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| My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Chilipepper(op): 8:46pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
My husband recently bought a brand-new car, and the whole family was excited. Not long after, he mentioned that he wanted to sell his previous one and upgrade to the latest version. I didn't think much of it,until a friend called, saying she spotted his "old car" at ShopRite being driven by a woman. When she confirmed the plate number, my heart sank. It was indeed my husband's car. She even sent me a picture, and the driver turned out to be his girlfriend. He gave her that car as a birthday present, while I, his wife, am struggling with two kids and no car to ease our daily movement. I feel crushed. How am I supposed to deal with this kind of betrayal?
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| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Namaster: 8:51pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
That is the difference between an ASSET and a LIABILITY. A wife is a standing LONG-TERM LIABILITY by every measure. A wife is a constant DRAIN on your resources. Even a "good wife". You'll support her. You'll support her family. You'll entertain her. You'll "upgrade" her. And the sex is NEVER guaranteed. In fact, the more you do the above, the LOWER the frequency and quality of the sex. Wives NEVER want to let their husband think they deserve sex because of ALL their husbands have done. Meanwhile, the GF on the other hand needs LITTLE maintenance. And pleasure flows from her. If a side chick dies on Friday, the man would take his family to the wedding ceremony of a third cousin without missing a beat. By the following Friday, another Side Chick would have taken her place. Plus, this woman phrased it as "suffering with 2 kids" like it's not the man that drives them around. She made it sound like the man NEVER takes them anywhere. Finally, she didn't "think much of it" because the car is likely over 15 years old with more than 5 years on Nigerian road. It's OLD and DOWNTRODDEN. In fact, I can GUARANTEE that the current market value of the car is LESS than what the man has spent on his wife this year. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Caaz: 8:53pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Never underestimate the power of a good gidin. Understanding wife award of the year goes to this woman Person wey she suppose don arrange with boys,collect that car go ngbuka market dismantle the car and sell ham as scrab. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Caaz: 8:57pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Simply run the car odumeje package with ngbuka people,collect money,not everything you need public advises. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 9:01pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Chilipepper:I am shocked you still regard him as your husband, assuming this tale is real in her case. 🙄🙄 Clearly, you are the wife material/good wife/submissive wife your husband settled for to build a home for his sake, while his side-chick is the woman of his dreams, whom he maintains and builds up. ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by brain54(m): 9:05pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Irresponsible man... Red card! |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Samantha125(f): 9:07pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Some women are just too nice and innocent... If it was me, I'd neither confront the husband, the side chick, or post it online... But I'd instead sit down and play a game of chess and by the time I say checkmate, I'd make sure that he's getting admitted into psychiatric hospital while I play the role of a concerned wife... He'd think his village people are after him... ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Mindlog: 10:31pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Samantha125:Psychiatric hospital? 😂😂😂 By the way, getting admitted into a psychiatric facility is not cheap!😂😂😂 |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by viyon02: 10:38pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Your husband is never a stupid man. Pay attention to what he has been complaining about in your character or action. May be you have been taking his warnings for granted thinking afterall you ara already married to him and he can't send you away just like that. My dear wife, you will lose big term. Just go back and pretend nothing happen, make him happy, start doing what will make him happy, you know those things he love you doing don't pretend you don't know, he must have complained times without number. See you at the other side of happy home. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 10:41pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
viyon02:You clearly hate these submissive women for you to give such advice to this one whose husband literally flaunts his disloyalty towards her! 😶😶😶😶 |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by viyon02: 10:58pm On Sep 05, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:, No sane man there hurt a very submissive wife, even if he try to cheat, his spirit will never be at rest until apologize |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkieee: 11:03pm On Sep 05, 2025*. Modified: 5:56pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
viyon02:Basically, you are insisting that the wife is to blame for her husband committing adultery and also giving away funds that should have gone to better their married life to another woman, right? (If this isn't gaslighting, what then is?) This is the value system that you live by and also impose on women who make themselves wives to men, right? 🥱🥱 This proves that my original statement to you was on point. You clearly hate these submissive women. ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 12:22am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Namaster:They don't really care about their husbands. They don't just want another female to share in the resources...they want all he has for themselves! |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 12:23am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Samantha125:All because of how he decides to spend his resources....leeches! |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 12:28am On Sep 06, 2025 |
