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Nnamdipapa:
Me dig? Mbanu!

I am not bothered about her cheating on me and she knows that. I don't have time to dig around and look for supposed evidence of cheating. I might even be amenable to an open relationship from both side. Life is too sweet to be digging around monitoring someone.

Do you love your wife if I may ask?

luminouz:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

You are something I'd give you that. I miss the time we yabbed each other. What the hell happened to you? Got yourself religion or something?

Now, you are being honest. Sometimes, I get so busy that I forget to log into Nairaland. But that doesn't change the fact that I am always thinking about you, darling.

Maeve7:
In other words, guys whose relationships and marriages failed are teaching boys how to fail.

Got it.

In other words, what are females whose relationships and marriages failed teaching girls?

You got it still, right?

Na only man dey make relationships fail, abi? They blame men for their failed responsibilities as well.

kushme:
In other words, what are females whose relationships and marriages failed teaching girls?

You got it still, right?

Na only man dey make relationships fail, abi? They blame men for their failed responsibilities as well.

The logical gender strikes again.

There is no movement of girls/women with failed relationships/marriages teaching girls about men/marriage. It’s your red pill heroes who do that. Losers raising losers.

Maeve7:
The logical gender strikes again.

There is no movement of girls/women with failed relationships/marriages teaching girls about men/marriage. It’s your red pill heroes who do that. Losers raising losers.

Back and forth. Rest. You no even sabi think. Just repeating the herd mentality words. See, men are the losers in relationships/marriages, thats why they teach red pill,right? It is there in your reply, Losers raising losers. We agree.

Women are winners, so let them raise winners. Now you can rest this morning, abi?
Lastly, redpill and mgtow philosophies, are they both the same, are they both movement, or one is and the other is not? Y'all winners keep making ignorant statement of what is movement.

They typical pattern of winners(women), is that they like shaming and name calling but can't take the same. We know winners have progressive mentality, so, they don't listen to the experience of a loser to learn anything from it. Unlike a loser listening to the experienced loser, learning one or two losing things to help him see beyond what societal programming is all about in relationship/marriage.

Maeve7:
Do you love your wife if I may ask?

Love is a mere emotion which is overrated and subject to manipulations my friend. Most times, one party is taking advantage of the other in the name of love.

Nnamdipapa:
Love is a mere emotion which is overrated and subject to manipulations my friend. Most times, one party is taking advantage of the other in the name of love.

Emotions or their lack of are a powerful force influencing our decisions, actions and relationships.

Thanks for the answer though.

Nnamdipapa:
Love is a mere emotion which is overrated and subject to manipulations my friend. Most times, one party is taking advantage of the other in the name of love.

Love do not exist

Nnamdipapa:
➜Have you ever considered what the guy wants? Tried to see things from his point of view just for once?
Did you consider if you are constantly doing things or not doing things that make his life miserable? You see, expectation is like a two-way street and when you make someone unhappy and still expect loyalty from that individual? Come on

Here is another man admiting to doing what you pretend woman only do. https://youtube.com/shorts/TNdUqtakaqo?si=XJQswqyHZ6sBVaIJ

Both men and women starts digging through their partners once a sign of disloyalty is evident. Moreover,what kind of person put 4 Whatsapp on a phone?

We4all:
Now, you are being honest. Sometimes, I get so busy that I forget to log into Nairaland. But that doesn't change the fact that I am always thinking about you, darling.

Urghhhh....stop all the mushy mushy bro...

You are embarrassing me here!!!

luminouz:
Urghhhh....stop all the mushy mushy bro...

You are embarrassing me here!!!

I don't see you blushing, love.

We4all:
I don't see you blushing, love.

Kai....this geh wan tarnish my reputation.

Kini gbogbo eleyi bayi?

Nnamdipapa:
So, I was in deep sleep when suddenly I woke up around 4 a.m. I reached for my phone, which I usually keep on the bedside table before going to bed, and to my surprise, the phone was nowhere to be found.

Still half asleep, I stretched my hand around in the darkness, thinking maybe it had slipped into the crack between the bed and the wall, but no, my phone was gone.

Now, I could swear on a stack of Bibles that my phone was right beside me before I dozed off the previous night. I was even up till midnight, scrolling as usual, before retiring for the night. Normally, whenever I wake up, I check my phone for the time.

Out of curiosity, I reached to the right side of the bed and noticed my wife’s spot was empty. Hmm.

I dragged my sleepy self to the bathroom to ease myself and, lo and behold; there was madam, inside the bathroom, with my phone on the floor. I was shocked, because I knew for sure I didn’t leave it there.

Anyway, I picked up the phone, went back to bed, and when I got under the sheets, I glanced at it. To my greatest confirmation, WhatsApp was open. Someone had been going through my chats.

I used to have strong security on the phone, but I relaxed it recently for some reasons. That’s probably how she got access. She pretended like she didn’t touch my phone, and I pretended like maybe I mistakenly left it in the bathroom. I didn’t challenge her. I just smiled under the sheets and went back to sleep.

The next morning, while replaying the whole incident in my head, some questions came to mind.

Ladies, what exactly do women want?

What are you looking for when you sneak into your husband’s phone and monitor his activities online? What exactly do you plan to do if you find suspicious chats with another woman? What next after all that stress of staying awake all night, plotting how to get hold of his phone?

Luckily for me, I have four WhatsApp accounts. Three are heavily passworded. The one she checked is just the “decoy” account with light security.

Then I remembered my maternal grandfather—the great man who had five wives. He eventually died on the sexy laps of a beautiful Ijaw side chick (yes, true story). Yet, none of his wives ever ransacked his belongings or violated his privacy like this. Meanwhile, me with only one wife, I’m already seeing shege. I still have a long way to go to match that man’s legacy.

So again I ask: why do women believe their husbands are under total control, and must be monitored 24/7? Don’t you people get tired?

Marriage does not automatically mean access to every single aspect of a man’s life. The life of an African man is hard enough, sometimes he just deserves small enjoyment without his privacy being constantly violated.

I honestly don’t get it. Maybe some of you can explain whether you really think marriage gives you the right to every corner of your husband’s life, including his private space.

I come in peace. Hehehehehe.

You’re still a boy in the head.
You’ll wreck your marriage before u figure out anything.

Stop keeping extra marital affairs.

ScarletBrace:
You’re still a boy in the head.
You’ll wreck your marriage before u figure out anything.

Stop keeping extra marital affairs.

Nothing wrong with being a boy. I only have one girl friend for now so I think I am safe.

Silentgroper:
No it's not.

It is.
What are you looking for in the first place except your partner has given you the reason not to trust them which is not the case most times.