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Esthered:
Ehya!
I'm a chartered accountant, a banker and a mum of 2 pursuing my DREAMS VIGOROUSLY with my husband's support as my children need not look too far for inspiration in the future.

When I was thinking of slowing down, a senior colleague whose husband works in a top IOC and she goes on vacation abroad often told me to pursue my dreams with the right support system. The babe was promoted last month and awaiting to receive her official car.

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Proserpina:


You get?

If I reach that level just know I'm about to go "aura" for "aura".

Na love dey make me shalaye, if I mute just run or do the right thing

I'm telling you.

Ogbono for Ogbono!!

Anything wey make me mute, just delete my number.

Would you be so kind as to tell us who allotted these roles and how they arrived at the decision? Were the roles assigned at the famous Universal Congress of the Sexes, which is held every decade, and to which each sex sends elected representatives? Or did you consult individual men and women for their opinion and derived the rule from the majority position?

It is your view that is the embarrassing one. This isn't the 50s. You have no authority to assign gender roles, nor does anyone else. People are free to configure their family lives as they please.

If, as a man, you would prefer a partner who has no will apart from yours and no ambition apart from what you permit, then I hope you find someone who is alright with being subjugated, who wishes only to be provided for and to produce children. That is your prerogative. But don't ever pretend that your medieval fetish is some kind of universal truth.

Women have as much right as any man to personal and professional aspirations, and there are many men who rightly and actively support their spouses in those pursuits.

You say men die early because they do not "prioritize themselves". Do you not see the contradiction in that view? If it is his role to provide, how can he also prioritize himself? Do you not see that it is also in the man's economic interest for the woman to excel in her chosen field?

Finally, I cannot for the life of me imagine why a person would wish to remove themselves from the raising of their own children? Why on earth would you want to leave that to your wife alone? Na wa o.

casualobserver:
i find this kind of talk nauseating especially coming from a man.

the role of a man is to procreate and provide. the role of a woman is to procreate and nurture. if a woman decides to have other "dreams" outside her role, it is for her to make it work without disturbing the balance in her home.

the children belong to both parents. stop this nonsense of your children. The reality is that in life the children benefit the mother more than the father. most men end up ignored later by the wife and children in life despite having children wherasmost women end up being looked after by their children so stop this emotional gaslighting of "your children".

if you let your wife gaslight you with this "your children" nonsense by the time you find out youve been manipulated and what marraige is really about it will be too late. Most men who live to old age die miserable and with regret despite having children because they didnt prioritize themselves.

Support your wife yes but as a man dont be gaslighted into adding a role that is not yours, life is hard enough for men with little benefits or appreciation.

Smartcitizen:
For you to have five children at this challenging times shows how irresponsible and useless you are.

This is just disgusting, people should take children spacing and birth control very seriously o!



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If they can comfortably afford to cater for 5 children why is it your headache?

irumole1975:
✓ @chopbeleful100.. a man earn $174k before tax and 41% of this money go to ti his ex wife as CS and alimony. CS and alimony is untaxed for the receiver but taxes for the givers. This is the reason western MEN don’t initiate divorce despite the shege they’re seeing (they cook, provide, do laundry, get disrespected and masculinity down the drain, get cheated on and get to raise bastarrd, their women withold sex until the man take our the thrash ) and their wife barely do anything. They know if they initiate divorce despite the shege, they will lose on all front. The women mostly initiate when she’s tired and want to get his money and chance to fvvk other rich without accountability
Western men have it worse the most. The only way you can live in the west without ur self worh being questioned is never procreate, never marry, do protection for urself so ur sperm don’t get to give anyone oregano and never discus this, that way u can enjoy sex without the bs that come after it. Invest in ur looks

Nonsense and egreedient! 😩😩😩

Western men don't initiate divorce, yet the numbers in the U.S. alone indicate that 30-31% of divorces are initiated by men. Of the divorces initiated by the women, infidelity/husband's affair was cited as one of the many contributing factors—it is the primary reason. This points to men willing to engage in affairs rather than choose divorce first, leading to the wives who find themselves in the middle needing to initiate divorce in their stead.

