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Starboytwo:
Nobody could be this dumb.

I refuse to believe this happened..

Dey look for engagement.

Lol...

Beerbeer:
Please know what you're saying. I have always been grateful to her for everything she has done. This is the first time I have ever messed up.

So u can't give her any gift/ money from the 2.1m payment but u can give the church a whooping 500k well done

We4all:
Firstly, what is the age difference between you and your elder sister?
Secondly, why didn't you tell her about the contract? She must have felt betrayed.
Thirdly, Did your twin brother tell her in good faith or was he trying to paint you black?
Finally, hustle for another contract, and buy her a nice gift as a show of appreciation.

On a second thought, I think your elder sister is oveareacting. Perharps, something else is bothering her, and she is just using the unfortunate situation to get away from y'all. Kudos to all sisters who always assume the role of a mother to their younger siblings. I used to know one, but in her case, the mom was still alive but not in the country. She accomodated and supported 7 of her siblings in her apartment. Guess what? They all got married and left the house.

She was too busy taking care of them that she forgot she was suppposed to start her own family. At the end, she eventually found someone, but sadly, she passed away shortly after. Moral of the story, you may pause your life so others can get ahead, but they may not do the same for you.

the sister is not to be blamed here

A fucking clown. Man said she should be happy for my success.

You had a bit of money, you didn't think about your twin brother that was in school but you were able to fix yourself and some other people.

If your elder sister was as closed minded as you are, do you think she would consider all of you for TEN years?

You are not only ungrateful, you are a big fool for trying to paint her as a bad person.

I pray she reads this nonsense you typed, so she can stay away from you for good.

YoobaNesan:
Earlier commenters have done justice to this but let me give you the excuse that the joy of hitting your first million overwhelm you and you wanted to make everyone happy but forgot your rich sister.

This is the only place I see you did mistake - Giving 500k to church.

It's too much even though they help you secure the job, you shouldn't give more than 10% to church (210k) , not even 11%.

So, here is the solution;

Go and collect the remaining 290k from church, add 10k to it and immediately go give the 300k to your sister with thorough explanation and begging that you acted out of naivety.

Thanks.

Mr robot,
Follow this advise
But thats if you can overwrite your mission, my man.
You know all robot has a purpose

Your sister should have been the first person you show appreciation to when you hit it big.

Please find a way to reconcile with her, you didn't do well at all.

Onegai:
Beerbeer, do you have your elder sister's email?

If you do, please send her this:

"Dear Sis, how are you?

I wanted to see how you're doing. We're fine here.

Please, may I say how sorry I am for what happened between us? I should have informed you of my success, after all, you encouraged me to go into Tech. You probably also prayed for me. You've done so much for me, for us as a family since Mumsi passed away. And I can never repay you.

And I know I should have done better. I'm so sorry.

Please, sis, can I take the burden off you a little by (insert your younger sisters names here) handling their allowance? You can't do this on your own and I want to see you, my sister, happy and enjoying her hard work. God know, Nigeria is very hard nowadays. Let me help.

Someone once said that eldest sisters are your 2nd mother and in you, I find that to be true.

If you don't wish to reply this, I will understand. I will always love you, no matter what.

Please take good care of yourself.

Warm regards,
Beerbeer"


And the next job you get, give her 1/4 of what you earn, and let her be the first to know, via email. Even if she doesn't reply.

And when she eventually unblocks you, make it a monthly habit to credit her phone with like N10k.

It's not about the money, it's the thought that counts. It's very hard to be a provider and people like being appreciated. You didn't appreciate her and she's deeply hurt. And you're selfishly expecting her to get over it and be happy for you. Sure, forgiveness is always good, but you too, shake bodi with repentance.

Except shes like you
She probably knows its chatgpt
Collect 290 from church add 10k
Send her.
Then send her your own personal email with memories both of you share.

Beerbeer:
We are four siblings in my family: two boys who are twins and two girls. When my mum passed, my elder sister stood in as a parent for us. She paid for our university education and sent us monthly allowances for feeding. In fact, three of us would have dropout if not for her. Even when I graduated from school, she was still sending me 30k every month, pending when I get a job. This is in addition to also sending same to my siblings and my father. She has done this for close to 10 years without complaint.

Recently, I finished a project that paid me 2.1 million. This is how I spent the money:
I gave 500k to my church to thank them for getting me the job.
300k to my father.
100k to my stepmum.
100k to my second sister.
Bought 700k laptop to help with my coding job.
I used the rest to pay rent, change my wardrobe, clearance from school, and feeding.

My elder sister found out from my twin brother and got angry because I didn't tell her anything about the job or the money. She was also angry because I didn't set aside money for my twin brother going to law school this year.

To be honest, I didn't think it was a big deal to tell her. I knew my twin was in safe hands cos she was already handling that so I didn't bother. Before now, she had already paid the law school fees (about 500k). So I thought it was settled. I tried to reason with her but she refused to hear.

