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Marriage Is Not for the Unteachable, Combative, or Disrespectful Woman

Let’s be honest:

You can marry beauty.
You can marry intelligence.
You can marry potential.

But if a woman is unwilling to grow, constantly confrontational, and lacks respect—
You didn’t marry a partner. You married a storm.

Because most marriages don’t fall apart because of outside influences—
They collapse when peace no longer lives in the home.


1. UNTEACHABLE WOMEN DON’T EVOLVE—THEY CYCLE

Try to offer insight or correction?
She shuts down or gets defensive.

Try to show a better way?
She sees it as an attack, not guidance.

In a healthy relationship, both people grow.
But pride can turn progress into paralysis.

A man doesn’t want to battle for leadership. He wants a teammate—not someone who resists everything on principle.



2. COMBATIVE WOMEN DRAIN THE ROOM

If every conversation is a debate,
Every disagreement turns into drama,
And every suggestion becomes a standoff—
Peace becomes a memory.

Strength isn’t proven by being difficult.
True strength brings calm, not chaos.

A man who lives in conflict won’t stay there forever. He’ll either retreat—or shut down.



3. DISRESPECT DESTROYS MASCULINITY

A man can handle setbacks.
He can endure pressure and failure.

But disrespect chips away at his core.

– Mock his dreams? You deflate him.
– Dismiss his efforts? You discourage him.
– Belittle him in public or private? You wound him.

Respect isn’t earned once—it’s nurtured daily.
Without it, the relationship starves.



4. MARRIAGE REQUIRES HONOR—NOT JUST A VOW

A teachable woman is willing to adjust.
A peaceful woman builds unity.
A respectful woman honors the man she chose.

Marriage thrives when two people are committed to something bigger than ego or power.

Without mutual honor, marriage becomes a battleground—not a bond.




Final Thought: Men Don’t Leave Because They’re Weak—They Leave Because They’re Worn Out


Ladies:
If leadership feels like control,
If correction feels like offense,
If respect feels optional—
You may not be ready for marriage.

Because a husband isn’t looking for perfection.
He’s looking for peace.
For partnership.
For someone who respects his role and supports his growth.

If you see submission as slavery and independence as rebellion—
You don’t want a husband.
You want control.

And that’s not love—it’s captivity.




Marriage is for builders, not battlers.
Choose wisely.
Speak life.
Give peace.
And build something worth keeping.

Have a blessed day.


Note: This write-up focuses primarily on women. Check out my thread for the perspective on men.
https://www.nairaland.com/8516232/marriage-not-weak-selfish-irresponsible

Give me this sermon in 15years...............









The way you just exonerated the men folks,a woman dont just change overnight.





By the way,i m married,i m enjoying my marriage.

Caaz:
Give me this sermon in 15years...............









The way you just exonerated the men folks,a woman dont just change overnight.





By the way,i m married,i m enjoying my marriage.

I sure will.
I'm already three years gone and Very Happy in Marriage.

If my parents could still be together for 34 years now, then I know I have their blessings.

Note: This write-up focuses primarily on women. Check out my thread for the perspective on men.


https://www.nairaland.com/8516232/marriage-not-weak-selfish-irresponsible

Many men continue to act irresponsibly, while more and more women are stepping up and taking responsibility for their lives.

For generations, society has placed the blame for failed marriages and poorly raised children squarely on women’s shoulders. In response, many women have learned to take full responsibility for their choices, knowing they’ll be held accountable either way.

This thread focuses specifically on the mistakes women make that often lead to broken marriages. I’ve already shared a separate thread addressing men’s faults — and interestingly, women didn’t react with hostility. That’s because they’ve long been conditioned to fight for their homes, being told they are the “home builders.”

Many men, on the other hand, have been raised to deflect blame — to see the woman as the problem, regardless of the situation. That mindset is one of the biggest reasons marriages continue to fall apart.

Is very unfortunate that a man still marry this one.

To be honest with you, how man go open him eye go marry this one.

Truth
Simply the truth

Women need to stop raising their daughters to be wives. Imagine the OP asserting that a woman should be teachable, noncombative and respectful to a man without requiring the same of the men the woman engages or relates in a clear attempt to suggest women are human slaves to serve and bow to men.

Mother's need to begin doing better jobs because this future remains bleak for the African woman in life and marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Women need to stop raising their daughters to be wives. Imagine the OP asserting that a woman should be teachable, noncombative and respectful to a man without requiring the same of the men the woman engages or relates in a clear attempt to suggest women are human slaves to serve and bow to men.

