₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
What I find more concerning is that men who should sympathise with their fathers, are usually the most distant from him.

Amin!

LivingEarthMan:
There are many angles to look at this.

Some people rightly pointed out the issue of age difference. When the age gap between the couple is very wide (like a man being 10 years, 15 years, 20 years etc older) there is a possibility the younger couple (often the wife) will outlive the older. That is not necessarily a bad thing provided the man intentionally delayed marriage in order to develop himself and lay solid foundation for himself and enjoy his life small before getting married.

Someone also pointed out the issue lifestyle and she was right. Most men tend to live recklessly. Drinking alcohol more than they drink water, practically smoking their life away, no medical checkup etc. No one indulges in all these and live long.

The last thing I want to point out is the issue of men rushing into marriage when they never chop beleful. A wise man will not rush into marriage until he is sure he has more than enough to take care of himself and can comfortably take care of wife and children. But fools rush into marriage even while they are still struggling to survive as a bachelor. The rule is, if you bring children into this world you must be ready to cater for them even if you have to sacrifice your life to do so. Because nobody sent you

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

Gerrard59:
According to who? Define irresponsible and responsible in this context.

wowcatty:
Bukola Saraki’s Jamaican mom has integrated well.
Wait, father is fulani and mother is Jamaican, so where did they get all the Yoruba names, Olusola, Bukola, Gbemi and Tosin from?

pocohantas:
- Black tax, financial expectations from one's family and in-laws.
- Living above your means as a family.
- Non-working wife.

Sidechicks is the least of it as I do not consider MOST Nigerian married men attractive.

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

Gerrard59:
I'm curious, when you blame the likes of Andrew Tate, do you also blame the likes of dem Moe and Uloma who were rabid feminazis? Andrew Tate and Co didn't come to light just like that. Something made them popular.

Andrew isn't the cause, but an after effects.

RevenuesBoost:
I spoke about this last week with hubby.

Hubby asked, why do women in most cases live longer than men.
I answered, the woman exercises herself from morning till evening.

He asked how, I said, I'm an example.

If I am not working online, I'm cooking or sweeping or doing the dishes or laundry or cleaning the house or baby-sitting.
It's always from one work to the other.

A man doesn't do much exercises.
Most men that exercises, have young looks and live longer.

erad:
Do you know the age difference between husbands and wives back then?

Must every nonsense be farmed for engagement?

Edit: People need to realize most women at that time were full housewives. The husbands took most of the risks in the name of looking for source of livelihood.

Also, the men back then lived every day like it was their last. They had fun as much as they worked and sometimes to the extreme.

Lastly, most of some women frustrated their husbands to death. They are old now and look so fragile and innocent, but their dead husbands will beg to differ.

fitinwell:
Just say you are talking to me... I make the money, but my family spends the money...

I make so much money that... I still wore a torn boxers...

pocohantas:
- Black tax, financial expectations from one's family and in-laws.
- Living above your means as a family.
- Non-working wife.

Sidechicks is the least of it as I do not consider MOST Nigerian married men attractive.

Focusmind:
Bro, you have to be strategic and intentional with taking care of yourself as a man.

I used to deny myself some luxury things because I wanted to have some money left to cater for families and extended families, including some projects I was handling. Despite the fact that I was trying to be economical, I saw myself, especially my wife, spending thousands of naira on my children to buy good clothes for them. I sent monies to extended family members, yet, kept on denying myself of some good things. I had to put a stop to it, starting with my resignation from my place of work in 2016 to go solo and set up my own independent consultancy as the 9-5 job was taking a great toll on my health and well being.

My wife objected because she was the number one beneficiary of the generous emolument I was receiving as staff but I had to explain myself that I needed to rediscover myself and focus on myself, seeing what many men that had worked hard for their families faced. In my house, i have a personal fridge in my room, where I stock it with all kinds of fruits and vegetables. I go out on my own to enjoy myself, buy the best clothes I could offer, wear the sneakers that I have always cherished and above all, have all the time myself doing what I like as I don't report to any boss.

