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Axel1:
Anything when one happen make he happen, if she one go make she go, one thing I will never ever do In my life and day to day existence Is to beg a woman to stay, when women full everywhere?

You don't appear to respect your wife.

You appear to be maltreating her if all You wrote is true and it is wrong.
All shades of wrong
It is improper

Why did You not use family planning if You don't want her to het pregnant

Yes You dont like her

But dont treat her this way

It's very wrong

You are the problem here. You know you like sex,so why go against family planning? That woman seem understanding,na you be the problem. I hope you don't loose her,and fall into the arms of a troublesome woman later.

Myrepublic:
You are the problem here. You know you like sex,so why go against family planning? That woman seem understanding,na you be the problem. I hope you don't loose her,and fall into the arms of a troublesome woman later.

There's a saying that If he never happen to you advice go full the mouth, I'm not In anyway the problem sir, the only mistake I made which I'd gladly accept without being bias, Is the fact that I didn't option In for family planning. Otherwise, na who wear shoe know where he for the pinch am.

Laird:
You don't appear to respect your wife.

You appear to be maltreating her if all You wrote is true and it is wrong.
All shades of wrong
It is improper

Why did You not ise family planning if You don't want her to het pregnant

Yes You dont like her

But dont treat her this way

It's very wrong

I stopped reading after "If all you wrote is true" so I would just wake up one morning or should I rather say evening, because I created this thread in the evening, I would just wake up and start typing non existence things and things that didn't happen, for what exactly, If I may ask

What dah Bleep did I just read?

11 abortions? So you can't get vasectomy or do family planning...you like having sex with random women daily.

Omo...

Axel1:
There's a saying that If he never happen to you advice go full the mouth, I'm not In anyway the problem sir, the only mistake I made which I'd gladly accept without being bias, Is the fact that I didn't option In for family planning. Otherwise, na who wear shoe know where he for the pinch am.

Oga you are judging by what you wrote up there, except that's not what actually happened. Four months after child birth,you still give her belle. And you first allowed her do three abortions. Your wife o.. Oga nau... plz go home and settle with your wife,and take out emotions from what you do.

Act as a man,and do the right thing at the right time. Go and do family planning,and if it's not good for her health,then you find safer ways to avoid pregnancy even while una mueghesuegbe. Pls go home because of your child..

If what I read is true, then “You” mr. Man are a horrible person! You need Counselling.

Sick man.

Live your life as you deem fit. I don comot hand for this matter.

Like this, your life don spoil, na the woman wey still dey worry herself i dey pity, she just dey waste her love & emotions ... But shame nor catch you as u dey type all dis

I thought I was heartless oh, but even me wouldn't keep ignoring a lady wey I put for house for a day complete to be begging me like a god.....




Baba if the marriage don taya you, quit now. What kind of wicked heart be this? Seriously you seem underaged cause na wetin person dey do before e turn 21 nai you still dey do so ...

Myrepublic:
Oga you are judging by what you wrote up there, except that's not what actually happened. Four months after child birth,you still give her belle. And you first allowed her do three abortions. Your wife o.. Oga nau... plz go home and settle with your wife,and take out emotions from what you do.

Act as a man,and do the right thing at the right time. Go and do family planning,and if it's not good for her health,then you find safer ways to avoid pregnancy even while una mueghesuegbe. Pls go home because of your child..

No problem, i will think about what you've said and make a decision, thank you for dropping an awesome comment without Insults, like almost everyone that had commented had done here, thank you.

StPete:
If I tell you say I don pass through this your exact shoe, will you believe. But las las, these type of women makes good mothers and good wives. She will always respect you and will do your bidding as opposed to a woman who knows you love her and will disrespect or always threaten you with leaving or dating outside marriage.

In a nutshell, make sure a woman’s love is higher than yours in marriage and you will go far in that marriage

Boss I understand what you went through but I think It's not that similar to mine, this girl cleary knows how desperately I love chubby women how I'm always viewing pictures of them on Instagram and the rest, how I fsntazises about chubby women all the time. She's not in anywhere chubby not even 30% of how chubby I need my woman to be. But yet she has been on a diet for a while now, contemplating on slimming down, even when she's not even up to 20 or 30% in a ratio of 100, close to what I really and extremely sexually attracted to.

paba:
Like this, your life don spoil, na the woman wey still dey worry herself i dey pity, she just dey waste her love & emotions ... But shame nor catch you as u dey type all dis

I am not an hypocrite like you, I say things exactly the way they're without ommiting anything or painting anyone bad, If I had wanted to claim a saint here I would have clearly done that without blinking an eye and no one would know, and most especially no one would be blaming and throwing insults at me right now, but I'm not an hypocrite, I'm straight forward and I say things exactly the way they're without pretending to be a saint.

Therock5555:
I thought I was heartless oh, but even me wouldn't keep ignoring a lady wey I put for house for a day complete to be begging me like a god.....




