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ruggedtimi:
Women...always wicked towards another woman's female child under her roof. See reason why she wants the girl to change school.

A woman cannot love a child who is not hers.

That's why God did not even ask women to love their husband. Only to submit.
The wife already hates the girl with a passion for being smarter than her own son.

OP, if you can afford to send your niece to a boarding school, please do so.

NEVER use's a wife's desire or instruction to treat your blood relative.

The woman does not love you, her hubby, never mind your relatives. She only loves her son.

YOUR WIFE IS AN EKUESU WOMAN WHO IS JEALOUS OF YOUR NIECE

HER PRIMARY GOAL IS TO TURN YOUR NIECE INTO A HOUSEGIRL AND MALTREAT HER

HER PRIMARY GOAL IS TO STOP YOU FROM SENDING YOUR NIECE TO SCHOOL

YOUR WIFE IS NOT A GOOD WOMAN

IF SHE NEEDS SOMEONE TO HELP HER AROUND....WHY DIDN'T SHE SUGGEST YOU GET A HOUSEGIRL FOR HER?

IF YOU LOOK AT THE BROADER PICTURE THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT YOUR NIECE HAD AT SOME POINT IN TIME CAUGHT HER WITH ANOTHER MAN HENCE THE PROFOUND HATRED TOWARDS YOUR NIECE

If Na me wetin I go do be say
I will tell her that am sending the girl back to village to see her reaction and if she accept Ur decision then never u try to bring someone from Ur side and if she bring any girl from her side then u too should allow her to do whatever she like to do with her

@israel5

Pls read this. Sleep, wake up and read again.

Dont turn that girl to a house help, i beg of you.

Kobojunkie:
Wait a second! What was your original intention in taking the girl in at the beginning? To use her in raising your own family or to adopt her as one of your own kids?

2. So, your wife is looking for a slave and not an employee? And she believes this gal is meant to be a slave for her purpose, something you seem to think makes sense?

If you say your wife is not looking for a slave in this case, then why can't the chores be distributed between your son and the girl? Or is your son not intelligent enough to handle chores or something? Help me understand why you are asking us this question, because what is obvious is that your wife is not happy that this gal is getting the same treatment as her blood in the home.

I only have one question to ask you ! Who is the man of the house? You or your wife ?

You better employ a non live-in help to take care of cleaning and shopping, etc. why didn't she ask for her son to be enrolled close to home too? Abi the boy no fit help. I sense some pressure from some external influencers as well. likely some close friends or mum or other relatives.
Keep the girl in the school till she finishes Primary school. As you said, na You dey pay the school fees. Employ another help.
E get why.

Treat this girl as yours and don’t change her school no matter what or return the girl to her parent and start sending her school fee money to her parent.
No one knows tomorrow.

JAPAHTML:
➜I think you married the wrong woman A lot of women are evil especial towards another woman's child only few good ones. Infact I think your wife is wicked 😏😏 send that little lovely girl back to her parents or get a house help
Don't listen to that woman please BE A MAN

They say, "Like attracts like." There is nothing like marrying the wrong woman or man.

Some men and indecision

Samantha125:
I'm curious, how will a 6 years old child help around the house and with your wife's business?

It's a coded way to present child abuse.
He is trying to be clever nah

There are just some things that if you had a decent conscience and reasoning faculty, you dont even need the reasoning of others to tell you.

Omooooo......See withcra@ft...

I can bet OP’s wife is Igbo.

I’m Igbo, before you bring ethnic politics into my statement.

If her parents are still alive, send her home!

You can take care of the school fees without your wife knowing about it.

Your wife is about to get envious of that innocent young girl.

Please i beg you , now the girl is really doing well in school, use this opportunity to help her life, if possible let her go and live in school dormitory till after her secondary school, God will bless you. you and madam can go get house help. but fulfill that promise God is using you to do in the girl's life .
don't allow anyone discouraging from training the girl in school since you have the capacity. look for house help that will be coming and going .

brain54:
Lol at your son running away from the top...

He is still a young lad. He would probably do better and catch up as he gets older.

The girl at 7 is too young to start assisting madam. If she was her daughter would she allow her withdraw or change schools to assist with home responsibilities or assistance with home affairs? Your boy is just a year younger o.

Pls continue to treat the girl fairly and as you would your biological daughter as you have done so far.


If you have the means or capability you can consider getting an Older helper to assist with the assistance madam needs.


Forget women...do what is right. It's even weird to be considering a 7 year old house assistant in the first place. That's child labor.

It's a pity things aren't working in Nigeria. Allow the girl enjoy her childhood in peace and with love.

God bless you!

God bless you, you renew my hope in Nairaland… I believe there are still a lot of intelligent people on this forum

Kobojunkie:
They say, "Like attracts like." There is nothing like marrying the wrong woman or man.

What about negative attracting positive?

Chai!! Poor girl is about to be turned to a house maid. It's very unfortunate her intelligence will be traded for inhumane treatment.

Please kindly return the girl back to her parents. Nonsense

Firstly, your son might be "slow" not necessarily because of mental capacity but rather maturity.

Studies have shown that children born earlier in a year on the average tend to perform better in class than those born later in the year (within the same year) when placed in the same class. The issue here is maturity but this differences typically disappears when they cross their teen. So be patient with your boy, once he catches up with her in terms of brain development you will be surprised how well he will perform.

