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StoryHaven:
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When last did you have sex? I promise I'll believe you. And I'll like to hear the funny story about yourself.

I'm being honest, though. I'd like to learn.

Report to her parents

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to.

Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now.

It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep.

Married men, how do you handle this situation?

I think the outside d..k tastes better so yours turns out as a distraction to her...
Again, I believe she has developed mental problem...she cannot say she doesn't understand your needs.

My advice for you.

1. Since you are a Christian, pray for her.
2. Talk to her face to face.
3. Notify her parent just one time.
4. If there is no improvement, then go ahead and utilize other opu.eh at pay as you go bouquet rate.
5. Read and understand number 4 again..
Never keep a side chick! Being humans too; They will eventually want to scatter your marriage by deliberately exposing you to your wife. So pay as you go remains the best package...make sure you use the package gaaan...

6. Master the stories to give madam as you sleep out always with your pay as you go service provider...never get caught.

7. You will notice how nice you suddenly become at home....learn to suppress it..maintain the atmosphere just the way she wants it...

8. Finally for your Christian man sake, remember it was the same God that created you with sexual urge.. then God make provision for your urge via marriage but your wife is the one undoing the normal move of God..do not allow your wife to be stronger than God oh..

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to.

Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now.

It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep.

Married men, how do you handle this situation?

1. According to your story she is the man of the house and you are the woman of the house.

You need to re claim your leadership position first.

If she is the one feeding you or financing your life style I will understand

What you need is temporary separation

Send her back to her parents house with style. And also stop honoring her financial request.

She will call a family meeting by herself and you will tell her and her family how she is neglect your sexual needs and have them decide how to advise their daughter.

Ejaculation has many benefits! Dey play!

Kobojunkie:
Say what now?

⚉ Christian men are known to be cheats — they are world-renowned for blaming some dude called the devil for all of their atrocities in marriage.
⚉ Christian men are known to engage prostitutes— a good number of the over 280 million men registered on the OnlyFans website are Christian men.
⚉ Christian men are known to obtain divorce at the same rate as non-Christians do...

With an ever-shifting goal post that is typically of pretty much all religions(Christianity among them), it matters nothing that you claim to be Christian, since your Christianity does not seem to keep you from placing sex— raw bodily pleasure— on a pedestal in even your marriage. Let's retire that "I am a Christian" card already! 😏😏

Kobojunkie relax abeg. It's clear that your antichristian bias won't allow you to view things from the OP's perspective.

Honestey:
Exactly the problem I'm having with my wife. Just this night though I didn't find man on top of her but everything now makes sense to me. There is a drug she takes anytime we have sex and about 3 months now that she has been denying me sex, I checked the drug and realized she has finished using them.
My brother, once woman begins to deny you sex just know she is getting it elsewhere.

The best bet for you is to leave her the F.K alone. You guys were alone before these wayward wives of yours came along. For someone who you likely never married a virgin you are giving yourself headaches about. Get another woman too and stop acting all weak. Life's too short to depend on one woman who doesn't care. Jare e.

GuyInTheMirror:
I know you can't be right all the time but darn somethings you surprise even the devil with the kind of things you post.

I can only hope you are catching cruise as a best case scenario which even is quite concerning to be honest.
Now if you are actually serious about some of these disturbing replies you post then I am 100% certain you suffer from a psychological disorder.

This is not a terribly bad thing but you have to realize this fact so you can manage it especially those days that you'd be low and down and restless.

How do I know all this ? I have been there myself.

To the OP, as bad as Nigerians are not many are worse than professing /religious Christians who lack moral compass and solid family values.

It's even worse amongst those ones that attend all these "modern day club houses" now disguised as church.

Generally not many women can match a man's libido even my wife doesn't but it's the way and manner it's managed that determines how devastating that gap will be in the marriage.

I married my wife a virgin so it doesn't matter how angry I am whenever I remember that night I disvirgined her after marriage I just forgive her even when she's wrong...

It's this kind of things that makes marriage a delicate institution.

Hopefully she makes the correction or you learn to adapt to the new reality.

What happens if you let her know you ate now maturating due to her denying you sex ?

what exactly did you try to say here?

A religious extreme woman ain't good, she worship the pastor, all her time and money goes to him.

Divorce shouldn't be an option in this case. Even if he choses to divorce and marry another person, she may even be more worse. The sad truth is that, in this context of sex in marriage, almost all these women are the same. The way men see sex in marriage, women don't see it that way. You'll be surprised that little little things like speaking/doing her love language etc naturally turns them on. Stylishly find out her complaints about you, then try to adjust. Things like these will naturally touch that emotional part of her...

StoryHaven:
Guy, if you will like to be told the truth.

