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Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Dpsychologist(op): 8:34am On Oct 04, 2025
Let’s be brutally honest — Black Tax is slavery dressed up as culture.

For those unfamiliar, Black Tax is the cultural expectation that once you start earning, your salary belongs not just to you, but to your parents, siblings, cousins — sometimes even uncles and aunties.
Sounds noble, right? But here’s the hard truth:

Many people in their 20s and 30s especially firstborns are stuck living like they’re still broke, not because they don’t earn, but because their family’s demands never end.
Everywhere in Africa, once you start earning, you’re automatically turned into the family’s ATM especially when not born with a silver spoon . It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out, if your salary is small, or if you’re struggling yourself — the moment you collect that paycheck, you owe everybody.

They call it “responsibility.” But let’s tell the truth:

It’s financial exploitation.

It’s entitlement disguised as love.

It’s one of the biggest reasons young Africans will NEVER break generational poverty.

The Trap

A graduate earns ₦70k.

₦20k to mum.

₦15k to dad.

₦10k to sibling.

Another cousin calls for school fees.

Uncle calls for “urgent 5k.”

At the end of the month, guess what’s left? Zero.
No savings. No investment. No future. Just endless poverty cycle.

And when you dare say “No,” you’re suddenly the wicked, ungrateful child.

The Irony

Here’s the painful part:

The same parents who drained their kids often never saved or invested when they were young.
They now dump the responsibility of their own financial failure on their children.

Instead of empowering the next generation, they enslave them with guilt.

And let’s be real — how many families use this money wisely?
At times, it goes into wasteful spending while the “breadwinner” suffers in silence.

The Hard Truth Nobody Wants to Hear

If African youth keep paying endless Black Tax, nobody will ever be rich.
One person cannot save a whole clan. Period.

👉 A child’s duty is not to fund laziness, poor planning, or entitlement.
👉 If you destroy your own financial future to please family, you will just create another generation of broke people.

The Conversation We Need

Should young Africans build themselves first before carrying family on their back?

Is saying “NO” selfish, or the only way to break free?

At what point does “support” turn into slavery?

Until we face the truth, Black Tax will keep Africa chained to poverty.

What’s your take?
Are we ready to break this culture, or are we too afraid of being called “selfish”?

Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Noblejohn32(m): 8:56am On Oct 04, 2025
This black tax stuff is a conversation most African families are not ready to have. I personally know how far I would have gone in life not for black tax. It's frustrating when you are not expecting help from anywhere but you're being drained on daily basis. Omoh, I'm near breaking point.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by brain54(m): 9:00am On Oct 04, 2025
Black tax, there is a term for everything nowadays...


Anyways, I think it has it's origin from our (African) cultural background from communal lifestyle.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad concept. As it's mostly the excess earned that is used to cater for family. Where it becomes a burden is when one begins to struggle to meet such responsibilities.

Many Africans have embraced the western concept of "me, myself and I" but originally we had our communal way of living where everyone looked after each other.

I think most of our old ways of doing things shouldn't be eroded completely in the race to become Westernised rather modifications should be applied where applicable and necessary.


I have a lot of things to say about the Chinese and sticking to and modifying their traditional ways of doing things and how well it has worked for them.

A country or continent that throws away it's cultural identity and original ideology in embrace of foreign cultural norms hardly progresses!
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Dpsychologist(op): 9:23am On Oct 04, 2025
brain54:
Black tax, there is a term for everything nowadays...


Anyways, I think it has it's origin from our (African) cultural background from communal lifestyle.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad concept. As it's mostly the excess earned that is used to cater for family. Where it becomes a burden is when one begins to struggle to meet such responsibilities.

Many Africans have embraced the western concept of "me, myself and I" but originally we had our communal way of living where everyone looked after each other.

I think most of our old ways of doing things shouldn't be eroded completely in the race to become Westernised rather modifications should be applied where applicable and necessary.


I have a lot of things to say about the Chinese and sticking to and modifying their traditional ways of doing things and how well it has worked for them.

