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Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Elzazzi: 4:30am On Sep 28, 2025
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
You guys didn’t advise him on family planning? Why will a young average hustling Nigerian guy have 5 kids ?
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by ChybuzzDD(m): 4:49am On Sep 28, 2025
Sonnobax15:
. He had an accident...
OKK. May his soul RIP!
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by DrAda(f): 5:02am On Sep 28, 2025
From the comments, I m glad that people are waking up. Simply put, give birth to babies that you can raise properly or don't get married at all.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by yemmit90:
Kobojunkie:
With the poverty rate now at over 85% when only 20 years ago, it was still hovering at about 60%, you would still want us to believe that the outcome for those living in abject poverty in Nigeria remains rosy, abi? Make una continue! 🥱🥱
I understand your point, but sincerely, no one can accurately predict the future, I have seen countless families like that. If the mother is sensible enough, she will see them through. This might look impossible to some of us in this present Nigeria but I will still say if their mother is sensible and work smartly, they will be fine.

If quite a lot of married women whose irresponsible husbands are still alive took care of their children and train them well, there is no excuse for this one except she is lazy and senseless. A fairly use bike can still go for around 400k/500k, let her use this money to start local newly harvests farm produce supply from the Bush narket, she will make alot of profits per trip.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by DanBJChem: 6:55am On Sep 28, 2025
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Tradepunter2:
Very very good advice.... it's why I love my wife.... she always makes sure am not stressed.... always ensuring i do regular check up....
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by richmond500: 6:59am On Sep 28, 2025
Kobojunkie:
And you felt the need to mention those two because they are raising their kids on okada man salary, right? 😏😏😏😏
I only counter his saying that billionaires give birth to one or two.

Elon musk didn't give birth to one or two
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by princepee: 7:27am On Sep 28, 2025
Laalasticla:
Did I ask for the child in the first place, if I wanted the child I would have given birth to a third child ...
Since she's refused to be cautious of the number of children to have, the offsprings she shuns out will be given what they rightly deserved, I don't have any sentiments or pity to give anybody...
Abi u think say I go dey pretend for here.
madam you go soon do yourself..
If you hurt that child the government will come for you and you May spend sometime in jail..
I repeat don't maltreat that child..
Send him or her back to her mother..
Cus obviously you are blaming him for his parents failure.
A word is enough for the Wise
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Laalasticla: 8:13am On Sep 28, 2025
princepee:
madam you go soon do yourself..
If you hurt that child the government will come for you and you May spend sometime in jail..
I repeat don't maltreat that child..
Send him or her back to her mother..
Cus obviously you are blaming him for his parents failure.
A word is enough for the Wise
Oga na u go do yourself......
I didn't request for the child..
The uncle brought her here..
Infact, I'm purposely using her as a maid so he can return her but he no green return her because he knows she will return to worse conditions...
So yea, I have free maid serving me.
Do your WRSE
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by mayorkent(m): 8:56am On Sep 28, 2025
Pressure day bro, almost 30 .spare naira never day account.

I sha leave woman matter for now .
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by folake4u: 9:57am On Sep 28, 2025
Poor man and fvck? 5 & 6

I don't know why people think having plenty children is a flex. Spare me with the "Children are a gift from God" BS abeg.

Raising children is a BIG RESPONSIBILITY.
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Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Silentgroper(m): 10:47am On Sep 28, 2025
Sonnobax15:
. "Where would the wife start from?". That's the question everyone has been asking..

I pray God gives her the strength to carry on...
Abeg make the wife carry Keke on higher purchase make she continue from where he stop..


Full housewife on top 5children .. some women no just get sense...
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Silentgroper(m): 10:59am On Sep 28, 2025
Laalasticla:
Exactly , like my soon to be ex husband's elder brother who died of liver cancer, he had five children he couldn't take care of before he died, after his death, his wife still go open tutu for two different men and still have two extra children, now she comes dey share the children everywhere make them dey do house maid..
One of her children lives with us, and there own family expects me to take care of her and treat her as my own child...
Me wey be say na only two I get and I have to do more than 8 abortions in this marriage cos I'm no longer interested in having children....
Na everyday me dey curse the woman o and trust me , to a smaller extent ,I'm using the girl as the slave her parents wanted the children to be....
Not the child's fault but she's suffering the sins of the parents....
Nothing concern me
Jesus





Wicked aunty

😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Silentgroper(m): 11:05am On Sep 28, 2025
Laalasticla:
Oga na u go do yourself......
I didn't request for the child..
The uncle brought her here..
Infact, I'm purposely using her as a maid so he can return her but he no green return her because he knows she will return to worse conditions...
So yea, I have free maid serving me.
Do your WRSE
You better heed his advice.. if you maltreat that child, you will regret it ..

