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Aifrobeats:
Yes, a man is capable of doing that almost daily till the kids are grown to avoid the troubles and the husband must believe in himself, though it's not going to be easy.

Do you know what the does for a living or his schedule.
Aba at least think in debth, length and breath stop thinking only high on colos

Lolzzzzz 🤣

Is your wife a showboating lazy person, maybe she's trying to succinctly insult a neighbour who no get pikin

Take over the chores set example

Maybe she will change, but I doubt it

Like as many people has said I will advise you to take it yourself so you can study both sides and put what is not there like your humble playing with the child and also draw line for the child .
Ok my bro

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

This is the comment I was looking for!

MaziObinnaokija:
. Wake the kids up at 6/ get them bed alarm ⏰️( this type). Bath them,wear them their skool uniform/train them how to do it themselves. Cook their breakfast ready(pack their takeaway in their respective school flask and eat some b4 dey leave out

What if the guy himself leaves home 4am every morning.
At least allow people with sense comment first.

It's normal women can't handle pressure like men. And when you assist them to take care of the kids they start seeing it as your core duty.
Even though you are the one financing the family 100%.

My daughter of 3years always cry like she is catching fun infact her hubby is crying with tears but honestly nothing is wrong with this girl.

MaziObinnaokija:
. Wake the kids up at 6/ get them bed alarm ⏰️( this type). Bath them,wear them their skool uniform/train them how to do it themselves. Cook their breakfast ready(pack their takeaway in their respective school flask and eat some b4 dey leave out

It's a habit she can change with time.

Alot of our women do this, including mine.
Talk to her about it! Help her in preparing the kids for sch. Have a routine, sooner the kids will fall in line.

No 1
All of you go to bed early.
9:00 all lights OFF, all phones OFF.
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Then you can have enough sleep.
And wake early, 5am , refreshed.
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Minus this approach, you will keep waking late and shouting at each other..

Chilipepper:
Can a woman get her kids ready for school without shouting? Please recommend ways to do it for me because my wife shouts too much.

E go hard brother because that's how she was raised. But, hope dey. You and your wife need to sit down and work out a algorithm. Basically a plan of what needs to happen, how, when and by who.

Every child needs algorithmic process implementation to stay focused. The hard part is communicating it to kids in a manner that makes it stick with them. No playing and goofing on weekday mornings.

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

You think men don't get kids ready for school? Hy do men not shout like you ladies do?

samijet:
It's normal [b]women can't handle pressure like men. [/b]And when you assist them to take care of the kids they start seeing it as your core duty.
Even though you are the one financing the family 100%.

My daughter of 3years always cry like she is catching fun infact her hubby is crying with tears but honestly nothing is wrong with this girl.

You say what? Is it pressure in this context we are talking about , Same men that can't babysit for 3hours?

Talk with her, it would also shock you that she doesn't like the shouting. Then, call a family meeting and talk with your kids about it. Afterwards in waking the kid up in the morning, find any interesting theme happening in school and tell them they would miss out if they don't prepare on time. You should also assist in the morning preparation. Kudos

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

Dont mind the olodo. everything na complaint to them, doesn't he have hands to help out.

Burntcoal:
Did u help her out?

Did you offer to bath some kids while she's in the kitchen?

Women shout less when there's help.

You are wrong, this even increases when there is help. Why do men not behave dame way? Wll through my schooling never for once did mum take me to school, it was always dad but she does the cooking. Men do all that without those nonsense screams unlike women. Even when there is a house help it doesn't stop

E no Hard at all, i was in that situation before, my wife get PHD in shouting, and the noise dey affect my sleep... What i did was to give her a break, i took over for a week, i wake them up, when they do sme-sme i activate them with slaps and hot abara ... After 3 days their brain Don reset, i watch them do the rest themselves for 2 days, so i hand them over to their mama to continue....

Since then, noise Don reduce, they know that when their mama voice is going high that i Will take over again.... So there is peace till date...

Children sabi take their mama instruction for granted

pocohantas:
Toor! Shebi that was how he said I was sleeping too much because I slept until 8am and missed breakfast at the hotel. This was after babysitting all night and even rid__g him in bed. The next day I gave him his child to do everything and he almost went crazy. As we touch down Lagos, he hired domestic staff for me.