She was also angry I didn't tell her about the laptop. I knew I messed up here because she was the one that encouraged me to pick up coding and even bought my first laptop. I told her I wanted to finalize everything but it made her angry tye more. She blocked me and I also found out she blocked everyone else including our father.

All these happened in April. I thought she would calm down by now. But I just discovered that she has moved out of our state without telling anyone. She has blocked all the numbers we tried to reach her.

My twin brother said she only sends him allowance for law school (100k every month) and has blocked his number so he won't contact her. He is the only person she sends money to now as she has stopped giving us as before.

I am so confused. Why is she acting like this? Shouldn't she be happy for me? Nairalanders help me.

File photo from Google

Looked at your expenditure and nothing for your sister. Even God won't be pleased with the expenditure.

Next time don't take a dime out; you should donate all of the money you made from your labor to your pastor or church.

@Beerbeer

Beerbeer:
She is not married and has no children.

Sorry to ask, how old is she?

You're an ingrate and nobody appreciates someone who doesn't have a thankful heart.

Out of the 500k you gave the church, why didnt you give her 300k? How come you settled everybody except the one that took care of you all?

She's really hurt and rightfully so because it shows you all were using her; you don't love her.

How come your father let this happen without letting your sister know?

You have to continue to beg her until she forgives you. Send letters address to her through her workplace begging without justifying your actions, there's no justification for your actions

Beerbeer:
We are four siblings in my family: two boys who are twins and two girls. When my mum passed, my elder sister stood in as a parent for us. She paid for our university education and sent us monthly allowances for feeding. In fact, three of us would have dropout if not for her. Even when I graduated from school, she was still sending me 30k every month, pending when I get a job. This is in addition to also sending same to my siblings and my father. She has done this for close to 10 years without complaint.

Recently, I finished a project that paid me 2.1 million. This is how I spent the money:
I gave 500k to my church to thank them for getting me the job.
300k to my father.
100k to my stepmum.
100k to my second sister.
Bought 700k laptop to help with my coding job.
I used the rest to pay rent, change my wardrobe, clearance from school, and feeding.

My elder sister found out from my twin brother and got angry because I didn't tell her anything about the job or the money. She was also angry because I didn't set aside money for my twin brother going to law school this year.

To be honest, I didn't think it was a big deal to tell her. I knew my twin was in safe hands cos she was already handling that so I didn't bother. Before now, she had already paid the law school fees (about 500k). So I thought it was settled. I tried to reason with her but she refused to hear.

She was also angry I didn't tell her about the laptop. I knew I messed up here because she was the one that encouraged me to pick up coding and even bought my first laptop. I told her I wanted to finalize everything but it made her angry tye more. She blocked me and I also found out she blocked everyone else including our father.

All these happened in April. I thought she would calm down by now. But I just discovered that she has moved out of our state without telling anyone. She has blocked all the numbers we tried to reach her.

My twin brother said she only sends him allowance for law school (100k every month) and has blocked his number so he won't contact her. He is the only person she sends money to now as she has stopped giving us as before.

I am so confused. Why is she acting like this? Shouldn't she be happy for me? Nairalanders help me.

File photo from Google

budaatum:
You were not grateful when you had money, and you still are not grateful now it seems!

500k for church but none for your sister who has been mother to you for more than 10 years is like ungrateful par excellence, but I'm glad you know you messed up.

Go beg for forgiveness, and sin no more.

He doesn't deserve a second chance...

Beerbeer:
We are four siblings in my family: two boys who are twins and two girls. When my mum passed, my elder sister stood in as a parent for us. She paid for our university education and sent us monthly allowances for feeding. In fact, three of us would have dropout if not for her. Even when I graduated from school, she was still sending me 30k every month, pending when I get a job. This is in addition to also sending same to my siblings and my father. She has done this for close to 10 years without complaint.

Recently, I finished a project that paid me 2.1 million. This is how I spent the money:
I gave 500k to my church to thank them for getting me the job.
300k to my father.
100k to my stepmum.
100k to my second sister.
Bought 700k laptop to help with my coding job.
I used the rest to pay rent, change my wardrobe, clearance from school, and feeding.

My elder sister found out from my twin brother and got angry because I didn't tell her anything about the job or the money. She was also angry because I didn't set aside money for my twin brother going to law school this year.

To be honest, I didn't think it was a big deal to tell her. I knew my twin was in safe hands cos she was already handling that so I didn't bother. Before now, she had already paid the law school fees (about 500k). So I thought it was settled. I tried to reason with her but she refused to hear.

She was also angry I didn't tell her about the laptop. I knew I messed up here because she was the one that encouraged me to pick up coding and even bought my first laptop. I told her I wanted to finalize everything but it made her angry tye more. She blocked me and I also found out she blocked everyone else including our father.

