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Most of these foolish things thrive cause we have a lot of failed parenting in our society today. A unknown entity will dictate on how to run your life? It's mind boggling.

Gerrard59:
It would be dishonest to criticise GehGeh without criticising Ndi feminazis who ruled the Internet space between 2015 - 2020. Then, person no fit drink water drop cup. Men lost jobs and got "cancelled". Uloma abi Ulxma, the cheerleader, once called for the kpai-ing of men. Whether she knows her father is a man or not, I don't know. Nkechi Bianeze has been on Facebook championing "iron condemn preek". There's Saidiboj who has mocked "broke men" endlessly. Nigerian broke men don suffer sef. They get a lot of insults, one would think Nigeria is a wealthy nation.

Allow GehGeh to be. I've watched only one of his videos as I find most of his ideologies to be unrealistic. Nigerian men love sex and would pay anything to put the head inside. So, most of what he says won't be implemented. Nevertheless, he's a necessary evil as it's Ogbono for Ogbono.

May the best wo(man) win. No has the monopoly to gender brouhaha.

So him saying men should be more frugal and avoid spending women who use them for resources is unrealistic ideology?

Gerrard...you need to wake up

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immortalcrown:
1.
Any man listening to that guy had already started running from his responsibilities or has been searching for a means of dodging his responsibility before he came across the guy. Stop blaming the guy. It is not the maker of torn clothes that is responsible for madness. Those who locate and put on torn clothes were already mad before coming across the torn clothes. Gege or whatsoever he is called does not convert men. He only encourages or coaches those who already have his mindset.

2.
The second to the last paragraph in your post is totally fallacious. If women becoming men is a choice of survival, men becoming women is also a choice of survival and not a choice of weakness.

3.
If you want to preach the Bible, I will agree with you that men are created to provide for women. But if you want to follow the way the world is going, men are no longer supposed to provide for women every time. A man should provide for his woman if the woman does not have. But if the woman has her own money, why should she save it so that the man will be the one spending his own or her?
Women are now equally being empowered the same way men are being empowered. Women now go to school and get jobs. If it was in the past when only men were empowered, when only men were trained in school and offered jobs, I will agree that it remains the responsibility of men to be providing for women. If men should continue to provide all the financial needs of women now that women are equally empowered, what then is the essence of empowering women? If women want all their needs to be provided by men, then the women should focus on opening their legs in bedrooms and nursing children, the women should not bother about going to school and competing with men in the job market.

4.
Your analysis is not balanced. In other words, it is one-sided. Men are not the only problem. Women are equally part of the problem. People like Gege and his fellows are warming up because more women are becoming more materialistic in this generation. In the past, a disciplined or decent man can use his good personality to attract a woman. But today on average, only a man with money attracts almost every woman in his environment. In today's world, a male criminal that has wealth can get any woman of his choice while it is almost impossible for a decent man that doesn't have money to get a woman of his choice. There are also Saidaboj and her followers. So, don't address the issue halfway.

Talismann:
gehgeh the clown is just smiling to the bank everytime. Merely looking at him, he has nothing to offer anyone. He loves that niche. He very much enjoys rage baiting his male audience and that's the only way he can cash out.

if you as a man think you can run from responsibilities you are only living in self denial.

You only get respected and cherished by, first what you can offer regardless of who is eating it and secondly, the people you raise up.

You dad, your mum, your girlfriend, your kids, your church, your wife, your neighbors, even strangers. You are responsible for them in varying capacities.

Nobody loves you unconditionally, even your mother. If you become a failure and can't take of her at old age, she will prefer others who can. Let's not deceive ourselves.

That is what makes a man, a MAN.
Any other thing is an illusion

Accept this truth today

Simply say your definition of man is slavery. What is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. Life is give and and take, anything short of that is unbalanced relationship. My advise to men is give as much as you receive. I don't support slavery in the name of proving to be a man. If you chose not to respect me for prioritising myself,I cut you off.

PresidentMUGABE:
I'm scared for Nigerian women in the next 10 to 15 years. When I look at Gegeh's doctrines and the number of young men who followed him, lots of Nigerian women will face a massive decline in masculine men.

Therefore there will be lots of masculine women. Gehgeh is teaching men not to be responsible. Running away from responsibility, which is one of the principles of turning a boy into a man.

