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highchief1:
biased opinions.pa Edwin Clark died at 97,the other yoruba man afenifere leader or so died at 97 too.some men still outlive their wife’s.okowas father died at 86 while Okowas mom died when she was about 40yrs old or so.

Don't compare.
The odds are against men.
Few men lived longer compared to thousands of women living longer.... don't go there?
Pressures of life kill men silently.

This is common in Naija.

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

Exactly 💯

Marvyx:
Bro I literally thought about this today. A man dropped dead in the office building I work in. He had 6 children, wasn't up to 45 . High blood pressure like we were told.

I honestly don't know what men gain from marriage if they can't even live long enough on earth.

Under 45 with 6 children during Buhari and now Tinubu regime?
The wife mähen be in her 30s


RI P to him

You should have find out at what age their fathers died.
Don't forget that normally husbands are always older than their wives. And of course many husbands would never wish their wives and children die before them

Love800:
To me its the age difference.
Some men senior their wives with almost 20yrs. So yea, thats the main cause apart from other things the OP wrote.

Lol.. how many men dey senior their wives with almost 20 years? You mean say all the women in this picture their husband senior them with almost 20 years?
You forget say men marry early back then.

You don't get the mgs,it simply mean men should take care of themselves

Softmirror:
What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!


MODIFIED:

He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.

So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

erad:
Do you know the age difference of between husbands and wives back then?

Must every nonsense be farmed for engagement?

not sure it’s for engagement
But you have a point also

There are many angles to look at this.

Some people rightly pointed out the issue of age difference. When the age gap between the couple is very wide (like a man being 10 years, 15 years, 20 years etc older) there is a possibility the younger couple (often the wife) will outlive the older. That is not necessarily a bad thing provided the man intentionally delayed marriage in order to develop himself and lay solid foundation for himself and enjoy his life small before getting married.

Someone also pointed out the issue lifestyle and she was right. Most men tend to live recklessly. Drinking alcohol more than they drink water, practically smoking their life away, no medical checkup etc. No one indulges in all these and live long.

The last thing I want to point out is the issue of men rushing into marriage when they never chop beleful. A wise man will not rush into marriage until he is sure he has more than enough to take care of himself and can comfortably take care of wife and children. But fools rush into marriage even while they are still struggling to survive as a bachelor. The rule is, if you bring children into this world you must be ready to cater for them even if you have to sacrifice your life to do so. Because nobody sent you

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years
Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.
Food for thought
Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

. Why do the people in those pictures all look so much like their mothers? Jonathan looks like all of his facial features came straight from his mother, as if no father dey the equation there. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Olamideayomide:
But their partners are adamant to share and balance the luggages with them due to marriage rule laid down by our forefathers that men are the head of their family, therefore they should shoulder all responsibilities.

A man is the head of the family and his job is to sacrifice himself for this family. Either you do it the soft or hard way, periodt!

Just the way I want it. Wifey doesn't like to hear this, but I prefer to leave before her.

Luckysbab:
If only you don't mean enjoyment in the light of drinking and fornicating and the likes.

Including side chicks or side kicks

A theory is that female humans tend to live longer than their male counterparts because the role of grandmother provides additional caregivers for our offspring, who are born weaker and stay infantile for much longer than other species.

Jamieb:
You lack critical reasoning . That's not what he's trying to say

Funny thin is that most of these people y'all are claiming died cos of hustling for their families and not taking care of themselves,it was even the women that were the breadwinners. Alot of you guys commenting too,na una wife dey bear the household burden but has to hide it to make y'all look good. But you are all over here advising other men to rest and treat themselves. Lol....

And also, you guys should learn to stick to your wives ..in the event of "enjoying",you spread your seeds thinking there are no consequences,y'all acquire many side chicks and take over their responsibilities..they bill you dry and you even do extra jobs to meet up. You take sexual enhancers to please them. Then when you drop dead,it's because your wife and children stressed you out?? You lots are delusional.

Celestialsword:
So,men should wise up and always take care of yourself, when the load is too heavy, please drop it.

We Nigerian men are too proud to admit that the load is too heavy for fear of being labelled a failure by a poison tongued judgemental society that is quick to judge someone that is just down on his luck and then you add the cooked up religious text that says that :- A man that fails to [provide for his family is worse than an infidel and thus you now have a generation of men who can not confide in their wives and tell her the truth that the load is too heavy for him to bear anymore because he KNOWS that his wife will call him a failure to his face in front of his children.

And so, the man does his best and when his income is not enough, he starts borrowing loans at high interest to cater to his wife and kids needs and eventually when foreclosure looms because he can no longer afford to service the loans, you will then see news stories of men dying of high blood pressure or stopping their car on third mainland bridge and jumping into the lagoon as happened in one case a few years ago.

Its no wonder some men just abscond from the house never to return.

Stress and pressure no dey respect gender.

Nigerian wives and girl friends and fiancees should learn to manage whatever their man can EASILY afford. For example, if a man was giving his wife allowance of N200k per month but he was struggling to do so, if he told his wife that he could no longer afford N200k but will reduce it to N50k until things improve, that relationship will never be the same as it was before and to avoid such drama is why a lot of Nigerian men are opting to be single because of the unrealistic financial burdens our women place on our necks.

