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RetroviralS:
The battles I fight within me are endless…

Imagine being infected with HIV by the same man who once said: “I do.” 💔

My greatest battle?
I still have to keep up as:
✅ a wife
✅ a mother
✅ a partner

Some days, I just want to walk away.
Not because of the virus alone… but because of the heavy stigma that follows it everywhere.

That’s why communities like Retroviral Solutions (RVS) matter. They remind us that for every diagnosis is a human being deserving of dignity, care, and hope.

What would you do if you were in my shoes?

You were infected by a man that once said " I do". You are a mother. Yet, the gender on your moniker indicates "m" meaning you are male
So how did a man infect you with HIV? Are you gay?

Always, always wear a condom. Once your spouse starts cheating, abstain immediately for your health and life. Chances are they are cheating without condom. Their cheating partner probably has several other partners they are cheating with, unto not putting their eggs in one basket. So, save yourself. There is no obligation to kpai in a marriage.

Hiv is not d end of d world, go and treat yourself

twilliamx:
What if it was from a baber or a cut or from even the hospital.

And if he had not been poking around prior to getting infected?

That's different, since it wouldn't be his fault and he's not given me reason to not trust him.

I guess we can sue the hospital or kill the barber together.

AImatter:
In this life we just have to be careful and we just have to take care of our health no matter the pleasure that we seek our health she will come first

Yes, health is number one.
But... In the end, nothing really matters.
All death na death and we all go down, it's just a matter of time difference.

When David Michael comes, the cure for HIV that has confused, confounded, conquered, and dumbfounded western civilization will become DIY.

He will give us simple homemade cures for all ailments, cardiac o, kidney o, hepatic o, osteo o, etc., David Michael will cure everything and you will prepare the cures by yourselves in your kitchens

I have noticed that this particular user keeps posting different HIV stories. I wonder what his agenda is

Houseofglam7:
Definitely a sponsored post but thanks for the awareness.


NEXXXXXXTTTTTTT!!!!!

Why are you lamenting now as if it is a new thing ? Gone are the days that being positive is like dead sentence. Drugs for treatment are now available for free,test etc . Many women infect men and the men did not cry out. There are many couples whose wife is positive and vice versa .
How are we sure you did not have the infection before you meet this I DO ?

I WILL JUST KILL MYSELF

The moment I finished child bearing,checked myself and free from all STIs,I started insisting on "No condom,No Sex".

It's not me that one man will infect with HIV and other STIs simply because we are married.

I cannot live my life taking medications because of another person's stupi.di.ty.

He will contact his infection and suffer it alone.

If he is not using condoms,he should leave it.

I can do without sex all the rest of my life.

Sex is not oxygen or food

2mch:
Always, always wear a condom. Once your spouse starts cheating, abstain immediately for your health and life. Chances are they are cheating without condom. Their cheating partner probably has several other partners they are cheating with, unto not putting their eggs in one basket. So, save yourself. There is no obligation to kpai in a marriage.

True that.
My husband and I use condoms PROPERLY,if we must have sex.

We hardly get intimate though and I'm okay with it

No condom,no sex.

Marriage will not end me

Xking:
What stigma are you talking about or you're going out telling people that you are positive?! Well I've been living with it for 5 years now and only my family, my ex( she is negative and was negative and she knew and we did it without protection) and my two of my distance friends. I'm on my drugs and I can't infect anyone because I'm undetectable.

But one still can't rule out that there may be stigma, even within one's family. We still live in a less progressive society down here. Our people are still very uncouth.

gbemishile:
Wait!!!!!!
Why the sudden push for HIV narrative in nairaland?
Wetin dey sheley

Somebody has got something to sell. It's the same person...

spiceadole:
The moment I finished child bearing,checked myself and free from all STIs,I started insisting on "No condom,No Sex".

It's not me that one man will infect with HIV and other STIs simply because we are married.

I cannot live my life taking medications because of another person's stupi.di.ty.

He will contact his infection and suffer it alone.

If he is not using condoms,he should leave it.

I can do without sex all the rest of my life.

Sex is not oxygen or food

Na wah oo

higgs:
I have noticed that this particular user keeps posting different HIV stories. I wonder what his agenda is

you should be grateful you have someone to remind you that the virus exists . No matter the agenda , it is a positive one . Just abstain or strap up .

Xking:
What stigma are you talking about or you're going out telling people that you are positive?! Well I've been living with it for 5 years now and only my family, my ex( she is negative and was negative and she knew and we did it without protection) and my two of my distance friends. I'm on my drugs and I can't infect anyone because I'm undetectable.

I'm curious here about your ex. You guys did it raw and she is still negative, how? Why did she allow you knowing you have it and she is at risk?
No offence pls. I'm just curious and wanna learn

Moniya4Real:
Actually visited your profile and saw where you solicited for advice on some health issues you had in 2022. Wondering why you posted that when you knew all along you have HIV considering the fact that you said to have been infected over 5 years ago. What I posted has nothing to do with my status.

And well I didn't take any drug after what I posted and everything stopped

GorillaApp:
I'm curious here about your ex. You guys did it raw and she is still negative, how? Why did she allow you knowing you have it and she is at risk?
No offence pls. I'm just curious and wanna learn

yea, she wanted me to marry her, she loved me, she knew I can't infect her becaus I'm literally like negative person because of i do take my drugs and I'm undetectable, meaning I can't pass it on , and she even forced me to cum in her so she will be pregnant. She's enlightened, that's all

Xking:
yea, she wanted me to marry her, she loved me, she knew I can't infect her becaus I'm literally like negative person because of i do take my drugs and I'm undetectable, meaning I can't pass it on , and she even forced me to cum in her so she will be pregnant. She's enlightened, that's all

Ok now it's clear. You guys had sex when your viral load was undetectable.

spiceadole:
True that.
My husband and I use condoms PROPERLY,if we must have sex.

