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Kavarat:
➜Ok sir. Thank you for the time especially to wait to hear me out

I don't see what you say is in your signature. This is an anonymous forum, so why not simply post the problem here since you are now able to post?

Kavarat:
➜Find attached my linkedin page.
Though for privacy I will take it down sir
https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmanuel-okomilo-6022b7352?trk=contact-info

I don't have a LinkedIn account, so I am not able to view that page at all.

Kobojunkie:
I don't see what you say is in your signature. This is an anonymous forum, so why not simply post the problem here since you are now able to post?

Check the picture on my profile sir.

If I post my request. I will be banned. I have done over five times

Kobojunkie:
I don't have a LinkedIn account, so I am not able to view that page at all.

It's not really a must you are on LinkedIn.
It's just a profile page

Kavarat:
➜Check the picture on my profile sir.
If I post my request. I will be banned. I have done over five times

i don't have a LinkedIn account, though. I just tried to view it and was redirected to the login page.

Kobojunkie:
I don't have a LinkedIn account, so I am not able to view that page at all.

Youcan open one. It is really a land of opportunities

Kavarat:
➜Youcan open one. It is really a land of opportunities

I am not crazy about such things at this point in time.

Kobojunkie:
i don't have a LinkedIn account, though. I just tried to view it and was redirected to the login page.

I understand. Have you been able to see the picture on my profile sir

Kobojunkie:
I am not crazy about such things at this point in time.

Okay sir.
I am tempted to type my request but I am scared of been banned.

Nairaland.com is not the same

Kobojunkie:
I am not crazy about such things at this point in time.

Have you seen the pics on my profile sir

Kavarat:
➜Okay sir. I am tempted to type my request but I am scared of been banned. Nairaland.com is not the same

. Now I see it.

Kobojunkie:
. Now I see it.

Okay sir. I just said I should try.

I don't know qnd I apologise if it does not resonate with you at all.

Kavarat:
➜Have you seen the pics on my profile sir

Yes, I am afraid I am not in Nigeria and unable to help in any way.

I was concerned about your depression, as that is a problem that can lead to major setbacks in the lives of those impacted. Yes, having depression is like having blinders on, if one is not careful, as one loses part of one's ability to confidently process data and opportunities that may be right in front of one's own eyes. Hence the reason why the urgent need to tackle the underlying issue to lift the cloud asap.

You say you are a banker; have you considered taking a vacation and maybe getting treatment for a week or two to refocus your mind?

Kobojunkie:
Yes, I am afraid I am not in Nigeria and unable to help in any way.

I was concerned about your depression, as that is a problem that can lead to major setbacks in the lives of those impacted. Yes, having depression is like having blinders on, if one is not careful, as one loses part of one's ability to confidently process data and opportunities that may be right in front of one's own eyes. Hence the reason why the urgent need to tackle the underlying issue to lift the cloud asap.

You say you are a banker; have you considered taking a vacation and maybe getting treatment for a week or two to refocus your mind?

I have but you know I don't want to lose my job as it is a major. Also finances is also a factork as I am not buoyant at all at the moment

I have thought about all this

Kavarat:
➜I have but you know I don't want to lose my job as it is a major. Also finances is also a factor as I am not buoyant at all at the moment

I am afraid there is not much I can do for you in this area.

Kobojunkie:
I am afraid there is not much I can do for you in this area.

I understand Kobojunkie

I do.

Ido appreciate the time

Kavara:
Some people may have gone through what I am going through now and generally I am tired of my situations currently and I need change.

I can't really share some here personally because 9f public space but if I can talk to someone it will help

Try not to be so hard on yourself. Life is a continuous process, quite often a mix and no one has it all in one jolly good direction. Keep looking to be better.

See you mentioned restitution. I don't know what for and truly will rather not know. You resolve not to repeat and perharps may find a way to compensate and maybe in time openly seek forgiveness/restitution with whoever is directly afflicted. No fuss. Keep being better and stop being tied to what's passed. It can't be undone. Do the best with now and strive to better tomorrow.

Cheer up and be grateful for the little positives, try to do more but don't break yourself in the process.

Kavara:
Please they keep banning me. If I trued to quote you

Modify words related to psychiiatry. Misspell them. Capital I for small L, or double single letters.

Try to misspell drųgs and medicatıon.

Kavara:
Is there a pastor or counsellor I can share my struggles with

I feel your pain because I've been in a similar place of deep distress. it can feel like being trapped in a deep dark hole with no way out.

A word of caution though, please be careful about quickly labeling yourself as depressed or accepting that label from a non-professional. It can make you feel worse . Only a trained mental health practitioner can truly or is in a position to diagnose depression .

The fact that you can coherently post and respond here shows a strength and clarity that's often absent in severe clinical depression. What you're experiencing is real pain and believe me it will go away with time.

Right now , what you need is that one person you can trust; one conversation where you feel heard. This could be a pastor or a priest who's also a trained counselor that can offer you a perspective grounded in faith and hope to enable you come out of it, I give this advice since it's clear you're a believer.

Or book an appointment with a licensed therapist. They have the professional training and tools to help you understand your mind better so you can take control

Also, a trusted friend, a mentor, or even a perfect stranger who has gone through similar experience may be the person to offer the needed advice to help you.


In my own case, help didn't come from priests or doctors. It came from a stranger I discussed with who said something I needed to hear : Something like, " if you were this and that, would you have reacted the way you did to trigger the irrational fear and guilt that's now plaguing your mind? I was completely stunned after he asked me that question, and it was because I never thought of you it that way. Though the perspective shift his words brought didn't solve all my problems immediately , it gave me the first foothold I needed to start regaining control of my mind.

So, trust your instincts and don't limit yourself to one source. Use what works or combine everything that works: pastors and professionals . Finally, don't let anyone dismiss a potential source of help for you based on their own religious or anti religious bias . You know what you want, go for it.

Modified. I have gone through your other comments and now understand better that the problem is of one guilt based on past actions which doesn't align with certain values your religion has instilled in you.

Well, stop judging yourself and reach out to a nonjudgmental person whom you can talk to.

Consider your past actions as mistakes that you will never repeat and find ways to restitute if you can.

PenpalOso:
In this current state of the country, I’m sorry to break it to you that a problem shared is simply a problem casted. Na still your problem my man.

Good afternoon sir penpaloso

I don't know if I can get your hlp anonymously.

My request is in the dp on my signature.

Its choking

PenpalOso:
In this current state of the country, I’m sorry to break it to you that a problem shared is simply a problem casted. Na still your problem my man.

I don't know if you would be able to help

MaxInDHouse:
What you need is Jesus, he is the world's most wonderful counselor of all time! Isaiah 9:6
Please share your thoughts and feelings let's see what Jesus has to say about it! Matthew 11:28-30

Good evening sir.

Can you assist me with the challenge on my profile.
Please

I’ve been in rough patches too, and talking to someone helped me breathe again, even if it was just one honest chat with a friend or pastor. Little grounding habits, like short walks or prayer breaks, made the heaviness feel less sharp. I’ve even browsed things like bulk CBD distillate for sale just to learn about calming options, though what mattered most was not trying to carry everything alone.

MaxWalter:
I came across this older discussion and wanted to add that talking to someone you trust can make a big difference, whether it’s a friend, a pastor, or even a counsellor. Depression can feel heavy, but you don’t have to deal with it alone. What helped you the most on your tougher days?

A pastor is the worst thing a depressed person can think to talk to. This is because Pastors are predators who prey on the weak and infirm. And this is the same across all religions. 🥱🥱🥱