LordIsaac:How did you determine that the resources are his? ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Kobojunkie: 1:53am On Sep 06, 2025 |
LordIsaac:A man who keeps a sidechick cares about his wife, abi? ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Baronthecelebri(m): 4:53am On Sep 06, 2025 |
You're the cause,then divorce him ASAP |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Houseofglam7(f): 6:05am On Sep 06, 2025 |
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| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by TONYE001(m): 6:15am On Sep 06, 2025*. Modified: 7:40am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Namaster:Whoever teaches you guys these things has defrauded you all. Funny how many of you think you sound smart, but in reality, your lines of thought are distant from facts. A wife a liability? Just how? Your positions on husband-wife matters are strongly suggestive of childhood faulty family settings since our parents are the first to introduce the concept of marriage to us. Now, I won't just stop at attacking you and your likes; I'll make frank efforts to educate you: 1. No, a wife is in no way a liability. In fact, the ideal husband-wife relationship isn't a business transaction where one can be labelled an asset, and the other, a liability. Ideally, a marriage is a setting in which a husband and a wife come together to work up a project - the family project. Both parties contribute according to their abilities; ideally, there is no fixed law guiding this collaboration. No law should dictate if the husband should bring A and the wife, B. This is because the union is fluid-like, it does not assume any particular conformation. Where one party is unable to bring A, the other party easily compensates. Like this, both husband and wife support each other, and do a lot of sacrifices backstage. 2. The African tradition has plastered an annoying stereotype in our heads. The African man easily thinks that the husband is the sole provider. In fact, this is not just a thing of tradition or culture; it actually reeks of ego, unhealthy ego and pride. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY HOMES THAT ARE RUN BY WOMEN?? You just have no idea! In one Nigerian study, researchers noted that female breadwinning is becoming "increasingly common" in urban settings (Akanle and Nwaobiala, 2019). In another study that sampled Nigerian primary school teachers, results showed that in over 70% of families, females/wives are the breadwinners ((Nnubia, Ibeanu, and Okechukwu, 2020). The concept of female breadwinning would have been there decades before now if not for the skewed African culture many of our parents and grandparents practice(d) (this culture NEVER MADE SENSE; essentially, it is a STUPID idea to deprive women of education and empowerment, depriving women of their rights to steps that would have ensured their independence shows how insecure our forefathers were). Just imagine how the family structure has changed since females started achieving independence, especially financial independence. Now, because they now have money, wives support their families...and in multiple instances, they RUN/SPONSOR their families. Let me explain more. Females are more motivated, more caring (biologically), and more ambitious than men (Tao, 2014; Wicht, Miyamoto, and Lechner, 2022; Naz, Shah, and Qayum, 2020). Even among Nigerian populations, the findings are similar (Ojule, 2024). With these attributes, females are likely to be more successful than males IF ALL THINGS ARE ALLOWED EQUAL. Imagine they were allowed access to financial independence long before now? If this were the case, many families would have been liberated from poverty long before the current generation. So, partly, it's the African culture that has made poverty strongly palpable across families today. 3. How can you call the woman that births your children a liability? Why did you not have those kids with the side chick? This is callous thinking and demonstrates a heightened level of irresponsibility. With this thinking, I should feel pity for any woman you end up with. Perhaps, intending spouses should be submitting their social media handles before marriage. With a post like this, I wonder if any woman would want to settle with you (that's if you aren't married already). 4. If you fall sick or run into difficult situations, who would stand by your side? The side chick? Mabel Okungbowa is a Nigerian wife who donated a kidney to her husband. Would a side chick do this? Who is present throughout the growth of the children? A side chick? 5. A more personal example. I went back to school roughly 2 years after getting married. At the time, I and my wife were concluding our master's-degree programmes. I was working, my wife was too, but not something rewarding, just something to keep her CV busy. I resigned from my work, went back to school for a third degree - MBBS. I was in medical school for 7 whole years. In these years, my wife was my strongest support system. If not for that lady, I wouldn't be a medical doctor today. She helped me realize my dream, and in so doing, she gave up some important moves that would have skyrocketed her career. My wife did a whole lot, a whooooooollllllleeee lot. Every single day of our 11 years of marriage so far, I make sure I let wifie know how grateful I am! In my family group chat, when discussing with my parents and siblings, I ensure I let them know all my wife does. I want my people to know about her sacrifices...just in case I pass on before her. And, thankfully, my family appreciates her! Is there a side chick in this whole world and in the heavens that would have done a millionth of what my wife did? Nope! How can anyone call a wife a liability? 