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It is with heavy heart that I write this.

I have a male cousin who is five years older than me. He is 32 years of age. Had lived with his parents and siblings outside the country before, and returned back to Nigeria about 10years ago. Born with a silver spoon but planlessness on the part of his parents sent them back to poverty after retirement. After retirement, the father passed on the next year.

This guy is addicted to ICE. I didn't know what ice was until I saw him taking it. I had heard a lot about it and I never expected to see my own family member getting involved in such. At first, he was hiding it from me, but at a time he couldn't. His closest friend already confided in me about it, so I was only just waiting to see for myself.

Aside taking ice, he smokes Weed, Colos, loud and cigarettes even even laughing gas.

It's painful to me because he's the first child and only son now, and has four younger sisters.

He has become almost completely irresponsible at his age. He doesn't have a rented apartment of his own, always squatting with people here and there. Always asking for money from friends and even me. You can give him your last card today, and the next day, he's making another demand on you for same money. If you give him a job to do today, the next week, he's out of the job. If this guy needs money from you, he will first text you, flash you, use his system(laptop) to msg you on WhatsApp. He will make sure he flashes and messages you until he gets same money from you. He will make sure he bombards you with lots of calls and messages.

He's so disorganized and unorganized. He's always running into trouble here and there. Either he's buying a stolen phone at a very cheap price and getting arrested later or he's been accused of theft and locked up in the police cell. So many similar cases. Today, he can't afford a smart phone. He uses a torchlight phone, he has changed the screen of the torchlight phone three times in two months.

His mum already sidelined him in the scheme of things going on in the family. The mum has written him off completely because the guy hasn't lived up to expectation. The mum isn't aware of another other drugs, she thinks her son only smokes just weed and cigar. But it is way beyond that.

Guys, how do I help this guy out of this? I'm bothered because I like him and want to the Best for him. Even if I report to the elders in our family, he wouldn't still stop. He's an adult, and how do you start monitoring and policing him?

I can't do this alone because he's really gone deep in this. He's always always Broke. He has lost the respect of his younger sisters and friends due to his incessant begging. Each time I see his call, my heart skips. Because I already know what is coming.
Again, he's someone who isn't transparent at all. Not straightforward too. Very cunning. If he has money today, you wouldn't know. For instance, if he has a thousand naira today and you only just have fifty naira on you, this guy would tell you he has nothing and would try to get the whole or fraction of that fifty naira from you. That's how bad it is.

Help! My Cousin Is Addicted To Hard Drugs Byy Leep

Talking from experience its Only God that can help this man oh.
Hard drugs is very hard to comeback from, maybe a rehabilitation center to start with.

You can’t help him past giving advice and sending him to rehab. Only he can help himself, if he lives long enough. The high drugs give cannot be replicated in every day life.

Stop giving him money that will be enough or close to buying the hard drugs only give him food with time he will see the negative effects of his lifestyle just hope it won't be too late

Leep:
It is with heavy heart that I write this.
I have a male cousin who is five years older than me. He is 32 years of age. Had lived with his parents and siblings outside the country before, and returned back to Nigeria about 10years ago. Born with a silver spoon but planlessness on the part of his parents sent them back to poverty after retirement. After retirement, the father passed on the next year.
This guy is addicted to ICE. I didn't know what ice was until I saw him taking it. I had heard a lot about it and I never expected to see my own family member getting involved in such. At first, he was hiding it from me, but at a time he couldn't. His closest friend already confided in me about it, so I was only just waiting to see for myself.
Aside taking ice, he smokes Weed, Colos, loud and cigarettes even even laughing gas.
It's painful to me because he's the first child and only son now, and has four younger sisters.
He has become almost completely irresponsible at his age. He doesn't have a rented apartment of his own, always squatting with people here and there. Always asking for money from friends and even me. You can give him your last card today, and the next day, he's making another demand on you for same money. If you give him a job to do today, the next week, he's out of the job. If this guy needs money from you, he will first text you, flash you, use his system(laptop) to msg you on WhatsApp. He will make sure he flashes and messages you until he gets same money from you. He will make sure he bombards you with lots of calls and messages.