A country or continent that throws away it's cultural identity and original ideology in embrace of foreign cultural norms hardly progresses!
You made alot of sense im what you said.

Still yet here is What Needs to Change:

1. Families must stop treating one child’s income as the family’s salvation. This enables entitlement a d complete dependency.

2. Boundaries must be set — love doesn’t mean endless handouts.

3. Support should focus on empowering dependents, not enabling laziness. I know of a soldier who is facing difficulties as thw breadwinner of his family, because of thw handouts he gives to his junior, his little bro became very lazy not doing anything worthwhile. He is now a chronic womanizer abs alcoholic. This allowance had to be cut off.

4. As a culture, we must face the fact that one person cannot save everyone. Yes we need to help our families, however they shouldn't take advantage of our generosity.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by drLammy(m): 8:42am On Oct 05, 2025
Overtime i had serious thought about this whole black tax thing and the only thing i could conclude is the root foundation of the problem.
Aside poverty which has ravaged many african society, the black tax system stems from the mode of your own survival while growing up. You will agree with me often times our parents takes most responsibility for our needs till full adulthood, you could even see a full matured man or woman in their 30's still living with their parents or siblings in this clime which everyone look at as normal.
Imagine your parents/guardian taking hard loans selling their stuffs for your survival while you needed them the most
So come to think of it, when heavens now smile on you then you suddenly start getting money you want to abandon these people?
I believe thats why it comes with a level of entitlement and not gesture.
In comparison the western society has a form of system that takes care of their offspring ranging from access to credit cards, student loans e.tc .
You hardly get those sort of soft landing here which further puts pressure on your guardian.

In conclusion,even though I would say its not a good way of living but our system didn't give us that choice to make.
Also it would be necessary to only take care of those who had done the same when you needed them rather than rewarding deadbeats who had abandoned you in those times and it would be advisable to do it very cautiously.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by ibechris(m): 11:44am On Oct 05, 2025
That is because most guys dont really know who and what are their responsibilities.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by lebete3000: 11:46am On Oct 05, 2025
Noblejohn32:
This black tax stuff is a conversation most African families are not ready to have. I personally know how far I would have gone in life not for black tax. [b]It's frustrating when you are not expecting help from anywhere but you're being drained on daily basis. [/b]Omoh, I'm near breaking point.
Na you still dey mumu if this is your case oh. The moment I realized this was the case when my elder sisters I once sent up to 400k said I didn't send them anything, I woke up!

Nobody told me to focus on my life first.

No worry you'll learn
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by missionmex(m): 11:47am On Oct 05, 2025
Why associating bad things with black. Why not say redtax or whitetax why must bad things be associated with black?
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by LoneSoldier: 11:48am On Oct 05, 2025
First borns and only children like been tasked like this, all the responsibility of the whole family is on the first borns shoulder, if you make it they dive your money, if you don't they tame you lazy first born. Is so painful.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Zidoh(m): 11:49am On Oct 05, 2025
Tax is good and compulsory even Bible mention it but what are they using our tax for is the main things . You can’t be collecting tax and embezzling it . That’s not how it’s been done in other countries . Their Government make use of the taxes for the benefit of tax payers.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Curious345: 11:49am On Oct 05, 2025
This is true . But 70k for a graduate is scary . Why that Lowe
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by ChukwuObe: 11:50am On Oct 05, 2025
While there are excess beyond the limit but we also must not forget that many of us would not have been where we are today if not for the similar sacrifices that some of our brothers, sisters uncles and aunties have made. I remember my uncle who always went beyond imagination to pay my school fees. We also must do the same as much as God has given us the opportunity
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Fajimarketplace: 11:51am On Oct 05, 2025
It's simple, implement strict budgeting that factors in your personal financial goals before it gets lost in endless ocean of helping others.

Budget your black tax.

You can't abandon family, but you must have a reasonable budget that caters to their needs and if it exceeds the month's allocation, let them know it can only be achieved by the next salary/income cycle.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by SamuelLoch: 11:51am On Oct 05, 2025
brain54:
Black tax, there is a term for everything nowadays...


