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Kobojunkie:
it seems you have had lots of friends -with-benefits relationships which you confused with the typical committed relationship between man and woman. Reading through your writeup, I kept wondering if you even understand much of what a relationship really should be about. But then, that is me..

By the way, color me shocked that in 2025, there are still men out there who think a woman is to come in to cook and clean them. If a wife-appliance is what you are looking for then a wife-appliance is what you should get, just be sure not to come complaining when she gets sick and tired of living like a robot and decides it is time to take her leave of you, and possibly with all she can make away with then too.

It may be that the 20-year-old is inf sct ready to be a wife-appliance for you there. Given what you described of her situation, it may be what will work for her for now. Maybe in the future, after developing her self confidence and esteem, she may change her mind though.

Thank you.

The things you mentioned aren’t things I do. No one comes to my house and gets instructed to do chores, because as far as I’m concerned, they’re just visitors. My cousin once stayed with me before he left for Canada, and during the entire year he lived with me, I never asked him to do any of those things. He did them on his own. In fact, among the men in my family, it’s pretty normal for us to do things people traditionally expect women to do.

So please, ease up on the assumption that I’m running a “slave camp.” I simply got the lady something to eat, left her in the living room, and went into my room to work on my laptop. By the time I came out, she was already helping out. I didn’t ask her to, just like I never instructed my cousin to do anything either.

The main point of my concern is this: don’t be selfish.

For example, the lady I mentioned who was only interested in taking and taking, I told her I was sick earlier this year, and she neither called nor messaged me. I had to ask an elderly man for help to get water boiling, then covered myself in a duvet while letting the steam from the hot water surround me. I had to do that because the medication I had taken wasn’t working, and that’s how I eventually recovered. I haven’t been ill since.

But after I got better, this same lady told me I should take her to see Funke Akindele’s latest movie. I asked her, If I had died, would you still be asking me that?

Kobokobo u are sighted ...... Off point always..

TechAI:
➜ The things you mentioned aren’t things I do. No one comes to my house and gets instructed to do chores, because as far as I’m concerned, they’re just visitors. My cousin once stayed with me before he left for Canada, and during the entire year he lived with me, I never asked him to do any of those things. He did them on his own. In fact, among the men in my family, it’s pretty normal for us to do things people traditionally expect women to do.
➜ So please, ease up on the assumption that I’m running a “slave camp.” I simply got the lady something to eat, left her in the living room, and went into my room to work on my laptop. By the time I came out, she was already helping out. I didn’t ask her to, just like I never instructed my cousin to do anything either.
➜ The main point of my concern is this: don’t be selfish. For example, the lady I mentioned who was only interested in taking and taking, I told her I was sick earlier this year, and she neither called nor messaged me. I had to ask an elderly man for help to get water boiling, then covered myself in a duvet while letting the steam from the hot water surround me. I had to do that because the medication I had taken wasn’t working, and that’s how I eventually recovered. I haven’t been ill since.
➜But after I got better, this same lady told me I should take her to see Funke Akindele’s latest movie. I asked her, If I had died, would you still be asking me that?

1. You wrote the following, didn't you?

Then I met a 24-year-old lady whose only mission seemed to be to take, take, take. She never gave anything in return. She visited my house a few times, never offered to cook or ask if I was okay—she just came, talked, and left. Or she’d suggest outings, anything that would make me spend. She even asked for money to "make herself up" whenever I invited her over. I had to draw the line and told her I wouldn’t continue, because it was obvious she was just taking advantage of my kindness.

Are you wanting us to believe that you don't have this expectation, but just wrote it in or something? 😏

2. Well, yeah! Your OP states that the 20-year-old made an impression on you by that act of helping you clean up and stuff.

3. From what you typed up, I got a friends-with-benefits— not-a-girlfriend/fiance —vibe from your description of both the 24 and 27-year-old girls, though. Even the 20-year-old seems to be in it with you for the benefits, and not much else. I don't think a friend-with-benefit would go that far as to care much about you when you are sick though.

4. Again, friends-with-benefit and not girlfriends or fiancés! If you want a give-and-take relationship, you could start by toning down a lot more on the Santa Claus vibes unless you are into girls who depend a whole lot on you, financially and stuff.

As for why you keep going for mostly emotionally unavailable women(at least to you), maybe you should also try to visit a professional mental health therapist. It could help you understand why you continue to do that.

