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How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by DamianDd: 5:49am On Aug 26, 2023 |
This happened today: I called a friend of mine so we can go for an all night together at a church we were invited in, he was already in the vicinity so I asked where are you he said said at his pastors house and I'm like where is the pastors house then he started complaining... "abeg I nor wan go that church now before oo" then he cut call, I called this boy and he didn't pick again I had to go to the church myself but that thing pissed me off but I couldn't call again because he's not my girlfriend that I'll start quarrelling over the phone. He came to church later but it was toll after church close I saw him, he couldn't even talk to me and I as well didn't give a damn so I left and came home I honestly did not want to bring up something from 7 hours ago and start vexing this early morning. Already I'm very mentality stressed because I'm trying to make good use of this 4 months remaining to make my life better and get money. We usually do these church things like sing in churches and all that but I lost interest in them, it is not want I want to do with my life at all. I want big things and going to churches everyday is not what I want for now or for my future so I stopped hanging out with them. All they do is church and girls then don't even hustle that much, they aren't bothered about making money as much as I am This is not the first time this friend has disrespected me and my time like this but the first few times I let it slide but recently it's becoming a pattern and I'm cutting him off and this recent one he did is one obvious reason why I need to complete excommunicate him from my life because I get really annoyed when I'm disrespected but the times he does it is when I'm not close to him so I can't carry issues like I'm a girl. What do you guys think, cutting him off is best? Because I'm already no longer hanging out with them too How do I set clearer boundaries without getting angry? Mostly because I don't have a very good way of expressing anger it's destructive but I'm an introverted person so I do well with managing my emotions 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Ishilove: 7:53am On Aug 26, 2023 |
I don't know what the issue is. If you have people that disrespect you then cut them off. It's not hard. You're not enemies so you can greet when you meet on the way, but you should minimise all conversations online and offline, and respectfully decline any invitation to socialize. Una too dey make life more complex than necessary. 68 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by sylve11: 8:13am On Aug 26, 2023 |
@op, People Pleasing? its damn exhausting. If you are one of the unfortunate ones with this stellar trait, work on it. Sooner than later. It's a miserable life. Impossible to please everyone, and a complete waste of time. 18 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Sonnobax15(m): 8:36am On Aug 26, 2023 |
When you're too available and too accessible,this is what you should expect....... Place value upon yourself and watch how everyone around you will do same..... Call only those who call you,and only check up on those who check on you....... Value yourself first,and you wouldn't even need to set boundaries with anyone......Na only dem go notice say your value don increase,and they'll have no option than to respect your space. 57 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by DamianDd: 10:59am On Aug 26, 2023 |
sylve11:Used to be but now that's no longer me. Rubbish sets of human beings out there |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by DamianDd: 11:00am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Sonnobax15: What I'm doing now honestly the rubbish is too much. Honestly a stupid boy somebody I dey help alot with my money, to be a good person these days is very disappointing |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Coldplay007(f): 11:00am On Aug 26, 2023 |
What is the disrespect here? You read too much meaning into stuff that is not important 16 Likes |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by DamianDd: 11:02am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Coldplay007: Then what is? this is obviously disrespect for my time and value. He could have simply said it in a polite way and dismissed not acting like a girl |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by ATEAMS: 11:32am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Oga relocate simple...shey u get money 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Kobojunkie: 2:06pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
DamianDd:Lol... you are not a girl yet you carry issue so tay you even write an epistle on nairaland regarding the simple issue. OP, you need to begin letting go of those meaningless pre-programmings to start with. Boys, and even men, dey also carry issue for head. Na natural things. Anyways, regarding this topic, all it seems is that your ego was bruised by your friend's rejection, and yes, even friends can reject one. You just need to accept and understand this so it does not tear at you as this one seems to have each time it happens. It is a normal thing in life. Folks don't always get to do what you want them to and there is nothing wrong with that. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by money121(m): 4:10pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Ok |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by StrongAlphMale: 4:10pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Damn! In this life, if na wetin people go talk be your problem, then you never ready to face life 27 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by b0rn2fuck(m): 4:11pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
We that doesn't have friends 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by CelestineNelson: 4:11pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
I don't understand your writeup ...can you summarize pls? 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Aremwayne: 4:11pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
I honestly don’t understand what you wrote here tho 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Menclothing: 4:12pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
This is deep |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Atheistan: 4:12pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Ghost them |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by AllenSpencer: 4:13pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Silence is golden! Talk less and do more observation. They will gradually find out over time you not into them. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Offpointng: 4:16pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Tbh only me understand how DamianDd feels. Nothing I hate for this life pass disrespect or see finish and many atimes I've had to do away with some friends cus of this sh** And to me, Sonnobax15 is right, Op don't be too accessible to just everyone, be extra kind to those who are kind to you And have you in heart, check on who check on you and help friends you know are worth it And Lastly Op, Remember you'll be treated very well when you have money by friends and frenemies and i hope you don't mistake that to be "Love" 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by GindoX(m): 4:17pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
b0rn2fuck: Born to Bleep? Seriously? That name? |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by CodedWealth(m): 4:32pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by CodedWealth(m): 4:35pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
DamianDd: This and many more have made me create a thread for men, were men can discuss about the problems Men are facing. I will talk about this soon, join the thread. |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by CodedWealth(m): 4:35pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
DamianDd: This and many more have made me create a thread for men, were men can discuss about the problems Men are facing. I will talk about boundaries soon, join the thread. https://www.nairaland.com/7817844/successful-relationship-seminar-men-come |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Patriotcreed: 4:38pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
See friends like alcohol, a little, you are just fine, a bit too much, mess you up. Just like alcohol again, go for quality. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by 1opinion: 4:40pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
No offense, but if I tell you I understand what op is really talking about them I would be lying to myself. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by phemmyfour: 4:50pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
DamianDd:Tell him to his face...lobatan 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by phorget(m): 4:54pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Maybe your friends dont see future in you guys singing in churches, why not get people who are interested in your line of hustle instead. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Emma1Oj(m): 4:56pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
1opinion:me self no understand you op. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Set Clearer Boundaries With Friends by Thermodynamics(m): 4:56pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Oga boundaries |
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