My girlfriend wants us to have a baby now, but I don't think I'm ready to be a dad yet.. I want everything to be in place before I bring a seed into this cold world, but she thinks we should do it now; and other things would fall in place with time. I'm in my mid20s, and she's like 23..

What do you guys think?

since she is not in her 30's,i wld say when u guys are financially,emotionally and physically ready! moreover she is ur gf,not ur wife,y d hurry? abi she wants to tie u down? y not do the first things first,get married then u guys can talk abt children!

akmid: since she is not in her 30's,i wld say when u guys are financially,emotionally and physically ready! moreover she is ur gf,not ur wife,y d hurry? abi she wants to tie u down? y not do the first things first,get married then u guys can talk abt children!

well said.
Op asoon as u think u are fit n finacially ok to b a father then go for it untill u are ready keep using protections with ur babe so she dosnt tell u it was a mistake if she gets pregnant. Dont rush so u dont regret ur actions.

For girls = As soon as blood starts dripping out of your coochie

For Boys = As soon as you can impregnate a girl..

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london2lasgidi: My girlfriend wants us to have a baby now, but I don't think I'm ready to be a dad yet.. I want everything to be in place before I bring a seed into this cold world, but she thinks we should do it now; and other things would fall in place with time. I'm in my mid20s, and she's like 23..

What do you guys think?

You dey talk of a baby when u neva even marry. My friend go and plan your wedding first.

PHIPEX:
You dey talk of a baby when u neva even marry. My friend go and plan your wedding first.

You don't need to get married to have a baby.. Marriage isn't a must for everyone.

As soon as you feel you can look after your little man, and raise him right.. Don't listen to the fallacy about getting married first, marriage isn't for everyone.. Most people get divorced nowadays anyways..

Good luck, brother.

akmid: since she is not in her 30's,i wld say when u guys are financially,emotionally and physically ready! moreover she is ur gf,not ur wife,y d hurry? abi she wants to tie u down? y not do the first things first,get married then u guys can talk abt children!

Welldone babe, welldone!

@op, some other people have tried it in the past and failed while some others have succeeded. Think with ur head man, Piken nor be wetin dem dey rush get. u hear?

london2lasgidi: My girlfriend wants us to have a baby now, but I don't think I'm ready to be a dad yet.. I want everything to be in place before I bring a seed into this cold world, but she thinks we should do it now; and other things would fall in place with time. I'm in my mid20s, and she's like 23..

What do you guys think?

How soon will everything be in place?
If I have to do it all over again, I will have kids at 30yr
If you have your kids early, they will graduate from college by the time you are about 46yrs
There will be challenges
Does your wife work or have a trade?
You will need the two incomes

Run! Run from her! She doesn't know what it means to bring a child into the world. No matter how much you love each other now, not being ready/not having the means will drive you guys apart so much so that you'll not even think of marriage. I'm a witness.

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GBAGAUN
Dem go ring bell for ur mata

shymmex: As soon as you feel you can look after your little man, and raise him right.. Don't listen to the fallacy about getting married first, marriage isn't for everyone.. Most people get divorced nowadays anyways..

Good luck, brother.

You are not a good adviser at all , you should not contribute when you have no clue about life . Why would you impregnate a girl of 23 without legal process of marrying her first , wot if she died at childbirth ,you definately be Jailed for Life .

Don't try it if u can get wedded its a good step for u .

dont try it my guy, cos ur not yet ready..........abi u ready com still complain

guy once ur ready and have somthing tangible doing...go get urself a baby.
some ppl will spend all their life-services doing black and white wedding at the end of the day they wont have nothing to fall back on.
i will be 30 by sep this year but GOD blessed me with ejima(twins) a boy & a girl last year...i never look back,i have started gathering their school fees now.

@Shymmex thanks for ur contribution.

achi4u: guy once ur ready and have somthing tangible doing...go get urself a baby.
some ppl will spend all their life-services doing black and white wedding at the end of the day they wont have nothing to fall back on.
i will be 30 by sep this year but GOD blessed me with ejima(twins) a boy & a girl last year...i never look back,i have started gathering their school fees now.

@Shymmex thanks for ur contribution.

Nigerians spend too much on weddings and senseless celebrations. Why spend money u can't afford. Some pple even go as far as borrowing for weddings just to make the family look rich. I think it is over extravagant for a couple to finish the wedding and incur a lot of debt to the extent that they can't rent an apartment to stay.

achi4u: guy once ur ready and have somthing tangible doing...go get urself a baby.
some ppl will spend all their life-services doing black and white wedding at the end of the day they wont have nothing to fall back on.
i will be 30 by sep this year but GOD blessed me with ejima(twins) a boy & a girl last year...i never look back,i have started gathering their school fees now.

