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ravensckar:
Watch how SIMPS will be advising the man to be strong that "his wife needs him more than ever".

If reverse was the case, I doubt any woman would have advised their fellow gender to do the same.

Anyways, unless it's a court wedding, I don't think this issue is up for debate. Me I'll first secure my future by impregnating another woman outside while I and my wife continue to search for her own fruit of the womb.

Una no go kill person for this NL

GO BUY PIKING

descarado:
The problem is the position of the fibroid.

Some have given birth to kids with fibroid.

He is highly tensed up. 3 months and he is already worried this much. Now the fear has materialised to reality. How you dey?. My babies are doing well,right?

Exactly my concern as well. Anxiety has set in, and that is even more problematic.

Yes, my sis. I dey fine, and so are your babies o. How have you been?

My Past Doesn’t Matter
This is a popular quote often made by ladies at when they want to settle down for marriage.
My Dear, whether we like it or not “our” past matter.
In fact, our past is the primary factor that will tell us how the future will be.
Why is the statement only “a sided one”
Now if a man quote the same, can you proceed to date such person? Definitely you won’t.
For instance if a man says my past are,he is a chronic drug addict, or he’s a criminal wanted by government, or he’s a serial murder, or he’s impotent, or he’s a ritualist, or he is just recovering from mental illness? Would you say those factors doesn’t matter?

Now, over to the ladies, If you had a very bad past Sexually, for example, you aren’t a virgin, probably a slut, had so many episodes of sex,You know all types of postinors, you can’t count your body count, you are an image of different contraceptives, and you are telling me your past doesn’t matter, definitely you are a wicked and unfaithful human being.
Oh you want to the probably innocent man to continue running from pillar to post to solve procreation issues? Why didn’t you keep yourself while you had opportunity? Now that the deed is done, what you need is to open up and tell anyone that love you the way you are because if it was eventually known, you might suffer for it.

Now to the Men
It’s high time we keep taking past of ladies seriously,
Before you start to think of how to pay whooping bride price, check what you are investing on, does it worth it? Check Genotype, phenotype,stds, hepatitis, and other fertility inclined test. Many ladies that do utter that statement had a very bad past, that’s why they utter such.
Apart from Sexual and Fertility Past, check other past like Financial, spiritual,mental, physical past.

They are very vital.
Financial past:
Check if the lady or man has a debt he’s paying before the union, if it goes well with you.
Last month, a story of a yet to be bride that owed 9 million naira debt trended. Imagine, the wife had already defaulted about 9 million naira debt before marriage, so probably she want the husband to come and pay that. Even if the husband doesn’t pay it, it will still avoid her to do other responsibilities she ought to.

Spiritual Past:
I read here a time that a lady was telling her fiancé that she was a mermaid and she formerly lives in the ocean. Some people are already spiritually used by ritualist, some are carriers and worshippers or strange and evil spirits. That’s another past to check.
Check if you can compact with someone of such spiritual past.

Mental Past:
Everyone knows what this is. If your spouse have crazy and chronic mental disorders like Dementia, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, OCDs, you have to consider such.
Individuals with such disorders should know how to manage the disorder. Or else, it’s the beginning of a problem. We’ve had different cases of spouse that are mentally deranged killing another at slightest provocation.

Physical Past:
Some physical past are not really physical to the observer. Only if the person that has that ailment disclose it. Something like a single breast or no breast because of cancer, Damaged organs, Damaged testies, prosthetic body part because of accident, damaged womb, or no womb, Facial look (don’t use makeup to mask your real look), etc.

Please check the past o, it haunts.

Will be right back

Acidosis:
Exactly my concern as well. Anxiety has set in, and that is even more problematic.

Yes, my sis. I dey fine, and so are your babies o. How have you been?

