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pocohantas:
I am surprised to know people were dating in sec school or worrying over this in university. As an undergraduate all my problem was not to spill and go for NYSC immediately. Some girls dated coursemates and by 400L they had broken up. These girls later went on to marry abroadians. Some married homebased. I see some on FB wey done japa. I see the ones wey just dey. Such is life. Nothing is cast on stone.

Who does he want to date him from 100L until he makes it? So they will call her evening🗞.

He should sha try and balance love and hustle. Else even the younger ones won't want him. This (up)coming generation are not fans of wide age-gap like the older ones.

They will have to get used to the wide age gap because most of their boys/males in their age group they will like to date actually won't be ready when they are ready.

emmaodet:
➜They will have to get used to the wide age gap because most of their boys/males in their age group they will like to date actually won't be ready when they are ready.

They don't need to do that since they can make their own money, unlike their mothers and grandmothers before them.

Kobojunkie:
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Africans and delusions are indeed inseparably joined.

The last time I checked my alumni chat forum, I found that all the so-called true loves from back when we were in school broke up not long after life and reality hit them smack in the face. The vast majority are now with and doing relatively ok— at least for now, since I don't know what the future holds for them— with true loves they found outside of school. So, how many true loves people dey in fact have in this one life? No be as many as one desires to give oneself again? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Don't mind him.
He is still talking about true Love in this era.
He is still asleep.
Na who Love epp?

Outthemudbyvoke:
I have been in your shoes and understand you perfectly but my case was different as I had an edge as a rich kid. I had girls from same 100lvl to 500lvl drooling over me and wanting my attention. 500lvl girls with the biggest bundas I could ever imagine invited me severally to their lush apartments and would cook for me and we had fun alot. Not necessarily sex though inclusive but good conversations and laughter and company. Long story short, my dad which was my sponsor lost his engineering job role at Schlumberger in my 300lvl. Well life taught me a bitter lesson from then as I couldn't afford to keep up with my lifestyle, drop, designer perfumes, sneakers, expensive apartments rent etc... All girls wouldn't look my way anymore including my beautiful girlfriend in my department same level. I couldn't take it anymore I had to drop out and focus on the streets. Well I made it and now have girls drooling over me again though it comes at a price, I learnt my lesson, Never Broke Again

This final statement is all that matters to me.
Never be broke Again.... NBA
If you are broke, it means you are entering and negotiating relationship from a position of weakness and the Price to pay is always very Painful.
No matter the Love or whatever true love you are looking for, Never and I repeat NEVER enter any relationship with a Lady from a position of weakness rather Strenght

emmaodet:
➜Don't mind him. He is still talking about true Love in this era. He is still asleep. Na who Love epp?

True/Eternal love na religious fraud, the same way "Till death do us part," na religious fraud.

Commentor:
No.

He's no longer a boy, but a man.

He can chew gum and walk at the same time.

It's best if he can find his mate in the one place in life that he'll be surrounded by the most women.

Someone he can grow with.

..ok someone he can grow with in the other room abi?🙄

joseph1832:
your kid bro lost his dick? Like how did it happen, shagging way too much or jerking off.

I still want to believe you're joking though. Lol

Not joking.

The first thing I warned them about when I came back to Nigeria some years ago was to free themselves from porn. Because I could see they were addicted to porn. The youngest one that now have a dead di.ck, I've warned him several times. But not knowing the type of person I am and that I can read his mind, he began to record voice note where he was denying it so that he can send to his sisters to deceive them. But I'll explain to them whenever I feel like.

That's how it is. That's how it's always been, everywhere.

Men and women run on different biological and social clocks. Generally, women peak first. Men peak last. So, women date up. Men date down.

The University really does show you this in real time. It's the best place to learn the dynamics between men and women.

[quote author=Commentor post=137083100]Could it be due to ASUU strike?
It's diminishing returns

Geofavor:
➜That's how it is. That's how it's always been, everywhere. Men and women run on different biological and social clocks. Generally, women peak first. Men peak last. So, women date up. Men date down. The University really does show you this in real time. It's the best place to learn the dynamics between men and women.

