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Milekedesigns:
Nigeria will humble you if you’re not careful.

Many people are just existing to avoid being judged. You can’t be quiet, you can’t stay indoors, you can’t even say no—before someone labels you “jobless”, “proud”, or “anti-social”.

We really need to normalize living for ourselves and not for society’s expectations. Peace of mind should be the goal, not fake approval.

Nobody fit humble me in my years of existence. I do things the way I deem fit, I have never cared about the public. Nobody dictate my actions in the name of society i kuku be stubborn babe for that side from the beginning.

Notavictim:
You're not far from the truth. It irk me when struggling guys put unnecessary load on themselves when in actual sense, they can make use of resources available to them through family.
I have been out of job for few months, i am trying to rest and figure things out. My previous workplace used me like a slave had to call it quit and if no b for my family, I would have gone mad. I use to say this I would never be proofing Na man I be, and I'll let stress kill I'll always ask for help...

Bro just hold your family dear and use them as support to grow yourself... When you figure things out, invest in family and you will never regret it... infact, na she arrange breakfast this morning before I even wake up send my nephew to come call me from my apartment that food is ready.. I have a clear mind and planning is now so easy for me unlike before when I rented another man's house..

I actually learnt the hack from an uncle a long time ago when I was just done with my ssce.. now dude is doing so well and touring around the world. Yet whenever he comes back to Nigeria, na him papa house he dey stay despite having built a bigger property somewhere else. Na we dey put unnecessary pressure on ourselves o.. so long your family is supportive, you aren't lazy and you are a good child too. No look any uche face for area... If your family have the resources to keep you afloat and plan well, use it to the Max..

iamL:
Imagine a 40year old man living with his parent and still feeding from them without being able to contribute anything and he feels comfortable with no plan for himself. What would you say about that?

Nobody living with their parents without contributing should be comfortable with such setting. Truly things are hard and we all need all the support we can get, but sitting idle or not trying to do anything to contribute to the affairs of the home is an act of wickedness and a disgrace to himself...

Gentlesoul2021:
Nobody living with their parents without contributing should be comfortable with such setting. Truly things are hard and we all need all the support we can get, but sitting idle or not trying to do anything to contribute to the affairs of the home is an act of wickedness and a disgrace to himself...

Thanks for being honest about it.

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iamL:
Imagine a 40year old man living with his parent and still feeding from them without being able to contribute anything and he feels comfortable with no plan for himself. What would you say about that?

Him family don ever complain to you say Dem tire to feed am? Do you know how much effort he has tried to remove himself from that situation? Besides it's his life and privacy, it doesn't concern you at all, face your own life. That exactly what we're talking about.

jimmyolasun:
Bro just hold your family dear and use them as support to grow yourself... When you figure things out, invest in family and you will never regret it... infact, na she arrange breakfast this morning before I even wake up send my nephew to come call me from my apartment that food is ready.. I have a clear mind and planning is now so easy for me unlike before when I rented another man's house..

I actually learnt the hack from an uncle a long time ago when I was just done with my ssce.. now dude is doing so well and touring around the world. Yet whenever he comes back to Nigeria, na him papa house he dey stay despite having built a bigger property somewhere else. Na we dey put unnecessary pressure on ourselves o.. so long your family is supportive, you aren't lazy and you are a good child too. No look any uche face for area... If your family have the resources to keep you afloat and plan well, use it to the Max..

I'll forever be grateful for the gift of family. I appreciate all the insight you pour out here brother.

Meektunz:
Him family don ever complain to you say Dem tire to feed am? Do you know how much effort he has tried to remove himself from that situation? Besides it's his life and privacy, it doesn't concern you at all, face your own life. That exactly what we're talking about.

Abeg i nor talk to and you don't know my motive of asking. Face your pain in peace, it's not my fault if my question hits you hard for whatever reason.

Bye.....

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