Kobojunkie:
1. You wrote the following, didn't you?
Are you wanting us to believe that you don't have this expectation, but just wrote it in or something? 😏

2. Well, yeah! Your OP states that the 20-year-old made an impression on you by that act of helping you clean up and stuff.

3. From what you typed up, I got a friends-with-benefits— not-a-girlfriend/fiance —vibe from your description of both the 24 and 27-year-old girls, though. Even the 20-year-old seems to be in it with you for the benefits, and not much else. I don't think a friend-with-benefit would go that far as to care much about you when you are sick though.

4. Again, friends-with-benefit and not girlfriends or fiancés! If you want a give-and-take relationship, you could start by toning down a lot more on the Santa Claus vibes unless you are into girls who depend a whole lot on you, financially and stuff.

As for why you keep going for mostly emotionally unavailable women(at least to you), maybe you should also try to visit a professional mental health therapist. It could help you understand why you continue to do that.

Okay. Thank you for your time. I am grateful.

NotOfThisWorld:
A 40-year old man is too old for a 20-year old girl. A healthy age gap is no more than 8-years. It definitely should not be 20-years. To call a spade a spade, he's a pervert and should find someone closer to his age. She, on the other hand, should date someone her own age and preferably no older than 25, someone she can go through life with and grow old together with. A 40-year old man is way too old for her. If she's considering it, then I'll assume she's poor or from a poor home and the man is rich, otherwise if her family is well-to-do, they themselves would reject such for their daughter. Nigerian politician's kids who get married, do you see them marrying people 20-years older than them? Of course not. They always go for their age mates or those close to their age, not someone old enough to be their father or mother.

Thank you.

NotOfThisWorld:
A 40-year old man is too old for a 20-year old girl. A healthy age gap is no more than 8-years. It definitely should not be 20-years. To call a spade a spade, he's a pervert and should find someone closer to his age. She, on the other hand, should date someone her own age and preferably no older than 25, someone she can go through life with and grow old together with. A 40-year old man is way too old for her. If she's considering it, then I'll assume she's poor or from a poor home and the man is rich, otherwise if her family is well-to-do, they themselves would reject such for their daughter. Nigerian politician's kids who get married, do you see them marrying people 20-years older than them? Of course not. They always go for their age mates or those close to their age, not someone old enough to be their father or mother.

This your opinion is based on which law?

Also the 8 year healthy gap you posted is based on which law...Nigerian constitution, the Bible/Quran or your limited opinion?

Word of of advise... when advising someone try to do it devoid of emotions and more of logic.

The legal age for a girl to start engaging in sex in Nigeria is 18. Meaning a girl of 20 is legally qualified to get married provided both parents agree to it.

Celine dion was 26 years old and her husband was 52 when she got married. Would you say the man was a pervert as well, and Celine was from a poor home?

If both parents approve the union would you still call the man a pervert and the girl a victim of a poor home?

Like I said never give advice based on emotions or else you'd end up getting yourself into trouble. As long as the couple in question aren't breaking the laws of the land they're free to get married regardless of their age differences. Even the Bible and the Quran never placed age restrictions on marriage, so tone down your emotional rage and learn to see things from a logical point of view.

TechAI:
➜Okay. Thank you for your time. I am grateful.

Just so you know, I wasn't trying to shatter you with my comments. Just felt you may need to begin thinking outside of the box that has been relationships for you.

You had mentioned that you are an introvert, and I don't know if you are by personality or by trauma. Regardless, something of that may explain why you keep going after a certain type of woman. I don't know, but I think maybe sitting in a therapist's chair for a time might help you get a handle on what it is you truly understand and want in a relationship, and how you may need to change up on how you seek out partners in the future.

Nazgul:
I read through your post and I see people saying you're nice. Your problem isn't about you being nice - you clearly lack standards.

Yes, this is something I genuinely struggle with. I always try to make people feel too comfortable around me, so much so that they end up crossing boundaries. I wouldn’t recommend living that way unless you have the emotional capacity to handle it.

The downside of being this way is the frequent disregard or disrespect that follows, and it’s not just from women, but people in general. That said, I tend to cut people off once it gets to that point.