I have said it before, even though my annual consultancy fee has not matched my last emolument as a salaried person, I am still far happier now than I was as staff. I have to manage my costs and live within the means of what my consultancy is bringing. Thank God, I was able to invest wisely while still a salaried worker, it helped to sustain my current status. My health and overall well-being are far better and I live a far better quality of life.

Suicideboy:
Gambling

Smoking

Gerrard59:
Thank you very much sir for this detailed explanation.

I appreciate it.

A lot to learn and unlearn from experienced folks.

Gerrard59:
Okay. Thank you for your comment.

At the bold, chai! Nigerian men haff suffered! Maybe na why those girls for time said I'm wugly!

udemzyudex:
Lol.. how many men dey senior their wives with almost 20 years? You mean say all the women in this picture their husband senior them with almost 20 years?
You forget say men marry early back then.

Softmirror:
✓ What are you trying to say? That we shouldn't care for our parents in their old age?!
MODIFIED:
He didn't mention men any where in the message he was trying to pass. If he did please show me. Hence, it wasn't gender specific. Which of course is not a good communication.
So, in essence a man will outlive his wife simply because he runs away from his responsibility of taking care of his family? How does a responsible man care for his family while neglecting himself?

crystalmoon:
oga Gerrard. rd59 you might not know but you are influencing me in a positive manner ..
I know you don't intend such as you only want to share your opinions
But thank you ..

favour32:
Don't compare.
The odds are against men.
Few men lived longer compared to thousands of women living longer.... don't go there?
Pressures of life kill men silently.

JayEdm:
Funny thin is that most of these people y'all are claiming died cos of hustling for their families and not taking care of themselves,it was even the women that were the breadwinners. Alot of you guys commenting too,na una wife dey bear the household burden but has to hide it to make y'all look good. But you are all over here advising other men to rest and treat themselves. Lol....

And also, you guys should learn to stick to your wives ..in the event of "enjoying",you spread your seeds thinking there are no consequences,y'all acquire many side chicks and take over their responsibilities..they bill you dry and you even do extra jobs to meet up. You take sexual enhancers to please them. Then when you drop dead,it's because your wife and children stressed you out?? You lots are delusional.

Saybal:
This food for thought

Instead of thinking deeply about the whole thing ,and determined to change the narration the females on nairaland continue to argue ,as if their is prize to win.

If you claim you love your husband what effort s are you putting in place to help him to reduce all this burden that brings untimely death.

Men should try and marry right ,there are still good women that build with the husband , they are not easy to find ,but we have them.

sircrabo:
Upto four mothers day celebrations in a year, yet fathers are seldom remembered. Please take care of yourself as a man and be selfish attimes.

VinnyBaba:
From what u Have posted, Dude married TOO EARLY and Marriage Responsibility killed him.

When you tell Pple that it is Wrong to marry in your 20's when you re still struggling Financially,
They will be Arguing.

nairalanda1:
There is two kinds of Fulani...town Fulani and cattle Fulani

Town Fulani are the guys that are.fulani but don't go roaming around with cows..they are the fulanis you meet in education, the workplace , the army and so forth. Some of them are so integrated where they live that they even speak the local languages and assimilate the culture. Saraki is a Fulani by tribe, but a yourbaman by culture. Late buhari was Fulani by tribe and Hausa by culture.And some even convert to Christianity self.

Cattle fulanis are the ones who roam around with cows and do a bit of farming and hunting on the side. They may come to town on market days to sell things like fura for example. Mostly Muslim, but some of them are traditionalists ie worship the gods. There was even one subgroup that even refused to become Muslim or christian at all.( Those ones don't live in Nigeria)

Gerrard59:
Maybe because Bukola's mom is from Oyo state. Where did you get the information that his mom is Jamaican?

Also, maybe because Bukola's grandfather studied Islamic studies in illorin.

Divoc19:
Mums are always younger.
Have you checked it from this angle yet?

Some fathers take 15 years