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Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 4:07pm On Nov 10, 2021
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by wordapostle(m): 4:15pm On Nov 10, 2021
I had that issue after my first child, after 8 years of 3 children I've learnt to live with that. I think it is just in mothers to behave that way. I just pray to God for grace to continually provide for family rather than start shouting of less attention, time, love or meat lol grin grin


What has really helped me to get loved as much as my children is helping my wife love the children in little things in the way she understands as love, like helping with assignments, play time, bathing them, feeding them, outing, shopping and going to bank, my children like going to bank maybe because from bank we usually branch shop rite or buy toys that will be lost or damaged the next day.

Husbands are babies to their wives until the real babies come you will know your real position. It may continue this way until your children are grown and leaves your house, then your wife can come back to you.


But some are not not this way. My wife loves and cares for me so much but she puts extra when it's the children maybe just maybe because because they are children

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 4:30pm On Nov 10, 2021
wordapostle:
I had that issue after my first child, after 8 years of 3 children I've learnt to live with that. I think it is just in mothers to behave that way. I just pray to God for grace to continually provide for family rather than start shouting of less attention, time, love or meat lol grin grin


What has really helped me to get loved as much as my children is helping my wife love the children in little things in the way she understands as love, like helping with assignments, play time, bathing them, feeding them, outing, shopping and going to bank, my children like going to bank maybe because from bank we usually branch shop rite or buy toys that will be lost or damaged the next day.

Husbands are babies to their wives until the real babies come you will know your real position. It may continue this way until your children are grown and leaves your house, then your wife can come back to you.


But some are not not this way. My wife loves and cares for me so much but she puts extra when it's the children maybe just maybe because because they are children




Wow! Interesting facts. I love your resolve anyway!

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mercychen(f): 4:34pm On Nov 10, 2021
They are little children. So it's natural for her to care for them more than an adult whos already old enough to take care of himself. So it's not a matter of preference.

Shifting attention to the kids most time is not always a deliberate act by the woman because if you view this from a neutral angle, you'll agree with me that, a child can not be crying either because it's feeling irritated or hungry, while the mother is there caressing the fathers head just to show she cares about him .that would be unreasonable of her. In fact, it's you the husband that will shout at her to go and tend to the baby.

The only thing I think the mothers can do to strike a balance, is by making it up to daddy (at night) when everyone has gone to bed as that is when they can have time alone together. And daddy too should learn to exercise patience till that time.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 4:34pm On Nov 10, 2021
There's a spiritual bond btw mothers and their kids.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 4:39pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:
There's a spiritual bond btw mothers and their kids.

So, how about the bond between husband and wife? What's it classified as?

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by SmileDance(f): 4:41pm On Nov 10, 2021
Because husband is not a blood relative
Because children won't divorce them




Nobody should quote me o I have not eaten

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 4:42pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:


So, how about the bond between husband and wife? What's it classified as?
I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Klass99(f): 4:48pm On Nov 10, 2021
wordapostle:
I had that issue after my first child, after 8 years of 3 children I've learnt to live with that. I think it is just in mothers to behave that way. I just pray to God for grace to continually provide for family rather than start shouting of less attention, time, love or meat lol grin grin


What has really helped me to get loved as much as my children is helping my wife love the children in little things in the way she understands as love, like helping with assignments, play time, bathing them, feeding them, outing, shopping and going to bank, my children like going to bank maybe because from bank we usually branch shop rite or buy toys that will be lost or damaged the next day.

Husbands are babies to their wives until the real babies come you will know your real position. It may continue this way until your children are grown and leaves your house, then your wife can come back to you.


But some are not not this way. My wife loves and cares for me so much but she puts extra when it's the children maybe just maybe because because they are children



You made me smile, I like your candour and narrative.
Some years ago, my classmate posted a very enlightening video about this in our Whatsapp Group.
It's a video I wish I had saved through the years. It will make a meaningful impact on wives and parents.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mariangeles: 4:50pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:

I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

Madam Ahnie! grin

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Iyaebe: 4:53pm On Nov 10, 2021
When I start having children, I pray I remember my husband that time.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 4:54pm On Nov 10, 2021
SmileDance:
Because husband is not a blood relative
Because children won't divorce them




Nobody should quote me o I have not eaten

Are you for real? Does every husband file for a divorce? I don't think those reasons are strong enough.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by mission08: 4:56pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

Cc: @RoyalRoy
@Lalasticlala

Prefer is not the right word I think. It's just that mothers dote on their kids. It's just natural and it is necessary for their survival especially at infant stage. And again, children in their innocence love unconditionally and merely seeing them can be a solace.

Raising kids can be demanding and most husbands that complain that their wives devout too much time to the kids and none to him is obviously not involved in parenting. It can be very draining dealing with husbands that compete or want to be treated as babies.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 4:59pm On Nov 10, 2021
Iyaebe:
When I start having children, I pray I remember my husband that time.

I say a big AMEN!