On the day my cousin left for Canada, a friend who went with me to the airport pulled me aside and warned me not to always give in to people who only know how to take and he said it because of the lady I described as someone who only wants to take. We were at Shoprite in Ikeja Mall that day, it was January 1st, 2023, and after dropping my cousin off, we decided to stop by there just to spend some time together.

So yes, I’d say you’re absolutely right about this.

When you date a girl without having your own standards which you expect her to meet and keep up with, belive me you'll always be at the receiving end of any relationship you find yourself in.

You’re right again. I’ve had a series of experiences like this, and it often creates the illusion for people that they can get away with anything. Sometimes, I notice the signs but choose to ignore them — until I reach my limit. And when that happens, I end up cutting them off completely and destroying whatever connection we had. This is because I hate the feeling that comes afterwards, as it makes me feel like an idiot.

I want you to picture a relationship like raising a young child. Regardless of how much you love that child, you must adhere to certain standards and refuse him or her certain requests.

If you appear soft and weak, that child wouldn't respect you even if you bring out a cane, he'll know you can't use it. That's how women are.

True.

Show them love but be firm, if she comes to your house to make calls to another guy, walk her out and lock your door. If she doesn't call to apologize let her go, don't go calling and begging. If she calls let her know clearly that you don't care what she does being your back but if she's in your presence she should accord you some respect.

If she asks you for money after telling you she has a boyfriend, tell her to ask her boyfriend. Infact tell her that you're with her for friendship not babysitting. And if she's expecting you to pay her for being friends with her, she can go.

Don't be afraid to tell her your raw thoughts. Women love crazy guys. Just tell her any nonsense that comes into your head if she asks you for money.

Once a woman's eyes starts going towards your wallet, remove every iota of love you have for her from your heart. Cos what you two are playing is a game. She wants money and more of your money, and you want to bed her. Cheating, lying, cunning, dishonesty...etc is allowed. The smartest party wins the game.

I agree here. If I had one this with lady who claimed to have a boyfriend but turned to me for things her supposed boyfriend should, I believe the result would be much different. Thank you.

You said you found a 20 year old girl who truly wants to build something with you, take your time with her and don't be weak. Just set your standards or else she'll treat you like how your exes treated you.

Yeah. I just feel awkward about it all.

Kobojunkie:
Just so you know, I wasn't trying to shatter you with my comments. Just felt you may need to begin thinking outside of the box that has been relationships for you.

You had mentioned that you are an introvert, and I don't know if you are by personality or by trauma. Regardless, something of that may explain why you keep going after a certain type of woman. I don't know, but I think maybe sitting in a therapist's chair for a time might help you get a handle on what it is you truly understand and want in a relationship, and how you may need to change up on how you seek out partners in the future.

I don't feel shattered.

havilla:
Such age gap is always an advantage for the man but disadvantage to the girl/lady

Can i shoot my shot on you

Juliearth:
There are good people out there, bro. It's just unfortunate that people tend to use us for the benefits that they can get and not for genuine friendship.

from married woman

Tell the benefit and friendship you are looking from another man

Your opinion is more based on emotions than mine. The problem with Nigerians and this forum especially is that you guys get offended at other people's OWN OPINIONS unnecessarily and will quote them to start talking nonsense because you think they don't have the right to their OWN OPINIONS, which is ludicrous. There's something called freedom of speech and I've exercised mine by replying to the thread. I saw other people's comments that I could've responded to as well to argue but I ain't interested in doing that on NL anymore and I believe people are allowed to have their opinions, as I am. Learn to reply to threads without mentioning people to talk rubbish, which's what you wrote below, and thinking your own opinion overrides theirs (in which universe?). My response to the thread stands, unfortunately, neither is it up for debate. You can argue with your keyboard, however.

Nazgul:
This your opinion is based on which law?

Also the 8 year healthy gap you posted is based on which law...Nigerian constitution, the Bible/Quran or your limited opinion?

Word of of advise... when advising someone try to do it devoid of emotions and more of logic.

The legal age for a girl to start engaging in sex in Nigeria is 18. Meaning a girl of 20 is legally qualified to get married provided both parents agree to it.

Celine dion was 26 years old and her husband was 52 when she got married. Would you say the man was a pervert as well, and Celine was from a poor home?

If both parents approve the union would you still call the man a pervert and the girl a victim of a poor home?

Like I said never give advice based on emotions or else you'd end up getting yourself into trouble. As long as the couple in question aren't breaking the laws of the land they're free to get married regardless of their age differences. Even the Bible and the Quran never placed age restrictions on marriage, so tone down your emotional rage and learn to see things from a logical point of view.

