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pocohantas:
The only IRONY of fatherhood is how men spend hours whining online on the neglect of fathers, only to do the same to their fathers.

On mothers day they will suddenly remember fathers day, but on fathers day, they will disappear.

I told one to take care of his PARENTS. As in PARENTS! and he called me a feminazi. He said if female kids cannot do it, a time would coke when we have to drop off our aged parents at care homes.


In local parlance, na man dey do man.
I bet they are waiting for feminists to come speak for them. Whereas they have time to talk about women, our ages, marital status and reproductive organs _every blessed day.

cococandy:
Couldn’t have said it any better.

Imagine if they focused on their issues as much as they obsessed about women’s marital ages and body count? They would indeed be happier people

tensazangetsu20:
From my own experience my pman never did anything for me. Everything I am today is because of the sacrifices of my mother and it will be unfair to send scarce resources to where they aren’t needed or to who didn’t contribute. Only my mother enjoys my mother.

tanigororo:
Where were you loving while growing up?
I am very sure it's in a house rented by your father.
If your father is dead, you can't appreciate him anymore. But if he is alive, you will understand what he has done for you. His presence, his surname, those are provisions you can never get elsewhere

tanigororo:
Where were you loving while growing up?
I am very sure it's in a house rented by your father.
If your father is dead, you can't appreciate him anymore. But if he is alive, you will understand what he has done for you. His presence, his surname, those are provisions you can never get elsewhere

Nonexisting1:
This is the standard norm but I have changed the story. Even though my father still has an active business, I buy him gifts and give him money more than I give my mother who is full time retired. I know she is not happy about it and favours my elder brother more than me but I don't care. Everyone looks out for her, my brother, my sisters and even her brother's children do buy her gifts. When God started blessing me, the first thing I did was change my father's old pickup to a new hilux. I can not go to village now and not buy my father a gift even if it's slippers, everyone knows that and that's why they call me enyinnaya.

ibechris:
My father calls me Ekwu-eme.

Talk and do.

I built him a house,made sure he has food always and often.

Nonexisting1:
Na man you be. I wanted to bring down my father's house and build a better one but he said it's a disrespect to my senior bros and gave me a land to build my own house. Again, na man you be.🤝

tensazangetsu20:
Which provision. Provision is tangible and visible. If it didn’t Dey it didn’t Dey.

We4all:
The problem of children looking out for their mothers more than their fathers has to do with the man, and the relationship he has built with them over the years. As a father, If you don't bond with your children during their formative years or act responsibly, then be prepared to suffer the consequences. You can't be a dead beat dad, a wife beater, or a womanizer, and be expecting kind gestures from your children. Most responsible children become distant from their dads as soon as they sense that he is irresponsible.

My former neighbor, for instance should get the award for the 'best father' in the world. He has a strong bond with all his children, such that they are always saying: 'my daddy this..my daddy that'. Whenever you tip them for running errands for you, you will hear: 'let's go and give it to daddy'. Do you think these children will grow into adults and neglect their dad? Hell no!

My sister's friend recently bought a brand new car for her dad and even renovated the family house he built. This was a man who was very close to his children and made them feel special. He used to take them out and they continue to share a special bond. Their mom is alive, but she comes second.

My point is, no RESPONSIBLE child will neglect his dad if he was there for him physically, emotionally and financially. Most men work and provide for their families, yes...but providing for your family shouldn't turn you into an 'aloof five star general' in your home. If you have a job that takes you away often, make the most of your presence whenever you are around. Respect your wife and bond with your kids during their formative years, and they will remember to send you small gifts and upkeep money as a show of appreciation when the time comes.

Double0h7:
People are loved for who they are rather than what they are. A great father is loved because he is great not because he is a father. Be a great father and reap what you sow.

We4all:
The problem of children looking out for their mothers more than their fathers has to do with the man, and the relationship he has built with them over the years. As a father, If you don't bond with your children during their formative years or act responsibly, then be prepared to suffer the consequences. You can't be a dead beat dad, a wife beater, or a womanizer, and be expecting kind gestures from your children. Most responsible children become distant from their dads as soon as they sense that he is irresponsible...

ibechris:
"I was in a car wash yesterday when one of the boys said "make I see N100 million now "then I said, "if you eventually see it what will you do with it", he said "I will first of all build house for my mother, buy good car for her and open a very big shop for herm"

I was actually waiting for a why to know whether he will speak further on what he will do with the N100 milion but unfortunately he stopped, I then asked, "don't you have a father?" He said "I have" then I said "won't you make any provision for him" then he said "my father is a man, e dey hustle him own hustle" and the conversation stopped.

I now flashed back through my experience over the last 10 years that I've been hiring workers on the farm, then I realized that none of the over 200 workers worked with me ever came to ask for money to be sent to their fathers, not even once, but they are always sending money to their mothers.

Not only that, over 60% of these boys were even sent out by their mothers to go and work purposely for the money to be sent to them.

This morning again, a boy that is earning N70,000 who has already collected N20,000 for upkeep from the beginning of the month said I should send N40,000 to his mother out of his remaining N50, 000.

This is a pandemic to every father, men are on their own.

Nah wah ooo.

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ShyHussaini:
Women are generally manipulative in nature. As a man, always make sure your wife makes it point clear that you're the provider of the house. Never let your children ask their mother for money for essential things in their lives. E.g,
(children) mom, we need money for books or our school fee is delayed.
Mom= relate these to your father.
By these, the children will begin to see the effort of their father in their lives and not just a useless man who cared less of his family.