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Sexual Purity: Why You Shouldn't "Do" Before You Say "I Do"

It's because saying "I will marry you" is different from "I have married you".

That's one of the major tricks men have used to lure several women into their beds - the promise of marriage.

But when they've gotten what they wanted from them, they would leave them for someone else.

Therefore be careful and ensure you don't "do" before you say "i do", so you don't end up having sex with someone you won't get married to.

God made sex only for married couples.

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

God bless.

Unfortunately some previously chaste women have fallen for this trick, despite their initial resolve not to sleep with any man until marriage.

They became so attached to the man, that they eventually bow to the pressure being put on them by the man, thinking it will make no difference since they will still get married.

Only for the man to leave them hanging after he's gotten what he wanted from them and then gone on to the next one.

That's how some even turn into loose women because they never recover from the first disappointment, but find themselves sinking further and further into such temptations til the point it's hard for them to ever stop after falling for the first.

Then there's also the eternal consequences attached to such acts which is why you must never "do" until you say "I do".

So you don't start what you can't finish.

God bless.

If he or she can't wait til marriage before doing it with you, it's proof the person isn't meant for you.

So flee from the person before you enter one chance.

It might not really follow…
He might not coerce you into having sex and wait till after marriage, and still be a monster…
Chastity for me should not be a litmus test to a prosperous relationship…

You do or not, it will not stop the world from moving forward.... ..

Some do and still find best happiness in their marriage while some do not do and their marriage is living hell...just find what makes u happy and do it

jesusjnr2020:
If he or she can't wait til marriage before doing it with you, it's proof the person isn't meant for you.

Dey play

Before the says such

She should be a V or we're not buying it!

So what if after marriage and the both of you are not sexually compatible,what is now the next step to take?

Emekayoung:
So what if after marriage and the both of you are not sexually compatible,what is now the next step to take?

What is the meaning of not being sexually compatible??

Many of the eligible husbands to be, go run go meet those girls wey ready to open am waa

advanceDNA:
What is the meaning of not being sexually compatible??

Are seriously asking this?
I guess you will also ask what is being genetically compatible means

Like there is no need to test for genotype because everything God made is perfect until two SS couple marries

I hope this advice is for virgins not for overspent individuals who, after enjoying themselves, begin to say NO to the person they plan to marry.

Why didn't they say NO before they got disvirgined?

NB: this applies to both genders

oluwaseyi0:
Are seriously asking this?
I guess you will also ask what is being genetically compatible means

Like there is no need to test for genotype because everything God made is perfect until two SS couple marries

U ddnt even answer the question...

There is nothing genetic about two pple fvcking each other....so I dont get why u are bringing up genetic testing .....Sex is a pleasure act tha pple perform consciously which also needs a bit of experience over time to be good at it....

So again..what does it mean for pple not to be compatible about learning how to explore each other's bodies for pleasure .....??

Globad:
I hope this advice is for virgins not for overspent individuals who, after enjoying themselves, begin to say NO to the person they plan to marry.

Why didn't they say NO before they got disvirgined?

NB: this applies to both genders

Some pple will not like this ur version.... They prefer to pretend like they don't want to fvck but are only pressured to have sex to keep the relationship ....sex they have been having since teenage years when they are not supposed to

1. Marriage Customs Were Different in the Bible
In biblical times, “marriage” was not always a church wedding or legal contract as we know today. For example, in Genesis 24:67, Isaac simply “took Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife.” There was no elaborate ceremony recorded. The act of sexual union itself often sealed the marital bond.
This shows that sex and marriage were closely linked, but not always in the modern sense of waiting for vows at the altar.

2. Promises Were Binding
While it’s true that men sometimes make false promises today, in the Old Testament, a man who slept with a woman was expected to take responsibility. In Deuteronomy 22:28–29, if a man had sex with a virgin, the law required him to marry her and never divorce her.
👉 The issue was not premarital sex in itself, but whether the man acted with responsibility and integrity afterward.

3. Polygamy and Concubines Were Common
Many biblical heroes had multiple wives and concubines (Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon). For instance, David was “a man after God’s own heart” (1 Samuel 13:14) yet had several wives and concubines. This does not mean God endorsed every act, but it shows that sexual ethics in Scripture were more nuanced than a simple “only after marriage” rule.