NotOfThisWorld:
Your opinion is more based on emotions than mine. The problem with Nigerians and this forum especially is that you guys get offended at other people's OWN OPINIONS unnecessarily and will quote them to start talking nonsense because you think they don't have the right to their OWN OPINIONS, which is ludicrous. There's something called freedom of speech and I've exercised mine by replying to the thread. I saw other people's comments that I could've responded to as well to argue but I ain't interested in doing that on NL anymore and I believe people are allowed to have their opinions, as I am. Learn to reply to threads without mentioning people to talk rubbish, which's what you wrote below, and thinking your own opinion overrides theirs (in which universe?). My response to the thread stands, unfortunately, neither is it up for debate. You can argue with your keyboard, however.

TechAI:
I don't feel shattered.

Cool! Then here's some insight into what I see!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ahScYGUxiuI?si=bGBr-Peg1Zd3HjIF

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q8vlLU6yEXY?si=icesUdxU-BlcZ7AF

TechAI:
And you are entitled to your opinion.

They is nothing wrong in wifing a 20 years old, they are more fertile and easily get pregnant. Those matured ladies comes with their own baggage. What is more beautiful than watch young girl to become a full woman you will forever cherish her.

You, tell us what you feel is wrong. I first read the title as “she is 20 and wants to get married at 40.” I left because I didn’t have any opinion.

Jieta2:
They is nothing wrong in wifing a 20 years old, they are more fertile and easily get pregnant. Those matured ladies comes with their own baggage. What is more beautiful than watch young girl to become a full woman you will forever cherish her.

Thank you. Some people doubted my story, but that’s understandable.

I’m responding to your post specifically because of the emboldened part, but I want to do so by sharing a friend’s story—one in which I was quietly involved behind the scenes.

My friend’s three-year relationship, despite his financial sacrifices, has come to an end. Why? Before we get to the “why,” let’s talk about the financial sacrifice.

He met this girl before she gained admission into the university. When she eventually got in, he took on the responsibility of supporting her financially, despite the economic situation in the country.

He told me he was the one financing her education, not because he was particularly wealthy, but because he believed she was worth it. When I found out (she was in her first year at the time), I cautioned him about the risks. Statistically, it’s mostly Igbo men who take such risks, and there are countless bad tales and experiences as examples.

Here’s where it got even more interesting. He’s like a brother to me, and whenever she was about to return to school, he would get worried about raising the necessary funds. By extension, I would also get worried. Because of that, I made it a personal mission to send opportunities his way whenever I came across any. By the grace of God, the right solutions always came at the right time.

There was even a time when I sent money to her through him because he couldn’t raise the full amount she needed. She sent me a text to thank me, but I didn’t have the energy to reply. I only informed my friend days later that I had seen her message.

That’s how we both worked together, he at the forefront and me supporting from behind, whenever opportunities came, until now that she’s almost graduating.

Why did I make those sacrifices for him? He deserved it. He had earned it through his genuine effort in helping me navigate my own relationship pitfalls. I must admit, when it came to dating Nigerian women, I was terrible at understanding how to handle women and their mind games. If you read my original post, you’ll see where I talked about walking away from women and ending relationships when certain issues arose. That mindset was largely because my friend had painstakingly taken the time to open my eyes to certain realities I had ignored, thinking that making money was the most important thing.

It’s why I laugh at men who believe money alone will make women fall in line; they’re in for a rude shock. You have to learn these things; no one will do it for you. And the consequences of ignorance in this area are huge.

Earlier today, we were talking and analyzing the situation, and that’s when he told me he had spent close to ₦2,000,000 on her education over the years. This included her school fees every year, made possible in part by the opportunities I sent his way. Last year, he made ₦800,000 from one of such opportunities that I pushed to him.

I didn’t doubt him because he’s a meticulous record-keeper. I, on the other hand, don’t keep such records, and I had no idea that the small contributions I made had added up to that much.

So, why did their relationship end?

His girlfriend is about to graduate, and he has already been talking about marrying her. I knew that had always been his intention, and he had never touched her throughout these years because she’s a virgin.

