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Good evening everyone,

I thought of bringing this issue here to get more realistic perspectives about the reality of sex in relationships today.

First, the hypocrisy surrounding sex in today's relationship is something I'm still trying to understand. I think most people are having sex in their relationships and will come online to pretend they haven't even seen other person's unclothedness.

I'm confused as to what to do in my own case. My partner and I are in a committed relationship with a view to tying the knots when we finally get there but I feel something is still missing.

For mature minds here, how did you navigate your relationships given the fact that the society frowns at having sex outside the tennets of marriage? Since it's often said that having sex outside marriage is bad.
Both male and female, how did you handle yours and still ended up being married?

Mods, please push to the front page

P.S
I don't want any religious sermon. I need a realistic and holistic experience.
Thank you

First, you have to be sure that you are both healthy. Test yourselves for STDs.

Second, make sure to use contraceptives. A pregnancy is not a joke.

Third, be sure that you can trust the other person with your heart. If you have any doubts, don’t give yourself to this person.

But why the rush? You have the rest of your lives.

Hope99:
➜Good evening everyone, I thought of bringing this issue here to get more realistic perspectives about the reality of sex in relationships today.
First, the hypocrisy surrounding sex in today's relationship is something I'm still trying to understand. I think most people are having sex in their relationships and will come online to pretend they haven't even seen other person's unclothedness.
➜ I'm confused as to what to do in my own case. My partner and I are in a committed relationship with a view to tying the knots when we finally get there but I feel something is still missing.
➜ For mature minds here, how did you navigate your relationships given the fact that the society frowns at having sex outside the tennets of marriage?
➜ Since it's often said that having sex outside marriage is bad. Both male and female, how did you handle yours and still ended up being married?
➜ P.S I don't want any religious sermon. I need a realistic and holistic experience. Thank you

1. Humans and hypocrisy are 5&6. Learn this now, and you will save yourself a lot of unnecessary concern. Not saying you should ignore it— do not—, but you should not let it keep you from being who you are and the best at that.

2. Do not ignore those warning signs.

3. Live your life according to, not society's current delusion, but your terms.

4. Ask yourself this: what are the tangible — not delusions or presumptions or biases —reasons that exist for why you should not have sex outside of marriage? And what proof exists to show that — both men and women alike, again beyond relusions and fumes in the brain — having sex only in marriage leads to a more fulfilled, happier, peaceful existence for individuals and maybe others in society as well?

I bet that after you have truly processed these questions against the reality of things, you would realize you have been worrying over meaningless things.

** If you decide to have sex, make sure to use protection — both to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDS.

Kobojunkieee:
1. Humans and hypocrisy are 5&6. Learn this now, and you will save yourself a lot of unnecessary concern. Not saying you should ignore it— do not—, but you should not let it keep you from being who you are and the best at that.

2. Do not ignore those warning signs.

3. Live your life according to, not society's current delusion, but your terms.

4. Ask yourself this: what are the tangible — not delusions or presumptions or biases —reasons that exist for why you should not have sex outside of marriage? And what proof exists to show that — both men and women alike, again beyond relusions and fumes in the brain — having sex only in marriage leads to a more fulfilled, happier, peaceful existence for individuals and maybe others in society as well?

I bet that after you have truly processed these questions against the reality of things, you would realize you have been worrying over meaningless things.

** If you decide to have sex, make sure to use protection — both to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STDS.

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Thank you. I think I have something to work with now.

Why marry sef?
Why not emulate animals like cow, goats?