₦airaland Forum

ernieboy:
don't people who face tough times in Nigeria still communicate with her friends and loved ones?

Asuun:
Possible Reason

While he squatted same friend, he would have also mistreated him badly and he had to endure the mistreatment. Some friends are terrible. When u start cohabiting with them, that's when you will know their true colors. I am speaking from experience. I was once squatted by a friend for two months and I saw Shege Banza in his house. He would text me to delay my coming home from work because he is Knacking a woman at home. Sometimes he will even preinform me to look for somewhere else to pass the night since his woman would be coming to sleep over for two or three days.
Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water. And I'm even five years older than him o. The day I finally got my own place, I had a relief. But I remain grateful to him.
It's well

Asuun:
“Not even enemies move like that” — Man recounts how a friend he sheltered for 9 months ghosted him after relocating abroad without a word 🥲✈️

Maliq said he never expected betrayal from someone he fed and housed during tough times. Three years later, he’s still processing the silence.



https://x.com/MasterMaliq/status/1951754152532468046?t=hWo9loDCp0Mt6AqRjcPC2A&s=19[/quote]no vex bro cuz u dey among him helpers. Ur rewards dey heaven dey pile up.

Nefort:
➜I read the whole post again and saw he was thanked. My mistake.
➜I never said the guy I quoted should become a slave. The guy didn't mention he was ordered around. He only said he mopped which doesn't automatically mean he was enslaved.

Kobojunkie:
He said, "Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water." This leads me to believe that his friend may have left him to do these things alone, and he may have considered it payment for his friend's kindness to him.

Natbrowny:
U knw whether ur friend don kpai

Do u know if things hasn't gelled yet

To be successful no by American visa atyms

Wat if he's living in the slum with no phone

U helped him doesn't mean he'll help u bak.
Its life.

yemmit90:
Relax bro, there is reason for every action and inaction, you can never tell if he has seen some bad traits in him or a jealous type or someone with loose mouth. You can be good to someone and still be hurting them emotionally. I have seen where a guy accommodate his friend and start sleeping with his girlfriend. I have also seen someone who accommodate a friend and still bad mouthed him to their neighbour that want to get job for him. His friend knows better than us, this might go beyond being ungrateful, because ungrateful people don't usually ghost you, they could be your friend and still not appreciate or reciprocate your kind gesture.

Besides, things are not always what we think they are, he might have lost his phone or his number, he might be in prison, he might have even been deported or left for another country.

Nefort:
➜You are only assuming and your assumption may be wrong. Since the guy didn't specifically say he was forced and abused to make him clean the house, it is not yet a case of slavery. He could have done it voluntarily just to please his helper.

epainos:
Many people have nasty behaviors and you can predict such potentials. Here is how they support themselves. Lol.

What is so hard to communicate your friends when you move abroad? Even after 3 years? Whatsapp, Telegram, Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,
X, etc. 3 solid years. Is it too hard? Is the guy asking for anything yet? Lol.

Asuun:
Possible Reason

While he squatted same friend, he would have also mistreated him badly and he had to endure the mistreatment. Some friends are terrible. When u start cohabiting with them, that's when you will know their true colors. I am speaking from experience. I was once squatted by a friend for two months and I saw Shege Banza in his house. He would text me to delay my coming home from work because he is Knacking a woman at home. Sometimes he will even preinform me to look for somewhere else to pass the night since his woman would be coming to sleep over for two or three days.
Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water. And I'm even five years older than him o. The day I finally got my own place, I had a relief. But I remain grateful to him.
It's well

Asuun:
Possible Reason

While he squatted same friend, he would have also mistreated him badly and he had to endure the mistreatment. Some friends are terrible. When u start cohabiting with them, that's when you will know their true colors. I am speaking from experience.

I was once squatted by a friend for two months and I saw Shege Banza in his house. He would text me to delay my coming home from work because he is Knacking a woman at home. Sometimes he will even preinform me to look for somewhere else to pass the night since his woman would be coming to sleep over for two or three days.
Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water. And I'm even five years older than him o. The day I finally got my own place, I had a relief. But I remain grateful to him.
It's well

Skyfornia:
Even at that, you should be grateful

SocialJustice:
Bro live your life abeg. Some people are the reincarnation of ungratefulness. You call him your friend but he treats you like an enemy, even getting a visa and not letting you know. That was the biggest clue but you missed it.

