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Do Not Prioritize Your Wife Above Your Siblings. They Are Your Blood While She Is An Outsider— Nigerian Lawyer Advises Men

Your wife that will have baby children for you, is an outsider?

Okay o.

I hope you let the baby children she has for you in.

budaatum:
Your wife that will have baby children for you, is an outsider? Okay o. I hope you let the baby children she has for you in.

In Nigeria, the wife is an outsider. The traditional system of marriage makes this abundantly clear. I wish Nigerian women would realize and accept this fact already. They gain absolutely nothing from marrying under the traditional marriage banner.

En en....some men dey o. I can imagine what the wife will be passing through.

Na you know the nonsense wey you carry put for house o but for me, my wife is my number one family. My siblings have their own family too, sibling is sibling, wife is wife. No confusion!

Where did you hear this fact? I’m curious. Also, does your father treat your mum like an outsider, or is he currently doing so?

Kobojunkie:
In Nigeria, the wife is an outsider. The traditional system of marriage makes this abundantly clear. I wish Nigerian women would realize and accept this fact already.

SINisSIN:
➜Where did you hear this fact? I’m curious....

I heard it from your ancestors and your current traditional leaders.

Why marry an "outsider" when you can marry your "blood"?

Not everyone who's related to you by blood can be your family.....I learned that as a lesson for the past few years...........But sometimes,that your wife may even turn out to be your source of upliftment...

Kobojunkie:
In Nigeria, the wife is an outsider. The traditional system of marriage makes this abundantly clear. I wish Nigerian women would realize and accept this fact already.

Will you make me sleep in the shed too?

How am I supposed to dedicate my entire life and being to supporting you and nourishing our children and nurturing our family if you don't let me inside?

Did God not join us together to be one?

Mindlog:
Why marry an "outsider" when you can marry your "blood"?

Kukuma, instead of making me sleep outside.

budaatum:
➜Will you make me sleep in the shed too? How am I supposed to dedicate my entire life and being to supporting you and nourishing our children and nurturing our family if you don't let me inside? Did God not join us together to be one?

Which god joined who and who together?

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While we are on the subject, the Nigerian idea of marriage has the woman abandoning her father and mother and taking on the last name of her husband in an attempt to loosely anchor herself — she remains an outsider that can be discarded on a whim—to her husband and his family. But the Book of Genesis, which Nigeria pretends documents their God, instead insists that it is the man who ought to leave his father and mother. Clearly, you need to be specific when it comes to this god thing.

Kobojunkie:
Which god joined who and who together?

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While we are on the subject, the Nigerian idea of marriage ........

I don't think all women submit to this so called "Nigerian idea of marriage", and accept you mean most.

I will not fully invest in a marriage to a person who can "discarded on a whim". In fact, while we are dating, you will have shown me you discard on a whim, like your broken slippers, food you did not finish, people or rubbish, and I will know you are a discarder on a whim, so I will not marry you.

Womens! Raise your hand if your "Nigerian idea of marriage" can discard you on a whim!

I want to believe that words failed him, like they've always failed many people. Of a fact, a husband doesn't need to downplay his diligent wife to prove that his diligent siblings are dear to him, citing that he can easily relate with both parties equitably.

Advice full everywhere like.water...



Some Siblings also behave like an outsider....


Abi no be this world Brother/ Sister go send Money to siblings for building wey siblings go swallow am or Siblings killing derr Brother because of inheritance....

Sonnobax15:

Not everyone who's related to you by blood can be your family.....I learned that as a lesson for the past few years...........But sometimes,that your wife may even turn out to be your source of upliftment...

That lawyer is a narcissist

A good wife could even be better than a man's mother and vice versa

This one na true Fela disciple o, probably practicing at Fela’s shrine. If you end up marrying a heartless or wicked wife, there’s nothing wrong in applying that kind of idea. But if she’s a good wife, you should treat her otherwise.

Chilipepper:
Do Not Prioritize Your Wife Above Your Siblings. They Are Your Blood While She Is An Outsider— Nigerian Lawyer Advises Men

Not even in this generation or upcoming Gen, ours is even better.

Nonsense talk.

You and your wife are one so not prioritising her is akin to you not prioritising yourself

You can as well marry your siblings nah. Everybody just wan yarn.

Kobojunkie:
I heard it from your ancestors and your current traditional leaders.

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Confirm true story! A wife that may wake up one day and say it's over. She wants a divorce versus your family that will stay with you forever through thick and thin. In some way he is partially right though.

Depends on the family, biko!

Families dey where siblings dey their lane dey hustle, no time to check you sef!

Na when poverty coupled with entitlement dey de family, wey this one for be issue.

As I dey here, I get siblings wey never call me one-on-one in 2025, not even "happy new year" sef. Na for WhatsApp group we dey gist, dey organise family prayer/fasting time.

All man dey hin dey. When one one of us need epp or we get occasion, all man go show up.

After, we waka.

Dasall!

There's element of truth here. But there are exemptions

why would someone want to choose between theee two



no na..... family is family

Nonsense talk. You don't know that your mother is yy

Food for frustrated and hopeless guys to feast on.

Lawyer should have asked her mother, who is insider to do all the duty of outsider for him, including warming his bed for him every night and born every child he wants in life.

Do not guarantee a loan for your wife if you do not have intention of assuming responsibility for it

Lawyer with a touch or torchlight beaming with vawulence.

I remember my hey days in the pilled word, I was fond of saying your wife isn't your relative so be careful now I know better and it's pretty much the same thing both in sane and insane climes, lower your guards down a little as a man and the wolves in sheep clothing regardless of the ties involves will pounce on you.

SINisSIN:
En en....some men dey o. I can imagine what the wife will be passing through.

Na you know the nonsense wey you carry put for house o but for me, my wife is my number one family. My siblings have their own family too, sibling is sibling, wife is wife. No confusion!

I was about to ask if men can discard their wife on a whim but I guess they can all just like your post and share.