As for your wife, I am sorry she is not a good person. Ask her if the girl was her biological child if she would do that to her.

Please if you really want to help the child don't listen to your wife. Find a maid you can pay to come to the house three days a week to help out with; washing, cooking, cleaning and doing groceries.

If she insists send the girl back to her parents and keep paying her fee. Once she is of age to go to secondary school please send her to good boarding school. In the future you will be at peace with yourself but if you listen to your wife, she will maltreat the girl and may likely destroy her future. You will never forgive yourself for that.

Israel5:
Please (even though I know my appeal with fall on deaf ears too numerous to count in this forum), approach this issue with logic and without prejudice to the people involved.

My wife and I are duly blessed with a son who is in his basic 5 now. Also, we decided to get the daughter of one of my cousin to stay with us. She is one of 7 children. So I wanted to help raise a CHIMAMANDA.

As my rule, every child of same age under my room attends the same school and calls us Dad & Mum. The school part didn't quite seat well with my wife, who had a different opinion, but I prevailed anyway. Because na me dey pay school fees.

The girl is a year older than my son, but due to the level of education at the village before she came over, we made her be in the same class as my son. She met my son in primary 2. Now they are both in basic 5.

A shocker happened: This girl keeps coming up in the class, while my son keeps running away from the top. We've tried extra lessons, even tried changing schools. Now it looks as if the girl is better suited for school than my boy. She reads, spells and memorizes things too marvellous. I bought a dictionary cos of that.

I even buy gifts for her (for coming top) more than I do for my boy, to make him sit up, but my pikin nor send me o. Guy use cry & Woman power make me buy am bicycle. 😁

I would think he's being a spoilt boy, who believes daddy & mommy is there, I don't really know. But I am hopeful.

Now, my major issue is my heavily pregnant wife. She wants the girl to be changed/enrolled at a different school. In her defence, she wants her to be available to help her take care of things. The kid's school close by 3pm. She suggest government school that close earlier. I see sense in what she said but I feel like I'll be unfair to this young girl.

When I tried to have a healthy debate on the idea. Na so madam start to dey talk plenty tins wey I nor fit type.
I have accepted to do her wish from September for peace.

Please, do you see another way I could avoid problems?

Is she right to have asked that I changed the girl's school just because she needs help around the house & her business?

If no be say child dey involve, na to divorce her early.

Cos u will see shege for future

Israel5:
Please (even though I know my appeal with fall on deaf ears too numerous to count in this forum), approach this issue with logic and without prejudice to the people involved.

My wife and I are duly blessed with a son who is in his basic 5 now. Also, we decided to get the daughter of one of my cousin to stay with us. She is one of 7 children. So I wanted to help raise a CHIMAMANDA.

As my rule, every child of same age under my room attends the same school and calls us Dad & Mum. The school part didn't quite seat well with my wife, who had a different opinion, but I prevailed anyway. Because na me dey pay school fees.

The girl is a year older than my son, but due to the level of education at the village before she came over, we made her be in the same class as my son. She met my son in primary 2. Now they are both in basic 5.

A shocker happened: This girl keeps coming up in the class, while my son keeps running away from the top. We've tried extra lessons, even tried changing schools. Now it looks as if the girl is better suited for school than my boy. She reads, spells and memorizes things too marvellous. I bought a dictionary cos of that.

I even buy gifts for her (for coming top) more than I do for my boy, to make him sit up, but my pikin nor send me o. Guy use cry & Woman power make me buy am bicycle. 😁

I would think he's being a spoilt boy, who believes daddy & mommy is there, I don't really know. But I am hopeful.

Now, my major issue is my heavily pregnant wife. She wants the girl to be changed/enrolled at a different school. In her defence, she wants her to be available to help her take care of things. The kid's school close by 3pm. She suggest government school that close earlier. I see sense in what she said but I feel like I'll be unfair to this young girl.

When I tried to have a healthy debate on the idea. Na so madam start to dey talk plenty tins wey I nor fit type.
I have accepted to do her wish from September for peace.

Please, do you see another way I could avoid problems?

Is she right to have asked that I changed the girl's school just because she needs help around the house & her business?

Guy, if your story is real. Don't allow your wife maltreat that girl. Hope you've seen husband's on handcuffs because of wife behavior. That's child abuse allowing that do those work your son can't. Use your head Wella

To be honest with you, jealousy has taken over your wife hence the decision to change the little girls school.

She's just 1 year older than you son, so what help exactly does your wife what fron those fragile hands.

You have chosen to training her so please talk to you wife and also have a firm stand as to what you want for the little give without generating any issue in you marriage.

JAPAHTML:
➜What about negative attracting positive?

They are likes ... both of them are charges.

Pls check the kind of friends your madam moves with. That might be the issue ..

Kobojunkie:
It is OP feigning ignorance of this that is getting on my nerves. You don't even have to attend school to see what his wife has been trying to do all of this time.

@OP, are you hiding something from us that maybe your wife knows of? Is that girl really your child or something? Cause I don't see how you cannot have realized by now the woman's intention.

The OP is hiding something. I can't believe someone can be this naive.

@Op the solution is very simple. Just get a domestic staff for your wife. This is what you would have done if the girl was your daughter.

Or are you just here to play with the intelligence of nairaland respected folks like kobojunkie?