Anyways, I think it has it's origin from our (African) cultural background from communal lifestyle.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad concept. As it's mostly the excess earned that is used to cater for family. Where it becomes a burden is when one begins to struggle to meet such responsibilities.

Many Africans have embraced the western concept of "me, myself and I" but originally we had our communal way of living where everyone looked after each other.

I think most of our old ways of doing things shouldn't be eroded completely in the race to become Westernised rather modifications should be applied where applicable and necessary.


I have a lot of things to say about the Chinese and sticking to and modifying their traditional ways of doing things and how well it has worked for them.

A country or continent that throws away it's cultural identity and original ideology in embrace of foreign cultural norms hardly progresses!
Hmmmmm


This topic is mostly answered with emotions.
See that part of your comment where I put in bold. That's how it should be. That's humanity - to look after one another.

The saying "love your neighbor as yourself" is very bold statements that means a lot.

Yes, look after those that look after you and show love to others unconditionally, but not at the expense of sacrificing your life. Christ did that already.

All fingers are not equal, but at least, put in effort. Some people don't want to do anything (including learning). They just keep asking for money and squandering it. Showing love is not all about money every now and then. I can help with job offers, gifts once in a while etc. but imagine the typical black tax and entitlement these days.

Everyone is expected to be useful to the family, society and nation, at large.


Please share more about the Chinese tradition, because from what I know about them, there's no room for laziness. There are so many family businesses there, too
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by tctrills: 11:52am On Oct 05, 2025
Dpsychologist:
Let’s be brutally honest — Black Tax is slavery dressed up as culture.

For those unfamiliar, Black Tax is the cultural expectation that once you start earning, your salary belongs not just to you, but to your parents, siblings, cousins — sometimes even uncles and aunties.
Sounds noble, right? But here’s the hard truth:

Many people in their 20s and 30s especially firstborns are stuck living like they’re still broke, not because they don’t earn, but because their family’s demands never end.
Everywhere in Africa, once you start earning, you’re automatically turned into the family’s ATM especially when not born with a silver spoon . It doesn’t matter if you’re just starting out, if your salary is small, or if you’re struggling yourself — the moment you collect that paycheck, you owe everybody.

They call it “responsibility.” But let’s tell the truth:

It’s financial exploitation.

It’s entitlement disguised as love.

It’s one of the biggest reasons young Africans will NEVER break generational poverty.

The Trap

A graduate earns ₦70k.

₦20k to mum.

₦15k to dad.

₦10k to sibling.

Another cousin calls for school fees.

Uncle calls for “urgent 5k.”

At the end of the month, guess what’s left? Zero.
No savings. No investment. No future. Just endless poverty cycle.

And when you dare say “No,” you’re suddenly the wicked, ungrateful child.

The Irony

Here’s the painful part:

The same parents who drained their kids often never saved or invested when they were young.
They now dump the responsibility of their own financial failure on their children.

Instead of empowering the next generation, they enslave them with guilt.

And let’s be real — how many families use this money wisely?
At times, it goes into wasteful spending while the “breadwinner” suffers in silence.

The Hard Truth Nobody Wants to Hear

If African youth keep paying endless Black Tax, nobody will ever be rich.
One person cannot save a whole clan. Period.

👉 A child’s duty is not to fund laziness, poor planning, or entitlement.
👉 If you destroy your own financial future to please family, you will just create another generation of broke people.

The Conversation We Need

Should young Africans build themselves first before carrying family on their back?

Is saying “NO” selfish, or the only way to break free?

At what point does “support” turn into slavery?

Until we face the truth, Black Tax will keep Africa chained to poverty.

What’s your take?
Are we ready to break this culture, or are we too afraid of being called “selfish”?
You don't really understand. Asian are much more closer to their families than you blacks and that's what makes them super competitive and successful in Europe and America.

Same with the Jews. These people prioritize family and community.
They invest in their family and community and it makes them successful.