This isn't rocket science! If the men are running away from being responsible men who work and take care of themselves and their women, the women will have to work hard and become the men they wish they had.

Sadly, the same men will hate their women because they will become aggressive, competitive, less agreeable, dominant and masculine traits are opposing to men in the dating market.

Women are not built to face toughness. Men are built for it. Men becoming women is a choice of weakness; women becoming men is a choice of survival.

We need men to be men and women to be women. It's what its...

u b woman?
A man is only responsible to his family. If you are not his mother, wife, sister or daughter. No b hin go take care of u.

Another nui..sance is on facebook by name indiscov,mehn that man needs to be arrested.

taiwocosmetic:
Omo, this your take get as e be o. But truth dey inside am. 🤔

The way things dey go, many young guys dey buy into this “avoid responsibility, avoid women” doctrine, and na women go bear the brunt last-last. If men no wan carry responsibility again, women go double their hustle, and before you know am, dem go dey take up masculine roles wey dem no even really want — na survival mode.

The irony be say, the same men go still dey complain say Nigerian women don too "strong-headed" or "no dey submissive." But how woman go soft when she dey carry wetin man suppose carry?

At the same time, some of these so-called masculine women no even enjoy am. Deep down, dem wan relax make man lead, but if man no gree lead, person no fit just fold hand watch life pass.

For me, the balance no dey again. Masculinity no just mean to shout or flex; e mean responsibility. And femininity no mean weakness; e mean support and nurture. If we dey swap roles because of doctrines like Gegeh own, the family structure go dey shake well well.

Na why e important make men gree be men, women gree be women. Because if line blur too much, na chaos go full ground.

But bros, no be to just blame men or women — society sef dey push this thing. High cost of living, bad governance, peer pressure… all dey add fire.

Las las, everybody go dey claim strong, but inside, loneliness and resentment go plenty.
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Make I ask you though — you think say Nigerian women go actually adapt fully to being masculine, or e go just reach breaking point where both sides go reset?

Why are you sounding like pidgin Grok?

Don27tiky:
you finished saying ‘ Any ADULT that needs another ADULT to indoctrinate him/her is not yet an ADULT.‘’. But use another person quote to begin your explanation. Didn’t you realize you just used another adult to ‘’INDOCTRINATE’’ yourself. Are you saying you too is not an Adult?

So, using a person's quote to buttress one's point is tantamount to indoctrination? E be like sey Sunday School Graduate dem plenty for Nairaland o.

Dude, what did you score in your UTME's USE OF ENGLISH? Because it's becoming crystal clear that you didn't pass it.

To set the record straight; quoting a person is merely referencing or alluding to the person's opinion. Whether you actually believe it or not is another story. It doesn't connote indoctrination in any way. Perhaps you should check both the ethymological & contextual meaning of indoctrination before embarrassing yourself on a public forum.

Wetin una dey smoke gan self?

Hhh4444:
is religion not indoctrination? You are expected to believe something that is not proven and sometimes by force.

Wetin concern religion with my post? Or are you sleep-typing ni?

The fact that you folks keep mentioning me to regurgitate the same hocus-pocus belies good reasoning.

For the record, I said that; "Any adult that allows himself to be indoctrinated by another adult is not yet an adult". Rather than cogitate deeply on the philosophical meaning and implication of my assertion, you Night School Graduates have been hyperventilating on my mentions by alluding to my assertions meanings that are wide off the mark.

Please ehn, I'm having a headache in my stomach this evening. I have neither the vigour nor the patience to educate you folks. Make una go play with sand abeg.

#Picks_tooth

illicit:
I listen to myself alone and alone

That's how I have been surviving

Keep up the good work.

Same here, I don't follow trends, crowd mentality and I mind my business to the core.

ravensckar:
Wetin concern religion with my post? Or are you sleep-typing ni?

The fact that you folks keep mentioning me to regurgitate the same hocus-pocus belies good reasoning.

For the record, I said that; "Any adult that allows himself to be indoctrinated by another adult is not yet an adult". Rather than cogitate deeply on the philosophical meaning and implication of my assertion, you Night School Graduates have been hyperventilating on my mentions by alluding to my assertions meanings that are wide off the mark.

Please ehn, I'm having a headache in my stomach this evening. I have neither the vigour nor the patience to educate you folks. Make una go play with sand abeg.

