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cococandy:
They need each other.
This is actually what for better for worse means.
Not when the man is cheating or beating her then yall will remember they took an oath.

That oath is for times like this when they face challenges that they couldn’t have predicted or prevented

Oath indeed.....in many threads like this where the tables turn....y'all justify women cheating so she can have children for other men to cover what u people call "shame of the man" ....but now it's no longer the woman's shame that needs to be covered but the young man running around looking for millions to fund multiple surgeries..... Okay shaaaa!!

And u couldn't resist the urge to be biased as if women aren't violent or don't cheat in marriage..but hey!!!..lets follow your narrative that only men cheat and beat their spouse

You started trying 3 months ago? No licensed doctor or clinic will attend to you.

Primary infertility is diagnosed/confirmed after one year of regular and consistent sex without success. After one year without success, you will still need to prove to a gynaecologist that you have been having sex 3-4 days weekly.

Whoever told you to go for HSG etc. after only 3 months of trying has ruined your family. There are certain tests you should avoid especially when you haven't made serious efforts to conceive naturally. Too much knowledge can ruin you. There are many women roaming the streets with blocked tubes and fibroid, yet with babies. Know what they did differently? Many of them have never heard of HSG or submucosal bla bla...

Iykenuwa:
Oga, do you believe in the miracle working power of God?

That will determine whether your story remains a lamentation or turns to a testimony.

Enter any Winners' Chapel near you on Sunday, there is a special healing service going on, and sort your issue out with the God of all flesh.

In case you are commited in your local church already, no wahala, enter into agreement with your wife, and dedicate just three days fasting and prayer to the issue; you will celebrate by this time next year.

I await your testimony.

If you have any question, message me.

excellent idea

Please your wife issue will be resolved. maybe nature want you to make more money so that you can be able to take care of your kids. they will come plenty stop worrying.

sjx566:
Find a traditional birth attendant to help you...don't give up! Ask your wife to stop crying let her use that energy to find those traditional women to help her. It will be sorted out. Let her be discreet about it especially to her family & friends so that there won't be room for doubts...because you guys need a lot of that positive energy to thrive & win together

please don't follow this advice I beg you. As someone who has been there for 8 years, there is no gain there. Follow the advice of @downomike, your victory is certain there with prayers of course.

dawno2008:
That's the problem with your type of people,nature cures,most of the tablets you consume are from natural extracts,so you know more than the God that created you and all the plants yeah?
Stay there dey fool yourself, nothing is wrong with trying herbal,if well prepared and followed strictly

So bro,not meant for you,so sorry 🤗

Just rest Abeg
Will your herbs remove the mass and unblock the tubes ?

I experienced delay with same as your caseas our last biy was 9years old. I went herbal and God answered our prayers.. We just did the naming ceremony of our bouncing baby girl last week Wednesday. I'm thankful to God.
Contact me on 8168034467. I will explain to you in details. God bless you richly. .. Kay

Acidosis:
You started trying 3 months ago? No licensed doctor or clinic will attend to you.

Primary infertility is diagnosed/confirmed after one year of regular and consistent sex without success. After one year without success, you will still need to prove to a gynaecologist that you have been having sex 3-4 days weekly.

Wait o.

Is it the same sex that our mothers warn us not to have when we were young that you said married couples trying to conceive will now have to do 3-4 times weekly to prove to a random gynaecologist?

This life ehn.

Hmmm...

Blocked Fallopian Tube and Fibroids can easily go.

I know a medication that works for both.

If you are getting married solely to have kids, it will be better you bring it up during courtship so that your partner can know what s/ he is getting into.

Ketamine9000mg:
Follow Dawnomike's comment above.

There are actually worst cases of infertility than yours. With the right steps, this can be addressed. Imagine if it were to be severe case of PCOS or non obstructive azoospermia(no sperm cells), it would have been a different ball game.

Please and please, don't go into traditional medicine. You will waste your time,money and probably expose your wife to harm. They usual preach things like delivering fibroid without surgery or making it to shrink with herbs, na scam.

All will be well brother.

mine has hormonal dis order,7 years in the marriage,done 2 IVF,both ended up in miscarriages at 2 months...I am still alive,but it shifted me mentally and financially

That’s actually not true.

But yes men who cheat deserve to have their firstborns be fathered by the gateman 😎.

advanceDNA:
Oath indeed.....in many threads like this where the tables turn....y'all justify women cheating so she can have children for other men to cover what u people call "shame of the man" ....but now it's no longer the woman's shame that needs to be covered but the young man running around looking for millions to fund multiple surgeries..... Okay shaaaa!!

And u couldn't resist the urge to be biased as if women aren't violent or don't cheat in marriage..but hey!!!..let’s follow your narrative that only men cheat and beat their spouse

KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went toThis are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.

My brother don't let this issue weigh you and your poor wife down it's not her fault. If you hear other people's issues ehnn you will thank God for your own..My childhood friend had an infection as a result of ruptured appendix that he didn't treat on time and his scrotum started swelling up so he rushed to get treated in the hospital where he was bombarded with antibiotics and the swollen testicles shrunk,but one shrunk that it became like an orange seed o,the other one remained the normal size.