All these happened in April. I thought she would calm down by now. But I just discovered that she has moved out of our state without telling anyone. She has blocked all the numbers we tried to reach her.

My twin brother said she only sends him allowance for law school (100k every month) and has blocked his number so he won't contact her. He is the only person she sends money to now as she has stopped giving us as before.

I am so confused. Why is she acting like this? Shouldn't she be happy for me? Nairalanders help me.

File photo from Google

When u made such money 1st u should have done was tell her about it and tell her ur plans for it, that will let her know that u value and respect her as ur older sister and not just because she gives u money.

So now u made money and decided to do as u please without telling her while she is busy still worrying about all of u? Right now she thinks u guys only relate with her cos of her money and have no regards for her.

Solution: She won't talk to u.. So u have to send a well worded text message to her using another line and not just explaining urself but more importantly apologising for ur hasty discussion.

She's doesn't talk to any of u because none of u told her about this new good development except ur twin brother and that's why she still considers to talk to continue helping him.

U may have to send a few of these apologies more than once over tge course of a week..Also Dont send ChatGPT apology messages.

A good apology softens the heart. So make it really good.

Finally i need to ask do u want to relate back with her just cos she gives u money or because shes ur sister?

You gave everybody but your sister. Even if it a gift because I know she will not ask for your money

Leave her alone, life hard, you people keep taking without giving.

She's tired pray for her and let her be, when things get better for her she will come back to share...

Speaking from experience, if I could I will cut my family off

Leave her alone, life hard, you people keep taking without giving.

She's tired pray for her and let her be, when things get better for her she will come back to share...

Speaking from experience, if I could I will cut my family off.

I am speak cause I'm from a family of same size and the only guy....

It's not easy bro, depression many.

Contact only if you have value to add to her, or pm me so I can marry her, she and I will focus on our life cause we know each others pain.

Ps, we need nothing from you, we just want a normal life too.

Find out where she lives and go and see her. You really messed up. She still even sends your younger brother money. It shows she has a good heart. She actually doesn't need your money. But you should show respect.

PulaPower:
There’s nothing you can do..

An ingrate doesn’t deserve a 2nd chance..

He's a very wicked person, he will reap what he sow.

500k for pastor and zero naira for the person who has been spending money on you nonstop

Thereedemer:
Except shes like you
She probably knows its chatgpt
Collect 290 from church add 10k
Send her.
Then send her your own personal email with memories both of you share.

I am an Educator and I am genuinely saddened that a good command of Composition, Grammar, Spelling and Punctuation (basics that I expect from my Grade 3/4 students) is now considered AI writing...by adults.

Like I said in another thread, Nigerian education has been the pits for the last 30 years.

Starboytwo:
Nobody could be this dumb.

I refuse to believe this happened..

Dey look for engagement.

heykims:
Op, u didn't appreciate God enough with the 500k gift to the church, I was expecting u would at least dedicate 50% ie 1050000 naira to be sowed into your Pastor's pocket. Afterall your sister did nothing for u, it was merely your pastor's prayers that was answered through her.

Beerbeer:
Please know what you're saying. I have always been grateful to her for everything she has done. This is the first time I have ever messed up.

Talk is cheap. Put your money where your mouth is.

With a very supportive sister like that,she should be the one to decide who and what gets so so amount from the money

Thunder suppose fire you first before any other thing!
Initially, she’s not owing you all that she’s done/been doing for you people, but she does it cos of blood and love she has, yet you couldn’t even tell her of your little success/job/contract! (Which I’m sure she won’t even demand anything). It simply means when you finally get to the top you won’t even acknowledge her as the one who shaped you.

People like you are damned dangerously ungrateful (spits)

Kobojunkie:
➜ You have a father, ...., but your sister had to step in to parent you all, yet you don't see what you did wrong? You even went as far as to give a stepmother money, too?
➜You had 500k to give away to a church as Nigeria dey so, yet you don't see what you may have done wrong?
➜ (Nothing saved up for future)

May this kain sibling never happen to me!

This is the second time I'll see you comment reasonably.

But I think you should stop teaching anyone Biblically… you suck in that aspect.

Beerbeer:
I will do this since I can't get through to her on phone.
Thank you

Though there's much work to be done on yourself, cos it appears you've been more worried about why she's stopped being a support system than how much she's hurting as a human. You seriously need to address this, get your head straight and be intentional about your dealings with her moving forward.

Gosh.....i feel like blocking you right now because you are still not remorseful about what you did. That you sister is one in a Million being. I wish to have someone like her as a friend or Sister from another Mother. What a sweet soul. But as for you, You are ungrateful being.

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Your sister is at fault for cutting you off too late.

Your brother may need help financially and you gave N500k to a church? You spent your windfall like a gambler. No savings. No plans. You believe that you will automatically land another job. Good luck!

The only reason that I believe the story is because he admitted giving N500k to his pastor (what church?). Tithe-paying antelopes are irredeemable.

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