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Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


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dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum

It all depends on how it suit your business, whatever brings in profit for you. However if you want to operate a secular educational system, you do not have to bow to any any religious by-laws like costumes and all of that, you operate solely on the laws of Nigeria, your state and guidelines of the relevant ministries especially the state ministry of education.

Religion has denied Nigeria alot of technological advancements. Outwardly people wear those things and act holy but check what they do to animals, pets and their fellow human beings.

Also offering religion subjects has nothing to do with your policies on dress mode. It's just a subject for them to learn and know more about the ideals of that religion. A Christian taking classes in IRS doesn't mean he is a muslim and in an ideal setting (which I think it is even already happening) there are professors of Islamic and Arabic studies that are not muslims and professors of Christian theology that are Muslims.

Unfortunately northern bigots and religious extremists across the north and south exepcially people who believe they should kpaaii people for their belief have drawn this country backwards for years.

Well no.. once they know ur standard they'll adapt... The Muslims I know will never bend their rules to suit the other Faith but they will want others to bend their in order to accommodate them..

Why am I saying this... If you go to any Government owned Secondary School in Illela Local government in Sokoto state... All the females are forced to wear Hijabs irrespective of your faith or religion.. even if you are the daughter of a Deeper Life pastor...ur ability to bend ur rules to suit them is the reason why they don't take Christianity serious ...

Before you know it... They'll want to state how u should run ur school..so that it'll suit their religion... They'll tell u to separate boys and girls so that contacts will be minimized...


Dem know say u nor dey run religious based entity..dem wan dey push religion inside... Simply tell them it isn't part of your dress..code or uniform... Or can they go to Corona School or Dowen college Lekki to try such...

I know what I'm saying

OKUCHI11:
Well no.. once they know ur standard they'll adapt... The Muslims I know will never bend their rules to suit the other Faith but they will want others to bend their in order to accommodate them..

Why am I saying this... If you go to any Government owned Secondary School in Illela Local government in Sokoto state... All the females are forced to wear Hijabs irrespective of your faith or religion.. even if you are the daughter of a Deeper Life pastor...ur ability to bend ur rules to suit them is the reason why they don't take Christianity serious ...

Before you know it... They'll want to state how u should run ur school..so that it'll suit their religion... They'll tell u to separate boys and girls so that contacts will be minimized...


Dem know say u nor dey run religious based entity..dem wan dey push religion inside... Simply tell them it isn't part of your dress..code or uniform... Or can they go to Corona School or Dowen college Lekki to try such...

I know what I'm saying

The parents suggested BERET for Muslims or all girls.. What do you think

OKUCHI11:
Well no.. once they know ur standard they'll adapt... The Muslims I know will never bend their rules to suit the other Faith but they will want others to bend their in order to accommodate them..

Why am I saying this... If you go to any Government owned Secondary School in Illela Local government in Sokoto state... All the females are forced to wear Hijabs irrespective of your faith or religion.. even if you are the daughter of a Deeper Life pastor...ur ability to bend ur rules to suit them is the reason why they don't take Christianity serious ...

Before you know it... They'll want to state how u should run ur school..so that it'll suit their religion... They'll tell u to separate boys and girls so that contacts will be minimized...


Dem know say u nor dey run religious based entity..dem wan dey push religion inside... Simply tell them it isn't part of your dress..code or uniform... Or can they go to Corona School or Dowen college Lekki to try such...

I know what I'm saying

Is Down/corona a Christian school or secular ?

My candid advice is that you maintain the school’s rules and not bend them, because once you make exceptions for one family, other parents will expect the same and it will be difficult to enforce standards. Rules are not just about regulation; they reflect the school’s principles, discipline, and fairness.

Take Zamani College in Kaduna as an example: the proprietress is a Muslim, yet she does not allow her female students to wear hijabs because it is not a faith-based school. Also, no matter the parents’ wealth or influence, if a child fails an exam, that child must repeat the class. These consistent standards are what have earned Zamani lasting respect and credibility.