Oh my


You know we are on summer break. Man had study plan for the summer. Study till 11 am.
Didn't know how they arrived at that.
Yesterday, I took them out. When they came back, they would have studied but they didn't. He normally go through their homework before going to work. Na so the guy shouting up and down early morning woke me up. They were at the kitche table and he was fuming. You need to see this guy. The kids were just looking at him. I entered there and started laughing. That could have been me
(I don't shout any more. School work and run that drives me crazy, I don't dash am. Used to prepare lunch. He didn't even try once. Money to buy lunch )
Anything homework, count me off. If your father cannot help, go to your teacher. Period. Or,consult the internet.
Jokingly,told my eldest if he get distinctions in all his subjects in gcse, I will buy him a car. Guy took it serious
I may get it for him as a reward for job well done.
Till then. Na my new method of teaching be that o.
I can't come and kpai myself.

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

God bless you my dear. My nearly went crazy those days. She'll wake up around 5:00. Heat water for bathing,bath the kids,put on their clothes and then serve them food. To kids sometimes eating becomes a problem. The thing dey drive my wife crazy. Until I step in and started doing those things while she relax and do other things.The shouting reduced. Now they're all grown and do things themselves. It can be frustrating to women.

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

Abi o. As if she did the whole intercourse process herself.

Very simple.
Take over the chore, do it for week one and she'll see the difference.

Some ladies just naturally act this way. The hubby would have seen sign of aggression right before marriage though.

Had a female friend who seem so sweet and soft, there was a certain time I went to pick her up from her church after evening service and her friend was to join us as they stay in thesame route. The friend was a bit sluggish and this cute soft girl of mine became aggressive. See the way she was technically screaming at her friend to get in..... I knew she has a recessive aggressive nature that child birth and little stress level will push out in no time.

women like this are annoying but they dont know. Just causing commotion up and down in the house.
Older generation of women own na sunday morning.

dapadawee:
Do you know what the does for a living or his schedule.
Aba at least think in debth, length and breath stop thinking only high on colos

I'm talking from experience. Kept close relationship with an uncle of mine with three kids, and that's what he did almost everyday for four years they were around. And the couple never quarreled. So it's possible bro, stop limiting yourself.

Mariangeles:
Start by helping her get the kids ready for school.
Your wife is not crazy, she's overwhelmed.

Is that so hard to understand?

Stop defending nonsense.

Being overwhelmed is not a reason to be shouting up the neighbourhood like a mad person.

People should learn to manage their anxieties and anger without affecting others.

Chilipepper:
Can a woman get her kids ready for school without shouting? Please recommend ways to do it for me because my wife shouts too much.

No time: your wife and your children will outgrow this stage. That shouting is her joy for having those children and her pride for having them for you. You will be surprised that she does it more whenever you are around if you are the traveling type.

Bankowner:
Very simple.
Take over the chore, do it for week one and she'll see the difference.

Sir, please check my signature.
If I quote you directly with the request ,I will be banned.
Thanks

MaziObinnaokija:
. Wake the kids up at 6/ get them bed alarm ⏰️( this type). Bath them,wear them their skool uniform/train them how to do it themselves. Cook their breakfast ready(pack their takeaway in their respective school flask and eat some b4 dey leave out

Clap for ursef. Very easy for ur mouth as a single person

Aifrobeats:
I'm talking from experience. Kept close relationship with an uncle of mine with three kids, and that's what he did almost everyday for four years they were around. And the couple never quarreled. So it's possible bro, stop limiting yourself.

Your uncle schedule might allow that but someone else scheduled is different.

Oga get involved, if that woman faint from stress, you go hear am oooo

dederocs:
People should learn to manage their anxieties and anger without affecting others.

Anxiety and Anger borne out of laziness, being unorganized and lack of will to do work.

See as them they glamourize the situation.

The woman is no different from a man who yells at customers and colleagues at work.

My neighbor house girl own sef worse cos the mother of the 2 kids is late and the father ain't in Nigeria