Most Christian women are demonic without knowing they are.
I am a born again and if I tell you when last I had sex, guys on this platform will mention my post with "Stop Lying"
So, no need.

Ask most Christian men to be sincere with their answer to the question, "Are you happy with your sex life in your marriage?" And 95% of them will tell you "No!"
In fact, many will add, "I am fed up with my marriage, "

You see, most Christian wives are demonic.
They are the vessels the devil uses to torment their husbands.
Do you know Muslim women dare not starv their husbands with sex?
Why?
Because their religion permits their husbands to marry more than one wife. In fact, four!
So, once a Muslim wife keeps her body away from her husband, the man will go and be having extra marital affairs or kukuma marry another woman.

But Christian women, they are so mentally retarded to the point that they think, "Dem no born am well to go have a side chick,"

The man will have a side chick and there is nothing you can do.

Having a side chicks may be a Sin for him, but the punishment will be shared by him and the demon he calls a wife.
In fact the wife might be the only one to be punished by God because she is the one who pushed her husband to the point of having a side chick.

When the Bible says, " If you can't hold yourself go and marry," the man obeyed the instruction but unfortunately, he married a demonic agent, who is hell bent to make him sin and lose his salvation.
The fact is,
God is a good judge and you may be surprised that he would leave the man and punish the demonic woman only.

My post is already long. I would have told you a funy story about myself.

Anyways, remain blessed.

If you ask me on what to do, I would tell you to call her and discuss divorce with her. Be serious when you do it.
Forget about the love you have for her and take the action. Instead of you to lose your salvation because of a demonic woman, divorce her and marry another.

Lastly, can I tell you a truth?
It is true that the Christian God hates divorce, but not in a situation when the marriage is full of violence and constant sex denial.

Those who preach "A Christian can't divorce his wife or her husbands," are only dillusional.

Divorce the demonic agent ASAP before you lose your salvation.
Peace!

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to.

Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now.

It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep.

Married men, how do you handle this situation?

How about you telling her straight up that you want to make love to her. I guess she's enjoying another company via phone...and for the night prayer, draw her attention to the passage in the bible where Paul talks about couples denying one another of knacking, that it's indirectly opening the door for the devil to come in.

Mishydoo

I’m really impressed and happy to have read this. You sound like you know this subject. But I have a few questions for you: i honestly want to know.

I’m talking about a responsible man now, who provides and helps well with household.

What exactly is the woman’s role in this if the man would do all this?
Her role is the same as his role if there were reversed, which is usually the case. If you would easily give this advice to a woman whose marriage is faltering, then there should be no issue with giving it to a man. It's even biblical

Why do these sound like conditionalities…when empirically you do more now (invest more time, money etc) than when you were dating but get less now?
Because that is the reality of Marriage. Even abroad, couples who date for years get married and divorce in under 2 years. You have to put in more work to sustain it. That is the meaning of the word: Commitment.

And how exactly do you do this with kids?

How long can you keep this date nights and all up with limited time and resources?
Intentionality (a cute buzzword). Basically, if it's important to you, you'll make time. I've never seen a husband who loves football miss a match. I've never heard a man declare he was too busy or too broke to cheat, money will magically be squeezed out of a rock to buy a side chic a new phone. Yet when it comes to the flesh-of-his-flesh wife, excuses begin to pop up. Date night doesn't have to be expensive, it just has to happen.

Now she knows, now she says date nights etc are just cos you wanna get laid, so you don’t get any. Whats the motivation to go on?
Companionship in your old age. A lot of men are drinking the red pill and saying Polygamy and Adultery are the cure to old age loneliness. I'm here to categorically assure you that's a lie. My stepmother packed her load once the money and affection ran out, same with every 2nd wife and side chic of different men, around me. My MiL is the 3rd, much younger wife and she's busily building a factory and has left her elderly husband in the village to fend for himself. It is the wife of your youth that will care for you in your old age. Again, even the bible supports this

What happens when she isn’t happy with you? Frankly, you cannot make one happy all the time…but you want some.

Again, if you wanted to cheat on your wife, this thought would NEVER cross your mind. You'd do whatever was necessary to win that side chic, but make excuses to woo your wife, the mother of your kids. A white guy whose marriage was floundering said a coworker of his was begining to look attractive. So he drew up plans on how to get his coworker to cheat with him (dates, messages, gifts etc). Then applied every single step to his wife. And his marriage survived.