Women do not peak first... or whatever the hell that nonsense even means.

Rather, women begin attempting to logically process their existence and their well-being much earlier than many men do due mainly to their upbringing. Most of these boys who do the October rush do so for the sake of their egos— absolutely nothing. Women who allow themselves to be swept by the wave do so to gain any material or social benefit that exists for them to have from it.

Sonnobax15:

Guy, shouldn't you be thinking of how you'd conquer the labour market after graduation, instead of thinking about bannies wey no equally send you too?

Besides, was he expecting the girls to date newbies?

emmaodet:
They will have to get used to the wide age gap because most of their boys/males in their age group they will like to date actually won't be ready when they are ready.

Well, they may not have to. They just have to marry their peers and build together. Either that or wait a little longer. Yorubas especially have been doing it and the world didn't come to an end. It is Igbos fond of huge age-gaps. Generally most weddings I see these days have close age-gaps and between similar income level. It is already happening... everybody would either adapt or keep creating threads like this.

Kobojunkie:
Women do not peak first... or whatever the hell that nonsense even means.

What the nonsense means is girls generally get mature faster than boys, at least biologically. Isn't that common knowledge?

Rather, women begin attempting to logically process their existence and their well-being much earlier than many men do due mainly to their upbringing. Most of these boys who do the October rush do so for the sake of their egos— absolutely nothing. Women who allow themselves to be swept by the wave do so to gain any material or social benefit that exists for them to have from it.

I'm not sure what this word salad has to do with what I wrote.
You obviously didn't understand what I wrote.

Geofavor:
➜Dummy, what the nonsense means is girls generally get mature faster than boys, at least biologically. Isn't that common knowledge?
➜ I'm not sure what this word salad has to do with what I wrote. You obviously didn't understand what I wrote.

1. Saying that girls generally mature faster than boys is not the same as saying girls peak before boys. Note the difference between the two statements.

emmaodet:
This final statement is all that matters to me.
Never be broke Again.... NBA
If you are broke, it means you are entering and negotiating relationship from a position of weakness and the Price to pay is always very Painful.
No matter the Love or whatever true love you are looking for, Never and I repeat NEVER enter any relationship with a Lady from a position of weakness rather Strenght

Apt... The scars that emanates from entering a relationship from a position of weakness is everlasting and traumatic. I would rather die a monk hustling and trying to get rich than being a lap dog and object of ridicule begging to be loved by ladies

Host78:
I am going to say this stuff and most guys will probably relate with it.

You may have noticed it too. But if you have not, as I describe this you'll understand it once.

So, when we just gained admission newly and resumed school, for most of us we just want to get the best grades.

But not just grades sha.

I personally made a vow that I'll have my first serious girlfriend from 100l.

My goal was that we could grow together from there and probably get married someday.

Don't blame me, your boy was young and naive then.

Most girls in 100l with us then just won't date us.

I mean some did but never anything serious.

Their eyes were rather on the senior students. These girls were going with guys in 300l and 400l students.

Omo, senior men wey we dey respect as guys naim these girls dey call 'baby'.

100l was tough.

You will toast this girl today and both of you'll be feeling it and the next day same girl will break up with you.

Not that you did anything o. Na senior student Don toast her be that.

Now here's the problem. It's 6 years after and we are in 400l.

We are now the 'highest' in the school.

And the obvious now is some of these girls are now trying to cling to us.

It's funny now sha. Person wey dey feel like say dem no fit look your side a few years ago now wan dey follow you package stuff.

Unfortunately, me no too send them again. Fresh babes are coming in every year and they seem better, look more eager and tends to demand less.

So why would I leave such for my mate who dem chew for my front and she's still demanding something serious?

I also think this same thing happens in the real dating world.

These girls in their younger age will go after matured men leaving boys in their age groups.

A few years later, these boys will catch up and the girls will want to come back but then younger girls go don already dey.

someone to grow with from 100L? So that you parent will trained two person in higher institutions indirectly.

sunbreaker:
someone to grow with from 100L? So that you parent will trained two person in higher institutions indirectly.

