₦airaland Forum

xtianchris:
➜A girl child will do the needful.. Male Children hardly look back to their mother highest they can do is to provide funds and look for who to pay to take care. So please try get female daughter... E get why. My mom gave birth to 6 boys no girls .So I'm talking from experience..Left for me I would have adopted but I want my own blood.. Hope you get the message ..My boys are responsible but I always know they have their lives to live. I don't want to be a burden to anyone..So I'm already planning my life. I'm still young though just 33 ..

xtianchris:
Exactly why atleat a girl child is commendable...

MiddleDimension:
➜At this point, reasonable men need to ask what the point is in getting married, with all the depressing posts we have the misfortune of reading here. Why keep pretending and not wake up to smell the coffee that marriage and the idea of a ''wife'' is not what it use to be and then choose to ditch the institution once and for all?
➜ This is made more pertinent when we see that divorce is everywhere around us today and that the 'wife' is not suppose to be much of a priority to you since the next moment, you can both go your seperate ways?

Kobojunkieee:
A girlchild, you say? You people are just wicked to the core is all!

When my grandmother was sick and unable to do much back in the early 2000s— this was before she passed away several years later —, her son, who was unmarried at the time, was the one who cared for her right there in Nigeria. My uncle was in his late 50s at the time this happened. He didn't get married until about 10 years after she had passed. He hired a helper at the time who worked as her caregiver right there in his house. She was the one who stayed with my grandmother 24/7 until the end.

This happened right there in Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
It is one thing to have your mother visit as a guest for a day or two, but having her over on a longstay or worse, because she is sick, then you need to be upfront and better negotiate her stay and care with your marriage partner.

Does the man and his wife have space for her during her stay? Will the man be responsible for his mother's care throughout her stay, or is this a ploy to bring in another human burden for his wife to have to deal with? Conversely, the man can easily send his mother to a care home or something where she would be better cared for.

Kobojunkieee:
Nonsense!

I bet if your father were the sick one, you would also roll it up as a girl child's responsibility then too. 🙄🙄

bolademi:
Calm down let her stay in ur sister place and when her own people too want to come stop them from coming. Simple

IamMobisola:
According to the story, it is the husband's mother that is sick right? The question is, why can't the husband take care of his OWN MOTHER by HIMSELF without shifting the responsibility to his wife who still has her own parents to take care of.

Parents give birth so their children can take care of them when they grow old, not someone else's child.

xtianchris:
Why are you bittered. I still stand by my word. I bet you can even resign I leave your Job as a provider of your family to take care of your sick Daddy. If you like no go get girl child na oyo be your name .. Your sons have their own responsibility. They can only provide a care giver . I have sat with Men matured men and discussed about family I can authoritatively most of them all say their daughters look out for them ..I BET YOU Don't have your Family.
If you don't you won't say trash. ..Don't forget to get a female child or adopt . If not you go suffer for Naija ..

Mabuggi88:
Who be this one

Acidosis:
The permission of whoever will take care of your mother needs to be sought. If you have never taken care of an elderly man or woman, feeding them, making them their favourite meals, engaging them in small talks, or even changing diapers, and so on, you should calm down and learn. Even if you are going to employ a maid and pay them, you still need to be patient; otherwise, you may come home one day and find your parent halfway gone to the world beyond. No be by gra gra or cho cho cho.

Imagine someone who spends almost his entire day in the office raising shoulders 😂 The first step to prove this so called love for your mother would be to resign and spend at least 80% of your time with them. Anybody with an extra room and bed can invite whoever. Lol. It is insanity to think and demand that another person do your job for you because you married them with yam, coconut, and a keg of palm wine.

bolademi:
➜Calm down let her stay in ur sister place and when her own people too want to come stop them from coming. Simple

xtianchris:
➜Why are you bittered. I still stand by my word. I bet you can even resign I leave your Job as a provider of your family to take care of your sick Daddy. If you like no go get girl child na oyo be your name .. Your sons have their own responsibility. They can only provide a care giver . I have sat with Men matured men and discussed about family I can authoritatively most of them all say their daughters look out for them ..I BET YOU Don't have your Family.
If you don't you won't say trash. ..Don't forget to get a female child or adopt . If not you go suffer for Naija ..

pocohantas:
Many daughters are not jobless.
Definitely not in 2025. We are not on earth to keep tending to everyone. From kids to our parents and now in-laws. It is actually exhausting and leads to a range of emotions in middle-aged women. Men should learn to be caregivers. It is not beneath them. I work and still look out for my parents. I fail to see one reason a man cannot do it too.

Kobojunkie:
Because you assume the unemployed sister has a place for her to stay, right?

Kobojunkie:
Because you assume the unemployed sister has a place for her to stay, right?

EmperorIsaac:
He should get a house for his mum, employ a maid for her, and move there for as long as the mother lives or until she recovers. I don't have time for useless women.

xtianchris:
Please read again and use the bolded word and count your teeth...

Tony609:
➜For what in my own house. I didn't joke with my family, my wife knows it, especially my mum.

Kobojunkieee:
Marriage has always been an optional investment for both males and females. That you have not realized it at this point in your existence is only a show of your level of maturity and nothing else.

2. Divorce has always been everywhere from the get-go. In 1980, for instance, divorce rates in Plateau State were recorded at about 80%. So, I am not certain why you are of the delusion that divorce is suddenly everywhere only now.

descarado:
Love the ladies of today. What happened to their mothers na big lesson. No one is gonna put up with that anymore.

When my father in law came to my house reluctantly, he came with his personal assistant. Guy was helping in the house too. I just put to bed. Hubby that I see only in the evening. I maximised it to fullest and ended up with good deal . He do not have a daughter so I'm the only woman in the family.
I learnt a lot from those around me. Ain't nobody making a slave out of me.

InvertedHammer:
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At old age, you can only count on your daughter(s) for care.

If capable, a son may only provide financial assistance.

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tanigororo:
I no understand, so he need her permission to bring his own mother to his own house.
Make she go her Papa house if she doesn't want the responsibility.

pocohantas:
See the way he is saying have a girl child. Some will tell you to born girl first, so she can help you with the others. Yesterday I had to ask my dad, do you people even ask if I need support too? Abi I no be human being?

The same daughters they think are inferior to boys should be caregivers __unpaid caregivers. After we are done looking after kids, we look after our parents, then wait for our husbands to get old too and look after him. All this for them to turn angry tigers at the mention of alimony. Mtcheeew.

pocohantas:
Many daughters are not jobless.
Definitely not in 2025. We are not on earth to keep tending to everyone. From kids to our parents and now in-laws. Even husband wants us younger so we can look after him when he is old. It is actually exhausting and leads to a range of emotions in middle-aged women. Men should learn to be caregivers. It is not beneath them[b]. I work and still look out for my parents. I fail to see one reason a man cannot do it too.[/b]

xtianchris:
you all missing my point...I Still stand Girls are indeed helpers.. Boys to some extent... I stand by that I say.

pocohantas:
I didn't ask you not to stand by what you say. I said you should learn to care for your own parents. It is not rocket science.

Kobojunkie:
I see you are not able to reason outside of the box that you were raised in. I will choose to walk away at this point in time.