I dey here o dey pump iron
I wan be Miss Olympic

descarado:
I dey here o dey pump iron
I wan be Miss Olympic

Ahaha... I will be waiting for your gold medal shine
Na you go win am. Should I expect pictures? ☺️

papyjaypaul:
You are too much in a hurry. You married last year and you are already worried about "serious fertility issue" after you both agreed not to have a child in the first year? Please read what you wrote.

You can't impregnate her with this state of mind when you are in a hurry. As the man, you are the one to be calming the waters and assuring her and yourself that it will come soon. Bro, go and relax. You don't need any advice, you're just in a hurry to write your book of life. This is how life humbles everyone. By the way, you never told us how old she was because you know the older the woman, the more serious her fertility issue is, using your own serious words.

He is not in a hurry. The earlier you know there is a problem, the quicker you start addressing it the quicker and better you get solution.

Prudency045:
He is not in a hurry. The earlier you know there is a problem, the quicker you start addressing it the quicker and better you get solution.

He is. The wife is yet to heal. It's just one year and he's already putting pressure on himself. Where is he rushing to? This is why life will humble you, one young teenager who was told not to do premarital sex has twins and he that kept himself maybe doesn't have, does he start doing rubbish just because someone else got what he wanted? Life challenges are here to test you and how you react to it is more important than trying to write a script. You will know why people who used to run their mouth anyhow became spiritual or learned more or something changed, because life taught them a lesson. The pressure he is putting on himself, if he makes his wife have it, they will have more difficulty conceiving as he has created a scenario of fear and they don't need this. This is why he needs to be a man, provide leadership, confidence and reassurance.

I’d like to share my contribution based on real-life experience.

Three months into their marriage, a couple discovered they couldn’t achieve pregnancy. After undergoing all the necessary tests, the diagnosis came back as bilateral blocked fallopian tubes. Their gynaecologist was direct: “You can only have a child through IVF.”

Just like you came here to vent, the couple became regular visitors to the “Trying to Conceive” (TTC) thread on Nairaland, seeking advice and encouragement. They picked up different suggestions from other people’s experiences and decided to try some of them.

First attempt:
They used serrapeptase, two types of Chinese tea (names forgotten), and combined it with castor oil massages for three months. Unfortunately, nothing happened.

Next step:
They decided to follow the doctor’s recommendation for IVF. A hysteroscopy was done, followed by the IVF procedure. Pregnancy was achieved — but sadly, it ended in a blighted ovum.

Back on the TTC thread, they began researching how to improve their chances for a second IVF attempt. They learned about certain supplements that might help and the wife started taking:

Qunol

Ovaboost

Vitamin C

Vitamin D

Vitamin E

Omega 3-6-9

After three months on these supplements, she did a hormonal assay in preparation for the second IVF. All hormones were within normal range — except prolactin, which was high. A medication to reduce prolactin was added, and she continued the supplements for a fourth month.

During this time, their family doctor also advised the wife to lose weight. While taking the supplements, she engaged in activities to support weight loss.

At the end of those four months, something unexpected happened — she found out she was pregnant naturally. How it happened, no one could explain. No test was done to check if her tubes had reopened.

The takeaway?

Learn from others’ experiences.

Stay active on TTC platforms for valuable information.

Remember that fertility challenges can be financially and emotionally draining — from tests, to medications, to supplements.

Through it all, you must stay strong.

I know people will come up with different stories or assumption. That's on them. God don solve the person problem. I will advise you face your problem squarely.

Acidosis:
Ahaha... I will be wetin for your gold medal shine
Na you go win am. Should I expect pictures? ☺️

See picture picture of me representing my kwantri
Na world remain

descarado:

See picture picture of me representing my kwantri
Na world remain

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Stopitttt

Where is the place of prayer and communion with God? You came online to look for solution where you can't get any. Have you lost your faith as well? Go on your knees and seek God's face. God the greatest healer, is anything too difficult for him to do.

i had fibroid and removed it, i have a child now. please rest

G0odharddick:
U knew what fibroid is and yet couldn't advise him? You're busy reading every comment!
Tell him hw you overcame yours nau.