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 5:02pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:

I dunno.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Wow! Before any child arrived, I am sure that wasn't so.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Mofun: 5:09pm On Nov 10, 2021
mission08:


Raising kids can be demanding and most husbands that complain that their wives devout too much time to the kids and none to him is obviously not involved in parenting. It can be very draining dealing with husbands that want to be treated as babies.

How about cases where husbands equally assist (50% or more) in raising the child(ren) and the case in question is still so?

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by bigjackass: 5:14pm On Nov 10, 2021
Why do fathers prefer their children over their wives?

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 5:22pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mariangeles:


Madam Ahnie! grin
Yes nau....I say how e dey do me.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 5:23pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:


Wow! Before any child arrived, I am sure that wasn't so.
Absolutely.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 5:24pm On Nov 10, 2021
Iyaebe:
When I start having children, I pray I remember my husband that time.
My prayers Peru with your prayers. kiss

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ahnie(f): 5:26pm On Nov 10, 2021
wordapostle:
I had that issue after my first child, after 8 years of 3 children I've learnt to live with that. I think it is just in mothers to behave that way. I just pray to God for grace to continually provide for family rather than start shouting of less attention, time, love or meat lol grin grin


What has really helped me to get loved as much as my children is helping my wife love the children in little things in the way she understands as love, like helping with assignments, play time, bathing them, feeding them, outing, shopping and going to bank, my children like going to bank maybe because from bank we usually branch shop rite or buy toys that will be lost or damaged the next day.

Husbands are babies to their wives until the real babies come you will know your real position. It may continue this way until your children are grown and leaves your house, then your wife can come back to you.


But some are not not this way. My wife loves and cares for me so much but she puts extra when it's the children maybe just maybe because because they are children


Correct jigga,your understanding is bae.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by PrimadonnaO(f): 5:39pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?

Cc: @RoyalRoy
@Lalasticlala


Questions like this aren't nice.

I want to refute it and say women don't love their children more than their husbands. But how can I know? I don't have either. cheesy

But I already know that there's nothing I wouldn't do for my children.

At the same time, I also know that I must make effort to not let my children become a priority over the husband I married for myself. cheesy Because no matter what, those children will move on with their lives.

I mean that's the point anyway, the whole raising and grooming is so they're able to lead their lives away from us in the future.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Evolutionlove: 5:53pm On Nov 10, 2021
ahnie:

I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

Make una no dey fear to talk this thing naw. Na only "MUMU MEN" always think WoMEN loves them. WoMEN don't have the capacity to love Men Unconditionally. Nothing to be worried about here. It's a normal thing, Nobody go beat you. Men are only shown "FAKE & CONDITIONAL LOVE BY WoMEN" because of what they provide. Shikena.....

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Acidosis(m): 5:57pm On Nov 10, 2021
At the end of the day, it's not about who spent more or less time dancing with the kids at age 1 or 2. Many kids were raised by house-help/maids yet these kids grow up loving their mom and dad.

They grow up with no memory of who cooked what or who took them out. I love my mom so much but I'm sure my love for her isn't about what she did for me at a tender age. Truth is that I don't know what growing up at that age was! My love for my mom is not unconnected to her relationship with my father.

So women shouldn't f00l themselves. You can love your kids because it is natural to love them but never try to show them love at the expense of your husband because of a future you don't know. These kids will grow up not giving a fvck. At most, many of them will remember who paid their school fees at University. And this is where most fathers come in and earn all the love you thought you earned by being unecessarily dramatic.

If your husband has not maltreated you in anyway, you'll be making a mistake to think that your kids can't see beyond your drama.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Tallesty1(m): 6:08pm On Nov 10, 2021
Because the man is the only one in the family who isn't her blood.

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 6:29pm On Nov 10, 2021
Mofun:
Hello fellow-Nairalanders!
Please is it correct to conclude that most women tend to value their children more than their own husbands (I don't mean 'baby daddies')?
If it's correct then what could be responsible?
You are referring to individuals who have no real identity of their own apart from that they gained from becoming mothers to those kids. Not all women are like that though. undecided

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by Kobojunkie: 6:32pm On Nov 10, 2021
wordapostle:
I had that issue after my first child, after 8 years of 3 children I've learnt to live with that. I think it is just in mothers to behave that way. I just pray to God for grace to continually provide for family rather than start shouting of less attention, time, love or meat lol grin grin
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But some are not not this way. My wife loves and cares for me so much but she puts extra when it's the children maybe just maybe because because they are children
Not all mothers are like that. In fact i would go as far as saying that women are not meant to use their children as emotional cushions in that way. Your wife , as a human being, is meant to have a complete identity much like you do, separate from the fact that she is a wife and a mother. undecided

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by ScamExpose: 6:59pm On Nov 10, 2021
Ok

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Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by greenie77: 6:59pm On Nov 10, 2021
It is natural for mothers to dote more on their children.
Re: Why Do Women Prefer Their Children Over Their Husbands? by bamasite2: 6:59pm On Nov 10, 2021
Trust issues

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