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willi926:
Am sorry for your demise.

OP is not dead pls

Women support each other's wick edness until their sons and brothers become the victims of the wick edness, they will start changing tones. Your brother is dead, may his soul rip but please support your fellow super independent woman to live her life.

You're urobho baa

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

SisterAnn:
✓ Dem say 2 and half years old, you say newborn?

The story long... I been think say the kid dey about a year.

Bros allow her to enjoy her life, and moreover, she owes no one explanation for the steps she wants to take now.
Your Elder brother's case is a closed chapter.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Whether she remarried or not. You people should just ensure the baby girl is okay and well taken care of. Make una leave her to remarry. As for whether or not the child belongs to your brother, don't leave room for any doubt until you've done a DNA on her or until the said lady comes out to say she's not your brothers but whichever way, ensure the baby girl is well taken care of.

ITS PAINFUL ... PLEASE ALLOW HER TO MOVE ON...

Samantha125:
As a woman, haven't you ever considered the fact that her biological clock is ticking and she probably wants to have more children?

Would you prefer that she has an illegitimate child? And don't you have your own children that you should be focusing on rather than worrying about your niece who's happy with her mother?

What are you talking about 🤷‍♀️
Her family has a say in whom she marries, because of their brothers child and his assets that are still left behind, particularly for the child’s sake. It is okay to be worried about the fact that she’s getting married to a man with 2 wives already.
I’m sorry, but your statement is insensitive.

DSS1335:
First and foremost, your family should secretly conduct a DNA test.
The manner in which your elder brother died is a mystery that must be ascertained spiritually

Did you not see where it was written that her brother died as a result of complications raising from a surgical operation?

They couldn't have a child after 7 years of marriage. Then a child came and your brother became sick (Seems it's ekpo kaowo)

I perceive the child isn't your brother's own...


SORRY O!!

I doubt she's marrying out of love. She might be seeking security. That's what sone widows do. A well known case was Jackie Kennedy after the assassination of her husband. She married the Greek billionaire, Unassisted.

She is going to regret it, really regret it

It's one thing not to listen to you but another when she won't listen to her own parents. It's not that she's penniless.

You can't dictate to her. The best you can do is advice, which you've done.

It is the obstinate fly that follows the corpse I to the grave.

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Something is wrong with you.
If this table turned,you won't find anything wrong in your brother remarrying within a month of his wife's death.
People like you will make excuses like "He needs a woman to take care of the child" Bla Bla Bla

Abeg free that woman.
Your brother is dead and gone.

Let her remarry.
It's her right.

spiceadole:
Something is wrong with you.
If this table turned,you won't find anything wrong in your brother remarrying within a month of his wife's death.
People like you will make excuses like "He needs a woman to take care of the child" Bla Bla Bla

Abeg free that woman.
Your brother is dead and gone.

Let her remarry.
It's her right.

Some persons actually have comprehension issues on this platform.
My God!

Trust me the real killer of your brother coming to take her concubine for marriage, if you know you know.

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Mariangeles:
It does.

She should've mourned her late husband for a year at least.
In respect to his memory and his family.

Lol.
How many years do men mourn their late wives?

God knows if my husband died ehn,I will try and remarry in 6 months.
9 months is too long even

She has her life to live.

You have yours.

Focus on yourself. She's not a teen. She can do whatever she pleases, as long as your family have access to the child.

Are you married?

When are you gonna be married?

9 months is enough for someone to move on. What if she's dealing with a lot of mental issues as a widow and she needs someone to lean on.

You said you knew how she felt, but nah you wont, because you've never been in her predicament.

Access to your niece is the only thing that matters. Everything else is nonsensical.

And no, im not calling you names

Death is wat seprate hus/ wife, ur family have to allow her to move on. She’s lonely, but this evil days when a partner try moves on people start saying bad he or she kills the partner wc is not true. She’s 38 already She have to move on. Don’t feel bad be good to her.

Another reasonable sounding Lies coming from the shop at Upper Iweka.

Men, shey una get the message wey she dey send una?

Jgfvh

Maybe your brother no too good for the other room and could be the reason for the long childlessness... I'm 80% sure that she opue when her husband was still alive. The baby probably is not your brothers that's why she wants to quickly remarry to prove that she is fertile.

sad reality of this life , that is why i keep advising men to take care of themselves and live their life to the fullest , not only men but everyone . in this life once you are dead , you are gone , your death cant , wont and shouldn't hold any living human being to ransom. i know a lady that her husband died and within a year he married another man into the same house her late husband was living with her and life goes on . there is nothing you can do about it , the man is gone , definitely another man will take over ,life goes on .

Sonnobax15:

Na WA....

That's life for you....I keep telling people,--"Don't die, trying to impress your society". Cuz the moment you die,it won't even take the Same set of people more than A jiffy to move on with their lives

Samantha125:
As a woman, haven't you ever considered the fact that her biological clock is ticking and she probably wants to have more children?