While discussing marriage, he mentioned that her family could visit after the wedding but would be expected to stay for no longer than a week—except, perhaps, during omugwo (post-childbirth care). That was all he said. Apparently, the girl took this to her family, and they, especially her mother, strongly opposed the relationship.

He told me today that he later found out her elder sister had said that nobody in their family liked him. I was shocked when I heard that.

He never said they couldn’t visit. He never said they were unwelcome. He only said they could stay for a maximum of one week, and somehow that single statement turned him into an “unwanted” person in their eyes, not minding all he had done.

From that point on, the girl became cold and withdrawn. After trying for a while, he let the relationship fade away.

I wouldn’t say the girl is entirely a bad person, but when certain situations arise, some women will throw everything you’ve ever done for them under the bus.

The gift that keeps on giving. They all thought you a fool. They were right.

As per the 20 year gap, With your soft nature you think you can handle the drama of a 20 year old? I laugh...... Abort romantic mission with her. Help her with her education or learning handwork. Look out for her as a big bro or father. You old enough to be her father.

Chubhie:
The gift that keeps on giving. They all thought you a fool. They were right.

I am a fool until they find out I am not. I have two personalities. You wouldn't like the second when you cross a line, and you would avoid me. They all assume I am a fool because they don't appreciate being treated as a human, and then I stop treating them as humans.

Some of them have asked me, 'Don't you forgive?' as they try to come back. Believe it or not, I don't forgive such people. I have an ex who has tried for more than 6 years, but I told her the person she knew, which gave her confidence to come back to me, is long dead and no longer exists.

My advice? Do not offend some supposed gentle or soft people. You wouldn't like what you see. They aren't soft; they just believe in treating people with human decency.

Nothing wrong from a legal standpoint but these two individuals really have nothing in common. I don't see any common ground in this type of marriage or relationship as they belong to different age cohorts.

At 40, I wont look at or, acknowledge a woman who is below 30 and, I try to avoid Gen Z as a matter of principle before them kee me with TiKTok.

TechAI:
I am a fool until they find out I am not. I have two personalities. You wouldn't like the second when you cross a line, and you would avoid me. They all assume I am a fool because they don't appreciate being treated as a human, and then I stop treating them as humans.

Some of them have asked me, 'Don't you forgive?' as they try to come back. Believe it or not, I don't forgive such people. I have an ex who has tried for more than 6 years, but I told her the person she knew, which gave her confidence to come back to me, is long dead and no longer exists.

My advice? Do not offend some supposed gentle or soft people. You wouldn't like what you see. They aren't soft; they just believe in treating people with human decency.

Bro to bro: learn the game. Not to change your core but for the fact that resources are finite and time is non renewable.

Unless you run a charity organisation, Drill it into everyone around you that you don't have free money. You want money? Bring value.

Human beings will be of their best behaviour towards you when they know your deterrent and red lines beforehand. Only then will your softness and gentleness be respected and appreciated in realtime not hindsight.

TechAI:
Thank you. Some people doubted my story, but that’s understandable.

I’m responding to your post specifically because of the emboldened part, but I want to do so by sharing a friend’s story—one in which I was quietly involved behind the scenes.

My friend’s three-year relationship, despite his financial sacrifices, has come to an end. Why? Before we get to the “why,” let’s talk about the financial sacrifice.

He met this girl before she gained admission into the university. When she eventually got in, he took on the responsibility of supporting her financially, despite the economic situation in the country.

He told me he was the one financing her education, not because he was particularly wealthy, but because he believed she was worth it. When I found out (she was in her first year at the time), I cautioned him about the risks. Statistically, it’s mostly Igbo men who take such risks, and there are countless bad tales and experiences as examples.

Here’s where it got even more interesting. He’s like a brother to me, and whenever she was about to return to school, he would get worried about raising the necessary funds. By extension, I would also get worried. Because of that, I made it a personal mission to send opportunities his way whenever I came across any. By the grace of God, the right solutions always came at the right time.

There was even a time when I sent money to her through him because he couldn’t raise the full amount she needed. She sent me a text to thank me, but I didn’t have the energy to reply. I only informed my friend days later that I had seen her message.

That’s how we both worked together, he at the forefront and me supporting from behind, whenever opportunities came, until now that she’s almost graduating.