Celestialsword:
men should take care of themselves, because many men struggled and laboured for the family upkeep and they didn't get the rewards

They were stressed up and most of them died before their wives.

When the man has passed on, those he left behind will still survive and become somebody in life.

The Irony of it all ,is that it's the woman that now enjoy the fruits of the man's labour.

So,men should wise up and always take care of yourself, when the load is too heavy, please drop it.

That's why I will never marry a liability wife, I'll rather die single...

So there’s no counter thread “where are their mothers?”

Food for thought

highchief1:
biased opinions.pa Edwin Clark died at 97,the other yoruba man afenifere leader or so died at 97 too.some men still outlive their wife’s.okowas father died at 86 while Okowas mom died when she was about 40yrs old or so.

they probably took good care of themselves.
All humans will die but don't speed up the process with unnecessary burdens and stress! That is the whole point of his message.

Softmirror:
He wasn't particular with his message by directing it to men. He made a general projection by saying 'TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF'. He would said, 'MEN TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF'. Thanks for the explanation.

Yes you are right

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

Late Herbert Wigwe's dad is still alive and fighting over property
Governor Dapo Abiodun's dad is still alive
Davido'sum is late his dad is still alive
A young barely in her 30s passed away during childbirth leaving her husband with 3 small children
My own mum is late my dad is still alive

When you you silly shallow minded men realise that there's no formula to this life we're living.
All this nonsense about men struggling to cater for the family is utter garbage! Women don't struggle? Women don't make sacrifices form
the family? Do they stretch their legs waiting for the man to provide? Show me a household where a woman is not working and co-providing for the family while taking care of the home.

If you want to become a deadbeat, by all means do so. Don't go dragging others with you.

Bukola Saraki’s Jamaican mom has integrated well.
Wait, father is fulani and mother is Jamaican, so where did they get all the Yoruba names, Olusola, Bukola, Gbemi and Tosin from?

Celestialsword:
Elumelu's mom is 97years
Otedola's mom is 103years
Jonathan's mom is 88years
Saraki's mom is 99years
Dangote's mom is 90years

Where are their father's, Long gone in most cases.

Food for thought

Treat yourself well, they will survive without you

Where was their mothers when their fathers were celebrating their 12 years old, 10 years old birthdays in 1914 during the amalgamation era?

They were either new born babies or they were never born yet

Na Men be Garawa. Harder harder till u pass into glory. Dem go remain

biased opinions.pa Edwin Clark died at 97,the other yoruba man afenifere leader or so died at 97 too.some men still outlive their wife’s.okowas father died at 86 while Okowas mom died when she was about 40yrs old or so.

How many do you manage to mention here and how many were mentioned in the list?

dominique:
Late Herbert Wigwe's dad is still alive and fighting over property
Governor Dapo Abiodun's dad is still alive
Davido'sum is late his dad is still alive
A young barely in her 30s passed away during childbirth leaving her husband with 3 small children
My own mum is late my dad is still alive

When you you silly shallow minded men realise that there's no formula to this life we're living.
All this nonsense about men struggling to cater for the family is utter garbage! Women don't struggle? Women don't make sacrifices form
the family? Do they stretch their legs waiting for the man to provide? Show me a household where a woman is not working and co-providing for the family while taking care of the home.

If you want to become a deadbeat, by all means do so. Don't go dragging others with you.

What the op stated up there is just an illustration that points to the truth.

Go and do your research, on the mortality rates of Nigerians, males is the highest, expecially father's.

Women are just helpers in the home and not breadwinners.

Maybe your mom was the breadwinner in your home

Goodluck na carbon copy

TrainPark:
they probably took good care of themselves.
All humans will die but don't speed up the process with unnecessary burdens and stress! That is the whole point of his message.

i understand u but it’s not only stress that kills.genetics and other factors can make one live older.if u think it’s about taking care of yoirself my papa for no live longer than Buhari na.buhari had a better care.senators for no Dey die while in office,governors for no Dey die while in office.these guys have everything they want or need.Let me educate u guys.like in the case of tony Elumelu.Their dad died when Tony was less than 10.so na their mama struggle train them.long life na luck

erad:
Do you know the age difference of between husbands and wives back then?

Must every nonsense be farmed for engagement?

Did their fathers died at the current ages of the mothers? We can start from there.

wowcatty:
Bukola Saraki’s Jamaican mom has integrated well.
Wait, father is fulani and mother is Jamaican, so where did they get all the Yoruba names, Olusola, Bukola, Gbemi and Tosin from?

Olusoka Saraki's mother is from Iseyin in Oyo state and his father was from Mali,but he studied Islamic studies (ille kewu) in illorin.His paternal ancestors were fulanis

favour32:
Don't compare.
The odds are against men.
Few men lived longer compared to thousands of women living longer.... don't go there?
Pressures of life kill men silently.

I disagree with u again.enjoyment also kills men too.go and check ur organs for example and check your wife’s own.urs may not be as healthy as ur wife’s own.as u Dey go eat pepe soup and cold beer Dey think say u Dey enjoy u Dey destroy ur health.i am not saying pressure is not real.but there’s a clause.after all irresponsible men that refuse to face pressure still die.Most of the billionaires when e mention their name der their fathers didn’t train them.i am from almost the same community with elumelu.we know the story.na their mama train dem