₦airaland Forum

By Godsent Ogbebor

Abuja— Collette Chibundo Mbamalu has launched a new book titled My Father’s Sperm in Abuja, a bold literary work that explores male identity, healing, longevity, and emotional well-being.

The event took place at The Palm Hotel and drew notable speakers and guests who joined in conversations around the role of men in society and the need for inner healing.

The author, who is widely known for her work in social advocacy and development, said the book was written to challenge the silence around men’s health and identity. She described it as a call for men to reconnect with themselves and lead from a place of peace and purpose.

Panelists at the event included Dr. Iwowarri James, Femi Jubal, and Maxwell Ahumanwah. They spoke on issues ranging from energy dynamics to societal expectations placed on men. Jubal, who was referred to as the “Sperm Lord” for his work in male advocacy, noted that a man’s seed carries not only his genetics but also his emotional and spiritual imprint.

He urged men to become more conscious of their mental and physical health, saying that many of society’s problems are linked to unresolved masculine trauma.

Dr. James raised concerns about the low life expectancy of Nigerian men and linked it to poor health habits, societal pressure, and emotional neglect. He said men need to unlearn toxic cultural expectations and be supported in their journey toward healing.

However, Maxwell described a man’s sperm as a complete representation of his past, present, and future, and urged men to be more thoughtful about the energy they pass on to the next generation.

Collette, who has received numerous awards, including the ECOWAS Global Leading Women Award and the Zik Leadership Award, said she wrote the book to open up a conversation many have avoided. She is also the founder of Tomorrow African Mind (TAM), a non-profit focused on empowering young Africans through education and leadership.

The event closed with a strong message to men: that caring for oneself is not selfish but necessary, and that healing from within is one of the most valuable contributions a man can make to his family, his community, and himself.

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Collette, who has received numerous awards, including the ECOWAS Global Leading Women Award and the Zik Leadership Award, said she wrote the book to open up a conversation many have avoided. She is also the founder of Tomorrow African Mind (TAM), a non-profit focused on empowering young Africans through education and leadership

AndroBlaze:
Small by small we are losing our culture and becoming like the whites.

The sad thing is we are not even taking the good things from them, na only bad Nigerians de see copy...her father's sperm indeed!

Viktoreze:
It's a very interesting title for a book by a Nigerian author.

louken:
Of all the titles you can give this book, you came up with this

Fujiyama:
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How are we 'losing our culture'?

None of us here has read the book.

She is a product of her father's sperm. Some people may consider the title of her book to be inelegant but it is true: she is here today because her father's sperm swam quite a bit and did its job.

Books are the pillars of civilization. I hope its a good book. It will be a shame if it isn't.

AndroBlaze:
With all the long story you said you clearly know that your "some people" that you referenced stands for a properly raised African.....or in your own ethnic group are there poems, proverbs and songs that explicitly call out your father's sperm??

AndroBlaze:
Mine their are none that are that coarse, and even if she wanted to refer to it why not "my father's seed".....clearly what she wanted was to copy Oyinbo and harness the power of shock value, all for the sake of selling a few books. It is well.

Fujiyama:
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Your first sentence is false. I made no reference to 'properly raised Africans' (whatever that means) and I did not infer anything about them.

Don't be ridiculous.

There is no reason for your knee-jerk reference to ethnicity. It has nothing to do with the topic. What exactly do you mean by 'properly raised African'?

Since you want us to go there, we will go there. There are African poems, proverbs and songs (both ancient and modern) that explore human sexuality - sometimes explicitly (whether you like it or not). There is African artwork (both ancient and modern) that fully reproduces the human body in all its imperfect glory. Several ethnicities in South Africa today have their young women go topless. It has been their way for centuries and they do not need lectures on public morality from anybody. We could go on and on.



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Coarseness has nothing to do with it.

I see what your problem is now. You would prefer the innocuous sounding 'seed' rather than the more descriptive 'sperm' or 'semen'. In the end they are only words, and they are all synonyms - and that's what matters.

You remind me of someone who watched a video of how lions attacked a male buffalo and how they immediately went for the buffalo's soft underbelly (near the testes) - because that's a vulnerable spot. This person described the lions as having gone for the buffalo's 'private parts'. 'Private parts' - on a buffalo in the wild?

Keep it real.

AndroBlaze:
Uncle/aunty....or whatever pronoun you might choose to call yourself, next time, take your time to read responses slowly so you can understand what someone is saying (that's if your aim is to even understand sef).

AndroBlaze:
I brought ethnicity into it, because it is your ethnicity that is the basis of every African or calling yourself an African. If you don't understand where you are from, its culture, then how will you understand its values.

AndroBlaze:
Again, I specifically pointed out ethnicity because the lady is Igbo, and though I am not Igbo, I am Nigerian and I'm aware of Igbo culture to an extent. I am unaware of any Igbo saying or proverb that supports a lady being this coarse about her father's privates and sperm in particular. If it exists and you and are aware of it please let me know.

AndroBlaze:
Exploring human sexuality and being coarse are two entirely different things, as I clearly indicated in my example where I said she could have used the term "seed" or something less provocative and far more evocative of meaning.

AndroBlaze:
Worldwide the Igbo culture is known for having some of the best and most poetic use of language in their sayings and proverbs. This title, in my opinion and the use of "shock and awe" is a disservice and slap in the face of tradition.

AndroBlaze:
Also you comparing artwork and traditional dress with coarse speech and unflattering writing shows how westernised your mind is.

AndroBlaze:
The things aforementioned are not meant to symbolise eroticism or sexualise as in the West; the artwork you refer to and the dress is actually meant to show attributes like our strength and fertility.

AndroBlaze:
Anyway, its a free world and you and her can express yourself anyway you want, but when I can't tie your activity to your culture, trust me that I will also express myself and deem you unAfrican, especially when I know how the West appreciates this kind of coarse "shock and awe" crap.