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ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

Olachase:
I don't really know what to say

But you are making me scared because in few years time I'm stepping into my 30s

No wife
No children
I'm working but no investment 😔😔

When I was in my 25 I told myself there's still time how the time flies is what I couldn't figure out, now I'm close to 30

Funniest part the country is not even helping, and home training no fit allow person do crime

Jughead29:
Life has never been easy to even married people out there.... The question is

When will you start to raise a kid for yourself?
At 40 how stressing will it be to just start raising a child?

At 40 how more long can you keep this kids to attain good upbringing?

If at 40 nothing seems alright, what about at 50?

All this questions runs in every mind of a typical struggling man.... But in all, the bad economy and useless political leaders caused it all

Firebox123:
labake1 🧘

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do? End it all?

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

moststylish:
Nice advice,but where can one likely get hire purchase In this Nigeria?

selleniza:
Just as a fool at forty is a fool forever. So also, no wife at forty means no wife forever.

Marc3500:
wetin this one dey talk sef 🙄

Codes151:
na motivational speech.

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

Herkim:
It's never too late bro , set your priority right, be focus and also apply diligency.

Pray to God Almighty who created you to give you the wisdom to excel in life.

Committing Suicide is not the solution, after all most people believe that life actually start at 40.

It's never too late to accomplish all your vision and mission on earth.

Remain blessed.

foleskay:
Wats d big deal in a 40 years old man raising kids. Most Nigerian men in their 40s and 50s are still giving birth and raising kids.

blingxx:
I’m in my late 20s and parents want to pressure me to marry ,I just Dey look them 😂😂 Nigerian parents can be so funny

Jughead29:
Absolutely, nothing is wrong, but you'll know when your mates are already enjoying the fruits of their labour while your kid is still in the school demanding for money when all your strength are worn out

foleskay:
That rubbish line is already stale. Abeg talk another. Many people who gave birth early in life are not yet enjoying the fruits of their labour . Dey whine ur brain

Mandesz:
U are not alone. I'll be 40 in December. Got bsc 13yrs ago but No job, no marriage, no kids, and no hope. But I don't care anymore about what people might be staying.. I'm 'hard-hearted' now. Living my life the way it is. I'll not kill myself... I'll never

1Alex:
he should have ZeroWorries as your moniker suggests.

Then on a serious note, Life is just like a football match.

In the first half, both teams come into the game with a game plan they’ve practice: formations, strategies, key players. They play with the strength of their preparation, trying to dominate, score goals, and control the match.

But at halftime, regardless of whether they are leading, trailing, or it's a draw, both teams return to the dressing room. That’s where reflection happens. Coaches analyze the first half; what worked, what didn’t, who underperformed, where the opponents exploited their weaknesses. They restrategize. Sometimes a losing team comes out in the second half with fresh fire and completely turns the game around.

That’s exactly how life is at 40.

Your first half (youth) may not have gone according to plan; mistakes, failures, missed opportunities. but halftime (age 40) is a gift to pause, reflect, and rework your strategy. It’s not the end of the game. In fact, many great goals are scored in the second half. Champions are often made after halftime adjustments.

At 40, a man should not sit back in regret. Instead, he should see it as the second half of his life’s game; time to replan, reinvent, and relaunch. The match is far from over. Many people didn’t even score in the first half but came out blazing in the second.

Hope is not lost. The final whistle is not yet blown. There’s still time to turn the game of life around.

Just like football, it’s the full 90 minutes (and sometimes extra time) that decides the winner, not just the first half.

SocialJustice:
End it for what?

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

ZeroWorries:
If a man finds himself in this situation, what should he do?

End it all?

henrycloud:
It's never too late.


You are now going to have to fly for the next say 10 years, which will be pretty challenging but satisfying in the end.

1. You need God because no man can prevail by strength alone. When I say you mean God, I don't mean like the traditional ignorant Christian. You need God the way you should. So, you must get born again, drop all habitual sins and addictions, receive the Holy Spirit, commit to a structured fasting and praying schedule, grow to hear God's voice (you need it to fly), win souls, and above all, remain saved. Join a bible believing church like Living Faith, Omega Fire, Salvation Ministries, Dunamis, or Christ Embassy and take your pastor's teachings seriously.

2. Evaluate yourself. What can you do, and what qualifications do you have? Do you have a degree? What kinds of jobs can your qualifications get you in the next 7 days? (You must start somewhere, but don't stay where you start). Do you have a skill? Can you learn a skill? Which profitable skill can you learn and do perfectly?

3. Start. Start a job, start doing something with your skills, start learning. If you need a degree, you can take advantage of the current 100% scholarship offered by the University of the People and study with them to get your degree. Everything is online. In the next four years, you will graduate.

4. Check your friends and family for people who can help. Check the successful people you have helped. Check old classmates and friends. Reach out. Forget shame. All the corpses in the mortuary are strangers to each other, but they all lie naked and shameless. So laugh no matter. Reach out and ask for help, but be bold and definite in your request.

Don't be like, "Anything you have, anything you can," etc., when asked what you want. For instance, you should reply like this: Say you have a business plan, and say it. I need 3 million to start a chips business. I only have 600k. I am starting it in 3 weeks, and I have drawn the plan. With your help, God's blessing, and my hard work and commitment, I know in the next 12 months, you will be proud you helped me and changed my story.

5. Avoid women. You need to marry but you dont need it yet.

6. Plan your marriage for the next 2 years, but start saving towards it. For those 2 years, find the woman and marry her. Zip up.

7. Continue to grow nd network and develp and become a beter version of yourself.

8. In a few months, your story will change.

9. Filter your friends and drop all negative fellows.

I could have said more, but omo, e no easy to type o.

Good luck.

1Alex:
he should have ZeroWorries as your moniker suggests.

Then on a serious note, Life is just like a football match.

In the first half, both teams come into the game with a game plan they’ve practice: formations, strategies, key players. They play with the strength of their preparation, trying to dominate, score goals, and control the match.

But at halftime, regardless of whether they are leading, trailing, or it's a draw, both teams return to the dressing room. That’s where reflection happens. Coaches analyze the first half; what worked, what didn’t, who underperformed, where the opponents exploited their weaknesses. They restrategize. Sometimes a losing team comes out in the second half with fresh fire and completely turns the game around.

That’s exactly how life is at 40.

Your first half (youth) may not have gone according to plan; mistakes, failures, missed opportunities. but halftime (age 40) is a gift to pause, reflect, and rework your strategy. It’s not the end of the game. In fact, many great goals are scored in the second half. Champions are often made after halftime adjustments.

At 40, a man should not sit back in regret. Instead, he should see it as the second half of his life’s game; time to replan, reinvent, and relaunch. The match is far from over. Many people didn’t even score in the first half but came out blazing in the second.

Hope is not lost. The final whistle is not yet blown. There’s still time to turn the game of life around.

Just like football, it’s the full 90 minutes (and sometimes extra time) that decides the winner, not just the first half.

Olachase:
I don't really know what to say

But you are making me scared because in few years time I'm stepping into my 30s

No wife
No children
I'm working but no investment 😔😔

When I was in my 25 I told myself there's still time how the time flies is what I couldn't figure out, now I'm close to 30

Funniest part the country is not even helping, and home training no fit allow person do crime