I detest broken families but live by the philosophy to make a mature separation agreement in peace. I have to take the case of the cool headed wife in this situation.
She probably knew that Mr. Man had a husband stealing side-chick for a while and carefully planned her check-mate chess move. I'm guessing the side-chick already backed out of the subterfuge with Mr. Man.

McboG:
Would you be so kind as to tell us who allotted these roles and how they arrived at the decision? Were the roles assigned at the famous Universal Congress of the Sexes, which is held every decade, and to which each sex sends elected representatives? Or did you consult individual men and women for their opinion and derived the rule from the majority position?

It is your view that is the embarrassing one. This isn't the 50s. You have no authority to assign gender roles, nor does anyone else. People are free to configure their family lives as they please.

If, as a man, you would prefer a partner who has no will apart from yours and no ambition apart from what you permit, then I hope you find someone who is alright with being subjugated, who wishes only to be provided for and to produce children. That is your prerogative. But don't ever pretend that your medieval fetish is some kind of universal truth.

Women have as much right as any man to personal and professional aspirations, and there are many men who rightly and actively support their spouses in those pursuits.

You say men die early because they do not "prioritize themselves". Do you not see the contradiction in that view? If it is his role to provide, how can he also prioritize himself? Do you not see that it is also in the man's economic interest for the woman to excel in her chosen field?

Finally, I cannot for the life of me imagine why a man would wish to remove themselves from the raising of their own children? Why on earth would you want to leave that to your wife alone? Na wa o.

Again I didn’t read your entire post.


Read your Bible or Koran. Or watch animals in their natural habitat. Perhaps I should also suggest you go back to school and relearn English. A woman’s role is nurturing is not the same as a man should not raise his child. I never said that. That’s your interpretation. That is down to poor English comprehension on your part. In the Raising a child a father and a mother have different roles. It’s why children without fathers always exhibit certain attributes. Because only a father can do them right….because fathers and mothers have roles designed by nature and much as you may want to wish them away you can’t. If you do consequences will manifest on the child.

I’m done with this topic. Do what you want with your life.

"She didn't seem to care about what would happen to me raising these children … I was stuck there by myself where I had to pick up the responsibilities of a broken family that she didn't seem to want to be a part of anymore."

Remove the 'she' and replace with 'he'. That's how it'll feel on the other side.
Sending money to the kids is not the same as being there........

Dzzzz:
What life on hold?..He wanted a divorce and she ran away but if na woman do am now,una call am “Mother of Dragons”..

Abroad no be Nigeria where you can just run out of marriage..That’s why child support is there to help her..How does running back to Nigeria not show she’s irresponsible and lazy?

If na woman do wetin?
What men have been doing since time?

You all are just angry because a woman beat a man to his game this time.
At least, she went back to her family in Nigeria.

If he had left her first with the children, and gone to be with another woman (which he most likely would), men like you would've taunted her that it must've been her fault that he left, so what the heck!

(If you guys can blame May, as cool as she appears, who won't you blame?)

The truth is, most men of this generation don't deserve women's loyalty/devotion.
You people betray easily, just to spite, and that is the truth.

dequir:
Which one be piom, piom, piom? Please many of us are kids on this platform. Don't corrupt us o.

Piom piom piom means agaracha naa.
That is, waka-waka men wey their legs no dey stay for house.

Mariangeles:
If na woman do wetin?
What men have been doing since time?

You all are just angry because a woman beat a man to his game this time.
At least, she went back to her family in Nigeria.

If he had left her first with the children, and gone to be with another woman (which he most likely would), men like you would've taunted her that it must've been her fault that he left, so what the heck!

(If you guys can blame May, as cool as she appears, who won't you blame?)