Fast forward to him getting married,kids didn't come after trying for years.He and his wife treated staphylococcus infection for years after their marriage. So now they finally went to the hospital and his semen no sperm cells in them,his wife no fibroid but she couldn't produce eggs o just like that..but when they were in the uni she got pregnant for him and they aborted it cos they weren't ready,now to born na wahala and they have to do serious medical stuff and treatment to force his wife to produce eggs since she still sees her period and he they have to surgically get his sperm through asperation or something like that.

He was crying telling me his story because we are very close..now he needs almost 10m for the whole process o..At least your case isn't as bad as his own..you are ok and your wife just needs surgery to remove the fibroid and some IVF treatment to get her eggs and fertilize with your sperm and that IVF you won't spend more than 3m if you too spend so its just to gather the money from both friends and famiky members. Cheerup this too shall pass

FameGlory:
Wait o.

Is it the same sex that our mothers warn us not to have when we were young that you said married couples trying to conceive will now have to do 3-4 times weekly to prove to a random gynaecologist?

This life ehn.

Hmmm...

Yes o. There is only one definition of primary infertility, and that is having regular and consistent sex for a year without success for women before 35 years old. For women above 35 years, it is 6 months.

Gynaecologists usually discourage couples from undergoing these so called fertility tests prematurely. The knowledge of the test results will make it more difficult for them.

3 months of sex simply means three cycles. In one year, out of the 365 days, there are only about 12 chances of getting pregnant. Anything below that is too low to confirm anything, whether the tubes are blocked or not.

Opp i'm very very sorry for your situation. It is well in Jesus name. Infertility is the worst thing that can happen to a woman, but trust me you will overcome it. I don't know if you're a Christian. If you are a believer, then consider it that the devil wants to use infertility as a weapon to scatter your marriage. Fight the devil through warfare. Raise an alter to the Lord and service it with prayer. The bible tells us that; there shall be no barren in the land. Love and cherish your wife, doctors report is not a verdict from the Lord, trust God and His word not what humans say. If you truly desire a child,ask the Lord and He will give you. It is well with your family in Jesus name.

KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.

cococandy:
That’s actually not true.

But yes men who cheat deserve to have their firstborns be fathered by the gateman 😎.

I wonder where on Nairaland women have collectively encouraged a TTC mum to cheat and have kids. The lies they spill ehn. 😩😩😩

Go and get Eveboom capsule, tell her to use it for good 4months. The eveboom is for hormonal balancing and also reduces growth of fibroid. It’s available in all pharm

I’m also facing the same challenges, my case is I have been married for three years now my wife took in, it enter Etopic the Dr recommend for a CS to remove the twins pregnancy which we did , Since the year 2022 till now my wife never conceive again , we started running some text , both HSG and many I can’t remember, her tube is okay only that the Dr told me one of her fallopian tube has been damaged because of the etopic , but he said she will conceive with the remaining tube and bear children as much as we want, after some months of waiting we carried another text it shows she has PCOS because she is hairy, my doctor said most hairy ladies is immune to PCOS , they have place her on diet since then till now nothing has been achieve . Honestly I’m weak and tired of all this issues , we have gone to traditional means all of them are busy collecting money from us.. I have been looking for a means to bring this to Nairaland but was ashamed to do that . My wife was 26yrs before we got married . Please you guys can help me too because it making me sad and frustrated, my marriage is three years old .

KobeMan:
We married A Year ago. We decided to wait for a year before having kids. We started trying 3 few months but no success. I told both of us needs to get tested. I did Sperm Analysis & the result is good, I'm very fertile.

She did pelvic scan, and in the scan, She has fibroid (Submocousal fibroid 5.5cm). The news broke me and I was very sad, I never imagined I'll be in this kind of situation. We went to the gynecologist and He told us to go for HSG to check her fallopian tube, The result showed that Both Tubes are blocked.

I've not been myself for the last couple of days. I had to pretend to be strong because She was down & has been crying as well. This are two serious fertility issues and Her chances of conception is very low. Even if The gynecologist tells us to do the IVF(Which I don't even have money for it cause it's vey expensive) They'll still have to remove the fibroid.

This are very expensive procedures that are not even guaranteed that it will work and She will conceive. I'm the only male child in my family, in my early 30's. Pressure will start coming from all directions and also considering my my age, I don't pray to experience delay with child birth. I just decided to pour own my mind here. I'm really down, I don't know what to do.

God has been handling problems that are far bigger than this naa.
I am a witness to it.
First of all, calm down. Be closer to your wife. Calm her down cos she is more devastated than you are.
So many things already running in her head.
Assure her that it is you guys problem and not just hers alone.
Show her love.
Do not think much about it.
If there are some medical treatments you can afford, go for it.
Leave the rest to God.
Do not carry it on ur head everyday else you will become a walking corpse.