4. Jesus’ Teaching Focused on the Heart, Not Just the Act
In the New Testament, Jesus raised the standard by teaching that lust in the heart is already adultery (Matthew 5:27–28). This means the true focus is not merely whether sex happens before or after marriage, but whether relationships are built on love, faithfulness, and purity of intention.

5. Paul’s Advice Was Practical
In 1 Corinthians 7:9, Paul says, “If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”
- This shows Paul acknowledged human weakness. His advice was less about an absolute prohibition, and more about encouraging order, self-control, and avoiding sin through responsibility.

In conclusion: The Bible honors sex as sacred, but it also shows us that the real issue is faithfulness, responsibility, and respect for God’s design. While Hebrews 13:4 warns against adultery and promiscuity, the Scriptures also reveal that sex itself is not sinful when handled with commitment and integrity. The challenge is not just when sex happens, but how people treat each other and whether they honor God in their relationship.

jesusjnr2020:
Sexual Purity: Why You Shouldn't "Do" Before You Say "I Do"

It's because saying "I will marry you" is different from "I have married you".

That's one of the major tricks men have used to lure several women into their beds - the promise of marriage.

But when they've gotten what they wanted from them, they would leave them for someone else.

Therefore be careful and ensure you don't "do" before you say "i do", so you don't end up having sex with someone you won't get married to.

God made sex only for married couples.

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

God bless.

The bitter truth is true love only exist in a sex free courtship. If you truly loved your partner you won't be a party to their impurity.

Pun intended. You can only say I do after you actually do. Cos you will then be telling lies to oneself..lol

All is a myth whether you are sexual pure before marriage or after.

It does not determine fate. Those that are chaste suffer the same as unchaste.

You need grace.

spiSeyi:
The bitter truth is true love only exist in a sex free courtship. If you truly loved your partner you won't be a party to their impurity.

But Konji is real na. Once Konji hold person. All these Shalaye no matter again

How old is the OP?

Is the OP a "fagin"?

more characters needed

jesusjnr2020:
Sexual Purity: Why You Shouldn't "Do" Before You Say "I Do"

It's because saying "I will marry you" is different from "I have married you".

That's one of the major tricks men have used to lure several women into their beds - the promise of marriage.

But when they've gotten what they wanted from them, they would leave them for someone else.

Therefore be careful and ensure you don't "do" before you say "i do", so you don't end up having sex with someone you won't get married to.

God made sex only for married couples.

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

God bless.

Sex is too cheap nowadays for any man to propose to a lady just to lure her to bed. Her character is usually what either keeps or drives the man away.
However, my advise to men is not to bother even dating any woman who doesn't tick his boxes for suitable marriage partner. This is to avoid giving her any consolation after she is dumped over her intolerable behaviors.

jesusjnr2020:
Sexual Purity: Why You Shouldn't "Do" Before You Say "I Do"

It's because saying "I will marry you" is different from "I have married you".

That's one of the major tricks men have used to lure several women into their beds - the promise of marriage.

But when they've gotten what they wanted from them, they would leave them for someone else.

Therefore be careful and ensure you don't "do" before you say "i do", so you don't end up having sex with someone you won't get married to.

God made sex only for married couples.

Hebrews 13:4 (KJV)

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

God bless.

This topic is for young boys between the ages of 18-20
And young girls between the ages of 14-18

Any boy or girl above age 20 has reached the age of responsibility

In the Bible, girls married at age less than 18. Boys get married at least from age 20

But we are in the gentile era and everything is messed up

PS
Guy, put one of my topics on FP na

Well, so many comments.
But what I know is that any sexual intercourse before/outside marriage and extramarital sex is a sin ( fornication and adultery)

Marriage and sexual life is different thing entirely.

jesusjnr2020:
If he or she can't wait til marriage before doing it with you, it's proof the person isn't meant for you.

So flee from the person before you enter one chance.

In as much as we don't advocate for sex before marriage, you don't spread misconception about proof of people meant to be together, because having the understanding to stay is the bone of contention in marriage. Remember the parable of the 10 virgins, you can be pure and not have enough understanding that is required to sustain you in a marriage. Consider billions of people who had it before their marriage and are still enjoying their marriage till today. In this modern world, not up to 3% have the grace of getting marriage to their right partner in the way you are thinking now. Go ask your pastor, if you think I am lying.