6. Just like I had said, when it comes to husband-wife matters, many people think they sound smart, but in truth, their positions in the matter displays ignorance and poor parental orientation....like Gehgeh (or whatever he's called). Women are doing a lot on the family front. Many are sacrificing their lives just for the family to succeed. Many would have been professors, millionaires, heads of great corporations, international figures if not for the fact that they are wives and mothers......though I do not support this (I would create a thread about this one day). Dear Nigerian women, dear wives and mothers, on behalf of the many grateful husbands of yours, I say THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO. We see your works, your sacrifices, your doings. Maybe we should be speaking out more so this horrible narrative about you won't be extended to the next generation. NB: I'm guessing that many commenters on this thread are single young guys. This post is educative, and you all are the exact targets. You all may not accept it, but I'm grateful for those that will. Links to References (in no particular order) https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0021909619880283?utm= https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/13668803.2020.1797634 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/341758004_Gender_Differences_in_Motivation_And_Academic_Achievement_A_Study_Of_the_University_Students_of_KP_Pakistan https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0362331914000354 https://www.researchgate.net/publication/343576708_Are_Girls_More_Ambitious_Than_Boys_Vocational_Interests_Partly_Explain_Gender_Differences_in_Occupational_Aspirations https://www.tnhjph.com/index.php/tnhj/article/view/817#:~:text=Females%20are%20more%20motivated%20to,affiliation%2C%20and%20enjoyment%20than%20males. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by yemmit90: 8:16am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Namaster:Whoever marry someone like you has already enter a big one chance. Your reasoning is dangerous, not only to you but to entire people who might be taking advise from you. A good wife is never a liability but rather a long time asset. A good wife is a valuable treasure to her husband, a home builder and a guardian of peace. Even if you must cheat on her, it must be the deepest secret you should hold close to your heart. No woman in your life should deserve more than her. Only a foolish man will gift a car to a side chick, while the mother of his children treak around with his blood. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Samantha125(f): 8:57am On Sep 06, 2025*. Modified: 4:14pm On Sep 08, 2025 |
Money wouldn't be an issue... You think some of us are house wives with no source of income or medical insurance?🤦🤦🤦 Mindlog: |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Samantha125(f): 9:02am On Sep 06, 2025 |
He's free to spend his resources anyhow he wishes, whether he buys his side chicks cars or helicopters, that's up to him... It's his life, his money, and his choice... But whatever happens to him afterwards, it'll be all on him... ![]() I'll be busy minding my business by being a submissive and working wife while playing myself a nice game of chess during my spare time... ![]() LordIsaac: |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Petrified235555: 10:13am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Mindlog:hello boss please I sent you a mail |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by JovialJune(f): 11:36am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Namaster:
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| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by Mindlog: 11:45am On Sep 06, 2025 |
Petrified235555:Replied. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by LordIsaac(m): 1:39pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Yes, he does. He still cares for her. He could chase her away and bring the side-chick in (as most women would if they had the power), but he didn't. He distributes HIS resources the way he deems fit. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by JovialJune(f): 3:06pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
LordIsaac:Of course the obvious thought process of an average Nigerian man, their purpose in life, is to diick as much women as they can like it's a lifetime achievement, nothing to emulate from them, nothing worthy to pinpoint as their legacy That's why this one above can boldly say a Nigerian man can do whatever he likes not minding if it hurts the mother of their kids Thats why I always say that the generation of old failed young adults of this generation in their method of upbringing, because the end result is the obvious menace in Nigeria today. |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by JovialJune(f): 3:08pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
Baronthecelebri:And this one went to school, if those who are educated are told to raise hands, this one go follow join like an enlightened person ![]() |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by JovialJune(f): 3:10pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
LordIsaac:Your breeder, was she a leech or not? Was she allowed to question her spouse's ways of spending his money, or not ? |
| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by RightToReject(m): 3:33pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
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| Re: My Husband Gave His Side Chick Car While I Suffer With Our Kids- Woman Cries Out by RightToReject(m): 3:34pm On Sep 06, 2025 |
Namaster:I wager you and your likes took to this kind of sick mentality and exhibition all in the name of being seen and counted as being woke - wannabe woke people. |
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