Baba if the marriage don taya you, quit now. What kind of wicked heart be this? Seriously you seem underaged cause na wetin person dey do before e turn 21 nai you still dey do so ...

And you actually do think that I haven't tried to quit, on different occasions?

Damn what the hell Op? Who are you trying to leave her for after all those abortions? Now you are saying you like chubby women and she is not even up to 20% of what you like yet you had to make her undergo over 8 abortions.

GET A HEART!

Why was I banned by bot for saying the OP is an horrible person?

Wait, how old are you both?
Like how can you both remove 11 babies!!! like seriously?
Even the girl in question needs her brains checked.

If she goes on to lock you inside bottle now, they'd say she's wicked.

How would you feel if your sister tells you she had 8 abortion for her hubby? Are you human at all or you decided to be a wicked, heartless and selfish human being. Haba you need to go and ask for forgiveness from God and your wife. You not even scared for her life or what if she can't give birth again.

What happened to condom oga.

Axel1:
And you actually do think that I haven't tried to quit, on different occasions?

Omor I drop you advice, NL ban me...

Sha hit me on Whatsapp if you're very sure you wanna quit that marriage

11 abortions

Tufiakwa on una

Stopped reading a quarter way

ericiland:
Your woman deserves a better person in her life. You are not worthy of a drop of her tears neither her heartache

True and also I think she has some self esteem issue, probably anxious attachments or lack of love. This man doesn't even treat her in the simplest positive ways, I have met evil men but he trumps them all. She probably doesn't think she can survive without him.

and to you OP - Woman wey still they type plenty like this love you oo but when she changes hmmmn you go learn.

Axel1:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I'm so sorry to bore you all with such long episode, I tried to make It brief, but I thought It's appropriate to spill all that has been happening between I and my wife.

About a year ago my wife got pregnant, which led to us eventually getting married, after eventually delivering the baby through CS, although she's not supposed to have birthed with CS but It ended that way because she wanted to birth our son on my birthday, like she wanted us both to have the same birthday which later became a reality because she's almost due for delivery, just a week remaining, so on the morning of my birthday she went to the hospital and got herself Induced which later ended up In her birthing through CS.

Our son Is a year and 5 day's old already, and since then we've done 3 abortions, although she has been pestering for family planning but I have always refused due to my daily reckless sexcapade, on a regular and daily basis. I also really needed the family planning to be done but at same time I've been avoiding It and coming up with excuses whenever she reminded me about It, due to the fact that she told me that all tests would be carried out before they'd proceed with the family planning, but I'm just so scared of what the results of some of the tests might seem, most especially HIV, hepatitis and the rest of deadly STDS out there.

Back to the topic, I already made mentioned that we've aborted 3 pregnancy ever since a year ago after she gave birth, and the last being two days ago.

The first came in barely 4 months after she gave birth, It was too early so we terminated it, and the second came 3 months later, we wanted to keep it but our son got seriously sick and we assumed it was due to the pregnancy so we terminated it, and the last that we terminated two days ago have been what's currently causing issues between us.

When we newly found out she was pregnant recently, I insisted she terminate it but she disagree, few days later she's the one insisting that we terminate it and seeing our son I disagreed mainly due to the fact that what if we had terminated it like other 8 we've terminated back then we were still dating and before we got married, and the reminder three we terminated after we got married. But she was still insisting that we terminate it, with her always reminding me I told her to do what she likes, then she said she need my word to agree that I fully backed her removing it and stand by the decision, I agreed, but I was angry but didn't tell her anything or admitted I'm angry and my response didn't come directly from my heart, she actually thought it came from my mind but it didn't, ever since she removed the pregnancy, I had refused to talk to her, It's not mainly due to the pregnancy she removed but due to the flimsy excused she made when I asked her that if she's not scared for her life due to the numerous abortions, I asked her if to dey do abortions dey sweet her, I plainly told her that if tomorrow she got pregnant and start having miscarriages due to her womb not strong enough to carry pregnancies due to numerous abortions she has done in the past and most especially this in particular that she insisted we terminate, that I will leave with immediate effect without blinking an eye, or get other girls pregnant outside our marriage, that even now that we're still married that she decide to terminate a pregnancy due to excuses that I will get another girl pregnant and none of her family members would dare question or talk to me anyhow, that I will give them problem they've never seen In their entire existence before, as she choose to remove pregnancy inside marriage that after all I do not intend getting married to her but I did due to pressure from her, when we decide to leave the only pregnancy we haven't aborted, that she was the one pressuring me to remove shame from her eyes and marry her, which I did.

Nevertheless, here are the flimsy excuses she gave regarding not wanting to keep the pregnancies, with of course I won't be biased here, every single thing she said is 100% true.