#Picks_tooth

nobody is completely shielded from indoctrination. Knowingly or unknowingly we are all getting indoctrinated. A lot of brainwashing is going on through media programming, Religion, government,school, family,culture,jobs,societal values e.t.c. it would be self-deception to think you are completely immune to all these forces i mentioned.

Caaz:
Another nui..sance is on facebook by name indiscov,mehn that man needs to be arrested.

why arrest him? The guy is spilling the raw truth as it is. You are allergic to hearing truth abi

GehGeh is trying to enrich himself via contents.

You are there believing him.

He doesn't even practise what he preaches.

PresidentMUGABE:
I'm scared for Nigerian women in the next 10 to 15 years. When I look at Gegeh's doctrines and the number of young men who followed him, lots of Nigerian women will face a massive decline in masculine men.

Therefore there will be lots of masculine women. Gehgeh is teaching men not to be responsible. Running away from responsibility, which is one of the principles of turning a boy into a man.

This isn't rocket science! If the men are running away from being responsible men who work and take care of themselves and their women, the women will have to work hard and become the men they wish they had.

Sadly, the same men will hate their women because they will become aggressive, competitive, less agreeable, dominant and masculine traits are opposing to men in the dating market.

Women are not built to face toughness. Men are built for it. Men becoming women is a choice of weakness; women becoming men is a choice of survival.

We need men to be men and women to be women. It's what its...

There is a big difference between masculinity and responsibility. I get your point tho but men need to breathe too. Women have gone over board

This is a well planned post, the op and the first 30 comments are all crafted and in support of the OP,.


Ghe ghe is spitting truth and only lazy women and Simps are angry at him. I mean where is the society moving to with the likes of Saidaboj,?..... what's Ghe Ghe preaching? Is something we all know and talk about.... what's the problem here?

franchasng:
My brother the world will keep running in a cycle.

Check fashion trend, some of the trendy fashion today were what our fathers wore in the ancient times.

Today youths want to dress half naked, indirectly they want to go back to Adam's era.


By the time they exhaust that, the new generation will come back to adopt the full clothedness again and it continues to cycle like that.


In the past, men enjoyed being the sole provider for their woman and breadwinner of the family, it made them feel masculine and complete, western culture brought the shared responsibility based on feminism that preached gender equality. Before then, men has upper hand in securing good jobs and all that, but with gender equality gaining ground, things changed as women now had better opportunities in certain jobs and fields. Today it's almost on equal basis, no longer gender based. Couples now share roles and responsibilities because most women now earn more than their husbands, things that never happened in the ancient times.


Gradually women now want to take up men's roles while men wish to take on women roles or run away from responsibilities.


So don't worry, it's part of life's cycle, it will surely get to that stage and then humans will want to revert back to the old ways where women stayed at home to care for the home/kids while the men went out to work and bring back bread.

These things are nothing but cycles of life that nobody can tame except time. Only time can tame it

Loud am oo.. since we are equal,lets be equal properly.

NNEVERAGAINN:
the thing be say,

Time dey come when men nor go look women face again.

because knowledge dun make us open eyes (to get awareness), and the economy dey tell on everyone just as you pointed. No man one marry woman when lazy. Sex self dey tire person!

It's already happening.

Personally, Women hardly comes to my mind these days. It's not hatred or grudges.

My full concentration is on my FUTURE and my intending offsprings.

Morso as you pointed out, The Diaplated Economy is a very big factor which has contributed to all this brouhaha

Any Woman who will come into my life at this moment has to be my helpful soulmate.

Jeje247:
It's not always good to learn from personal experience. Sometimes you learn from others mistakes.. If I had taken relationship matters seriously and learnt from experienced people, I probably wouldn't have experienced the trauma I went through 3 years ago. I thought I found love and left my self exposed. My heart was torn into shreds without remorse by a Nigerian woman.
Thread cautiously and spend wisely

I never said I don't learn

I am educated formally and informally

Listening is a different thing

Juoflife1:
My advice to men is to remain men. If you guys masculine women, it will not be in your favour. The only upper hand you have is that you make more money than women. I won't say much.

Sweetheart, Please come back here and say more. I want to learn from you.

For just about one week that I have not been here, which one come be gehgeh again?

What responsibilities, please?

Since when did dating a woman become an avenue of inheriting responsibilities?

