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Women and this victim mentality. She didn't walk out of the relationship while here. But as she don japa it's now time to flex her independence and start roforofo fight.

Arostar2023:
No woman wins leaving her marriage. Wether the man was abusive, a cheat or whatever. And btw, who exactly do you think will marry her in the UK? She just entered a life of singleness or God forbid, whoredom.

fat lie. I knysome that leave her marriage of 2month because she has been seeing money from tiktok.

I don't blame you.
When you were in Nigeria, you never knew he womanises.
When he was processing your papers without you contributing a dime, you never knew it was an abusive marriage.
Immediately you got your COS or ILR, you suddenly remembered that you have been in an abusive marriage.

Tell your story to those gullible enough to listen to you.

Nonsense and intercontinental ingredients

UkoAnnang:


Like the ex-husband man said, she has gotten all that she wanted. She's now and independent woman. There's always a story to cover up when they decided to leave

Men be careful, don't let a woman use you for her personal gain

Anytime you hear them used the word "narcissist" just know say na dem be that.

UkoAnnang:


Like the ex-husband man said, she has gotten all that she wanted. She's now and independent woman. There's always a story to cover up when they decided to leave

Men be careful, don't let a woman use you for her personal gain

There's always about 3 options to that btw

Arostar2023:
No woman wins leaving her marriage. Wether the man was abusive, a cheat or whatever. And btw, who exactly do you think will marry her in the UK? She just entered a life of singleness or God forbid, whoredom.

See una mentality
Make woman stay for abusive marriage
because no one else will marry her

PROPHETmichael:
Anytime you hear them used the word "narcissist" just know say na dem be that.

And "Toxic"

ajalawole:
fat lie. I knysome that leave her marriage of 2month because she has been seeing money from tiktok.

So seeing money from tiktok is winning outside marriage, for you? Walahi poverty na bastard . Come to the UK and see women earning better money begging for man to marry them.

UkoAnnang:


Like the ex-husband man said, she has gotten all that she wanted. She's now and independent woman. There's always a story to cover up when they decided to leave

Men be careful, don't let a woman use you for her personal gain

For them, it's always been transactional, so it's not new. 🙂

As a man, you only need to try and manage your expectations.

LagosOrigin:
All this bimbos should let us rest. Nobody cares about what your husband sent you or how you people lived your lives. Make all of una getat with the attention seeking show of shame .

I blame the mod for allowing this to hit fp. Watin concern is ?

motionarena:
See them
They get pained when a woman wins.

If it is a man that shares the same story they will rejoice with him

Are you sure she won?

She'll only be getting dickrd down by random men for a period.

She'll work till her bones are old.

Reminds me of David Hundeyin and his ex-wife.

The ex-wife was from a poor background, and he married her against his family wish. Her marital affiliation with him changed her life, and that of her family.

When they were separated, and the ex-wife was leaving, the MIL stopped at the doorway, turned and said to him, "you may think that you helped us and changed our lives, but it was God who used you". Talk about misattribution and gaslighting 101.

I am always wary of ladies who are quick to refer to men as narcissist. E come be like say narcissism na gender based trait, as I have never heard of men referring to women as narcissists.

The man should move on. It is well even in the well.

Mynd44:
When he was broke in Nigeria, bro was not called a narcissist. But when she gain financial independent, it jumped out.

I am not saying the guy was not an abusive prick just wondering why she didn't leave him when they were both in Nigeria

Why she left him, psychologically speaking: Abraham Maslow’s theory explains this. The theory states that humans are motivated by five needs—physiological needs, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization. She married him hoping to fulfill all these needs, from the most basic to the highest self-actualization needs. She stayed with him while struggling to meet her lower needs, such as physiological needs (food, shelter, etc.). However, once she no longer needed him to satisfy those basic needs, she divorced him because she found a place where her safety, love, and belonging needs could also be met.

It is important to marry partners who are at the same stage of need fulfillment. If you are struggling with basic, lower-level needs, marry someone at that level. If you have progressed to higher levels—such as financial stability and safety—marry someone who shares those conditions and seeks love and belonging. Only women truly benefit from marrying “up.” If you are financially successful and you marry “down,” some women may see you as their source of food, shelter, safety, love, esteem, and self-actualization. Once you help fulfill their first two needs (physiological and safety), they may leave you to find “love and belonging” elsewhere.

