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Nor invest in old,learn a craft,build good community of friends,near God, contribute to anything that will move God's ministry forward,get a good babe at this stage,he gets why.

Go discover what you are good at and shape it into a craft, so in 10years dem go dey pay you boss money
Salary money na wash, can only build your CV, but won't give you financial independence
A words is enough for who get the word wey dem talk sha

CorperKola:
You have to be a joker
Lol
So if you you achieve financial success it automatically meams that you will magically know how to handle and treat women
You are a real joker
I have friends who are very successful who are hopeless with women because they ignored women for so long all in the name of chasing success
Its dumb advice really, how can you filter what you have no solid experience with

you clearly dont understand what I said. when i say dont chase women, i didnt mean dont go after women, i mean dont make them a priority. i didnt or dont mean stay away from women, i will never say that. what dont chase women means is dont let your youth be controlled by the pursuit of women... dont let your existence as a young man be controlled by women to the point where you lose direction. To start with most of the girls you are chasing as a young man are summoned by some succesful older man behind your back ....trust me. sometimes they are packed in buses for weekend getaways by older men.

Listen its one of those things that until you have been through it and become older yourself you wont appreciate. Like they say, by the time you are wise, the wisdomis of no use to you the only thing is to impart it on the young, who wont listen to you. but i agree and was never suggesting a man should stay away from women.

Chasing women is a right of passage but every man will eventually realise the girls he chased as a youth were not worth the pedestal he put them on as a young man. Especially if he is succesful and sees how women fight over themselves for his attention or he gets to hear the stories of what those girls were really up to.

thats my point.

Build your life with a partner whose vision is as clear as yours!

“Verily, verily, O denizens of the vicennial chronological spectrum, I entreat thee to cultivate the horticulture of autodiscipline with alacrity and assiduity, for in the concatenation of life’s odyssey, procrastinatory somnambulism is the primordial progenitor of mediocrity!
Intertwine thine quotidian existence with salutary alimentation, cerebral fortification, and fiduciary circumspection, lest thou transmogrify into a septuagenarian mendicant in the amphitheatre of regrets.
Shun the sirenic blandishments of romantic entanglements that are replete with cataclysmic dramaturgy, and cleave rather unto associations that are symbiotic, pacific, and purpose-propelling!”

casualobserver:
you clearly dont understand what I said. when i say dont chase women, i didnt mean dont go after women, i mean dont make them a priority. i didnt or dont mean stay away from women, i will never say that. what dont chase women means is dont let your youth be controlled by the pursuit of women... dont let your existence as a young man be controlled by women to the point where you lose direction. To start with most of the girls you are chasing as a young man are summoned by some succesful older man behind your back ....trust me. sometimes they are packed in buses for weekend getaways by older men.

Listen its one of those things that until you have been through it and become older yourself you wont appreciate. Like they say, by the time you are wise, the wisdomis of no use to you the only thing is to impart it on the young, who wont listen to you. but i agree and was never suggesting a man should stay away from women.

Chasing women is a right of passage but every man will eventually realise the girls he chased as a youth were not worth the pedestal he put them on as a young man. Especially if he is succesful and sees how women fight over themselves for his attention or he gets to hear the stories of what those girls were really up to.

thats my point.

It should definitely be one of a guy's priority
Not the absolute top, after money or success or career
What else
Definitely top 4 or 5.
I stand by what i said
The way you put your advice its easy to misunderstand
Someone already said it following your advice is what leads to paying for teenagers and 20 year olds as a 50 year old man
Lets stop making normal things seem weird or wrong
Its a part of life
You have a lot to learn to and you will definitely learn

Don't be like us. Learn a skill, build on it, be a mastery at it like Alexander duggard in Day of the jackal... This skill will be your savior when things turn sour it will make fortunes and even a billionaire.

Be multi task
Be careful of what you put into your mouth
And lastly, wherever you go,whatever you do always consider your security first.

casualobserver:
I have a lot to learn? you must be f o s!