You people turned relationships to poverty alleviation schemes.

luminouz:
So him saying men should be more frugal and avoid spending women who use them for resources is unrealistic ideology?
Gerrard...you need to wake up

I said most of his ideologies are unrealistic, not all. Telling men to avoid paying the school fees of a girl he is not married to is realistic and makes sense. However, the other ideologies are not realistic. Our men would continue to spend on women, both related and unrelated. When it comes to sex, our men go all the way to spend. Sex is where women have the upper hand.

immortalcrown:
1.
Any man listening to that guy had already started running from his responsibilities or has been searching for a means of dodging his responsibility before he came across the guy. Stop blaming the guy. It is not the maker of torn clothes that is responsible for madness. Those who locate and put on torn clothes were already mad before coming across the torn clothes. Gege or whatsoever he is called does not convert men. He only encourages or coaches those who already have his mindset.

2.
The second to the last paragraph in your post is totally fallacious. If women becoming men is a choice of survival, men becoming women is also a choice of survival and not a choice of weakness.

3.
If you want to preach the Bible, I will agree with you that men are created to provide for women. But if you want to follow the way the world is going, men are no longer supposed to provide for women every time. A man should provide for his woman if the woman does not have. But if the woman has her own money, why should she save it so that the man will be the one spending his own or her?
Women are now equally being empowered the same way men are being empowered. Women now go to school and get jobs. If it was in the past when only men were empowered, when only men were trained in school and offered jobs, I will agree that it remains the responsibility of men to be providing for women. If men should continue to provide all the financial needs of women now that women are equally empowered, what then is the essence of empowering women? If women want all their needs to be provided by men, then the women should focus on opening their legs in bedrooms and nursing children, the women should not bother about going to school and competing with men in the job market.

4.
Your analysis is not balanced. In other words, it is one-sided. Men are not the only problem. Women are equally part of the problem. People like Gege and his fellows are warming up because more women are becoming more materialistic in this generation. In the past, a disciplined or decent man can use his good personality to attract a woman. But today on average, only a man with money attracts almost every woman in his environment. In today's world, a male criminal that has wealth can get any woman of his choice while it is almost impossible for a decent man that doesn't have money to get a woman of his choice. There are also Saidaboj and her followers. So, don't address the issue halfway.

You are now sounding like Gehgeh himself. I like that. The points you made in that number 3 especially the bolden part is exactly what Gehgeh teaches and no right thinking person should dispute that. The truth is, no matter how we try to deny it, that guy makes a lot of sense.

PresidentMUGABE:
I'm scared for Nigerian women in the next 10 to 15 years. When I look at Gegeh's doctrines and the number of young men who followed him, lots of Nigerian women will face a massive decline in masculine men.

Therefore there will be lots of masculine women. Gehgeh is teaching men not to be responsible. Running away from responsibility, which is one of the principles of turning a boy into a man.

This isn't rocket science! If the men are running away from being responsible men who work and take care of themselves and their women, the women will have to work hard and become the men they wish they had.

Sadly, the same men will hate their women because they will become aggressive, competitive, less agreeable, dominant and masculine traits are opposing to men in the dating market.

Women are not built to face toughness. Men are built for it. Men becoming women is a choice of weakness; women becoming men is a choice of survival.

We need men to be men and women to be women. It's what its...

Your level of ignorance is second to none!
What the guy (Gehgeh) is talking about is taking the responsibility of a girl/woman who is not your wife.
The mentality of an average Nigerian girl is that, the moment you ask her out, you’re automatically indebted to her i.e you should be sorting her financial needs. Ask your ignorant self, is that right? Many guys of ruin their lives in different ways just to please girls. Do you know that 85% of guys who go into fraud/yahoo do it because they want to satisfy girls financial cravings? It’s time for these girls to wake up and start becoming responsible as well and stop totally relying on men!

Gerrard59:
I said most of his ideologies are unrealistic, not all. Telling men to avoid paying the school fees of a girl he is not married to is realistic and makes sense. However, the other ideologies are not realistic. Our men would continue to spend on women, both related and unrelated. When it comes to sex, our men go all the way to spend. Sex is where women have the upper hand.

Don't you think if we have more men that are spending less on their women,women would start demanding or expecting less from their men?

ExudeLoveToAll:
Is being responsible footing the lifestyle if a girl or footing the lifestyle of your family? What is wrong with irresponsible men like you? A man been responsible for his girlfriend is irresponsibility but a man bren responsible for his family (wife and children) is termed responsibility. This is why most men never succeed financially because they carry responsibility that they shouldn't carry.

