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I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Na WA....

That's life for you....I keep telling people,--"Don't die, trying to impress your society". Cuz the moment you die,it won't even take the Same set of people more than A jiffy to move on with their lives

Sonnobax15:

Na WA....

That's life for you....I keep telling people,--"Don't die, trying to impress your society". Cuz the moment you die,it won't even take the Same set of people more than A jiffy to move on with their lives

Sonnobax, you're always online commenting on every thread and sections of this platform.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.
I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.
I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.
What should I do?

Nlfpmod

Well i understand how you feel from my experience, looking at her condition she can't even help herself now, just like someone who has neen down with illness happened to get back on her feet, and can't reason dieep on her next destination.

What should be of concern, is she doing this because of her age, is she meeting the right person?, somebody with 2wives going for third wife, is he a responsible person, or he is seeing her as opportunity to leverage on her business? hhheemm so many questions.

If she decides to move on with the man don't fight her just be good and close to her for the sake of your niece and to have regular access to her.

Her next journey to marriage and take care of your niece as a way of life is a hug work, but she have to carry her cross, and i hope she carries your family along. As for the business, part of the money should be channeled to the child's up-keep and education, hence she doesn't need to warry you on that.

As for you, when you get married you may not have all the time coming close to them as you have to face your family as well.

Finally, gently follow-up to see her plans after marriage.

God help us.

As a woman, haven't you ever considered the fact that her biological clock is ticking and she probably wants to have more children?

Would you prefer that she has an illegitimate child? And don't you have your own children that you should be focusing on rather than worrying about your niece who's happy with her mother?

How are you sure that man isn't the father of her child.

No be awa/erivin kill your brother so

What's your tribe.

Foodqueen:
How are you sure that man isn't the father of her child.

No be awa/erivin kill your brother so

What's your tribe.

Thank you, you've already said my mind

Ibkay32:
Thank you, you've already said my mind

The child sef may likely not be her brother's.

Make una do DNA test o!

MistyDense:
What should I do?

First and foremost, your family should secretly conduct a DNA test.
The manner in which your elder brother died is a mystery that must be ascertained spiritually

Caaz:
The child sef may likely not be her brother's.

I tell you, make dem better do DNA

So we must do what? Shift abeg.

MistyDense:
➜As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.
I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.
I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.
I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third. What should I do?

You have no right to try to stop her, though, since her contract with your brother ended with his death and she already spent more than enough time, out of courtesy at least, mourning him. So why is your family trying to lock up her life for what seems more like guilt you feel because your brother died?

If she had been the one who died and your brother had decided to marry right after, with maybe the excuse of finding a new mother for the kids, would you have also had the same drive to stop him then?

Ibkay32:
➜I tell you, make dem better do DNA

...

DSS1335:
First and foremost, your family should secretly conduct a DNA test.
➜The manner in which your elder brother died is a mystery that must be ascertained spiritually

. Even if it turns out the child was not their brother's, what then? They can do nothing!

2. So the man did not die of complications, but mysteriously now? Because the woman is ready to move on? If say na man, you go also insinuate say na him kill the wife?

Kobojunkie:
.... Even if it turns out the child was not their brother's, what then? They can do nothing!

2. So the man did not die of complications, but mysteriously now? Because the woman is ready to move on? If say na man, you go also insinuate say na him kill the wife?

What we're saying doesn't correlate please

Ibkay32:
✓ What we're saying doesn't correlate please

A man is dead and his widow is trying to move on. How does any of what you typed up as a response correlate?

Kobojunkie:
A man is dead and his widow is trying to move on. How does any of what you typed up as a response correlate?

Maybe you should read all your comments back 😂
Wéré ni guy yí sha 😂

Ibkay32:
✓ Maybe you should read all your comments back 😂
Wéré ni guy yí sha 😂

Why? Because the death and eventual remarriage has to be neurotically linked back to the DNA of the baby that was not listed as cause of death? 🥱🥱

Heyiyah I’m really sorry about what happened to your brother the lord will continue to comfort you and the rest of the family. I feel like remarrying after 9months is way too early, is that all there is to “love” after being together for 10 years? She even wants to become a third wife that’s really low of her…. She should still be mourning your brother at least….


On the other hand she may want more kids hence her decision…. If it were the other way round would you have objected your brother from marrying a new wife?

Let’s be honest if the roles were reversed and a man from your family wanted to get married in the same time frame then we’d ALL be talking about how he is lucky to find a woman who can look after him and the baby etc. This is only weird because it’s a woman.

I understand you’re mourning your loss and it feels like she is just forgetting him but she’s honestly just trying to make a life for herself and her child. She probably wants more children and time isn’t a luxury for her. I don’t think she’s doing anything wrong, legally or otherwise.

Please just be a good aunt to your niece and continue to mourn your brother. May God make it easy for you all.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.
I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.
I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.
What should I do?

Nlfpmod

It's the inherited wealth that's spinning her head, she will soon go broke. Mark this, I give her max 2 years . My step mother is seeing 🔥 now

What you should do?
Simple, follow your brother

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.
I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.
I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.
What should I do?

Nlfpmod

she should have waited after 12months....
before getting married at least
abi no be your brother father the child!?
things like this makes u begging to suspect her and everything

Are you balothelli...

Why always you/family?

Leave her. Time will tell

That's too early o. The death no pain her..

Even ordinary break up, person no fit just move on like that,when u really love the person you were with..

It's obvious your late bro was in the marriage alone.. I pray the baby is really his and not for who she wants to marry now

Na the new man get the new baby and they had to kpai your brother to hide it and marry him


But death cancels any marriage contract with your brother

Till death do us apart

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.
I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.
I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.
What should I do?

Nlfpmod

In anyway we all see it, remember it is till death do us part

All of una sha Dey try your story writing skills,went through youe profile and half of your post are stories ooo…
Continue ooo

Am sorry for your loss. But I see nothing wrong in her wanting to remarry. If your brother has been buried and burial arrangement already processed. I don't see anything wrong with it.
I think marriage should be till death do them apart.
In some part of my tribe, I guess the woman must stay a compulsory 6months mourning period after burial ceremony and after that 6 months she will remove her mourning wears and burn them. From then onward she is free to leave her life. Widow hood isn't an easy thing you know.

Your brother probably wasn’t the father of the child and she was seeing her current lover then. 9 months is too soon for a widow to find love and get to marriage stage. Its weird but unfortunately you can’t do anything