Hehehe
It is what it is
No offense meant

Chase the bag without terms and conditions

Leave woman focus on making a life and money for yourself.......
Na woman go dey rush you....
No carry relationship do priority.
Watch yourself blossom in your thirties.

Start Blogging business and thank me later.

CorperKola:
Hehehe
It is what it is
No offense meant

i said dont chase women, I meant dont let them derail you at the most productive period of your life. you went on and on. i acknowledged maybe it didnt come out as I meant

now you tell me at my age that i have a lot to learn and tell me no offense meant? you want to teach me about women or life

imagine this nonsense!

blocked!

Hhh4444:
1. Be selfish with your time and resources.
2. No dey send women.
3. Do not impress anyone but yourself.
4. Only invest in things that bring money,knowledge or skills.
5. Avoid religion,it will cripple you mentally if you are not careful.
6. Do not follow trends,think for yourself.
7. Focus on making money cos last last na only your money go save you for this life.
8. Avoid seeking external validation. Learn to validate yourself.
9. Trust no one.
10.Everyone around you is there for benefits.once they stop getting benefits,they will disappear.

A lot of people underrate the impact of Numbers 3, 5 and 6

Most times, what you need in life to break through, is something as simple as "thinking for yourself"

EmmyDJourno:
Go discover what you are good at and shape it into a craft, so in 10years dem go dey pay you boss money
Salary money na wash, can only build your CV, but won't give you financial independence
A words is enough for who get the word wey dem talk sha

Lol ...it depends on the job

crazy salary and allowances are the best that could happen to any human.

You can be financially independent in less than 3 years of active service by investing in lands, properties and stocks.

Even pension from such organization, is a form of financial independence at retirement age.

First rule of advice ...TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE LOL!.....

Money first, then education, money is education as well! Spend your money wisely, and while you have it, it takes money to make money!

Have God in your life for fun , and entertainment!

Find your spouse where you like to be, even request one from places of worship!

Work out for fun 100 push-ups and situps a month is good enough for anybody!if u can't keep going on push-ups roll over and do situps till u can't keep going, it's called MAXING OUT! That goes for lovemaking as well, flex your lovemaker till u cannot and you will be ready for that your spouse!

Stay clean for fun, being sick is against the law! Health is wealth!

1.1f you are still in school. Try get 2:1 or 1st class. E get why.
2. Don't ever japa illegally. If you must Japa, have a plan
3. Be a genuinely good person so that a good woman will be attracted to you. Truth is, with the right woman by your side, doors will open for you.
4. If you have a good woman, hold her tight

Am 34 years. if you are a first born like me, my brother hustle and grind harder because nobody is coming to save you. Not your tired parent, relatives and even government. Your future lies in your ability to make things happen for you.

Do not blame anyone for your occasional failures, keep pushing and cut out distractions like- girls, alcoholic friends and useless people that will not add value to your life.

If you are not an undergraduate, endeavor to learn a skill or trade.

Wish i had someone who told me all this things earlier. i got to know all this by 30 years. It took me 4 years to adjust and unlearn all the societal believe of " Go to school, get a good grade and you stand a better chance of landing a lucrative job" and so on.

Am happier now and doing better than before and also engaged with a lovely spouse.

casualobserver:
1) focus on your goals and your success
2) money isnt everything but is essential.
3) dont chase money, dont put any girl on a pedestal dont lose your focus because of a woman, understand them for what they are. both will find you if you focus on yourself.
4) Nobody truly cares about you. so make your self happy and do what is best for you.
5) be kind but dont be too nice.
6) listen to your dad, he is the only man that wants you to be better than him.
7) always have options
have something to offer, nobody loves a man, you are "loved" for what value you add
9) marry a woman with your head not your heart
10) never marry a single mother or a daughter of a single mother. NEVER!
11) loyalty, trust honesty and integrity are very important. guard them religiously.
12) be wary of the company you keep. they go a long way to determine what you become in life.

