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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by InvertedHammer: 5:21am On Oct 09, 2025

brain54:
A 22 year adult is old enough to make her own decisions...

And to take responsibility and consequences of whatever follows from her decisions!

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Wrong!

Adulthood starts at 30 in Nigeria not 18.

That's why you see 26-yrs old women or men still living in their parents' houses acting like they are 13 and being pampered by their mothers.

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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Betem001: 5:28am On Oct 09, 2025

The joy of having a grand child is priceless. But I got to know who's responsible and dealt with him severely

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by hafeeanubasy: 6:29am On Oct 09, 2025

Kobojunkie:
. So, because you supposedly married your wife when she was 22, every other woman out there who gets pregnant at 22 should also consider marriage? Why are you people like this?

Is this story of yours any different from the stories told by some religious nutjobs that because their god married a 6-year-old girl, therefore, every other one of them should also be able to marry other 6-year-old girls?

You are not making any iota of sense!

When you give birth to your own child,give her out at 40yr...Nobody will crucify you for that

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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by malaria(f): 6:59am On Oct 09, 2025

Talkisneeded:
A 22 year old graduate what

Yes is possible i left school at 22

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by 3kay945(m): 7:39am On Oct 09, 2025

Though I don't have a girl and not planning of having one.

But what I will do which also apply to many here except they want to deceive themselves is purely base on the size of my pockets. Simple!

Cos, that is the major determinant. because, that single mistake can ruin her life and also affect her siblings. But money answereth all things grin

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by 3kay945(m): 7:41am On Oct 09, 2025

InvertedHammer:
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Wrong!

Adulthood starts at 30 in Nigeria not 18.

That's why you see 26-yrs old women or men still living in their parents' houses acting like they are 13 and being pampered by their mothers.

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Women don spoil this generation finish

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Scofield396: 8:12am On Oct 09, 2025

This same issue happened at my area and the lady's parents arranged an impromptu wedding for them, unprepared, but they needed to save themselves from shame

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Okortor: 8:27am On Oct 09, 2025

I will get the guy arrested for such irresponsible act and deceiving her.

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Martinez39s(m): 10:43am On Oct 09, 2025*

Okortor:
I will get the guy arrested for such irresponsible act and deceiving her.

Did he commit a crime? NO! How do you even know that he deceived her? See how you are quick to abuse/defy the law and demonstrate a disregard for human rights.

You might not like what he did, but arresting him is unacceptable if you are not certain he committed a crime or led your daughter on with false promises.

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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Okortor: 12:06pm On Oct 09, 2025

But i could get him arrested if finding out he led her with false promises?

Martinez39s:
Did he commit a crime? NO! How do you even know that he deceived her? See how you are quick to abuse/defy the law and demonstrate a disregard for human rights.

You might not like what he did, but arresting him is unacceptable is you are not certain he committed a crime or led your daughter on with false promises.

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Martinez39s(m): 12:24pm On Oct 09, 2025

Okortor:
But i could get him arrested if finding out he led her with false promises?

Yes.

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Kobojunkie: 1:01pm On Oct 09, 2025

hafeeanubasy:
✓ You are not making any iota of sense!
When you give birth to your own child,give her out at 40yr...Nobody will crucify you for that

Give her out? You literally confessed to impregnating a girl , probably before she turned 22, without her parent's consent ans then proceeded to marrying her at 22, and then declared that as a result, all 22-year-old gals are old enough to be married off, so what did you expect me to come back at you with? An applause? 🥱🥱🥱

By the way, are all boys also ready for fatherhood and married life at 22 or is it just women that are ripe to be exploited -- have their early adult years stolen from them -- by that age? undecided

Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by pansophist(m): 2:01pm On Oct 10, 2025*

bigpicture001:
. U say this with Somme. Assumptions.. e.g, That ur resources are unlimited. That the guy involved ran away . U also assumed that sibling love is as strong as mother to child love...

Read what happened in my area..This same scenerio played out on my street in a family with limited resources..

