy out there, Na to give oneself brain.
China, India they also practice one United family, Na Africa thing own different.... Some people sef dey measure leaving home as a yardstick to achievement... Haaaa