He's so disorganized and unorganized. He's always running into trouble here and there. Either he's buying a stolen phone at a very cheap price and getting arrested later or he's been accused of theft and locked up in the police cell. So many similar cases. Today, he can't afford a smart phone. He uses a torchlight phone, he has changed the screen of the torchlight phone three times in two months.
His mum already sidelined him in the scheme of things going on in the family. The mum has written him off completely because the guy hasn't lived up to expectation. The mum isn't aware of another other drugs, she thinks her son only smokes just weed and cigar. But it is way beyond that.
Guys, how do I help this guy out of this? I'm bothered because I like him and want to the Best for him. Even if I report to the elders I'm our family, he wouldn't still stop. He's an adult, and how do you start monitoring and policing him?

I can't do this alone because he's really gone deep in this. He's always always Broke. He has lost the respect of his younger sisters and friends due to his incessant begging. Each time I see his call, my heart skips. Because I already know what is coming.
Again, he's someone who isn't transparent at all. Not straightforward too. Very cunning. If he has money today, you wouldn't know. For instance, if he has a thousand naira today and you only just have fifty naira on you, this guy would tell you he has nothing and would try to get the whole or fraction of that fifty naira from you. That's how bad it is.

Nlfpmod Seun

Is he a graduate or not
Na something de make am take hard drugs .
He has missed a step in life and thinks that's his end .
On another lens I'm thinking I'm d guy you just edit and phish the name and important details to avoid suspicion.

But na person future papa u cast for here Sha

You want to help him stop giving him money and feeding his addiction.

Anytime he calls invite him to come and eat.

If you don't have an addict as close person in your contact, you don't know what God has done for you. I have 2 as friends.

Addicts are the only people I know will beg money from you, if you give them today they will LITERALLY ask you again the next day or worse case scenario 2 days after. They call and text you from all know platforms and medium (one once email me when I blocked him on all social media)


On what to do... YOU CAN'T HELP an addict on your own, it's way beyond you.
Take him to rehab and hope for the best.

Humn! Drug addiction is a very difficulty trait to break free from o. He will need a combo of CBT, psychiatrist and psychological treatment. God help your cousin's cause.

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More character needed ,but we have to do with this.


It's terrible oh, to quit from alcohol and cigarettes no easy, nah substance

He has not yet hit rock bottom, you can't do much for him.

Dragging him into a rehab now, will be a total waste of effort and money.

If it is just loud, Scottish or Cana, bro let the guy man be.
If na colos and above, kpai am 😂

You can't force stop it but is a gradual stuff...

When you Force it to stop, the individual will keep falling back to it but
When you follow it gradually, they will graduate out of it


Reach out to me via my mail.


Repent Jesus is coming soon for real

Take him to NDLEA office at ikoyi if you live in Lagos because if you take him to neuro-psychiatric they will charge hell out of you and no bed space




Wahala for junkie and he family

Na woman own worst pass

Leep:
Help! My Cousin Is Addicted To Hard Drugs Byy Leep

All the other things he smokes (weed, colos, loud, etc.) are children beside that thing called ice. That ice aka meth is the problem.

It will make him soulless and aggressive. He will not eat, will be thin and famished, and dirty and unkempt. There's no way he could have hidden that such behavior for long.

His next phase is to start stealing. Sha hide your phone well, because he will steal absolutely anything: bulgalary proof, television, stabilizer, charger, and even slippers just to fund the behavior.

You can help him by not giving him money and encouraging him to stop. People on ice have a very high self awareness, and are usually willing to stop. But the draw of the drug is just too powerful.

Just remember that you cannot help him if he is not ready to help himself.

He is the one to do most of the work by himself. Don't drag him to a rehab thinking you're helping him. You are not and he will return to the streets once he completes treatment, that's if he doesn't run away before then.

All you can do now is to encourage him to stop. If he says he is ready to stop and asks to be rehabilitated, then do that.

But if he doesn't, don't do it. Because you will only end up frustrated and will later ignore him and probably not listen to him when he's ready for treatment.

And once he's clean, he should stay away from the area he picked up the habit and the friends he made there. It is for his own good, else he will return to it.

Take him to a psychedelic experience.

His life will never be the same.

He will come out better than a non addict

It's never easy leaving an addiction behind. Since he no longer have a father, and he is an adult himself, best is to take him to a rehab. It works in the west.

If there is anything I am grateful for. It's the fact that I am born with a mental fortitude that allows me go through extreme situations without it affecting me to the extent of helplessly getting addicted to something.