@Shymmex thanks for ur contribution.

see who is ready..gathering school fees *hissing* marriage no bi giving girl belle abegi..poor mentality


poster
As soon as u are emotionally and financially capable. But you must marry her first. Marriage is not by function of age, but maturity, that does not mean children should get married oo..Anyway just know that u dont need to be gathering school fees...you should readily pay..and save for their future!

it no sweat when you feel you can be a responsible father and u have the finance y not

london2lasgidi: My girlfriend wants us to have a baby now, but I don't think I'm ready to be a dad yet.. I want everything to be in place before I bring a seed into this cold world, but she thinks we should do it now; and other things would fall in place with time. I'm in my mid20s, and she's like 23..

What do you guys think?

girlfriend? I dont mean to sound old fashioned but.. . . . .actually I do. What kind of woman just pops babies willy nilly like that? Are you a millionaire?

You better make sure you are emotionally, financially and physically ready enough. A baby is for life and not for Christmas. You can't return the baby to santa nothing is falling into place it's not right to bring a child into the world without planning how to cater for it.

@udoka the "already made man",
in todays Nigeria,anybody with 2million business is not a millionaire...yet i worth that amouth but i dont see myself as a millionaire...quote me wrong?

u see ur comment dosent hold water.

u must be a kid feeding from ur mama pot.


my brother am still gathering OOooOOO!

First and foremost stop having sex with d girl because is ungodly behaviour to engage in premarital sex. Then ask God to help u to wait until u are mature financialy to marry d girl. Gods blessing will follow u. Anything outside dis is a calamity to ur future.

Ma dear first make her ur wife n den u can talk of a baby cos even married couple dnt give birth any how dis days again n 2ndly luk into ursef to knw if u r ready or not so as nt to bring d baby to d world to suffer plsssssss

i think theright age to have a child is perhaps, whenever the spouse are ready

I can see that many are still boys here. They can nt gv definate ans to a simple Qus. Now, child pschology has shown that a boy child libido start to function at age 11. A girl start mestruat at 12. A boy of 14-15 can inpregnate girl of 12. Both boy and girl that have click 18 is adult. It is advisable 4 a girl to start child bearing from 17 and a guy of 23-25 to be a father but our economy is bad enough that at 28 u are still searching 4 job.

achi4u: guy once ur ready and have somthing tangible doing...go get urself a baby.
some ppl will spend all their life-services doing black and white wedding at the end of the day they wont have nothing to fall back on.
i will be 30 by sep this year but GOD blessed me with ejima(twins) a boy & a girl last year...i never look back,i have started gathering their school fees now.

@Shymmex thanks for ur contribution.

for your mind now, white wedding is the only option for him. You don't just go impregnating another man's daughter without him given her to you as your wife

femi4: for your mind now, white wedding is the only option for him. You don't just go impregnating another man's daughter without him given her to you as your wife

am legaly married and perform all the performable.
But come o!,u seems not to understand____my simply statment.
Anyway like what @akin33 just said. "...our economy baaad o"

rowlandoo:
You are not a good adviser at all , you should not contribute when you have no clue about life . Why would you impregnate a girl of 23 without legal process of marrying her first , wot if she died at childbirth ,you definately be Jailed for Life .

Don't try it if u can get wedded its a good step for u .

On what planet do you live on? It's definitely not this planet.

23years old is not a kid, and I'm not advising to have kids now... But just saying marriage isn't a prerequisite for having kids...

Some of you guys need to drop this medieval religious belief system you always preach, but would never abide by...

shymmex:

On what planet do you live on? It's definitely not this planet.

23years old is not a kid, and I'm not advising to have kids now... But just saying marriage isn't a prerequisite for having kids...

Some of you guys need to drop this medieval religious belief system you always preach, but would never abide by...

o what happened to all your culture and religion? Such a hypocrite.

queensmith:

girlfriend? I dont mean to sound old fashioned but.. . . . .actually I do. What kind of woman just pops babies willy nilly like that? Are you a millionaire?

You better make sure you are emotionally, financially and physically ready enough. A baby is for life and not for Christmas. You can't return the baby to santa nothing is falling into place it's not right to bring a child into the world without planning how to cater for it.

Looool at you believing in some 'old fashioned' thrash - you're a walking contradiction.. You choose and believe what you want, when it suits you..

And he already said he wants everything in place before having kids..

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