I am telling you, so long as there is a living God up there, we will read your testimony here.
If he can do it for me, He will do it for you better.

cococandy:
They need each other.
This is actually what for better for worse means.
Not when the man is cheating or beating her then yall will remember they took an oath.

That oath is for times like this when they face challenges that they couldn’t have predicted or prevented

Here we go!

The emotional blackmail has started already!

In this case, it's no longer vow but "oath" abi? You folks don't fail to disappoint.

So, the woman who played on her husband's intelligence by asking him to wait for one year before they start having children didn't remember their "oath?". There's a high possibility that she knows what's wrong from the onset but only led uncle on.

Na the guy be mumu sha. Make any woman try nonsense with me, she'll know that the Lord is good. I'll first of all have 2 kids with another woman (as insurance) before joining her to search for her own fruit of the womb.

You are stressing your mental health because everything you mentioned here can still be medically resolved.

G0odharddick:
Fibroid?

Dude why didn't you do medical scan before you married her?

Oga don't waste your time jumping from one herbal centre to the other. Just get yourself a second wife and have children in peace. Besides you're the only son and generations is expected to come out from you

do you even know what fibroid is, it’s not cancer o. I once had it and I have my child now

Sorry for the bad news, you didn't mention how old your spouse is and whether you conducted the necessary premarital health checks , and counseling.
People ignore these things in haste to marry and later regret, there is a reason for these.
Blocked fallopian tubes could be as a result on taking drugs like postinor, or other pregnancy suppression drugs or even reckless lifestyle.It can also be as a result of age, i.e if your spouse is closing in on 30s.
Don't give up try what practical solutions you can.
And prove yourself by getting another girl pregnant, don't waste the next 15 years looking for solutions caused by other men.

GentleJ87:
I’m also facing the same challenges, my case is I have been married for three years now my wife took in, it enter Etopic the Dr recommend for a CS to remove the twins pregnancy which we did , Since the year 2022 till now my wife never conceive again , we started running some text , both HSG and many I can’t remember, her tube is okay only that the Dr told me one of her womb has been damaged because of the etopic , but he said she will conceive with the remaining womb and bear children as much as we want, after some months of waiting we carried another text it shows she has PCOS because she is hairy, my doctor said most hairy ladies is immune to PCOS , they have place her on diet since then till now nothing has been achieve . Honestly I’m weak and tired of all this issues , we have gone to traditional means all of them are busy collecting money from us.. I have been looking for a means to bring this to Nairaland but was ashamed to do that . My wife was 26yrs before we got married . Please you guys can help me too because it making me sad and frustrated, my marriage is three years old .

Firstly, there is nothing to be ashamed of. You need a good doctor or hospital to properly diagnose your wife. Your doctor’s claim that one of your wife’s wombs is damaged and that she can conceive with the other should concern you. Women have only one uterus (womb). Maybe you misunderstood your doctor?

If her womb is truly damaged (likely due to the surgery), the solution is to stop stressing her and avoid wasting your money on herbs. Seek professional guidance.

clockwisereport:
She run the guy street

if she’s the one. Then that lady knows her condition. Dou I want to hear from him. And if he has read my message and refuses to respond, then it’s his wife that initiated the decision.

Because an only son of a family wouldn’t initiate such decision

Don’t mind them. That’s why I don’t pity them.
Look at all the bad advice they’re giving the man

pocohantas:
I wonder where on Nairaland women have collectively encouraged a TTC mum to cheat and have kids. The lies they spill ehn. 😩😩😩

GentleJ87:
I’m also facing the same challenges, my case is I have been married for three years now my wife took in, it enter Etopic the Dr recommend for a CS to remove the twins pregnancy which we did , Since the year 2022 till now my wife never conceive again , we started running some text , both HSG and many I can’t remember, her tube is okay only that the Dr told me one of her womb has been damaged because of the etopic , but he said she will conceive with the remaining womb and bear children as much as we want, after some months of waiting we carried another text it shows she has PCOS because she is hairy, my doctor said most hairy ladies is immune to PCOS , they have place her on diet since then till now nothing has been achieve . Honestly I’m weak and tired of all this issues , we have gone to traditional means all of them are busy collecting money from us.. I have been looking for a means to bring this to Nairaland but was ashamed to do that . My wife was 26yrs before we got married . Please you guys can help me too because it making me sad and frustrated, my marriage is three years old .

Women do not have two wombs. I think you meant the fallopian tube. Sorry you are going through this and I hope experienced couples can advise on the best step to take.

In a situation like this, the nature of the bond of the union should form the basis of your decision. Thus:

- If you know that she married you majorly because of the quality of your soul, you owe it to your conscience to give up every other thing and stand solidly with her - in other words, you've to remember that it's for better and for worse.

- If you, however, know that she married you majorly because of your material possessions/what she thought you could offer her materially, consider leaving her to her fate and consider a second wife - securing a second wife will be cheaper and less stressful than stressing yourself looking for a medical or herbal solution with her.