You can send the child back to it's mom oo ..

That's an option..
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by ajalawole(m): 11:08am On Sep 28, 2025
zuby4real10:
May his soul rest in peace. But how can someone of 30 years has 5kids. Except if not all of them them are his biological children.
my cousin have 9 from 2 wives even those most of the children are in village now, funny enough he is a bus driver in Lagos, he is also in his early 30s
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Suicideboy: 11:29am On Sep 28, 2025
folake4u:
Poor man and fvck? 5 & 6

I don't know why people think having plenty children is a flex. Spare me with the "Children are a gift from God" BS abeg.

Raising children is a BIG RESPONSIBILITY.
.
Black people generally see children as a way to propagate their lineage


So they believe if you dont have kids , you have failed in life
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Suicideboy: 11:34am On Sep 28, 2025
Gerrard59:
When we say people should not have too many children, shey dem attack me then? Say four children is okay. If he had just a child, this wouldn't have happened. Use contraceptives. Undergo vasectomy. Use condoms!

I have nothing else to say.

God sees us all...
You have to be educated to want less children sadly IQ of nigerians is on a slope


Check any asian or european family, they are having few to no kids except they are fuarking poor or too rich

Its blavk men having 3,4,5,6,7,8,9 kids and call it a blessing
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by princepee: 11:35am On Sep 28, 2025
Laalasticla:
Oga na u go do yourself......
I didn't request for the child..
The uncle brought her here..
Infact, I'm purposely using her as a maid so he can return her but he no green return her because he knows she will return to worse conditions...
So yea, I have free maid serving me.
Do your WRSE
do my worse ke?
I don't have any worse.
But bookmark my words...
Don't use any man's child as slave.
It's wicked,
, if you don't want him, her return him for your own good.
You don't know were your own children will be tomorrow.
Do to orders what you want for yourself.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by yemmit90: 11:54am On Sep 28, 2025
Laalasticla:
Oga na u go do yourself......
I didn't request for the child..
The uncle brought her here..
Infact, I'm purposely using her as a maid so he can return her but he no green return her because he knows she will return to worse conditions...
So yea, I have free maid serving me.
Do your WRSE
Nothing is guarantee in life, not even your children are safe from this situation if nature brings it to you and your husband ( I forbid this for your family). So whatever the position or situation you found yourself, try as much as possible to be kind to humanity.

Children are like a powerful weapon in the hands of a mighty warrior, if you are to offend anyone in life, please don't do it to children, for they know absolute nothing about their sin or responsible for it. This is reason developed countries don't joke with the lives of their children. They are the future, and if you want a good future for the society you must train a child irrespective of their relationship to you. People visited and donate to orphanage, they brings homeless children from the streets and give them lives, but you could not at least be kind to a child under your care just because he is not your child.

Let me tell you this, that child you abhors so much can be the one to give or take lives tomorrow. Mr. A refuse to train a child under him and send him away, he became homeless and joined a bad gang that happened to be hire assassin. Mr. A children are well brough up, educated and rich but unfortunately got robbed by unless boy Mr. A sent to the street and lost their lives in the attack.

The above short story is the reason you need to take care of children under you (if you have the capacity), not only because of them or their future but because of future of your children and that of society at large.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Akpunti: 12:42pm On Sep 28, 2025
Please I need the wife's contact



If any forward it to me
Thanks...
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by dododawa1: 12:47pm On Sep 28, 2025
Ajeh






The family will live better now.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Laalasticla: 12:58pm On Sep 28, 2025
yemmit90:
Nothing is guarantee in life, not even your children are safe from this situation if nature brings it to you and your husband ( I forbid this for your family). So whatever the position or situation you found yourself, try as much as possible to be kind to humanity.

Children are like a powerful weapon in the hands of a mighty warrior, if you are to offend anyone in life, please don't do it to children, for they know absolute nothing about their sin or responsible for it. This is reason developed countries don't joke with the lives of their children. They are the future, and if you want a good future for the society you must train a child irrespective of their relationship to you. People visited and donate to orphanage, they brings homeless children from the streets and give them lives, but you could not at least be kind to a child under your care just because he is not your child.

Let me tell you this, that child you abhors so much can be the one to give or take lives tomorrow. Mr. A refuse to train a child under him and send him away, he became homeless and joined a bad gang that happened to be hire assassin. Mr. A children are well brough up, educated and rich but unfortunately got robbed by unless boy Mr. A sent to the street and lost their lives in the attack.

