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I married my ex-wife in November 2020, after we had our daughter in March 2020. About a year into the marriage, her attitude changed — she became disrespectful, careless, and ignored my happiness. I complained, but she didn’t care. In October 2022, she returned my bride price and left with our daughter, who was 3 years old then.

In April 2025, I reached out to ask if she still wanted to come back before I remarried. She wished me well and gave me the go-ahead. I got remarried in May 2025, but immediately after, she blocked me on calls and WhatsApp and restricted me from my daughter. I still pay her school fees and buy her clothes, but I cannot spend even a full day with her. She’s 5 now, and I feel like she’s being used against me.

Now I’m torn: should I keep fighting for more access to my daughter, or focus on my new marriage and trust that one day my daughter will understand I never abandoned her? Please share your advice with me — I need guidance from those who may have been through this. Be honest with your advice please

NEVER abandon your blood. How'd you feel if your dad had done same for whatever reason. It's a lot of hassle to be seeing your daughter, that's probably why you're trying to stop, NOT because of the mother!


DiarisGodooo!!! (In Mama Peace voice), my
moniker

Pls how far is the distance between you and your ex wife?

I have been in a situation like this, and the best advice I have for you for now is to calm down, your ex wife is just angry because you have move on,,

She was thinking you will beg her forever, just know any woman who uses her daughter against the father is jealous of the father..

I believe if you are doing the necessary expenses then you have the right to go and see your daughter any time any day no body can stop you..

If your ex wife is troublesome you apply caution, but if I'm in your shoe I will make sure I have full access to my daughter, nobody bitch can stop me. ...

Onojasteve:
I married my ex-wife in November 2020, after we had our daughter in March 2020. About a year into the marriage, her attitude changed — she became disrespectful, careless, and ignored my happiness. I complained, but she didn’t care. In October 2022, she returned my bride price and left with our daughter, who was 3 years old then.
In April 2025, I reached out to ask if she still wanted to come back before I remarried. She wished me well and gave me the go-ahead. I got remarried in May 2025, but immediately after, she blocked me on calls and WhatsApp and restricted me from my daughter. I still pay her school fees and buy her clothes, but I cannot spend even a full day with her. She’s 5 now, and I feel like she’s being used against me.
Now I’m torn: should I keep fighting for more access to my daughter, or focus on my new marriage and trust that one day my daughter will understand I never abandoned her? Please share your advice with me — I need guidance from those who may have been through this. Be honest with your advice please

This is one major reason why I frown on this whole traditional marriage nonsense.🥱🥱🥱

If you had, right after your ex had given back the bride price, gone straight to the courts to demand shared custody of your child, you likely wouldn't be here many years later, asking us if you should completely abandon the child to focus entirely on your new marriage. This is really sad here... this question you ask. And I pity the child the most in all of this.

DiarisGodoo:
NEVER abandon your blood. How'd you feel if your dad had done same for whatever reason. It's a lot of hassle to be seeing your daughter, that's probably why you're trying to stop, NOT because of the mother!


DiarisGodooo!!! (In Mama Peace voice), my
moniker

Dey play
It doesn't make sense at all.

Why would I be paying money on or for something I don't have access to?

BodyCount:
Dey play It doesn't make sense at all. Why would I be paying money on or for something I don't have access to?

This is really telling about the kind of person who is speaking. 😑😑😑

BodyCount:
Dey play
It doesn't make sense at all.

Why would I be paying money on or for something I don't have access to?

Did you read OP at all? Go back and read it well

OP

where I come from, if a woman decided to CARRY the children and run away....we don't PANIC, bcose the CHILD OR CHILDREN will definitely come back to LOOK FOR YOU THE FATHER but just hold ya side strong

GIDIBANKZ:
✓ OP, where I come from, if a woman decided to CARRY the children and run away....we don't PANIC, bcose the CHILD OR CHILDREN will definitely come back to LOOK FOR YOU THE FATHER but just hold ya side strong

. That happens to be a notorious lie that has been used to justify the abandoning of children by many men since the times of your ancestors. If DNA were done on all Nigerians today, we would likely find out that many, if not all, of those from your place fathered children who never came back looking for the fathers who abandoned them. .