I am not saying we shouldn’t help our spouses grow, but it’s important to recognize the difference between a supportive partner and a leeching gold digger. Marry a partner, not a leech.


Peace!

motionarena:
See una mentality
Make woman stay for abusive marriage
because no one else will marry her

I never said that nor implied that...I merely stated an obvious truth. The bottomline is that everyone should work on their marriages and make necessary sacrifices for them to work. There's nothing to gain from a failed marriage. And women, as we all know get the short end of the stick as far divorce is concerned for Africans.

Arostar2023:
So seeing money from tiktok is winning in marriage for you? Walahi poverty na bastard . Come to the UK and see women earning better money begging for man to marry them.

In Nigeria, once they start earning from content creation and online stuffs, that relationship is gone. Truly poverty is a bastard.

ajalawole:
Ex husband is right. I knotof someone who leave her marriage of 2months because she has been seeing small money from tiktok

I pity men wey still dey carry marriage for head

ajalawole:
my ex leave me same way,funny enough we don't have any issues. She is a single mother of 2 now and begging to come back.

lol she's a comedian

Arostar2023:
So seeing money from tiktok is winning in marriage for you? Walahi poverty na bastard . Come to the UK and see women earning better money begging for man to marry them.

oya connect me with one from UK Na make I marry.

These ladies want to eat their cake and have it

ajalawole:
fat lie. I knysome that leave her marriage of 2month because she has been seeing money from tiktok.

how is it a lie

UkoAnnang:


Men be careful, don't let a woman use you for her personal gain

That is why they call nice guys

Men please do good always, but don't be nice . It's a crazy world out here.

SpencerForbes:
In Nigeria, once they start earning from content creation and online stuffs, that relationship is gone. Truly poverty is a bastard.

God bless you my brother. And they will be saying you are not upto there standards.

ajalawole:
oya connect me with one from UK Na make I marry.

Unfortunately, you no reach their standard na. You have got to japa first and join them for that side...And that they're looking for a man to marry no means say their character good oO.

That is to tell you no woman loves you even many of the women you call ur wives today will ditch you if they find a better offer

ajalawole:
my ex leave me same way,funny enough we don't have any issues. She is a single mother of 2 now and begging to come back.

Don't make the mistake of having anything to do with her again.

one of the messages, he wrote:
“You have moved on because you are in UK and that’s the reason for all this. If you are in Nigeria, there is no way you would be saying all these things… You married me to achieve your personal goals and then leave… all you can think now is to leave because you have gotten what you wanted

What is shocking about the message?

Are we going to pretend this does not happen?

Meanwhile we only have the word of this click hunter. It is easy to claim your husband was abusive especially when you need to justify your actions to the public

lagostrendboy:
https://eyesoflagos.com/lady-shares-shocking-messages-from-ex-husband-after-leaving-marriage/

Women need to stop dating and marrying their bullies/enemies. 🥱🥱🥱

favour32:
Don't make the mistake of having anything to do with her again.

never bro.. Even though she was so close to my mum when we were together, she don't inform my mum before she leaves and don't call her either, been 4yrs now and she want to come back.

Fekumzi123:
After marriage, I realized if a woman tells you her husband abandon her and the children, don't be too quick to judge the man. Wait until you hear his own side of the story.

Abandonment is a criminal offense even in Nigeria. A man who abandons his side and children is by definition a deadbeat and offender. Same as a woman who abandons her child and husband..🥱🥱🥱

ajalawole:
God bless you my brother. And they will be saying you are not upto there standards.

Like it’s shocking. I can’t count how many girls I’ve lost due to TikTok😂 once they get there and start getting small attention, they’ve found your replacement asap. If you’ve gotten any girl that’s serious about social media, you’ve lost. It’s just like having a girl at NYSC camp. It’s only by the grace of God that she’s yours.

If the husband abused her emotionally and was cheating on her throughout the relationship then why marry? This only confirms that she used him to get abroad.

xtianchris:
Lemme add to your Write up.
Men be extra Extremely careful

No point for men to engage women at all. These days a man can pretty much work to pay for and raise his own family without a woman in the picture. That should be encouraged.

A man can, in this day and age pay for a surrogate, a nanny, cleaner, tutor, housekeeper, sex provider, cook, mental counselor, personal assistant, laundry service, etc,. All he needs do is work on himself and pay for the peace of mind he needs without a woman needing to be in the picture. So why not encoi that instead? 🥱🥱🥱