I can tell you after my expenses i save 7 digits monthly you know why? Because I'm mot responsible for anyone aside my parents because I'm not yet married, will you now call me irreponsible for not picking the bills of another adult and then call me rresponsible for squandering my earnings because i pick the bills of another who isn't my family or isn't my dependant (girlfriend)? You lot should know when to start engraving yourself in poverty in the name of responsibility. Be hardworking, plan your future, save money for three purposes, transactionary, speculative and precautionary purposes else you will squander your future in the name of responsibility that has nothing to do with you. No man should be responsible for his girlfriend, you can gift her thesame is also applicable to her when you marry you can then be responsible for yourselves and not just from the man to the woman but also from the woman to the man

That time when women weren't allowed to work is long gone, if been masculine is becoming responsible for yourself as an adult and working to earn a living then all women should be masculine. Stop propagating laziness and irresponsibilities in the name of adults folding their arms and expecting palliatives from another adult before they can feed

This isn't about gheghe but the notion you are portraying, i can not birth a female child spend millions educating her and then she opens her mouth shouting my boyfriend should pay my bills, why then do society educate the female children if they will say this after all? I thought we were saying educating girls will make them Resilient and dependable members of the society so why are we now angry that they are been held accountable to be counted as adults?

Most reasonable comment!

pocohantas:
But an educated house wife is not bad. She can teach kids assignment. She can represent well at PTA meetings and Open Day. She has an enlightened approach to home management and other things. Even as a business person, I can most times tell if you are educated. SAHM isn't for uneducated women only. It has its downsides, but I will leave that for another day.

Can you say this for an uneducated man who earns nothing? If no then your comments are irrelevant.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Can you say this for an uneducated man who earns nothing? If no then your comments are irrelevant.

If the man would be a househusband tending to the kids, cooking and probably grow a womb to have kids _then yes. There are many men with housewives and they are doing fine. The only downside to it is possible financial abuse and lack. Maybe you can tell me what a non-providing husband can do in a NIGERIAN home and we take your relevant comment from there.

cr7lomo:
Gone are those days when men were expected to take care of their women.... women now go to school , get jobs and run businesses.... no man should be expected to take care of an adult....

Why did the woman go to school just like the man ... the same expectation bestowed upon man should be same with women....

In the case of a family where children are involved, childbirth and raising children has an effect on the woman which she may either be able to bear and return to work, or it might affect her ability to work. Hence the man doing the major financial duties.

Also based on children, someone needs to be present at home to raise them, even if such a parent is partially present. Unless you guys plan to use nannies to raise your kids.

So the woman may end up having a smaller job in this case.

pocohantas:
If the man would be a househusband tending to the kids, cooking and probably grow a womb to have kids _then yes. There are many men with housewives and they are doing fine. The only downside to it is possible financial abuse and lack. Maybe you can tell me what a non-providing husband can do in a NIGERIAN home and we take your relevant comment from there.

You see your last statement gave you out, that's what a typical Nigerian who was raised and educated to think, if he doesn't give me money then I will not open legs for him(prostitution).

The above is the reason more than 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

Thank You! You are indeed a Great Blessing to this Generation and unto Generations yet unborn, I bless the Day your wonderful Mother gave Birth to You. Thanks for your Selfless Service to Humanity, helping this Directionless Generation is not what many sacrifice Precious Time to do. May you Live Long in Sound Health to fully Fulfill your Glorious Destiny in JESUS' Supremely Powerful Name!

PresidentMUGABE:
I'm scared for Nigerian women in the next 10 to 15 years. When I look at Gegeh's doctrines and the number of young men who followed him, lots of Nigerian women will face a massive decline in masculine men.

Therefore there will be lots of masculine women. Gehgeh is teaching men not to be responsible. Running away from responsibility, which is one of the principles of turning a boy into a man.

This isn't rocket science! If the men are running away from being responsible men who work and take care of themselves and their women, the women will have to work hard and become the men they wish they had.

Sadly, the same men will hate their women because they will become aggressive, competitive, less agreeable, dominant and masculine traits are opposing to men in the dating market.

Women are not built to face toughness. Men are built for it. Men becoming women is a choice of weakness; women becoming men is a choice of survival.

We need men to be men and women to be women. It's what its...