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uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

Seek medical and psychological help

abobote:
Have you tried with another girl since then to know if you ok?

One night I carried one side chic to a hotel and paid for short time,when I tried to sleep with her my dick went flat, she tried everything, no way. When I got home , and touched my wife itresponded, I felt better after making love to my wife

Did you feel better after making love to your wife because your dick rose or because you did not cheat eventually, even though you wanted to

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.
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Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

I will say you observe her for 2 to 3 months

ukren:
Let us analyze his challenge very well. The wife went her way in the name of business, going against the will of the husband. That alone can cause him emotional hatred which can lead to the problem of not having feelings for her anymore.
When she is not there, strong erection. The question is do you still love your wife?

You're a good teacher! My regards

When you tell women that their beauty and feminity is in their obedience, they want you to explain.

Sonnobax15:
lemme just assume you mistakenly typed this with sleepy eyes . Cuz what da hell is the meaning of this bullsh*t you just wrote ? . Someone whose wife insisted on moving to her hometown despite all his persuasion for her to stay with him,yet you still found your regular manipulative way to put the blame on the head of the innocent man .

Lol , Samantha125 is a strong feminist with a warped mindset. Don't bother over her repugnant antics.

Ballo1292:
I will say you observe her for 2 to 3 months

Observe for what na?

Bros, just be careful. It seems God wants to save you from danger.It might be that another man is trying to scatter your marriage and then take over.ASK HER QUESTIONS AND INSIST SHE MUST TELL YOU WHY SHE INSISTED ON TRAVELLING

Osashalom:
Sometimes you give good comments but other times like this you give a very disturbing comment. If someone's wife relocated for good 8months against his order do you know think nothing is fishy? That woman is trying to pin a baby on that man. Please stop being unnecessarily controversial.

Lol , I struggle to understand why you're still surprised as you already know that Samantha125 often give 'very disturbing comments'.

Are you taking BP medication? This could also be a cause of such

Vulcanheph:
Dear Op.... Sorry to say this but your wife has been away for 8 months, there's a possibility that some village man have been shining her congo, (body no be firewood and 8 months is a long time).
She might be pregnant outside and justs wants you to knack her so she can pin the pregnancy on you .
My advice is not to do anything, your d!ck not rising might actually be a good thing for you.

This might be true you know

DUTY:
I'm from ekiti and I know what just happened. It's kind of a cast men do on women's body that no man will have erection whenever they want to have sex with her except the man who did the casting. Your woman has been violated, move on but if you still love her, I can help remove the cast

Did you mean 'spell' ?

@OP, nobody has asked how you were coping with your own intimacy needs for the 8 months your wife was not around? If you've bn "regular" with other women, its possible your "taste" has changed abit from that of your wife's. Your manhood is suffering from previous "trauma" with your wife cos uv tasted or experienced new "pots" and styles.
I would recommend:
1. That you stay off other women for a while (to help build up your konjii).
2. Be more loving and caring towards your wife and intentionally stare at her body especially when she's scantily dressed in the house.
3. Evening outings and dates are good too cos it helps a man appreciate his woman in a new scenery and might trigger ur urge when u both get home.
4. Check your blood pressure.

Shalom

it happens bro

Are you playing away from home? If yes, I have no solution except repentance. Otherwise, I suggest you engage in walking exercises.

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

Olympus has finally fallen

There is nothing you can do.

Live with it.

Onegai:
There's a book I'll recommend and please take reading it VERY seriously:

Stormie Omartian "Power Of A Praying Husband".

Read it, Pray every single prayer at the end of each chapter. Open your Bible and start studying Scripture on Forgiveness and Love. The Bible is a book about Love. Ask God to show you your wife's heart the way He sees it. She's shut down emotionally from you.

Then you need to work on your anger and need to resort to violence. Love means submission and Apostle Paul tells us to submit to each other. So you need to find out who you are in Christ Jesus (because change is very hard and we don't want you resorting to violence ever again).

I'm glad you regret it, next step is repentance.

When you get home, phone should be on silent or vibrate, you sit with your woman and do whatever she's doing. Gist with her. If she says she wants to eat grilled fish, don't buy it and bring home, tell her to go make herself pretty because you want to take her out.

Treat her like a fresh new bride, because your old marriage NEEDS to die. It wasn't a good one.

When you feel the anger and impatience rising (violence is the last resort of a weak man), you walk away and turn to prayer. Then come back calmly. She needs to give you Respect, not Fear. A lot of men think they're the same, they're not: Respect is rooted in Love, Fear thrives in Hate. And Fear means she will be waiting for the right time to strike you back, one day. So make her love and respect you, slapping her around breeds her fear.

Tell yourself "she is mine, my church and I will love her like Christ loved the church". That means when she's getting on your last nerve, you tell yourself and her "I love you, I'm not going to let the devil use me to destroy my blessing. You're my blessing!". Keep saying it till you believe it.

It will take time and patience, which is good training for you to learn how not to resort to quick anger and violence.

The intimacy will come back. Better than before sef, you won't have time for us on Nairaland

Brother, you're going to make your wife fall in love with you again. Doable and possible, the love will even be sweeter. Commit it to God and come back with your testimony.

PS: today, go and buy her lunch or dinner (fried rice and turkey, with salad and dodo ), get a scrap of paper and write "Songs of Solomon 1:15", put it on the food. Drop it beside her, don't say anything.