If you start bending rules, it could:

Weaken the school’s reputation as parents may see it as inconsistent.

Encourage other parents to demand similar exceptions.

Reduce fairness and discipline among students.


Offering beret caps after school is already a reasonable compromise, but I strongly believe the school should stick to its standards so as to protect its integrity and the respect it commands.

OKUCHI11:
Well no.. once they know ur standard they'll adapt... The Muslims I know will never bend their rules to suit the other Faith but they will want others to bend their in order to accommodate them..

Before you know it... They'll want to state how u should run ur school..so that it'll suit their religion... They'll tell u to separate boys and girls so that contacts will be minimized...

No! They don't adapt - they only delay until they can gather ample support!
If Op really like that family, he will advise them to enroll their children in a faith-based school.

dboY1123:
The parents suggested BERET for Muslims or all girls.. What do you think

.. well tell them it's ur policy... Because if you allow it and u don't give room for someone from African traditional religious based faith u'll be termed bias... So only the baret and nothing else is okay... but say make u allow the hijab... Make dem kuku go find schools with hijab...

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum

You are a school. You have your standards, do not bend your standards because of ANY religions. If a student fails exams, let her repeat, if they are muslims, there is no problem with that, but their Religious attire stays at home. If they do not accept your standards, they can go to Islamic school.

That is how it should be. If you allow them to wear something different, be sure not to stop Christians from wearing scarf or headtie, to be fair.

Side note: Religions are mind control programs. God is not Religious.

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum

why don’t you promote inclusiveness as far as it is decent?

I want to bring my son to your school but he identifies as female.

He will need to wear female clothes?

If you bend for the muslims you have to bend for me too!!
It's only fair that you do that

Build good relationships with the parents and make sure that things are done right

In everything business, the Oga of all rules and regulations is the law. What does the law say in your state regarding student dressing and religious attire.
Follow the law when there is conflict or confusion. The parents can sue for infringement on their religious rights if the law permits.

Nigerians and religion. Why should a sane human being wear hijab to a school that is not an Islamic school?

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum
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With the level of English and typos I see, I honestly wonder what kind of school you’re running. Sure, everyone makes mistakes, but as an academic, the standard expected of you is much higher.

That said, they either follow the existing rules or find another school.

I'm not saying you should bend your rules...

Or not.

But once you bend your rules to accommodate such...

Be ready to bend it further to accommodate other such!

Why would a Muslim parent take his child to school where wearing hijab would be a subject of discretion?

Any school that would contemplate no hijab policy, I will not take my daughters anywhere near it. You can have girls whose laps would be on display to the pleasure of teachers and pupils.

Never compromise your standards for temporary people.
They will be out of your school in just about 3 years, but every Muslim student will want to wear hijab by then, refusing other female Muslim girls would become an issue.
I understand you are running a business and you need money. But standard is more important than money in business.
Don't compromise

Exousiang01:
Never compromise your standards for temporary people.
They will be out of your school in just about 3 years, but every Muslim student will want to wear hijab by then, refusing other female Muslim girls would become an issue.
I understand you are running a business and you need money. But standard is more important than money in business.
Don't compromise

This is all you need to learn or break your school and business by yourself

SS1 and SS2 meaning in 2 Years+ both will be done from Your school but the lasting impact will remain. Once You start it, others will also adopt it and it becomes part of the culture for Muslims in the school. If Your school's vision doesn't have issues with separation of wears then it's ok but I promise it will go on even after They graduate

Such an interesting conversation. This reminds me of the Amasa Firdaus case in 2017.

The Nigerian Law School ordinarily allows female Muslim students to wear hijab to classes but not for Call to Bar ceremony until Amasa Firdaus in 2017 insisted that she would wear the hijab for her Call to Bar ceremony, this led to series of questions regarding freedom of religion and dress code in the legal profession.

Eventually, she was called to Bar in 2018. This set a precedence for female Muslim law graduates to wear hijab in their Call ceremony.