Nah! Him dey look for babe to shine his knobs regularly, all while he contributes next to nothing to her total life and wellbeing, the story of the average Nigerian boy-man out there.

musicwriter:
Thanks for this!
That always been my view. If it works, let us publish papers on how it works, it's benefits and what to do with it. But remember the reason we don't study it that way is because we don't have a self-inspired system of education in Africa, therefore haven't created a curriculum on how to study it. But that's by the way.

I attribute the bold to our cultural beliefs of not questioning things. There is this belief or upbringing that most Nigerians get from small never to question beliefs or things in general. It is why I am always glad the Internet exists. In my books, everything MUST be questioned. It is less about the education system, but the cultural upbringing. Religion also contributes. It is another reason I am not a strong fan of religion - it opposes the right to question.

In my upcoming book, I'll challenge EVERYBODY about juju. But don't get me wrong, it's not as if there's no juju. The problem is that people don't understand how it works. Juju is like numbers. Does the numbers 0,1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and the other bigger numbers really exist? Or are they something we're making up in our minds. This has been a question that philosophers, metaphysicists and even mathematicians have been trying to answer for centuries without conclusion. Does numbers exist or are we making them up in our minds.

My view about the above is that we're co-creating our reality with nature. If you're adding 5+5 in your mind while awake it's only you that knows its ten in your mind. What people don't know is that when you're asleep and dreaming, you use a whole different type of mathematics to arrive at the same answer. So, numbers exist and also doesn't exist at the same time. It's just a utility that you can use whenever you want. It only exists when you're conscious of the maths. It's same with juju. If you cultivate it in your conscious, it will exist in your mind, and begin to control you. For those that believe it like my junior brothers, it will appear real in their mind such that whenever his di.ck rise, he'll attribute it to the jazz working, not realizing that your faith in something makes it create your reality and that it's normal for di.ck to randomly rise every now and then. Therefore, he'll be using correlation as causation and will never be able to figure out what's really going on.

You'll find more details in one of my threads titled: the science of jazz

I will follow your thread and, as you have stated, it is time we question these beliefs; if true, publish the result, patent the new technologies derived from them, commercialise them, etc. I don't see why a juju or cultural practice is potent, yet the practitioners are poor and live in squalid conditions. We have to understudy what happens in our environments.

Gerrard59:
I attribute the bold to our cultural beliefs of not questioning things. There is this belief or upbringing that most Nigerians get from small never to question beliefs or things in general. It is why I am always glad the Internet exists. In my books, everything MUST be questioned. It is less about the education system, but the cultural upbringing. Religion also contributes. It is another reason I am not a strong fan of religion - it opposes the right to question.


I will follow your thread and, as you have stated, it is time we question these beliefs; if true, publish the result, patent the new technologies derived from them, commercialise them, etc. I don't see why a juju or cultural practice is potent, yet the practitioners are poor and live in squalid conditions. We have to understudy what happens in our environments.

There's no other way it could be questioned in general without a body of organized system of learning (education) that can disprove it and transfer that new knowledge down to the present and future generation.

Education is cultural, it's a culture that develops their system of learning as it is in Japan, Russia, China, and all other free countries. It is within that body of your own knowledge that you can learn enough to question it, and continouslly sharpen it by discarding unwanted ideas.

The best way a drunkard stops drinking is when the person decides that he/she cannot continue that way.

This has already happened in Europe beginning in what they call the renaissance period. That's when Europeans began to question everything, people began to choose to KNOW, rather than to BELIEVE. That's when they began to question and reject Christianity. The result was that it lead them to the scientific revolution, and that's when Europeans set themselves apart from the rest of the world.

Outthemudbyvoke:
Apt... The scars that emanates from entering a relationship from a position of weakness is everlasting and traumatic. I would rather die a monk hustling and trying to get rich than being a lap dog and object of ridicule begging to be loved by ladies

Na why my oga says he fears poverty more than death.

