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If you marry an arrogant man like the one currently in Aso Rock, you are done for cos he won't even want to feed himself, he would want you the wife to spoon feed him cos he believes he is the don making the money and should be worshipped just as he treats people outside


So ladies make una de look well before marrying. Marry humble man, avoid arrogant guys, they are a recipe for disaster in marriage

See kweshion.
Well, oga specifically told me during courtship. No serve me. You aren't my maid but going to be my better half.
Don't even know how long we have been married and I have never washed his plates. I don’t dish out food for him. Anybody who is washing at that moment can wash all. And you must thank the person for doing that for you. Be it the kids. As for dishing out food,nobody dishes out food for anybody in this house. If you want to finish the whole pot, na you sabi. There is always an alternative.

We make marriages so hard with some unrealistic expectations that the moment we don't do them anymore,westart seeing cracks and we wonder why.
I have mentioned it severally,whether hands or machine, I do not wash his clothes. He wash and sort them out. It is a union. Partnership. I no be anybody slave. The day I feel like making speciality, I do. Nobody pressures me. If you come and there is no food, both you and the kids know what to do. You even make and give me.

Na wetin ppl still dey talk be ds...in Tinubu Nigeria

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

You that is not brainwashed are you married?

In the Olden days men nor dey take plate go kitchen.
But since this contemporary time,some men nor only take plate go kitchen but also dey wash am, especially those men wey nor get financial resources.

Omooo this generation is finished.... must you ask about everything Rubbish question and Rubbish person asking.... why can't a man do it?? I take my plate sometimes when I have all the time.... my wife does most of the time.... we are having conversation while eating.... even tho I pick my plate...as we proceed to the kitchen she collects it from me.... I do dishes also.... so what's the big fing deal

I normally take my plates to the kitchen oh!

Do whatever rocks your boat. On the hand, it's a sign of respect if the wife does take the plate to the kitchen. My wife does that whenever I am done eating, some other times I do it. I don't see it as her obligation nor mine.
Sometimes I server my wife food and clear the plate when she's done eating.

As a man just know it's important to lead by example.

I do it. It's up to the man. I learnt it from my uncle in law and McDonald's abroad.

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

Why then the woman need to marry a man? She should stay alone and allow men to rest and go to kitchen by self. I can't be spending on you and still be doing your known job you are trained of from cradle.
This generation ladies are very lazy and don't know how to cook reason they wanted men do Thier job.

DoctorStanley:
Some women PREFER to treat their husbands as gods and for the husband to behave as god. Husbands don't necessarily like that. You want to be the ordinary human you are. Too much responsibility to be another person's god!

A good perspective coming from a guy.
Parents especially mothers and religious bodies teach women these. You will never see them teach them how to make money or survive in this crazy world. You are only born to live for a man.

Chidinma will be causing uproar on the social media while kneeling down to pack the plate in her home.

Of course , majority commenting are still partying up and down for now .

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Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

The thing tire me. Why won't a man wash his plate for heaven sake.
He cooks as a bachelor. All of a sudden, he cannot cook again because he employed a maid. Hunger go kill us for that house.

No he should not at all, what's the wife duty?

In fact, a married man should not bath himself, he should wait for the wife to do that for him.

Radarada

These are petty questions that are mostly irrelevant and are centred around either ego from the man or subjugation of the woman. It really doesn't matter if he clears his dishes or even washes his dish or not.

it depends more on the circumstances than the action itself.

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This puzzle is funny
I took my plate to the kitchen this morning and even found myself washing it and I love what I did.

richiemcgold:
Married man get levels

There are big married men and there are ordinary married men. You can't ask Ned Nwoko to pack the plates, can you?

I wish I can like this ur post 100 times.

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From the comments I read here, all those saying the man should take the plate to the kitchen are insane and lacks discipline. During the time of our parents, the mother makes the meals, serves her husband and clears the plates when the husband is done eating. I sha blame some men who say they send the plates to the kitchen themselves after eating, they actually don't know who they actually represent in their homes. After God, you as a man you're next and don't let anyone fool and trick you into seeing less of yourself. This is exactly what these GenZ girls of these days want to turn you into. If you must pack the plate to the kitchen, it must be out of support not MANDATORY just as a man can still help his wife in washing dishes, cooking and washing clothes as well but not as a MANDATE!!!

The lady who asked this question should have asked his father who takes his plate to the kitchen after eating or may be find out from his father how many times he cooks for her mother in a day. Some people will come to a forum like this to form feminist only to deceive others.

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

Where you come from, do gods eat with plates?
What problem do you have with carrying your husband's plates? If you work in a restaurant, won't you carry the plates of strangers as part of your responsibility?

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

When he was single, he was not feeding wife, wife's brother, wife's sister and wife's parents, he was feeding himself alone.

As for the bolded, the husband is actually a god to the wife and the kids, go and ask any married woman in your surrounding if there is any.

Now back to my own, my wife doesn't like clearing immediately, she prefers to rest a little after eating before standing up, but I don't like seeing the plates on the table. So most times, I clear the table or the children do. There has never been argument about clearing the table, most times, I tap her bumbum to tap some current and call her lazy girl when I clear her plates

JovialJune:
Lord, the ridiculous questions asked about marriages ehn, this question shouldn't be asked in the first place cos a man's doesn't become handicap because a woman is in the house, basic human etiquette is to be observed by both genders.

What is the etiquette to be observed in this case

If u eat while the wife is around she returns the plates, if in her absence the husband can return them or keep them in a safe place till the wife comes. Don't let us copy the western world, it is the duty of the wife to do this for crying out loud. The man will go out bring money, he does all spending, allow him to eat and digest foods peacefully now. Oyinbo will kill all our good traditions and morals if care is not applied

Kobojunkie:
When he was single, who took his plate to the kitchen? That should be the same person that takes his plate to the kitchen even in marriage, unless his wife decided in marriage to elevate him to god status. And this elevation to god status for men is typical among the religious/traditionally brainwashed women.

But you want him to give you up keep money as his wife, right?!

I don't count it to be an issue.
Even my wife and kids would be watching TV and I will gladly take them to the kitchen.
I just did it now!
No big deal in doing such in my home 🏠.
It may be reversed in others home.

TheBillyonaire:
After watching Peter Obi's home routine, I decided to take my 'plates' to the kitchen by myself, my domestic staff and my wife gave me a funny look that speaks louder than words.

I have done it up to 3 times this year. It feels off. Especially with multiple domestic staff on payroll.

I feel that it is a choice, I personally prefer a stoic and minimalist lifestyle, but I cant impose my philosophies on others, hence the need to adopt a bespoke character to modulate the resonance lifestyle of the home front.

On top plate matter.

Nigerian men thinks marriage makes them the Lord!

achorladey:
Not a thing of surprise when you even see the husband to be tell the wife to be she has to serve the food on her knees

Omoo, people dey.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Chilipepper:
Should a married man take his plate to the kitchen after eating?:Lady asks

Just as I or some men don't have any problem taking plates to the kitchen after a meal, our spouses shouldn't have any problems contributing half of the monthly home expenses either.