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If income comes from both husband and wife, then chores MUST come from husband and wife too. — Journalist Eloho Johnson sparks debate.

Chilipepper:
➜If income comes from both husband and wife, chores must come from both of them too" — Journalist Eloho sparks debate.

Even when both couples share provider responsibility, there is still a lot that needs to be shared beyond just the chores.

I support her with my full chest. Men have been doing women ojoro since time immemorial. If a man and a woman are splitting the bills, then they should also take turns to do the chores. It is called balanced equation!

This is no problem.
A traditional husband deserves a traditional wife.
A woke husband deserves a woke wife.

We4all:
I support her with my full chest. Men have been doing women ojoro since time immemorial. If a man and a woman are splitting the bills, then they should also take turns to do the chores. It is called balanced equation!

Oya provide for the family and pay all the bills and I will be doing all the house chores.

I agree wholeheartedly.

But if I contribute 100% to household expenses.... I wouldn't pay for housemaid or caterer or drycleaner or even washing machine.

This generation of women especially Nigerians are very lazy. I am not misogynistic and don't support women bashing but it is the harsh reality.

Whites, whoever decides to stay at home, male or female does the chores. They don't turn relatives to maids. And that's why the courts support her to clean you out during divorce. You can't make her sacrifice her career and then dump her when she reaches Best Before Date

All these new generation theories sef, they thing done tire me. Yes husband can help to do chores when he can but forcing it on him is a recipe for disaster. Besides shebi they said they can multitask. After reading this now some women will forming attitude for their husbands

And I hope it’s thesame body count they both brought to the marriage o,make e no come be say the man Dey drill well wey don dry finish!

I support this, the man must do chores and the woman must also provide

If you are a man 35 upward you will know that somethings don't worth your attention

We4all:
I support her with my full chest. Men have been doing women ojoro since time immemorial. If a man and a woman are splitting the bills, then they should also take turns to do the chores. It is called balanced equation!

Well, since eyes don opened, I don't have problems with that inasmuch as the request do not come with disrespect.

Hubby can't you see that the dirty plates are still in the kitchen?

Imagine when friends or visitors are around.!

Wahala don start be that o.

We4all:
I support her with my full chest. Men have been doing women ojoro since time immemorial. If a man and a woman are splitting the bills, then they should also take turns to do the chores. It is called balanced equation!

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MissPride:
This is no problem.
A traditional husband deserves a traditional wife.
A woke husband deserves a woke wife.

I really like this. 👍

A fake woman deserves a fake man.

But, what should happen if the husband is paying all the bills and still does chores?

Use whatever works for you to maintain a happy home.

I agree.

It's absolutely absurd for the husband not to be supportive in his home.

Dem don come again o. There is no husband that doesnt do house chores to assist his wife. What women want is simple house boy. For the first 5 years of my marriage, I was the one going to market to get what she will cook. I ran errand for her in the street before the children grew and took over from me. I took off her the burden to do my laundry as I even run the business. I clean the house sometimes, especially when she is sick or travelled and she usually meet clean home when she returns. I was doing all these to protect her and reduce her stress, despite my heavy shedule.. But guess what, she would always accuse me of not helping at house chores . Me a man who have multiple streams of income and do over 80% financial responsibility( just to even dash her the remaining percent sef) compare to someone who works from home. Yet she wants me to be washing plates and sweeping floor everyday. That's helping house chores to women. If it is a man that sits idly and the woman working her ass, that is even understandable. Women dont know what they want walahi.

I don't understand which kind of home these women grew from.

Family is a shared responsibility, not by math or something, it's something the couples together with the children (or not) just do.

Many grew from a loveless home and they are the most vocal, painting wrong narrative about home.

Since the beginning of time, husband and wife have been sharing responsibilities of marriage including cooking and other chores. You're not being woke for demanding that men should do chores. It's just a sign of being raised poorly.

But you find a situation where income only comes from the husband and yet the wife expects him to help her do chores!

She's not married, but if she's married then I'm highly disappointed on the husband.

I have come to a conclusion that the worst person to take advice from is from a bittered person. If you listen to the advice of a lot of people who are depressed in marriage with time you become depressed in your own marriage. In fact during my wedding one woman was telling my wife " Dont pity him o, let him spend everything he has on marriage , so that once u marry, he will value you"/. Funny enough, this is a man whose husband do not even take care of any bills at home. He spends money recklessly. Now back to this mumu who called rself a journalist, anybody who listens to this advice should be ready to become miserable tomorrow. When it comes to bills or house chores, there is no formular. Rather each and every patner should support each other. The man should learn to support the wife and the wife should do same. The moment there is lets share responsibilities, then the home becomes divided.

To the Men encouraging their wives to go out and hustle

You know the oldest way of hustling for women I didn't say anything oo
Don't be shocked when she becomes a bigger bread winner than you.

The call it the oldest profession in the world for a reason.

This is absolutely correct.

If both husband and wife would go out everyday, look for some income to keep the home, why would any sane man not significantly get involved in chores.... school runs...etc?

How can her assertion be wrong?

So, would she return home, tired as you are, and then dive into the kitchen or anywhere work need to be done while the husband idle away in front of the TV?

We4all:
I support her with my full chest. Men have been doing women ojoro since time immemorial. If a man and a woman are splitting the bills, then they should also take turns to do the chores. It is called balanced equation!

There is no man that doesn't do chores name one. Did your father not do chores at home even when they were the ones providing a large chunk of the finances?

I laugh when women shout chores, if I men split bills it will be 50:50 as regards the total expense of the house but no man have done this, men only want you to support the family as much as you can, a woman can earn 50k and uses it to support the family and then the man brings 600k without complaining, is it what you call split bills? carry your 50k go take care of the bills yourself and see how life is

If truly men split bills , if the bill is 1m monthly then you will bring 500k and the man brings 500k and then you can share the chores as you do please . There is no man that doesn't do chores at home name one

Chilipepper:
If income comes from both husband and wife, then chores MUST come from husband and wife too. — Journalist Eloho Johnson sparks debate.

Men... if you are rich, marry 10 wives. Chores is now a problem to this gender. Marry 10 wives, and live in the house of the wife that takes care of you better because, if you are broke, this gender no go pity you.

I honestly concur. Man is positioned to be the provider, any man who relinquish this esteem position has traded his headship to his wife and therefore be ready to share chores and any other thing in-between.

However, circumstances may surface and position the woman as the breadwinner, but man ,don't feel bad, but for the time being, ensure you are endeavouring to get back on your feet and claim your position as the head, because it was not meant to be that way from the beginning. But if you want to go with the modern practice of sharing financial responsibilities, then also be ready to share house chores.

This is very simple... If you can't respect and submit to your husband then stay for your papa house. No need for this argument. Dey your papa house simple

A husband can always help out with the chores, but it shouldn't be under obligation because income comes from the wife.

Social media has given amplifier to bullshit in the form of opinions. If you eat dungs then you will find this statement palatable.

I don't blame her, I blame the husband that paid bride price of who knows how much, for a woman like this.

You don't wife up modern women.