The truth is, most men of this generation don't deserve women's loyalty/devotion.
You people betray easily, just to spite, and that is the truth.

Someone sat down with her and spoke out and you call it “leaving”he simply asked for divorce so what other respectful is he suppose to do it?..You talk like he packed up without telling her..If she was successful than the guy the story for done change..You same ladies always broke shame a man without money and now you feel the man messed up😒

Dzzzz:
Someone sat down with her and spoke out and you call it “leaving”he simply asked for divorce so what other respectful is he suppose to do it?..You talk like he packed up without telling her..If she was successful than the guy the story for done change..You same ladies always broke shame a man without money and now you feel the man messed up😒

He was going to leave the next day (and without the kids too), and she beat him to it.

He should deal with it. Period.

Chopbeleful100:
See what all this transgendered are saying,ok let us turn the table upside down can that woman start paying for the children upkeep

Even here in the U.S., the average is not that much as it depends on how much each of the individuals make.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the average monthly child support payment across the United States is approximately $430. However, this figure varies significantly based on factors such as parental income, the number of children, and unique circumstances that affect financial obligations.

Paying that amount for the woman who, according to the man, has a master's degree will be no big deal. Even better, she can divide that amount in two if she chooses shared custody of the children.

Mariangeles:
He was going to leave the next day (and without the kids too), and she beat him to it.

He should deal with it. Period.

He will deal with it…It’s not the first time and won’t be the last..

Dzzzz:
He will deal with it…It’s not the first time and won’t be the last..

Good.😌

I'm sure by now, he respects and longs for her more.

Make una good, make una woman help una hashiela una life, una say no. Ngwanu!

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜In your gender's bid to forcefully equate yourselves with men, you will never fail to harm yourselves. Most men will very happily take the kids, how many men you know give up their kids in the event of a divorce without a fight? Most women scramble to have the kids so they can use them for blackmail.

Most men? Yet in over 90% of the cases, rather than fight for shared custody, many would rather the woman have full custody while they go off complaining of how much they have to send her as support.

Nigerian women need to normalize giving the man full custody of his children or at least settle for nothing less than shared custody.

lincs25:
➜Similar issue I am trying to resolve between a friend and his wife, after giving birth to five children with the wife he is considering divorce. I am telling him he will regret this decision but he is head bent. He want to leave the wife with the children.

You should be telling the wife instead to ensure she settles for nothing less than shared custody of the children, abeg!

Mariangeles:
Good.😌

I'm sure by now, he respects and longs for her more.

Make una good, make una woman help una hashiela una life, una say no. Ngwanu!

Hmmm na this one you happy but other ones now you go support your fellow woman even if na bad

The man is ignorant, he is thinking that he will go and leave the woman with liability and responsibility and got married to another woman and settled down. I am telling him to better settle with this woman since their issues is not infidelity.

Kobojunkie:
You should be telling the wife instead to ensure she settles for nothing less than shared custody of the children, abeg!

Dzzzz:
Hmmm na this one you happy but other ones now you go support your fellow woman even if na bad

I no dey support bad thing.

Anything wey no dey right, I dey call am out, whether na man or woman dey involved.

In this case, the man goofed.

lincs25:
➜The man is ignorant, he is thinking that he will go and leave the woman with liability and responsibility and got married to another woman and settled down. I am telling him to better settle with this woman since their issues is not infidelity.

Well, the man has a right to demand a divorce from his wife. He already has the idea in mind, so I don't think there is a need to keep him from doing what he wants. Rather, the wife should begin now making plans for her own future, particularly custody of the children. She should not settle for full custody; she is likely to regret it, as that would mean she would not be able to live her own life.

cococandy:
1) How many men are making $174k in America?

2) The average child support in the USA is around $700/month. That’s less than $10k a year. Definitely not 41% of $174k.