Valid points

Unfortunately my father is no more.

They should focus on creativity and innovation, that’s the only way they will beat the norms and not by doing repetitive tasks

IF you must marry, please marry a woman that has a lot to offer 2u for you are the prize and not them. U have no expiration date.
Na man dey propose! Wake up Guys
Do everything to avoid a Liability.
Avoid Gals from Poor Homes with Poor Ideology especially when you're struggling to find your feet. ....na Poverty reloaded be that.

Avoid an Empty Gal.
Do everything possible to avoid such.
Before marriage, take a time to study your prospective Mother-in-law.

Visit the family and leave your phone's voice recorder on, leave it beside the entire family making such her mom is around, while you excuse yourself to use the restroom.
Come back and thank me.

Far better to marry a widow than a single mother. Make sure she is not a TikToker.

casualobserver:
1) focus on your goals and your success
2) money isnt everything but is essential.
3) dont chase money, dont put any girl on a pedestal dont lose your focus because of a woman, understand them for what they are. both will find you if you focus on yourself.
4) Nobody truly cares about you. so make your self happy and do what is best for you.
5) be kind but dont be too nice.
6) listen to your dad, he is the only man that wants you to be better than him.
7) always have options
have something to offer, nobody loves a man, you are "loved" for what value you add
9) marry a woman with your head not your heart
10) never marry a single mother or a daughter of a single mother. NEVER!
11) loyalty, trust honesty and integrity are very important. guard them religiously.
12) be wary of the company you keep. they go a long way to determine what you become in life.

Can you talk more on number 9 please?

SoftHeart:
Know your place (position) in the universe and if you're not happy with it, do something about it.
Hint: To go higher in the universe, you need a deeper root network.

Please explain more on deep root network

Leave broke women. They add nothing to your life.

APOPTOSIS:
IF you must marry, please marry a woman that has a lot to offer 2u for you are the prize and not them. U have no expiration date.
Na man dey propose! Wake up Guys
Do everything to avoid a Liability.
Avoid Gals from Poor Homes with Poor Ideology especially when you're struggling to find your feet. ....na Poverty reloaded be that.

Avoid an Empty Gal.
Do everything possible to avoid such.
Before marriage, take a time to study your prospective Mother-in-law.

Visit the family and leave your phone's voice recorder on, leave it beside the entire family making such her mom is around, while you excuse yourself to use the restroom.
Come back and thank me.

Far better to marry a widow than a single mother. Make sure she is not a TikToker.

you na real OG.... it's a must to know what your potential mother in-law thinks of you before you commit. Your gal will eventually turn to her when she grows old.

Do not fv*k every available 😺. F*ck some and unfv*k some

-Don't keep late at night
- The industry youre in is more important than how much you're earning . Enter industries where the ceiling is high e.g construction ,tech ,don't worry about the initial salary.

- Avoid women till youre ready to marry

- Learn to show respect ,especially to people older than you. They will show you the way .

- Learn to give ,every successful person knows this. Giving brings luck .

Build a business, be consistent, start small and never look back for second.

Aaaaarghmed:
Avoid polytechnic, go to university. Dont date broke girls,date capable girls.peaceout

I don't even attend any if the two options yet I'm doing well, and I just clock 30. Life doesn't revolve around that and also academic certificate is not a gateway or a master key to success.

Them don use advice wound 20s here..😂😂😂

Eastcoastboy:
This your last line shed more light on it. Do mean if I see a girl I like I should chase her? Even if I'm not financially where I want to be?

You are always gambling in life, nothin is certain and you will never know for sure till you try. Thats the power of the male , the permission of society and then practiced ability to try your luck with different options anytime. Thats your own power as a nigga
The power of the female is to say yes or no

Your mindset when you see a girl that looks good is lemme try my luck with her not i am already in love with her
Some random babe u barely know