We hardly get intimate though and I'm okay with it

No condom,no sex.

Marriage will not end me

How una dey manage this thing... The feeling of sharing fluid with your spouse is out of this world. The good thing about me is I don't love two women at the same time. I don't know why. Before I love another person, I must fall out of love first.

But the consequences of sharing this fluid is too much especially when both of you are fertile. You go born tire

occfx:
How una dey manage this thing... The feeling of sharing fluid with your spouse is out of this world. The good thing about me is I don't love two women at the same time. I don't know why. Before I love another person, I must fall out of love first.

But the consequences of sharing this fluid is too much especially when both of you are fertile. You go born tire

I'm not worried about fertility.
I had a bilateral tubal ligation during my last delivery.
My scare is getting infected with STIs.
Men claim they are polygamous in nature and cannot eat one food everytime.
I love myself and I want to be alive for my children.

spiceadole:
The moment I finished child bearing,checked myself and free from all STIs,I started insisting on "No condom,No Sex".

It's not me that one man will infect with HIV and other STIs simply because we are married.

I cannot live my life taking medications because of another person's stupi.di.ty.

He will contact his infection and suffer it alone.

If he is not using condoms,he should leave it.

I can do without sex all the rest of my life.

Sex is not oxygen or food

Your husband must be very unfaithful and promiscuous for you to have made this comment. I feel ya pains.

doctore212:
This kind of topic is what I dont like am seeing during weekends like this.

I don already plan to carry two better olosho this night.

And na Nigggga Raw I wan do.


I wont go again.


[s]Make i rush buy Premier soap or Tetmosol help myself tonight. [/s]

Make we dey post thos kind of topic for week days

go gym, don’t be a menace to your phallus.

DrAkpa:
Your husband must be very unfaithful and promiscuous for you to have made this comment. I feel ya pains.

Well,on the contrary,I have not really experienced his unfaithfulness.Maybe he is just smart to cover his tracks.
All men are unfaithful and promiscuous.
They say it rains everywhere and brag that men were not created for one woman.
Prevention is better than cure.
I have taken my decision and he is cooperative.
I can do without sex..He cannot .

If he must have sex with me,he will use condoms PROPERLY or forget about it.

That's why I advise married woman..get a God fearing man and when you finally find him please never deny him sex in whatever form...when u are tired beg him to be patient that u will wake him up or just open you legs let him get satisfied likewise husbands never deny ur wife sex..if you do and he no fit hold body there are countless women out there that are ready to satisfy dem but it comes at a great cost that might alter your lives forever.

spiceadole:
Well,on the contrary,I have not really experienced his unfaithfulness.Maybe he is just smart to cover his tracks.
All men are unfaithful and promiscuous.
They say it rains everywhere and brag that men were not created for one woman.
Prevention is better than cure.
I have taken my decision and he is cooperative.
I can do without sex..He cannot .

If he must have sex with me,he will use condoms PROPERLY or forget about it.

I hope you realise you are putting him at the risk of contracting prostrate cancer? You women just take selfish decisions without realising how it affects the other party. If I were your husband, I won't even touch you again, condom or no condom. I will just simply marry a second wife. No time for non. Sense

DrAkpa:
I hope you realise you are putting him at the risk of contracting prostrate cancer? You women just take selfish decisions without realising how it affects the other party. If I were your husband, I won't even touch you again, condom or no condom. I will just simply marry a second wife. No time for non. Sense

Everybody is free to take whatever decisions they want to.
Emphasis is on personal health.
Life is per head.
He is free to take another wife,he knows.
It's his call.
I have gotten what I ever wanted in marriage.
I don't need anybody to infect me with nonsense in the name of nonsense sex.

Meanwhile,men are also selfish.
Anybody can be selfish.

spiceadole:
I'm not worried about fertility.
I had a bilateral tubal ligation during my last delivery.
My scare is getting infected with STIs.
Men claim they are polygamous in nature and cannot eat one food everytime.
I love myself and I want to be alive for my children.

Only a foolish man sleeps around without condoms.

occfx:
Only a foolish man sleeps around without condoms.

Most men who sleep around do not use condoms.
If they do so at the beginning,along the line ,they stop and go unprotected.

This is why STIs spread.
This is why side chicks get pregnant

spiceadole:
Most men who sleep around do not use condoms.
If they do so at the beginning,along the line ,they stop and go unprotected.

This is why STIs spread.
This is why side chicks get pregnant

Through out my youthful adventure... I didn't risk it. Condom or no sex. I fear any type of STI as hell. See me suffer because of 5 mins enjoyment. Any man who does that is foolish. Why I don't pity anyone with STI.

occfx:
Through out my youthful adventure... I didn't risk it. Condom or no sex. I fear any type of STI as hell. See me suffer because of 5 mins enjoyment. Any man who does that is foolish. Why I don't pity anyone with STI.

The painful part is that these careless people go on to infect their innocent partners .

I am a medical doctor.
I have seen women in their 50 & 60s even some in their 70s taking HIV medications.
Husbands are mostly late as a result of HIV complications.

New infections are being recorded in young wives during antenatal visits,delivery,routine screening.

It's pathetic.

I laugh at people who say it's okay for a man to sleep around as long as he is providing.
I work and I also provide.
A man will not infect me with HIV or any STI for any reason.
We used to have regular screening in the first 3 years of our marriage.
Luckily for me,2 pregnancies..3 babies(including a set of twins). Since then,we use condoms or no sex.

It's been this way for over 5 years.
We are good.