3) if you’re paying alimony to an ex-spouse, it’s because they were a stay at home parent. Which in most cases is what these men want from their women. A woman who’s sitting at home catering to their needs. Yea you have to pay the cost to be the boss. Women with stay at home husbands pay it too. But trust y’all to be victims and never say the full truth. I know women who are paying alimony to their exes.

4) I love that bit in bold so much. I really agree and hope you keep teaching other guys this way. Stop procreating. Stop marrying. Leave women alone. Statistically the number of happier women (not saddled with deadbeat dads) will explode.

Child support is based on the amount you earn as the payer, and sometimes court use a computed sum (= amount you’re supposed to earn) if you have a low paying job. For instance, a man with a PhD who currently earn $70k. Court won’t use this, they will use an input sum. He might end up paying 40% of that salary in CS and alimony.


FYI, women chase marriage more than men. As that’s the only guarantee of security for them. It guarantee them access to the man’s money, provision, free housing u don’t have to pay rent, foods, everything in her life get taken care of by the virtue of coming to the world with a vagina that men desire. Without marriage, the only place u can ruin a man is when he has a child with you.

Remove sex and 95% of what women can offer in a marriage reduced to zero. That’s why it’s the only thing you use as a bargaining chip.

In Nigerian context, u don’t see men in church praying to get married. We know the demography we find doing that. Women will always use marriage as leverage.

As a man, I have zero interest in procreating in the western world, zero interest in marriage or having a woman live under my roof and enjoy what I have to offer. You know what I have interest in? Sex yeah sex! It’s the reason I take care of my body, I invest in my look a lot that mere looking at me mean sex without having to sweat it. Zero interest in women beyond sex but that’s just me. In the US, looks will get you more sex than kindness or money ever will..and again that’s why I invest in my looks. I know I look hot so I deserve whatever I get

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense and egreedient! 😩😩😩

Western men don't initiate divorce, yet the numbers in the U.S. alone indicate that 30-31% of divorces are initiated by men. Of the divorces initiated by the women, infidelity/husband's affair was cited as one of the many contributing factors—it is the primary reason. This points to men willing to engage in affairs rather than choose divorce first, leading to the wives who find themselves in the middle needing to initiate divorce in their stead.

Western men rarely do. Most are dunce and dumb no
Thanks to women emasculating them.

Child support is based on the amount you earn as the payer, and sometimes court use a computed sum (= amount you’re supposed to earn) if you have a low paying job. For instance, a man with a PhD who currently earn $70k. Court won’t use this, they will use an input sum. He might end up paying 40% of that salary in CS and alimony.


FYI, women chase marriage more than men. As that’s the only guarantee of security for them. It guarantee them access to the man’s money, provision, free housing u don’t have to pay rent, foods, everything in her life get taken care of by the virtue of coming to the world with a vagina that men desire. Without marriage, the only place u can ruin a man is when he has a child with you.

Remove sex and 95% of what women can offer in a marriage reduced to zero. That’s why it’s the only thing you use as a bargaining chip.

In Nigerian context, u don’t see men in church praying to get married. We know the demography we find doing that. Women will always use marriage as leverage.

As a man, I have zero interest in procreating in the western world, zero interest in marriage or having a woman live under my roof and enjoy what I have to offer. You know what I have interest in? Sex yeah sex! It’s the reason I take care of my body, I invest in my look a lot that mere looking at me mean sex without having to sweat it. Zero interest in women beyond sex but that’s just me. In the US, looks will get you more sex than kindness or money ever will..and again that’s why I invest in my looks. I know I look hot so I deserve whatever I get