The above short story is the reason you need to take care of children under you (if you have the capacity), not only because of them or their future but because of future of your children and that of society at large.
Life is not a Bollywood movie sir...

If the untrained child ( that's the fault of his own parents not mine) murders my child, I hope the untrain child does not die again......

Sir, I have no sentiments or pity to give, the innocent child is suffering the consequences of her parents, when someone gives birth to the number of children they can't train , they either end up as almajiris on the street or house helps every where..
Btw , you keep saying send her back to her mother, where she was, she literally begged everyday to survive, the mother isnt capable to take care of the children, they live from hands to mouth, but here she goes to school, ( can't even read), feed normally and cleans the house as it should ...
But I don't even want her here cos of people like you who would always compare and contrast, wanting me to do all the things I do for my children because of the stale mantra'" nobody knows tomorrow", oga tomorrow is Monday mk Una make me rest
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by folake4u: 1:06pm On Sep 28, 2025
Suicideboy:
Black people generally see children as a way to propagate their lineage


So they believe if you dont have kids , you have failed in life
It's crazy actually.

Strangely enough, there are still lots of people who'd have preferred no kids but just had to bow to societal pressure.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 2:11pm On Sep 28, 2025
richmond500:
I only counter his saying that billionaires give birth to one or two. Elon musk didn't give birth to one or two
Again, you felt the need to mention those two because they are raising their kids on okada man salary, right? 😏
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 2:14pm On Sep 28, 2025
ajalawole:
my cousin have 9 from 2 wives even those most of the children are in village now, funny enough he is a bus driver in Lagos, he is also in his early 30s
Which kain evil people be this, abeg? A bus driver in Lagos has 9 children? angry
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by ajalawole(m): 2:30pm On Sep 28, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Which kain evil people be this, abeg? A bus driver in Lagos has 9 children? angry
yeah. My blood Cousin, the first wife had 5kids, the second wife who is not late has 4, I don't know if he had marry another wife cuz it been 4yrs I last travel home.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Omotonsho(m): 4:13pm On Sep 28, 2025
LordBiden:
LoL

An okada rider having 5 kids in this tinubu regime.

Una get mind o.

Billionaires and powerful people like the Clintons and the Obamas are giving birth to one,two.
Tinibu is Just Barely 2 years in office, Meaning he had his children before the inception of Tinibu.. Child bearing is choice, Our Muslim brothers will give birth as much as they can and they will tell you say Na Allah dey take care of them,.. But the point is, Childbearing is a choice irrespective of the economy..
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by Kobojunkie: 4:22pm On Sep 28, 2025
Omotonsho:
➜ Tinibu is Just Barely 2 years in office, Meaning he had his children before the inception of Tinibu.. Child bearing is choice, Our Muslim brothers will give birth as much as they can and they will tell you say Na Allah dey take care of them,.. But the point is, Childbearing is a choice irrespective of the economy..
Buhari was in office 8 years, Tinubu has been in office for just over 2 years... that is a total of over 10 years of back-to-back backwardness in Nigeria. Yet, you think people are justified in breeding like rats? lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by richmond500: 4:25pm On Sep 28, 2025
Kobojunkie:
Again, you felt the need to mention those two because they are raising their kids on okada man salary, right? 😏
Are they not billionaires?
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by ibechris(m): 5:59pm On Sep 28, 2025
judewrites:
Very sad story indeed 😔

Hard work alone cannot solve poverty....

You need to be favoured first by God and later favoured by influential people.

That's we have lots of hardworking people eating from hand to mouth.
God has favoured everyone and I wonder what other favour do u want again.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by judewrites: 6:38pm On Sep 28, 2025
ibechris:
God has favoured everyone and I wonder what other favour do u want again.
Yes, God has favoured us all through Jesus Christ.

But there are different levels of favour even among God's children.

That's why some people enjoy prosperity more than others, it's not necessarily because of hard work, but the level of God's favour on
them.

Remember, the angel Gabriel told Mary:

'Thou are HIGHLY favoured'.
Re: Dear Men, Do Not Over Pressure Yourselves!!! by IamHonourable1: 6:48pm On Sep 28, 2025
Sonnobax15:
grin grin. And his wife was the full time house wife type angry. Na over pressure kill the guy, nothing else.....
His wife is a wicked woman and one of the reasons that innocent man died before his time.How can a woman shamelessly decide to be jobless and be giving birth to several children
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