It's not a black thing, it's a good thing

Black Americans on the other hand have destroyed the family system. Their men don't take care of their babies talk less of their parents and they have become a failed community.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by LoneSoldier: 11:53am On Oct 05, 2025
missionmex:
Why associating bad things with black. Why not say redtax or whitetax why must bad things be associated with black?
I don't think the whites do what the blacks do, he is correct if he calls it blacktax, especially Nigerians they do it a lot.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by marksleek2584(m): 11:53am On Oct 05, 2025
As a guy in the modern age of global economic downturn, if you're still be subjected to black tax, no one to blame but you. Yes, you! In the age of investments, take care of yourself first before others. It sounds selfish, but remember: you can't give what you don't have.
Take care of yourself first, them the rippling effect will naturally show in others . Ensure you make your stance known early, preach wise spending as the people you do show off by been a good guy will come back to ask questions like " how do you spend your money?" "So you don't save at all?'
Wise up brother!
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Sirleo05: 11:55am On Oct 05, 2025
Na normal thing. It's all over the world. You go earn salary no go wan Square your family members? even if na pressure, the joy that comes with it , is worth it. All people are not the same.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by essentialone(m): 11:55am On Oct 05, 2025
The concept of "Black Tax" refers to the cultural expectation that once an individual starts earning, they are obligated to financially support their extended family members. This practice can have both positive and negative effects:
- *Positive aspects*: In many African cultures, family support is a vital part of social responsibility and reciprocity. It can foster a sense of community and solidarity.
- *Negative aspects*: The pressure to support family members can be overwhelming, leading to financial strain and limiting the individual's ability to save, invest, and build their own future.

Some potential consequences of Black Tax include:
- *Financial burden*: Individuals may struggle to manage their finances, leading to debt, limited savings, and reduced economic mobility.
- *Limited economic growth*: The financial burden of supporting family members can limit an individual's ability to invest in their own future, potentially hindering economic growth and development.
- *Strained relationships*: The pressure to provide financial support can strain relationships between family members, particularly if expectations are not met.

To address the challenges associated with Black Tax, some potential strategies include:
- *Open communication*: Individuals can have open and honest discussions with their family members about their financial limitations and boundaries.
- *Financial planning*: Individuals can create a budget and prioritize their own financial goals, while still contributing to their family's well-being in a sustainable way.
- *Empowerment*: Families can work together to empower each other, rather than relying on a single individual to support the entire family.

Ultimately, finding a balance between supporting family members and prioritizing one's own financial well-being is crucial.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by fortunez1(m): 11:55am On Oct 05, 2025
It's a thing of choice and done selflessly. So don't it's not bad , we Africans bond but the white rarely does , probably because they prefer freedom , like staying away from family and get a pet instead of making a baby or babies. From Europe to Asia , Many couples or youths end up not having children.
Pls who taught man to love animals instead of eating them , because that got man into adopting dogs , cats etc as pets and now so many has ended there lineage because they died without bearing fruit ( Child ) because they adopted to caring more for animals than humans.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Yankiss(m): 11:56am On Oct 05, 2025
drLammy:
Overtime i had serious thought about this whole black tax thing and the only thing i could conclude is the root foundation of the problem.
Aside poverty which has ravaged many african society, the black tax system stems from the mode of your own survival while growing up. You will agree with me often times our parents takes most responsibility for our needs till full adulthood, you could even see a full matured man or woman in their 30's still living with their parents or siblings in this clime which everyone look at as normal.
Imagine your parents/guardian taking hard loans selling their stuffs for your survival while you needed them the most
So come to think of it, when heavens now smile on you then you suddenly start getting money you want to abandon these people?
I believe thats why it comes with a level of entitlement and not gesture.
In comparison the western society has a form of system that takes care of their offspring ranging from access to credit cards, student loans e.tc .
You hardly get those sort of soft landing here which further puts pressure on your guardian.

In conclusion,even though I would say its not a good way of living but our system didn't give us that choice to make.
Also it would be necessary to only take care of those who had done the same when you needed them rather than rewarding deadbeats who had abandoned you in those times and it would be advisable to do it very cautiously.
I get you. Rewarding deadbeats is an option, not a necessity. I focus on those that matter most, siblings and parents to whom you owe everything. All else is a matter of choice. Most of these relatives are so jealous they put every spanner in the works, to make you fail. So, when u succeed against all odds, you come to feed these devils fat to kill you dead. Lol
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Evergreen4(m): 11:56am On Oct 05, 2025
If e reach your turn to take care of your parents, swallow the money alone.