irumole1975:
➜Western men rarely do. Most are dunce and dumb no.Thanks to women emasculating them.
Child support is based on the amount you earn as the payer, and sometimes court use a computed sum (= amount you’re supposed to earn) if you have a low paying job. For instance, a man with a PhD who currently earn $70k. Court won’t use this, they will use an input sum. He might end up paying 40% of that salary in CS and alimony.
FYI, women chase marriage more than men. As that’s the only guarantee of security for them. It guarantee them access to the man’s money, provision, free housing u don’t have to pay rent, foods, everything in her life get taken care of by the virtue of coming to the world with a vagina that men desire. Without marriage, the only place u can ruin a man is when he has a child with you.
Remove sex and 95% of what women can offer in a marriage reduced to zero. That’s why it’s the only thing you use as a bargaining chip.
In Nigerian context, u don’t see men in church praying to get married. We know the demography we find doing that. Women will always use marriage as leverage
As a man, I have zero interest in procreating in the western world, zero interest in marriage or having a woman live under my roof and enjoy what I have to offer. You know what I have interest in? Sex yeah sex! It’s the reason I take care of my body, I invest in my look a lot that mere looking at me mean sex without having to sweat it. Zero interest in women beyond sex but that’s just me. In the US, looks will get you more sex than kindness or money ever will..and again that’s why I invest in my looks. I know I look hot so I deserve whatever I get

This one thinks the world runs on the safe bullsheet he has stored up in his tiny brain. Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

McboG:
Would you be so kind as to tell us who allotted these roles and how they arrived at the decision? Were the roles assigned at the famous Universal Congress of the Sexes, which is held every decade, and to which each sex sends elected representatives? Or did you consult individual men and women for their opinion and derived the rule from the majority position?

It is your view that is the embarrassing one. This isn't the 50s. You have no authority to assign gender roles, nor does anyone else. People are free to configure their family lives as they please.

If, as a man, you would prefer a partner who has no will apart from yours and no ambition apart from what you permit, then I hope you find someone who is alright with being subjugated, who wishes only to be provided for and to produce children. That is your prerogative. But don't ever pretend that your medieval fetish is some kind of universal truth.

Women have as much right as any man to personal and professional aspirations, and there are many men who rightly and actively support their spouses in those pursuits.

You say men die early because they do not "prioritize themselves". Do you not see the contradiction in that view? If it is his role to provide, how can he also prioritize himself? Do you not see that it is also in the man's economic interest for the woman to excel in her chosen field?

Finally, I cannot for the life of me imagine why a person would wish to remove themselves from the raising of their own children? Why on earth would you want to leave that to your wife alone? Na wa o.

One is here supporting the person you quoted and at the same time bashing Toke on another thread. You don't want to raise your own child and you are triggered when women who have the one thing you can offer (provision) choose to raise their kids without you that will come with drama and tears. When the kids do not send them at latter years, they will blame the wife for manipulating the child. Very incorrigible set that want to remain in their evil ways and gaslight women into seeing it as normal.

Mariangeles:
I no dey support bad thing.

Anything wey no dey right, I dey call am out, whether na man or woman dey involved.

In this case, the man goofed.

Ok na..

Esthered:
Ehya!
I'm a chartered accountant, a banker and a mum of 2 pursuing my DREAMS VIGOROUSLY with my husband's support as my children need not look too far for inspiration in the future.

When I was thinking of slowing down, a senior colleague whose husband works in a top IOC and she goes on vacation abroad often told me to pursue my dreams with the right support system. The babe was promoted last month and awaiting to receive her official car.

anyone can tell stories

When you have less than one percent of such stories, it makes my notions right by induction

Govt should step in and take the 5 kids. 2 irresponsible adults have no business having kids.

Lionnation:
anyone can tell stories

When you have less than one percent of such stories, it makes my notions right by induction

True, I am just a 16 years old keyboard warrior with no dream as it's just stories.

Where's the statistics to prove that are less than 1%?
You're right to yourself only and NEVER to people of high value who are doing exploits and making impacts

Isn't it better to ensure that you don't raise females or get entangled with us. I see no reason a man won't encourage the women in his life to dream big. Anyways people like you are just superior here (I doubt but lemme massage a non-existent ego small) and never beyond the keyboard.