But, I understand why many people fall into the trap. Good luck to him.

a GOOD REHAB can be of HELP, the truth is DELIVERANCE can only come from SELF DETERMINATION, no HELP ANYWHERE THAN WITHIN

Just bundle him into a rehab centre. A truck load of advice will do nothing at this stage. Better, lock him up at home and feed him well if you don't have money for rehab

If u want to really help him, call his mum, and tell her everything about the type of hard drugs he takes, so they can take him to rehab, closely monitor him and with prayer God will heal him, I have a friend like that in Abuja from a very wealthy home colos bleeped him up so badly, lost his respect from wife and children but he is getting better from the rehab they took him to in Israel

Leep:
Help! My Cousin Is Addicted To Hard Drugs Byy Leep

Take him to rehab and monitor him closely. He truly needs help

That's weird. How some people live their lives all on drugs. Take him to a rehabilitation center. It will only work if the person in question wants to change.

To help him

You need to first help yourself by disassociating yourself from him .. in other not to ruin you and collect all your hard earned money... Be carrying liability that is not your own all in the name of family

If his own original mother can sideline him, then who are you who is a mere cousin in the grand scheme to resuscitate him...

The only person that can help him is his self
When he is ready he will work on himself or leave himself the way he is till he kpaiii

There’s a life line. The fact that he still hide it from you is still a good thing. Atleast he knows what he’s doing is bad and already he’s trying to hide it. Draw him closer.
Try these things:
1. Get him a job:
Yes, he’s a smoker and a drunkard. Don’t worry, responsible job will make him better.
I recommend uniform job. I know may that are currently the breadwinners aim their family and are still smoking/taking drugs.
2. Get him Married to the love of his life.
This should come after job.

JAOS:
Stop giving him money that will be enough or close to buying the hard drugs only give him food with time he will see the negative effects of his lifestyle just hope it won't be too late

Worst advice bro, you will only be pushing them to the edge..believe me, this people would rather kill than drop the habit.

He needs to go into rehab. Detoxification begins with environment change. If i was the larent. Take him to the village where his access would be limited to cigars and weed. Then start the other processes

lithiumnigeria:
There’s a life line. The fact that he still hide it from you is still a good thing. Atleast he knows what he’s doing is bad and already he’s trying to hide it. Draw him closer.
Try these things:
1. Get him a job:
Yes, he’s a smoker and a drunkard. Don’t worry, responsible job will make him better.
I recommend uniform job. I know may that are currently the breadwinners aim their family and are still smoking/taking drugs.
2. Get him Married to the love of his life.
This should come after job.

It's ice he is taking o. Ice as in meth. Maybe you should research the drug, because all this you're saying are not true for a person addicted to ice.

He needs to first deal with whatever that's pushing him to drug

It could me be mentally, emotional or even psychological issue

lithiumnigeria:
There’s a life line. The fact that he still hide it from you is still a good thing. Atleast he knows what he’s doing is bad and already he’s trying to hide it. Draw him closer.
Try these things:
1. Get him a job:
Yes, he’s a smoker and a drunkard. Don’t worry, responsible job will make him better.
I recommend uniform job. I know may that are currently the breadwinners aim their family and are still smoking/taking drugs.
2. Get him Married to the love of his life.
This should come after job.

What are you saying sir? Get him a job in this state? I wont advice that. Such a person would bring harm to that job and his guarantors and the likes. He needs to rehabilated. Dont treat the symptoms treat the sickness

Wetin happen? Na only him go first take the hard drugs? wetin be him problem? I took the same hard drugs too way passed now, but you will hardly know of it, because it was colded.

Weed..

Loud..

Both are very okay if not too much as too much of everything is bad..

Fryx:
It's never easy leaving an addiction behind. Since he no longer have a father, and he is an adult himself, best is to take him to a rehab. It works in the west.

If there is anything I am grateful for. It's the fact that I am born with a mental fortitude that allows me go through extreme situations without it affecting me to the extent of helplessly getting addicted to something.

But, I understand why many people fall into the trap. Good luck to him.

Guy , you haven't gone through what people go through that make them turn to drugs, thank God for your life , others didn't have the opportunities you have.
Surprisingly, Most people take one form of drug or another,. The problem with this guy here is abuse
Drug abuse is the problem, not drug use.