It's African culture, I'm African so I abide by it. Family is everything. Maybe your family no good
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by MarkNsukkaBread: 11:57am On Oct 05, 2025
Black tax has been a part of African tax since time immemorial and will likely remain so, there's nothing we can do about it undecided

It's part of what strengths family bond and is what makes Africans different from the whites who practice individualism
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Emu4life(m): 11:58am On Oct 05, 2025
It is a privilege not to experience Black tax
Huh
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by SonOfWords(m): 12:01pm On Oct 05, 2025
brain54:
Black tax, there is a term for everything nowadays...


Anyways, I think it has it's origin from our (African) cultural background from communal lifestyle.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad concept. As it's mostly the excess earned that is used to cater for family. Where it becomes a burden is when one begins to struggle to meet such responsibilities.

Many Africans have embraced the western concept of "me, myself and I" but originally we had our communal way of living where everyone looked after each other.

I think most of our old ways of doing things shouldn't be eroded completely in the race to become Westernised rather modifications should be applied where applicable and necessary.


I have a lot of things to say about the Chinese and sticking to and modifying their traditional ways of doing things and how well it has worked for them.

A country or continent that throws away it's cultural identity and original ideology in embrace of foreign cultural norms hardly progresses!
If black tax was roundly left to be done "willingly and at the convenience of the benefactor", we would have easily drawn tangents between it and our ancestral communal living.

The distance between today's black tax and our inherited communal living stands as glaring as the open legs of an OS.

Acquaintances and loved ones will just be asking and taking and taking...and when you're probably not in a place to give at a particular time, they'll demonize you for it.

I sha stopped that lunacy three years ago. Nobody papa fit pressure me!
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by tpain121: 12:01pm On Oct 05, 2025
Zidoh:
Tax is good and compulsory even Bible mention it but what are they using our tax for is the main things . You can’t be collecting tax and embezzling it . That’s not how it’s been done in other countries . Their Government make use of the taxes for the benefit of tax payers.
😁 read before commenting.

Who is embezzling what ?

Haba !
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by HowDareU(m): 12:02pm On Oct 05, 2025
Black tax is synonymous with our culture. Our culture encourages us to assist family: both nuclear and extended.

Even you that earn a lot will need family either for moral support or marital advice.
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by Datedoboy: 12:03pm On Oct 05, 2025
The major problem is that there is no proper care and continuous, reasonable monthly financial assistance for aged people in Africa. Once you're old, no African Government has a plan for you unlike Europe where you have homes for aged people. In fact many young people who japa, go to take care of aged people abroad while neglecting their parents. The issue is that, a parent that has taken care of you while you were young, will likely depend on you when old because the Government did not take care of them. If Government refuse to take care of our aged parents, and we refuse, who will take care of them? This is why politicians steal much because there are no systems to take care of them when they grow old and they refuse to set up such systems. The monster in the room is the slave wage and lack of care facilities for aged people. If you manage 3k to feed daily and we have 30 days in a month which equates to 90k asides transport and rent, and minimum wage is 70k, what does that tell you? 1. That there is a deliberate creation of poverty. 2. That people will steal more to survive and 3.people will suffer in old age because the Government has deliberately ensured that they don't save for their future. Least I forget, the passport which is your identity is now higher than the minimum wage and next year, inside that slave wage you will be taxed. Prepare for dark days ahead. Blame the Government not your poor parents
Re: Black Tax: Africa’s Silent Killer Of Dreams by missionmex(m): 12:04pm On Oct 05, 2025
LoneSoldier:
I don't think the whites do what the blacks do, he is correct if he calls it blacktax, especially Nigerians they do it a lot.
I understand that aspect what am just saying is can't another name be giving to it? Let's say like famtax or something. It must not be black.
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