Mother's need to begin doing better jobs because this future remains bleak for the African woman in life and marriage.

She states that this article was focus on women, and there was no place she suggest slavery. Even in a normal day to day relationship with people, these attributes are needed for peaceful and progressive relationship, how much more in marriage? You are so predictable in your responses to threads. You simply want to sound defensive and not necessarily contributive. A woman who knows her worth is not afraid to learn, express herself without being combative or confrontational and she sees showing respect as a sign of strength. This way, the people she deals with even her husband, reciprocate. People will most likely treat you the same way you treat them and how you carry yourself. It's humility to stay silence and just learn, Kobo.

BlessingIsraelM:
➜She states that this article was focus on women, and there was no place she suggest slavery. Even in a normal day to day relationship with people, these attributes are needed for peaceful and progressive relationship, how much more in marriage?
➜ You are so predictable in your responses to threads. You simply want to sound defensive and not necessarily contributive. A woman who knows her worth is not afraid to learn, express herself without being combative or confrontational and she sees showing respect as a sign of strength.
➜ This way, the people she deals with even her husband, reciprocate. People will most likely treat you the same way you treat them and how you carry yourself.
➜ It's humility t stay silence and just learn, Kobo.

These attributes literally reduce women to no more than slaves in the name of keeping the peace and progress of relationships. A woman is a woman even outside of such demeaning situations.

2. A woman does not need to learn to be a woman. She was born a woman from her mother's womb and only needs to learn to grow emotionally, socially, and mentally to thrive both in and out of relationships, just as every human being out there.

3. If the people she deals with are not human beings like her, then they need to be correctly classified as lower animals; she probably should not be dealing with any such.

4. I am neither religious nor traditional.Your humility jargon means absolutely nothing.

Kobojunkie:
These attributes literally reduce women to no more than slaves in the name of keeping the peace and progress of relationships. A woman is a woman even outside of such demeaning situations.

2. A woman does not need to learn to be a woman. She was born a woman from her mother's womb and only needs to learn to grow emotionally, socially, and mentally to thrive both in and out of relationships, just as every human being out there.

3. If the people she deals with are not human beings like her, then they need to be correctly classified as lower animals; she probably should not be dealing with any such.

4. I am neither religious nor traditional.Your humility jargon means absolutely nothing.

When I say relationship, I do not mean romantic relationships only. Whether it is a relationship between a mother and a child, a woman to another woman, at her work place, family circles other human interactions. Everyone, whether male or female, need not be combative and rude if a relationship must be progressive. For a relationship to be enjoyed and mutual, everyone is saddle with the responsibility of bringing their best self. And if you see respect in relationships romantic or not as slavery , that sells you out.

I do not see where I said a woman need learn to be a woman, off course, being a woman is gender base and not a matter of knowledge or character. so, cut that out!


You referring to people as lower animal give me a picture of who you are. I hope I am not being assumptive.


Humility is not a religious attribute, it's strength. It doesn't mean being a doormat. It is an act of self confidence without performance for validation from others.

BlessingIsraelM:
➜When I say relationship, I do not mean romantic relationships only. Whether it is a relationship between a mother and a child, a woman to another woman, at her work place, family circles other human interactions. Everyone, whether male or female, need not be combative and rude if a relationship must be progressive.
➜For a relationship to be enjoyed and mutual, everyone is saddle with the responsibility of bringing their best self. And if you see respect in relationships romantic or not as slavery , that sells you out.
➜ I do not see where I said a woman need learn to be a woman, off course, being a woman is gender base and not a matter of knowledge or character. so, cut that out!
➜ You referring to people as lower animal give me a picture of who you are. I hope I am not being assumptive
➜ Humility is not a religious attribute, it's strength. It doesn't mean being a doormat. It is an act of self confidence without performance for validation from others.

1. When I also said relationship, I meant every relationship that out there as well.

2. Anything that causes one to reduce or diminish oneself is not respectful to one's being. It is damaging and needs to be avoided at all costs.

3. Attributing learning to only women in relationships is akin to stating she is to learn her place as a woman, is it not?

4. I instead refer to people who refuse to treat others as humans— humans deserving of equal respect — as lower animals.

5. Humility is actually of worth or value only in religious/traditional circles.