Why did I make those sacrifices for him? He deserved it. He had earned it through his genuine effort in helping me navigate my own relationship pitfalls. I must admit, when it came to dating Nigerian women, I was terrible at understanding how to handle women and their mind games. If you read my original post, you’ll see where I talked about walking away from women and ending relationships when certain issues arose. That mindset was largely because my friend had painstakingly taken the time to open my eyes to certain realities I had ignored, thinking that making money was the most important thing.

It’s why I laugh at men who believe money alone will make women fall in line; they’re in for a rude shock. You have to learn these things; no one will do it for you. And the consequences of ignorance in this area are huge.

Earlier today, we were talking and analyzing the situation, and that’s when he told me he had spent close to ₦2,000,000 on her education over the years. This included her school fees every year, made possible in part by the opportunities I sent his way. Last year, he made ₦800,000 from one of such opportunities that I pushed to him.

I didn’t doubt him because he’s a meticulous record-keeper. I, on the other hand, don’t keep such records, and I had no idea that the small contributions I made had added up to that much.

So, why did their relationship end?

His girlfriend is about to graduate, and he has already been talking about marrying her. I knew that had always been his intention, and he had never touched her throughout these years because she’s a virgin.

While discussing marriage, he mentioned that her family could visit after the wedding but would be expected to stay for no longer than a week—except, perhaps, during omugwo (post-childbirth care). That was all he said. Apparently, the girl took this to her family, and they, especially her mother, strongly opposed the relationship.

He told me today that he later found out her elder sister had said that nobody in their family liked him. I was shocked when I heard that.

He never said they couldn’t visit. He never said they were unwelcome. He only said they could stay for a maximum of one week, and somehow that single statement turned him into an “unwanted” person in their eyes, not minding all he had done.

From that point on, the girl became cold and withdrawn. After trying for a while, he let the relationship fade away.

I wouldn’t say the girl is entirely a bad person, but when certain situations arise, some women will throw everything you’ve ever done for them under the bus.

The girl isn't different from her family.

havilla:
Such age gap is always an advantage for the man but disadvantage to the girl/lady

yes it is

Chubhie:
Bro to bro: learn the game. Not to change your core but for the fact that resources are finite and time is non renewable.

Unless you run a charity organisation, Drill it into everyone around you that you don't have free money. You want money? Bring value.

Human beings will be of their best behaviour towards you when they know your deterrent and red lines beforehand. Only then will your softness and gentleness be respected and appreciated in realtime not hindsight.

Thank you.

Foodqueen:
The girl isn't different from her family.

I guess so. I honestly thought she would talk things through with him but she didn't.

This seems a somewhat old post. But since it's been brought up again...

The post brings the statement, "Nice guys finish last," to mind again. Strangely, it has been playing repeatedly in my mind in recent days for whatever reason.

I can deduce from this post that the OP is loaded financially to be throwing away money so. But such a habit makes it quite difficult to tell whether people are really there for you or just for the benefits. The outcomes are there to see!

If I were as loaded as the OP (who is, by the way, a peer), I would be more careful about giving out money in such a manner for the reason stated above. It would be easier for me to give money to needy people that I don't even have a connection with than to such ladies.

We're not a family and you're not my wife yet, so why should I be splashing money on you or be responsible for your needs? It doesn't make sense. They will just see you as a meal ticket.

Regarding the 20-year-old, I think the age gap is too wide. But then, you know what's best for you. I personally don't take interest in ladies that are more than 10 years younger. I just feel our thought processes may not be sufficiently aligned.

And, as someone wrote earlier, the younger lady might turn out to be like the older ladies when she's as old. That's a maybe, though. I'd recommend you pray to God for guidance above all.

Good luck!

You are naive but you describe yourself as kind. Maybe also, there are other reasons why you continue to give for nothing in return. Learn to set boundaries and know your worth. Stop looking for love in the wrong places. Planning to marry a 20 year old orphan who just finished secondary school is a red flag but you may not see through it now. Find a 28 year old who is from a good family and who is employed, court her for about a year. Make sure it’s not someone that you met online. Good girls are not that scarce. It is men that look for love with the wrong format.

Foodqueen:
The girl isn't different from her family.

His statement was just an excuse. She never planned to marry him

adeniyilamlek:
Kobokobo u are sighted ...... Off point always..

Dem supposed just change that guy name to offloint. Always writing gibberish.

Op, I came late to the party. You are too nice. Women like their men firm, mildly stern and sometimes unpredictable.

Stop doling out money to all these leeches