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Ishilove:
I wonder o. Which is bestie? Having a cordial relationship is necessary, but friendship is not mandatory.

Baronthecelebri:
Nice 👍 one from the man, I support him

Kobojunkie:
He cancelled the marriage because he could not get his own sister into the woman's bridal train? 😏

Anyways, red flag na red flag! They both dodged a bullet there and should count themselves lucky.

Women, please stop marrying controlling men. Your worth to these types of men comes down to whether they can control you or not. And the end is never good as your beings are reduced to near nothing by all of that control. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on that.

pocohantas:
Which one is his sister should be her new bestie and closest friend? Damn!



I like visit and go. Even with my own family. I give people their space and expect same. My SIL doesn't owe me any special friendship or servitude.

dangotesmummy:
➜exactly. If you as a man have an obsessive desire to control another human being. No need to marry just go and buy a pet dog or horse.i no even know who swear for naija men with their obsession to control as if thry know everything [b]but again if we see truth make we talk am the bride was very wrong.your groom say put his sister among your bridal train.wetin dey there. Everything is not an ego contest.you already know say them don swear for naija men to have ego even the ones wey no to get sense hav big egos bigger than their sense.hen you for let her join the bridal train and then she herself will feel sidelined and cannot relate because all the girls there are your own person and friend.by the time she feels ignored she go dey ask herself why she insisted to be on the bridal train. after all you don satisfy your grooms desire to be on the train.when them wan snap picture, exclude her,in activities where they are supposed to do girlie things exclude her even if she's wearing the same bridal dress.trust me na the girl go look stupid and she won't be able to complain without looking like an alaseju.if she complain her family will say shebi them don put you for bridal train why you still dey complain [/b]
➜Everything requires wisdom. No be everything you go dey use gra gra do. na the girl go look stupid and out of place

Kobojunkie:
He cancelled the marriage because he could not get his own sister into the woman's bridal train? 😏

Anyways, red flag na red flag! They both dodged a bullet there and should count themselves lucky.

Women, please stop marrying controlling men. Your worth to these types of men comes down to whether they can control you or not. And the end is never good as your beings are reduced to near nothing by all of that control. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on that.

darediamond:
➜A Lady who respect herself is one who jointly invest F I N A N C I A L L Y in the courtship and later MATRIMONIAL celebration and Herarital Life. When there is one sided spendings in a relationship, THEREUST BE ONE SIDED CONTROL TOO.

JibolaUsman:
➜This is clearly someone who is still living with his parents and cannot see beyond his nose. Only a fool will marry a woman who is not friendly with his siblings. If your other half does not want your family members around them it's a huge sign that they don't love you at all but are only using you for material gain. I have this male friend who loves his wife's family better than even the wife. He is always buying her parents gifts at every little occasion and even made his wife a bigger sister to her own siblings. The truth is when you marry you cannot help but be involved with other members of that person's family.

dangotesmummy:
lol some women no just sabi respect themselves. You just marry you wan dey form bestie with your sister inlaw. Respect her but stay in you lane as a new bride which one be bestie. You nor get friends from where dey come from?

dangotesmummy:
lol both the bride and groom are s+p1d.

The groom insisted he wants his sister to be in the bridal train,wetin consain you with girlie matters? You nor go face your grooms men and leave the bride to do her bridal train him she wants it

The bride too no apply wisdom, you for allow your sister inlaw I'm the bride train and then exclude her on all activities. By the time all the brides maids ignore her,don't engage her na she go dey blame herself why she insisted in being in the bridal train when she for just sit with her family or wear the family fabric and come with your friends.there are ways you deal with stubborn men. No be everything be gra gra.

Kobojunkie:
What you are wanting us to believe is that your mother, grandmother, great-grandmothers, etc., who choose to live as traditional housewives had absolutely no respect for themselves? Message received!

FaAbData:
This is beyond the ceremony. We are talking of character. Even if you do court the character would come out in a way inside the marriage

Newton1045:
Omo, her brother can be among groom's men.
We no send oo

Samantha125:
I'd understand... I have no reason to be going on a vacation with the people I'm not close to, I'll get bored.

My husband and I will arrange our own vacation together.