She said that when she was pregnant with our first son that she went through hell crying every day and night due to my nonchalant attitude, that I'm not always at home, going out every blessed day around 9AM to drink and coming home around 12 or latest 1 on a daily basis carrying different girls and having raw sex with them without condom as she's very much aware how I hate sex with condom, that when we first met she recalled insisting on condom which I brought out not knowing that I have already bursted a huge hole at the tip of the condom and the sex later ending as raw sex, I don't know how she found out that I'm still doing same with every girls I have had sex with on a daily basis until date, but it's true, I won't deny that.

She made mentioned that she initially wanted to keep the pregnancy but she decide to terminate it due to the way I'm behaving she talked about the way I treated her last week Sunday and every other day, that she prays I've changed if she eventually got pregnant again, which I plainly told her to rot in hell that absolutely no way she and I are going to have another baby again, and if eventually I ever decide to sleep with her and she eventually got pregnant she will continue terminating every pregnancy as there's no single change forthcoming, as she already had petty excuse to terminate a pregnancy.

She made mentioned that if mood swings that normally accompany pregnancy eventually start, if I would be able to handle it. She made mentioned that when she was pregnant with our first son I was always quarreling her on a daily basis and some time beating her, which I won't deny but I didn't do such more than 3 times, in fact ever since we started dating and got married which is up to 4 years and counting, I have never laid my hands on her up to 6 times in total, God Almighty bear me withness, there was a day we had issues which got out both parents involved, she told them that I'm beating her, I couldn't believe that she could do such, nevertheless that's bygone.

She made mentioned that she's always begging me day and night to love and give her attention, which I won't deny, I really do not love her and I give her no atom of attention, but I reminded her about those working outside the country that normally goes to their wives once a year, stay a week or two and return back, that even if the wife is pregnant she won't cry for love and attention for a whole 9 months until she eventually gave birth because she clearly knows the husband is not around, I reminded her that what if she's one of those women, what would she do, that she should imagine herself in that shoe and stop crying for love and attention on a daily basis.

She made mentioned that whenever she ask me for money that I always complain and shout at her that I don't have, all the time. This is true but I always also give her the money even after shouting and complaining that I don't have.

She complained that she have nothing doing but I'm driving two cars that she has been begging me for years to open business for her but I would always tell her that she should have had something doing before entering into marriage, that she got married to me with the hope that I would rescue her, that other girls that have something doing before getting marriage do not have two heads that she should go and meet her father to open business for her that I'm not her father "although her father Is late" that sometimes even if she tells or call me that she's hungry that I would tell her that I'm not her father, that she's leveraging on the marriage to dump all her responsibilities on me that she's a full grown adult with two hands and two legs like me, so she should fend for herself.

And lastly, she made mentioned that she was willing to keep the baby but she don't want a situation whereby she would start thinking critically again. I'm very much aware that she does loves me so terribly, and would do anything for me absolutely anything that I can think of, I can vouch anywhere that if I develop kidney disease today, she's ready to sacrifice one of her kidney for me, but I don't know why I can't reciprocate her love care and everything else back, worst still this recent development really so hardened my heart towards her, It makes me have a certain hatred for her that I wasn't there before.

To round things up, it's been more than 24 hours and counting that I left house, I haven't spoke to her, returned her picked her numerous calls, or returned her WhatsApp and endless Facebook tests.

I'm surprised and amazed that she's have been claiming that she don't know what she did to me, that she has been asking me what she did but I'm not talking, I had wanted to respond that it's due to the pregnancy she aborted but I still don't want to talk to her yet or return home, I will return home and finally talk to her next tomorrow, maybe by then my anger might have calmed a bit. Nevertheless, I'm currently In an hotel having a constant thought of everything that had transpired.

Below are screenshot of her chats asking me what she did, which of course I'm so surprised that she's asking such even when the answer to her question Is crystal clear and glaring.

Firstly, you have a problem. You may be a father, but you are acting very careless as if you were a single guy that don't have a family to take care of.

Do you know what it means for a lady to give birth through CS? On top of that you no de around to support her after she gave birth? Do you know that it can lead to trauma just thinking about giving birth again?

To your wife, let her use Uda, Uziza seed and Chelsea dry gin as her family planning for now. Grind and soak in a bottle and take it immediately after sex after it must have soaked for at least 3 days. She can use this temporarily prior to when she finalize on the ideal family plan to use.

Back to you. Grow up bro. You are a father now and have a wife and kid to take care of. She confided in you before you both agreed to terminate the pregnancy. Not clear why you are suddenly giving her attitude when you acted along. You know what to do to redeem the situation as the ball is in your court.

You are no longer single. Start acting like a family man.

Axel1:
I am not an hypocrite like you, I say things exactly the way they're without ommiting anything or painting anyone bad, If I had wanted to claim a saint here I would have clearly done that without blinking an eye and no one would know, and most especially no one would be blaming and throwing insults at me right now, but I'm not an hypocrite, I'm straight forward and I say things exactly the way they're without pretending to be a saint.

Ok, but you too do, u seff check am see