₦airaland Forum

Dear men,

If you want to marry any type of woman, think about your children and how they’re likely going to turn out as it would depend on the kind of mother you gave them.

Children grow up with their mothers as their role models. Why? Because their mother is the only adult around them that they look up to. You, you’re always at work or outings with your friends and rarely present with them like their mother.

Type 1: if your wife doesn’t like to go out, work and earn or doesn’t take her job/skill seriously, there’s every tendency that your children will be lazy, lacking zeal to do anything, easily get tired of working, lacking creativity. They will follow suit even at their older age. They will be dependent on what others give them, just the way your wife was/is dependent on you.

Type 2: if your wife is ambitious, achieving, despite creating time to care for the children, trust me, it’s not rocket science, your children will follow. They will find motivation in your wife, their mother.

Therefore I urge you, brother. Don’t settle for a woman doing nothing for herself or not earning anything. Don’t settle for the one that will be worshipping you because you are feeding her. Don’t settle for the one that only has her v@gina and praises (“isimili jiofor” - in Judy Austin’s voice) to offer you, else na your children I pity.

Talking from experience. Peace ✌🏾

TooResilient:
✓ Therefore I urge you, bother. Don’t settle for a woman doing nothing for herself or not earning anything. Don’t settle for the one that will be worshipping you because you are feeding her. Don’t settle for the one that only has her v@gina and praises (“isimili jiofor” - in Judy Austin’s voice) to offer you, else na your children I pity.
Talking from experience. Peace ✌🏾

But Nigerian men in general can't stand women who don't worship them. Their first complaints are usually that they are not respected and adored enough; And we all know that only the women who bring v@gina and praises alone to the table are best able to tolerate them and their egos best?. So, do you realize you are also informing them that the respect and worship of their egos, something most of them have been trained to expect in marriage from their partners, is of no real value.

You're very correct. A lazy woman will always begot a lazy child.

Kobojunkie:
But Nigerian men in general can't stand women who don't worship them. Their first complaints are usually that they are not respected and adored enough; And we all know that only the women who bring v@gina and praises alone to the table are best able to tolerate them and their egos best?. So, do you realize you are also informing them that the respect and worship of their egos most of them have been trained to expect in marriage from their partners is of no real value.

You can have your source of income and still be submissive and respect your husband now.

Tohsynetita1:
➜You can have your source of income and still be submissive and respect your husband now.

Why is there for a woman to gain by that suggestion of yours? Particularly since the traditional setup has always been that the man earns submission from his wife by carrying all of the financial weight of the family alone?

Kobojunkie:
Why is there for a woman to gain by that suggestion of yours? Particularly since the traditional setup has always been that the man earns submission from his wife by carrying all of the financial weight of the family alone?

I don’t understand you boss

TooResilient:
Dear men,

If you want to marry any type of woman, think about your children and how they’re likely going to turn out as it would depend on the kind of mother you gave them.

Children grow up with their mothers as their role models. Why? Because their mother is the only adult around them that they look up to. You, you’re always at work or outings with your friends and rarely present with them like their mother.

Type 1: if your wife doesn’t like to go out, work and earn or doesn’t take her job/skill seriously, there’s every tendency that your children will be lazy, lacking zeal to do anything, easily get tired of working, lacking creativity. They will follow suit even at their older age. They will be dependent on what others give them, just the way your wife was/is dependent on you.

Type 2: if your wife is ambitious, achieving, despite creating time to care for the children, trust me, it’s not rocket science, your children will follow. They will find motivation in your wife, their mother.

Therefore I urge you, bother. Don’t settle for a woman doing nothing for herself or not earning anything. Don’t settle for the one that will be worshipping you because you are feeding her. Don’t settle for the one that only has her v@gina and praises (“isimili jiofor” - in Judy Austin’s voice) to offer you, else na your children I pity.

Talking from experience. Peace ✌🏾

Experience as HE or SHE?

Which type of wisdom wants to come out from guy that doesn't know her gender?

I think you need to check purge urself out first.

Tohsynetita1:
➜I don’t understand you boss

I will do my best to break it down for you.

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The average unmarried man out there finds himself meeting the following needs for himself. (He also has the option of paying others to handle many of these on his behalf.)
➜ Housekeeping or home care
➜ Cooking
➜ Maintenance needs
➜ Managing his emotions and frustrations
➜ Getting his sexual needs satisfied
➜ Handling day-to-day chores outside of his primary career duties...

If the unmarried man should choose to sign a traditional marriage contract with a woman whom he then refers to as his wife, the traditional contract offers him the benefit of having a wife submit to him and respect him; in exchange, the woman satisfies the duties that were formerly the man's to take care of.
➜ Baby mama
➜ Nanny
➜ Housekeeper & Governess
➜ Cook/Chef
➜ Emotion dumpster/Counselor
➜Sex partner
➜Personal Assistant.

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Now, back to the issue that started all of this. If the woman were to, however, earn her own money and contribute to the financial needs of the family, of what benefit would it be for her to continue slaving away in submission and also as an emotional dumpster/counselor to the man in the marriage?

Kobojunkie:
But Nigerian men in general can't stand women who don't worship them. Their first complaints are usually that they are not respected and adored enough; And we all know that only the women who bring v@gina and praises alone to the table are best able to tolerate them and their egos best?. So, do you realize you are also informing them that the respect and worship of their egos, something most of them have been trained to expect in marriage from their partners, is of no real value.

Tooooo. Thanks for your contribution, but they should learn to understand that somethings are more important in marriage than bloated ego.

Fiscus105:
Experience as HE or SHE?

Which type of wisdom wants to come out from guy that doesn't know her gender?

I think you need to check purge urself out first.

Eh bien! As long as you pick one or two lessons in the message, my gender doesn’t matter. My experience is my experience. ✌🏾

Tohsynetita1:
You can have your source of income and still be submissive and respect your husband now.

What is your definition of submissiveness and respectfulness of a woman in marriage? I hope it’s not accepting all the man’s good and bad ways of life? Or doing everything in the house alone while she doesn’t do anything for herself to earn living?

TooResilient:
➜Tooooo. Thanks for your contribution, but they should learn to understand that somethings are more important in marriage than bloated ego.

Why should the man want to do that? If they were raised to value their bloated egos above all else in marriage, and do not mind getting themselves another woman/side-chick after marriage to ensure their ego gets all the carressing it desires, why should they do what you want them to? Think about it!

Woman this
Woman that

Men nko? You think your attitude has a man won't influence your child too?

As a man, it's always ideal to not marry. You can let the women breed for you if you want kids. And don't have more than 2 kids.

labake1:
Woman this
Woman that

Men nko? You think your attitude has a man won't influence your child too?

Women spend tike most with kids. More reason men should be careful when choosing a partner. Yes, men's attitude or character can influence the kids also but a woman must have it all before a man choose her to breed for him.