Kobojunkie:
A controlling man is never a good man for a woman. Go ask your mothers and grandmothers for details on why that is always true. A controlling man ends up reducing the woman he is in a relationship with to a husk of a human.

2. He paid for it; therefore, all of her efforts she put into making sure the ceremony he paid for turns out the best, is to be considered a useless effort? Many Nigerian women struggle with seriously low self-esteem, and that is why a whole load of them end up with men who reason like you do. Very sad situation indeed.

pocohantas:
Which one is his sister should be her new bestie and closest friend? Damn!



I like visit and go. Even with my own family. I give people their space and expect same. My SIL doesn't owe me any special friendship or servitude.

SeeWahala:
Why is it that anytime I see your posts I always picture you typing with one hand and puffing weed with the other one?

Mcslize:
You ladies should be rational for once. As a woman, you need to be in good terms with all of your husband's family (siblings and parents). Love them naturally.

I cannot marry a lady that sees it as an issue associating with my immediate family; my own immediate family that I grew up with that have been there for me from day 1? Come on!

Such a woman is already a big disaster. The man will regret ever marrying her if he had proceeded with the marriage.

Samantha125:
Imagine your sister in-law gisting to you of how your brother was busy with her all night long...🤦🤦🤦... That's just diabolical and wrong in all ways possible... Inlaws should just stay as inlaws, we'll love each other from a distance and keep in touch.

JibolaUsman:
The guy is a sharp guy and he did the right thing. It was the brides Big day and he wanted his sister to be part of that day. By rejecting his sister his wife has sown the seeds of rejection. It's like having a piece of cake and you are asked to share the cake and you refuse to share it. Trust me women who cannot share are not worth marrying. One sister out of some 8 bridesmaids is not too many. If my babe offered her brother as my wedding groomsmen id be more than thrilled to have him. It shows she has a good relationship with her brother

pocohantas:
Hahaha! You just reminded me of when my SIL was pregnant. After breaking the news to me, she added that my brother no dey come down from her. I am sorry I don't wanna know those details. 😂😂😂

Samantha125:
See? This is why we can never be besties...😂😂😂

Chilipepper:
Man cancels wedding after his fiancée refused to let his sister join her bridal train.



https://x.com/Kasieobi_1/status/1963639626704249243?s=19[/quote]Good riddance to bad rubbish! She failed the rudimentary test for marital partnership. Correct man! Now let the comanderess-in-chief look for a mugu to command

Samantha125:
When it comes to traditional white weddings, aren't bridesmaids supposed to be from the bride's side?

Some people just like doing white weddings without understanding their rules and regulations, and why end your wedding plans over a Western wedding ceremony when he could've opted for an African traditional wedding instead? Imagine a British man who doesn't understand anything about African weddings cancelling his African wedding because he's having disputes with his British wife over the ceremony...

Kobojunkie:
1. If being a man means curbing the freedoms of your woman, then you are not a man but a control-obsessed individual. Some women are like that, too. Narcissistic traits are not unique to men.

2. Are you sheeting me right now? The woman was clearly uncomfortable with the boys clinging to her, but you lot said she should endure it for what purpose exactly? Why not get the boy professional mental therapy help instead?

Obviously, what you described was not a one-time thing, and who knows what else the boy could have done to that girl in all of that time. Yuck!

3. Do you know what a right means? If I have the right to say "No," but you reject my right or assert that my right is against you, it implies that what you want is control, the power to overrule my right. That is clearly a problem and a world she should do everything to avoid being dragged into!

4. Her right to say, "No," should not be impacted by whether he allows such or not; that is one of the reasons why I removed that second question I had asked, since a lot of people did not see the obvious here. He cancelled the wedding because she would not allow his sister into her bridal train, clearly indicating he wanted control over her right. A controlling man would, of course, not simply allow such concessions if the situation were reversed.

JibolaUsman:
This is clearly someone who is still living with his parents and cannot see beyond his nose. Only a fool will marry a woman who is not friendly with his siblings. If your other half does not want your family members around them it's a huge sign that they don't love you at all but are only using you for material gain. I have this male friend who loves his wife's family better than even the wife. He is always buying her parents gifts at every little occasion and even made his wife a bigger sister to her own siblings. The truth is when you marry you cannot help but be involved with other members of that person's family.