Would you prefer that she has an illegitimate child? And don't you have your own children that you should be focusing on rather than worrying about your niece who's happy with her mother?

Is that the reason for her to be 3rd wife to another man. Ain't there no single men again?

Kobojunkie:
You have no right to try to stop her, though, since her contract with your brother ended with his death and she already spent more than enough time, out of courtesy at least, mourning him. So why is your family trying to lock up her life for what seems more like guilt you feel because your brother died?

If she had been the one who died and your brother had decided to marry right after, with maybe the excuse of finding a new mother for the kids, would you have also had the same drive to stop him then?

And what about her wanting to be a 3rd wife to another man. Don't you think something is fishy there

Kobojunkie:
.... Even if it turns out the child was not their brother's, what then? They can do nothing!

2. So the man did not die of complications, but mysteriously now? Because the woman is ready to move on? If say na man, you go also insinuate say na him kill the wife?

So if the child is not their brother's own, they can do nothing and allow her inherit all their brother's property to another man. Clap for yourself o

Lamanii22:
Heyiyah I’m really sorry about what happened to your brother the lord will continue to comfort you and the rest of the family. I feel like remarrying after 9months is way too early, is that all there is to “love” after being together for 10 years? She even wants to become a third wife that’s really low of her…. She should still be mourning your brother at least….


On the other hand she may want more kids hence her decision…. If it were the other way round would you have objected your brother from marrying a new wife?

Wanting more kids is fine, but why going to be a 3rd wife. Not even 2nd. Is that how desperate she's

Kalulu44:
➜And what about her wanting to be a 3rd wife to another man. Don't you think something is fishy there

? Why must that decision of hers be considered fishy? She is a baby mama and wants another husband... and under no obligation to be the only wife of her next man.

Kalulu44:
➜So if the child is not their brother's own, they can do nothing and allow her inherit all their brother's property to another man. Clap for yourself o

Inherit what exactly? Did OP tell you that the brother, after his health problems, had something for her to inherit, to begin with? Abeg, make una dey resist urges to insert your delusions into the lines of the OP.

Double0h7:
Let’s be honest if the roles were reversed and a man from your family wanted to get married in the same time frame then we’d ALL be talking about how he is lucky to find a woman who can look after him and the baby etc. This is only weird because it’s a woman.

I understand you’re mourning your loss and it feels like she is just forgetting him but she’s honestly just trying to make a life for herself and her child. She probably wants more children and time isn’t a luxury for her. I don’t think she’s doing anything wrong, legally or otherwise.

Please just be a good aunt to your niece and continue to mourn your brother. May God make it easy for you all.

It seems you guys are not getting it. Is she that desperate that it's only to become a 3rd wife to another man that suits her.
It's not as if she's 40 yet and can still have babies till her late 40s or thereabouts

Gotocourt:
It's the inherited wealth that's spinning her head, she will soon go broke. Mark this, I give her max 2 years . My step mother is seeing 🔥 now

Gbamsolutely speaking!

MistyDense:
I know a lot of you will call me all sorts of unprintable names and would want to nameshame me.

My Elder brother died about nine months ago and his wife is about to Remarry.

They had been married for ten whole years, but unable to bear a child for 7years, until God blessed them with a beautiful and lovely baby Girl. We all celebrated and were joyous. A few weeks after childbirth, my brother became sick. What initially looked like an ulcer became something else, and he had to go under the knife. After the surgery, there were some Terrible complications, which resulted in his eventual demise. Most painful part was, he had just landed his dream job after five years of graduation. He was extremely depressed as a result of this joblessness until luck smiled at him. He was traveling round the world like he was going to his backyard. He was breezing in and out of Nigeria for official duties until the sickness struck.
Now it's been nine months, and she already made her intentions known to my family that she wants to Remarry. Meanwhile, the baby is just two and half years old.

As a woman, I understand how lonely and traumatized she is. I perfectly understand what she's going through but myself and my family feel it's too too early for this. We, her late husband's family didn't and have never interfered in her dealings. All my brother's properties are in her custody, the Businesses they co-owned are all in her care.

I thought she would have waited a bit much longer to do this, considering how much she seemingly loved her late husband. Meanwhile she's 38yrs old. Her parents have told her to wait for some time, but she wouldn't listen. But before making her intentions known to my family, we already suspected that she was seeing someone else, going by the way she was acting.

I'm now the next in command in my family after my elder Brother's death, but I'm also a woman and have limited powers. Even if I had all the powers, I still wouldn't be Able to stop her from doing what she wants. After All, she's older than me.

I'm really pissed now as she will be taking my niece to live with another man. She's marrying a man who already has two wives, making her the third.

What should I do?

Leave her alone.
It's better to remarry than bring shame and adultery to the family.
All of you will still blame her.
But being a third wife, I won't agree to that, ever!