Skyfornia:
Even at that, you should be grateful

ultraviolet27:
Did he say he wasn't grateful?like I have never housed people for months in my house before did I treat them as my slave?so because you house someone means you should relegate all your house chores to the person and treat him/her like a thrash?

nedekid:
But he housed you when no one else would including your family and other friends. He inconvenienced himself for you any which way you see it. I guess he would have been better of rejecting your request for assistance when you needed it the most.
Alot of us have learnt the hard way to reject such assistance. Many years ago my egbon had this friend who recently got married and was evicted, his wife and infant child had no where to go. He met my bro, saying he was his last hope, all had failed him, no where to raise money. My bro asked how much it cost to rent another place, he gave the guy the money in full, saving him from shame.
Many years later that guy became financially sound and told other mutual friends he had a grievance with my bro. Guess what it was, he said when he had serious accommodation problem my bro gave him the money with left hand! This guy na Yoruba, we no be, so my bro no even get sensitivity of left or right hand. Him innocently give persin money, him mate for that matter, the persin turn am to beef.
Omo, I know two brothers, Yoruba and both billionaires, we their friends know their policy, they will tell you clearly we do not assist in any way, either financially or other wise. They can come to your house and dash your wife, kids or mother 1,2,3k dollars, they can send money when eg bereaved etc, but 1 naira they will never lend you. It is their policy they said the learnt the hard way.
Oga never help anybody, if you have money accommodate your family, spend your money on your self, fly your kids to London, France, UK, Turkey for good time, don't waste your money on people that will turn around to beef you years later.

jice:
Its possible you are all wrong. Human beings are sometimes terrible. I have had that experience.

maasoap:
The fact that you didn't leave because of that means it was still the best choice at the time for you. That means despite their behaviour or attitude towards you, you were still benefiting from their benevolent. You endured and stayed put until you were able to stand on your feet, then they became someone you don't want to communicate with again! That means you used them and that's not a good trait. You didn't move out because of their behaviour until you had better alternative.
Yoruba people would say, plantain tree nursed cocoa tree to life and became bad and unwanted tree after. That's hallmark of being ungratefulness

maasoap:
➜The fact that you didn't leave because of that means it was still the best choice at the time for you. That means despite their behaviour or attitude towards you, you were still benefiting from their benevolent. You endured and stayed put until you were able to stand on your feet, then they became someone you don't want to communicate with again! That means you used them and that's not a good trait. You didn't move out because of their behaviour until you had better alternative.
➜ Yoruba people would say, plantain tree nursed cocoa tree to life and became bad and unwanted tree after. That's hallmark of being ungratefulness

Bar1941:
So you guys think it’s every cloths one spreads in the sun? Nope, it’s not.

For some people, their nature doesn’t like making their plans known to be others. Like my humble self and almost all my siblings, we always wait till things are fully done before announcing. It’s just human nature and once you know what works for you, stick to it.

The fact he accommodated him doesn’t mean he must tell him 3months before travelling that he was travelling.

Asuun:
Possible Reason

While he squatted same friend, he would have also mistreated him badly and he had to endure the mistreatment. Some friends are terrible. When u start cohabiting with them, that's when you will know their true colors. I am speaking from experience. I was once squatted by a friend for two months and I saw Shege Banza in his house. He would text me to delay my coming home from work because he is Knacking a woman at home. Sometimes he will even preinform me to look for somewhere else to pass the night since his woman would be coming to sleep over for two or three days.
Na me go sweep, mop and fetch water. And I'm even five years older than him o. The day I finally got my own place, I had a relief. But I remain grateful to him.
It's well

MufasaLion:
He should have left his house within the 9 months if the host was supposedly bad to his I'm different ways as you've suggested. He didn't leave but instead stayed to eat, sleep, bathe and do all sort for 9 months. Nigerians just hate accountability and irresponsibility.

You didn't trust him enough with your travel plans even if it was to tell him after you got your visa, which was the appropriate thing to do but instead you stayed back. You all underrate what it means to provide accommodation for people especially non-relatives.

Whether he's been deported or in jail shouldn't be a discussion because we all know that the probability of that happening is very low!

Kobojunkie:
Come on... If anything, it is completely one-sided.

Skyfornia:
Even at that, you should be grateful

SKINDOGGY:
➜ As per na me dy do 90% of the cleaning and cooking in my own house and also 95% of the feedings so should I call my friends (two friend) wicked lol, this life no balance at all. When u gv people free hands dy abuse it but wen u toughened up they call u wicked friend, so I no blame ur friend.

SKINDOGGY:
➜I no blame anyone wey dy tough hands for people wey dy dia house at all, cus me wey give my two friends free hands Dem dy abuse am, Dem dy waste food wey na me dy bring 95% of the money and still cook it untop, Dem no dy clean house unless Dem dy bring woman, story plenty although me don dy change am for them now I never cook for like 2weeks now so tomorrow dy will call me wicked online idgaf

toprealman:
➜I pray you don’t incorporate ingrates, self centered, sneaky folks into your circle.

Asuun:
You're more of an ingrate than me

Nobody owes you anything in life is a phrase most of you mean and insensitive people use to justify your selfishness.
I guess nobody has ever helped you in life.
Superman, I hail theee