The family continue to do like u well listed to do.. After the father's second child was ready for varsity, the family has no provision to fund the second child varsity.. about 150k for acceptance..... It always clash with when the two kids needs to pay private skl feez....

The boi continue to wait for money to b enough... And then started to work in a factory that support himself.. everyone hailed him as hardworking...

Do u know like play like play.. he stayed 7 years waiting.. he gained admissions 3x.

His direct parents continue to be good grandfather. Like u narrated.. as time Passed.. his Dad lost his job.. and couldn't find any... Aside that, age was fast catching up

That eldest sister which gave birth and who the Dad continued to train has now graduated and got a job at the bank...

Sh continue to reluctantly fund the family and blatantly refused to train her brother in skl with excuse that he is training her son in expensive skl and equally helping out the family...

At that stage the child is at jss2... Long story short.. that brother never went again to skl..

Know it as a father, ur first priority should be the child you birth and never the child of ur daughter... Never ever assume that a siblings love is as strong as love btw mother and child..

No matter the bond of siblings.. the female child, will always prefer her child over her siblings... Men b wise!!!!

Ok let me spin it in another way. Should the man abandon his daughter to die if she had an accident that will eat up all his funds? what if his son was unfairly jailed, should he forget him there because it will cost money? If the wife lost her job and cant support him, should he chase her out?

The only problem I see in this explanation you gave is lack of funds. The father couldn't bear to sustain all his children, including the daughter with a baby.

But what the man did was right. Kindness will always be right.

Money only amplifies kindness, it is not the root of it. A broke man can still be kind. He can find a way to show care to his daughter without exhausting all his funds on her.

Where you should draw the line is in ''intention'', not ''resources''. Even if the father is the richest man on earth, if his intention is to not help her, it will be wrong decision.

He may arrange for her to go to the village, live with a relative, help her find a job, and the whole family mobilise and restructure to accommodate her.

You cannot throw your own away. Thats cruel. You can hide under ''there is no money'', but it doesnt change the fact that poor people till lead a family.

Your character and behaviour is stronger than material thins. I may not have money to give you, but I can share my food with you, we sleep on my bed or you sleep on the floor in my tiny room, I can ask friends if they have gigs/jobs for you etc.

A person that do not want to run/exercise will use rain/sun as an excuse. Your excuse that there is no money does not add up. Money is an amplifier. If you have no money, you cant still be kind, but your kindness will not be loud.

Your argument reminds me of a quote I saw online few days ago, it says that ''

IF YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE BETWEEN BEEN KIND AND BEING RIGHT, CHOOSE TO BE KIND, AND YOU WILL ALWAYS BE RIGHT''.

The point of family is to cover each other's shame. You do not dump a family member because they made mistake. You can scold them, punish them, but you still show love, care and kindness.

You may be right by being brutal, but all you did is show that you have no empathy, cant forgive, and proof that family for you only exist when it is convenient.

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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by pansophist(m): 2:11pm On Oct 10, 2025

bigpicture001

Actually this scenario happened to my family like 20 years back.

There is this family relative that grew under us, so I was in primary school then when my parents brought her from the village when she was about 11.

She lived with us until she was 23, then got pregnant.

In all my life as a human being, I have never seen my father that angry. If not for my mother that told her to run away to my aunt's place, my dad might have done something horrible to her.

But after a week, when the news has settled, my mum told her to come back, and my dad ignored her mistake and took care of her.

But as times goes, the baby father came during about 7th month of her pregnancy or so, did the needful, and got married to her. And they went on to have three more kids.

All of them are grown now, and they do visit us time to time, but the kindness and wisdom that was needed at that crucial moment of her life was afforded to her.

Now imagine if my dad throw her off to the street, what would becomes our relationship with her and her kids, and what might even happened to her

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Re: Guyz! What's Your Policy on Illegitimate Child From Your Daughter by Shedrack777: 1:41pm On Oct 11, 2025

yewit37486:
you took this personal

He first took it personally. Calling someone's son stupid as if the guy raped his daughter.
Maybe the daughter removed the guy's zipper and gave him head before the sex

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