Just like sonnie10 said up there, follow the rules of the law. If the parents are well read, they might sue for infringement of fundamental human rights on freedom of expression, religion etc. You also need to research on schools' policies and accepted dress code/ethics governing that state.

I will suggest Government should revisit the Entire Corroculum and introduce Skill acquisition subjects and also also introduce put focus on Computer literacy so as to help graduants having something doing after graduation.

From this write up, it's clear the op has already accepted their request. He just wants to guage opinions whether he did the right thing.

@OP the school is yours, the rules are also yours, so do whatever you like to stay afloat. Choose a model that suits your environment.

Don't bend the rules just to accommodate them, if you do, they'll ask for more

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


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once u bend rules for someone be ready to bend rules for everyone

folake4u:
Such an interesting conversation. This reminds me of the Amasa Firdaus case in 2017.

The Nigerian Law School ordinarily allows female Muslim students to wear hijab to classes but not for Call to Bar ceremony until Amasa Firdaus in 2017 insisted that she would wear the hijab for her Call to Bar ceremony, this led to series of questions regarding freedom of religion and dress code in the legal profession.

Eventually, she was called to Bar in 2018. This set a precedence for female Muslim law graduates to wear hijab in their Call ceremony.

Just like sonnie10 said up there, follow the rules of the law. If the parents are well read, they might sue for infringement of fundamental human rights on freedom of expression, religion etc. You also need to research on schools' policies and accepted dress code/ethics governing that state.

The Nigerian Law School is a public institution for all Nigerians. The OP's school is a private entity with their own rules and regulations.

My highly esteemed learned silk, taking this into cognisance, does the school still need to bend over to accommodate the Muslim pupils for fear of being sued for infringement of fundamental human rights and religious expression?

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


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My advice: don’t ignite what you have no strength to contain. This hijab matter you’re toying with will inevitably evolve into an entrenched ‘right,’ and by then, you’ll realize you’ve already birthed a dragon you can’t tame.

Well, rules are rules, but are always subject to modifications depending on situations. My opinion is that accepting a slight change in dress code to accommodate one's faith will not cause any harm provided that the dress is decent.

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


Google Image used for illustration

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


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I think beret is fine for them to use

For the one that failed entrance to SS2, just allow her to continue, you are not the one to mark the WAEC Script

The parents may not understand the value for that child to repeat

So let it go like that, if they want let them get special teacher to handle the children

The faith base school they took the children to didn't favour them that's why they came back

So accept them and move on, do your best

You are missing on a basic question once you answered it everything will fall into place. Are you in school business to make money or you are on a low key religion campaigner?

dboY1123:
Good morning all
I want us all to look into a request from a returning parent and come up with suggestions, advise, examples(picture samples) etc.
A family left our school some years back while their daughters were in nursery and lower pry classes.

They're planning to come back now while they are in the secondary sch Ss2 and SS 1 now
One going to SS2 didn't do well in our entrance test at all which we advised to repeat.
The SS1 performed excellently
So parents said they can't be in same classes. That they will get extra teachers you know their excuses.

The reasons why they left was that they took them to a Faith based sch so they could learn their religion, Islam, Long hijabs.
Now coming they want us to allow them wear hijabs in which I said NO cos ours isn't a Faith based sch as I won't even allow Christians SU cover their hair in sch.

I suggested that they buy them beret caps and wear after sch. So the parents went back home to think over it.

Do you think we should bend our rules to accommodate them buy allowing Beret, which the parents agreed to or we should maintain our standards knowing fully well that other parents would replicate.

Also I think IRS is now a compulsory subject in secondary schools new curriculum


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You should also consider allowing Deeper Lifers wear long skirts, and twisted hairstyles, and traditionalists wear rags, beads, feathered caps and cowries to school.

Don't bend your rules, the same rules should be applicable to all students.

You need to put your foot down and insist that if they want to be in your school then the need to conform to the rules.

Be aware that once you bend the rules now other parents will start demanding the same type of privilege