It is by God's intervention you miraculously had a child that's if it's even true you had it .

Fibroid grows in the place where the child is supposed to be. This is why as soon as the baby comes in , the fibroid k!lls it.

My suggestion is simple. He should get a second wife and procreate in peace

esthel:
i had fibroid and removed it, i have a child now. please rest

Women will always be women. Why using reverse phycology on yourself here?

Noticed how you deliberately avoided telling the op about your fibroid and how you removed it? Instead you started attacking my comments.

Madam tell the op how you removed your fibroid

sjx566:
Find a traditional birth attendant to help you...don't give up! Ask your wife to stop crying let her use that energy to find those traditional women to help her. It will be sorted out. Let her be discreet about it especially to her family & friends so that there won't be room for doubts...because you guys need a lot of that positive energy to thrive & win together

Traditional birth attendant is a no no here. They will make the woman lose her sanity and drain her financially and emotionally.
Just let her go through the hospital way.

G0odharddick:
Women will always be women. Why using reverse phycology on yourself here?

Noticed how you deliberately avoided telling the op about your fibroid and how you removed it? Instead you started attacking my comments.

Madam tell the op how you removed your fibroid

is it not hospital they remove fibroids or you know somewhere else.

esthel:
is it not hospital they remove fibroids or you know somewhere else.

U didn't see others saying herbal centres and other places? Na hospital removed Ur own so called acclaim fibroid?

The joke is on you

G0odharddick:
U didn't see others saying herbal centres and other places? Na hospital removed Ur own so called acclaim fibroid?

The joke is on you

l don’t need to prove anything to cure your ignorance. No herbal remedy removes fibroid.

Was it [your idea to go for a baby one year after marriage? If it wasn't.... then I suspect she knew all along that she couldn't conceive. Were you having sex befor marriage? If no .. was she the one preaching abstinence until marriage? If yes ... I suspect she knew about her situation ...that she couldn't conceive. Was she a virgin when you first slept with her? If no ...then again I suspect she had unprotected sex and nothing ever happened .... She knew she couldn't conceive What else is she hiding from you? The issue should now be trust ...not getting a baby. From tests you learned she has fibroids. Did she know this before? Maybe she had the signs but didn't know...and didn't know that was the reason she was not getting pregnant. If remaining in the marriage ... your concern now shouldn't be getting a baby...but getting rid of the fibroids ... which can be life threatening. When that is taken care of....then you can think about steps to conception. I do understand the present problem is finance ...but in the mean time I suggest you do research to find out who is very good at if...then figure out the financing after. Your wife ...our suggestions....your decision..

Please can you help me ask this your friend how they later got rid of the staphylococcus infection, cus I'm going through same infection issues thanks

torqque7:
My brother don't let this issue weigh you and your poor wife down it's not her fault. If you hear other people's issues ehnn you will thank God for your own..My childhood friend had an infection as a result of ruptured appendix that he didn't treat on time and his scrotum started swelling up so he rushed to get treated in the hospital where he was bombarded with antibiotics and the swollen testicles shrunk,but one shrunk that it became like an orange seed o,the other one remained the normal size.

Fast forward to him getting married,kids didn't come after trying for years.He and his wife treated staphylococcus infection for years after their marriage. So now they finally went to the hospital and his semen no sperm cells in them,his wife no fibroid but she couldn't produce eggs o just like that..but when they were in the uni she got pregnant for him and they aborted it cos they weren't ready,now to born na wahala and they have to do serious medical stuff and treatment to force his wife to produce eggs since she still sees her period and he they have to surgically get his sperm through asperation or something like that.

He was crying telling me his story because we are very close..now he needs almost 10m for the whole process o..At least your case isn't as bad as his own..you are ok and your wife just needs surgery to remove the fibroid and some IVF treatment to get her eggs and fertilize with your sperm and that IVF you won't spend more than 3m if you too spend so its just to gather the money from both friends and famiky members. Cheerup this too shall pass