Btw, that is a very common theme amongst divorced people dating or remarried: they finally start acting right and doing the right things...to the wrong person. And then realize their marriages could have been saved but now they've doomed their kids to 2 households, shared holidays, stepparents and siblings (and that wahala involved) and a painful lump in their chests when they see united families. My uncle told my mum, 34 years after his remarriage, that his divorce was his biggest regret and if he had been emotionally mature he would never had ended his 1st marriage. And that is a very common, sad, private thing that's shared to psychologists.

Wasn't it easier to just fix your marriage in the first place?

You think women don't love sex
Secondly maybe she doesn't love you

Go nd arrange some cash that can last you for a month..
..make sure you know what she like most .continue bringing them home every day and make sure you eat very well outside stop unnecessary house work ..make sure you bring something she like home most every day for like a month ...try to be form busy this day ...dont come quickly...let her feel like you are been getting extra job nd extra earnings this day ...once she start allow you for sex ...make sure you give her hot sex ..like kiss nd disturb her breast ..her toto..hard sex all kind of style...let her use to it like 2 week ...later she will be d one looking for you..
This day many fault came from us...we thought our wife don't need al those stuff..
They are human beings..they saw alot on their phone everyday..do you know what those poor boys are telling her at back

Please Op do you have kids?
Sometimes to make a relationship work it involves 2 people...try talking to someone on your phone also spend time on your phone,buy her gifts, don't crave for her attention,try to help out in the house if you are at home,kiss her well if you can,touch her all over and leave her wanting.

When you are together and maybe you're both alone try watching a movie,and also ask her if she wants to go out.

Tell her you would also appreciate it if she gives you gift.
Life is too short oh I know of a very responsible man died on Wednesday and he has been buried,now his wife is left with a huge vacuum.

Loving yourself and also do your best but don't overdo it because she might be feeling like you have no choice.

Even though she said she's not in the mood, still apply small touches here and there... Grab, squeeze say words to her ears.

Dress well,rub perfume by the time she sees sat you self no send am she go mellow.
If she doesn't then it's obvious she's not really in love with you.

In marriage, I've come to realize it's more difficult to get sex from wives than from women outside. Just have a girlfriend solely for sex for your own piece of mind.

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

Stop fooling yourself oga.

Your wife is not fụcking you because you're a NICE GUY.

If you want to improve, I'll recommend a book for you to read.

Welcome to the club my guy! I reserved my comments. Like one woman professor said. Marriage is a modern way of enslaving a man

Kobojunkie:
Say what now?

⚉ Christian men are known to be cheats — they are world-renowned for blaming some dude called the devil for all of their atrocities in marriage.
⚉ Christian men are known to engage prostitutes— a good number of the over 280 million men registered on the OnlyFans website are Christian men.
⚉ Christian men are known to obtain divorce at the same rate as non-Christians do...

With an ever-shifting goal post that is typically of pretty much all religions(Christianity among them), it matters nothing that you claim to be Christian, since your Christianity does not seem to keep you from placing sex— raw bodily pleasure— on a pedestal in even your marriage. Let's retire that "I am a Christian" card already! 😏😏

How did you come about this statistics. Also, how did you know they are Christian men. They shared their conversion story with you or they bear names like Joseph, john and live in Us? How?

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

Ignore kid minded people here

SuperPanther:
If you read through my post well you would notice that I said I am a Christian. Divorce is not allowed except for adultery.

I wish you the best then.

Maybe it's the stick
Ever tried head lessons.
She may start calling you head master if you get it right

Tell your Pastor and the marriage counselling committee, They should invite her, after speaking with her then call both of you and the discussion should be back up with scriptures. It's wrong to deny your spouse sex without major excuse.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 NLT
The husband should fulfill his wife's sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband's needs. [4] The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. [5] Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Get sidechick na, you be wahala, and since you no wan divorce. Or separate and get girlfriend. Na weitin I do be that o. And I am happy with my life

This one still gets money, this hardship no dey affect him.
Na hustle I dey na oooooo no time for sex.

SuperPanther:
I am just tired and heartbroken. For me to have access to my wife for sex is so difficult. I work hard to ensure the family is fine and even try to do some chores in the house as I am able to.

Right now I am trying to configure my mind to forget about sex, just continue to serve God and remain a decent man. I am good looking so it's not a case of my being unattractive. There are many beautiful women I relate with that are willing to be in bed with me but I am a Christian. I am so frustrated now.

It's either my wife is pressing phone till forever, or she has one night prayer, or she is tired and wants to sleep.

Married men, how do you handle this situation?

A Nigerian man should not be complaining about this shit! Our forefathers gave us solutions to this issue. You either marry more wives or divorce her and marry another. If these two options are not for you, then get a side chick ❤️

Kobojunkie:
Interestesting! Monks don't get prostrate, but married/non-celibate men do? WOW.... 😏

Monks sex more than non celibate