Another day,when she's done bathing and is dressing up, creaming her body, make sure you're in the room always. But act like you're not looking. Then send her Songs Of Solomon 7:1-9 after she's done dressing. So she knows you were admiring her nekkidness to the point that you needed to go and read Bible

You'll be messing with her small small, working on yourself, showing her you're a better man now, who's completely in love with her.

It'll work.

You're great! Are you a marriage counselor? Even me who is not directly affected, enjoyed your write up.Thanks so much.Where do we run from each other.Onlyheavenky citizens can get the message.

Samantha125:
Since you can no longer perform your conjugal duties as a man, then free that woman to enjoy other men.

HIV capital of the world has spoken, guys listen to her you might learn one or two things SA 7.5million people living with HIV is not a mistake.

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

De-congest your mind from every negative thoughts you have about her.
You filled your mind with many negative thought concerning her.
You may have bn thinking.....
Who may have bn banging this woman since that time?
What has she been doing?
Are they using protection to bang her or she's doing it raw?

Once you clear all these cobwebs from your head, your body will resurrect.

DUTY:
I'm from ekiti and I know what just happened. It's kind of a cast men do on women's body that no man will have erection whenever they want to have sex with her except the man who did the casting. Your woman has been violated, move on but if you still love her, I csn help remove the cast

@uwuana, pay attention to this comment. Not some idiats on the front page who are just wasting that space just to make comments.

@DUTY, it is true. Even an aphrodisiac may not work sef. If the concubine does it or other men, it wil be a struggle even with an aphrodisiac.

Another thing is that some men, their spirit knows and instructs their body not to move when someone has violated their women. Not all men have that gift. Some go just dive dey go like mumu and thereby raise bastards in their own homes.

For her to even disobey her husband sef....na wa...@uwuana, what is the age range between both of you? Also, tread carefully.

You're not broken. You're not weak. You’re just hurt, and you’ve been carrying that pain for 8 months without real healing. Now, your body is speaking what your mouth may not have said.

This isn’t the end of your marriage or manhood — but it is a wake-up call that healing is needed, not performance.

If you want, I can help you craft a message or talk you can have with your wife to explain how you feel without conflict. Just say the word.

You're not alone, brother. You've got options — and strength.

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

ediko5:
Deputy secretary of South African single mothers association has spoken

Emere mu gini yhoo!!!😭😭😭

Mariangeles:
Samantha ti so ede. Hehehe 😀

Onegai:
There's a book I'll recommend and please take reading it VERY seriously:

Stormie Omartian "Power Of A Praying Husband".

Praaaaaaaayyyyy! We're still doing this, praying?

guy na god de protect you so

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

These things happen.
From discovery and studies, I can say that op you were trying to keep your mind away from her because you felt hurt about her decision to stay away.
Now the brain has noted it, and interpreted it to mean you don't wanna be with her and till now the new normal in your body is that you don't want to be with her.
If you never cheated during the period then your body wouldn't rise even for another woman. But if you did then you can be getting erection for others but not for her.
Another reason this is happening is that the anxiety level her return brought was too high and usually organ shut down on this too.
Solution
You need to figure out a way to rediscover her, no rushing work on your mind don't do anything with her.
Another thing is that the woman or lady must be willing to work this out for you in patience trying out stuff and not giving up. From kissing your nipples to role playing. It's doable with love.
Get drugs and other remmdies and fantasize about her until your body begins to come back to her and finally it will come back normal

uwuana:
My wife has been away for a period of 8 months, all in the name of she wants to stay in her hometown and be doing business which I don't even buy the idea in the first place, but despite all my efforts to stop her everything proves abortive.

She came back two weeks ago, and since then I haven't developed any feelings for her, we're just living like roommates, she has done everything to turn me on yet still my body no gree move, I tried to have sex this morning with her and the whole thing just turns out to be embarrassment,as in my manhood just get cold and freezen.

Please note before, before I always get early morning erection strong and hard, but when it comes to my wife, my body system will just collapse instantly.

You didn't state if you have been with other woman or women during that period because, that might be the reason you're not having sexual feelings for her anymore.

Samantha125:
🤣🤣🤣🤣

African tradition is real o.
The man paid bride price on the woman's head so for him to have weak erection towards the wife means the wife have slept with another man and that's the sign the ancestors is giving to the man

dbestuncle:
These things happen.
From discovery and studies, I can say that op you were trying to keep your mind away from her because you felt hurt about her decision to stay away.
Now the brain has noted it, and interpreted it to mean you don't wanna be with her and till now the new normal in your body is that you don't want to be with her.
If you never cheated during the period then your body wouldn't rise even for another woman. But if you did cheat, then you can be getting erection for others but not for her.
Another reason this is happening is that the anxiety level her return brought was too high and usually organ shut down on this too.
Solution
You need to figure out a way to rediscover her, no rushing work on your mind don't do anything with her.
Get drugs and other remmdies and fantasize about her until your body begins to come back to her and finally it will come back normal

Those bolded parts, similar to what I was trying to say. Op needs to figure it out

Hence I'm saying he should free her... And you're very right, the ancestors are giving the man a sign to free the woman to enjoy other men...

ediko5:
African tradition is real o.
The man paid bride price on the woman's head so for him to have weak erection towards the wife means the wife have slept with another man and that's the sign the ancestors is giving to the man