Hypergamy can be cruel.

musicwriter:
There's no other way it could be questioned in general without a body of organized system of learning (education) that can disprove it and transfer that new knowledge down to the present and future generation. Education is cultural, it's a culture that develops their system of learning as it is in Japan, Russia, China, and all other free countries. It is within that body of your own knowledge that you can learn enough to question it, and continouslly sharpen it by discarding unwanted ideas. The best way a drunkard stops drinking is when the person decides that he/she cannot continue that way. This has already happened in Europe beginning in what they call the renaissance period. That's when Europeans began to question everything, people began to choose to KNOW, rather than to BELIEVE. That's when they began to question and reject Christianity. The result was that it lead them to the scientific revolution, and that's when Europeans set themselves apart from the rest of the world.

The bold is true. Many years ago, I was pondering when we will experience an African Renaissance era. When do you think this will happen?

I see the Internet and its associated services as the means through which our people, especially young ones, will begin to question certain thoughts, beliefs and practices. Truth is: we cannot continue the way we do things.

Commentor:
No.

He's no longer a boy, but a man.

He can chew gum and walk at the same time.

It's best if he can find his mate in the one place in life that he'll be surrounded by the most women.

Someone he can grow with.

This is exactly how I married my sweet wife. We entered school the same year but I met her in second year for serious friendship in school, then 2years after our nyscs we got married

musicwriter:
Not joking.

The first thing I warned them about when I came back to Nigeria some years ago was to free themselves from porn. Because I could see they were addicted to porn. The youngest one that now have a dead di.ck, I've warned him several times. But not knowing the type of person I am and that I can read his mind, he began to record voice note where he was denying it so that he can send to his sisters to deceive them. But I'll explain to them whenever I feel like.

I'm curious how you got to know he has a dick that doesn't work and how you know he watches porn.

If going by what you're saying, then I can assume that jerking off was what made his dick to malfunction, or something of sort. 🤔

Gerrard59:
The bold is true. Many years ago, I was pondering when we will experience an African Renaissance era. When do you think this will happen?

I see the Internet and its associated services as the means through which our people, especially young ones, will begin to question certain thoughts, beliefs and practices. Truth is: we cannot continue the way we do things.

After independence, we were very close to having that type of cultural revolution on the African continent. That's when some intelligent African authors began calling for African languages to be used in literature rather than European languages.

Unfortunately, Britain and the CIA stopped it right before it took off. Three Jewish CIA agents:- namely; Arthur Koestler, Ulli Beier, JanHeinz Jahn were responsible (for those who have read my book: what is Satan? JanHeinz Jahn is the unknown Jew that I forgot his name at the time of writing). There's another British man named Gerald Moore that I am still working to unravel his ethnic background. They were the ones that misled the post-colonial African authors into choosing European languages for writing.

If the post-colonial African authors rejected the use of European languages in literature, they would immediately have also realized that all foreign religions must be rejected too. It would have set off a cultural revolution that would have swept across the African continent like wildfire just like the political revolution that brought us Independence.

That's when the revolution would have happened to see us question everything, including our own practices. But Europeans stopped it before it took off because they knew it would result in African cultural and intellectual revolution just as it did in Europe in the renaissance period.

The revolution can still occur whenever we realize that we should be learning, speaking, reading and writing in our own language. That's when we'll become self-aware and self-knowing and begin to question everything, including our own practices at an intellectual level

Gerrard59:
Na why my oga says he fears poverty more than death.

Hypergamy can be cruel.

In death you know and feel nothing compared to all the inhumane treatment and low standard of living that is associated with poverty

bukatyne:
Another guy said he was in charge of pageantry for my state and wanted me to rep my state abi town.

Interestingly, a number of the peeps who got married in my set were mates I.e. same level.

Years later I am just discovering this was a general line😂😂😂. I heard it a lot as a fairly tall lady. So it got boring quickly. He even brought form.

Not surprising for your region. As someone who grew in the SW, I never saw men and women whine so much about age or marriage until I moved to the SE.

pocohantas:
Years later I am just discovering this was a general line😂😂😂. I heard it a lot as a fairly tall lady. So it got boring quickly. He even brought form.

Proto cucumber geng

GloriousGbola:
Proto cucumber geng

Obviously the manuscript isn't even being updated. 😂😂😂

DoctorStanley:
Not to "grow with" while they're in school. Too late for that

Yet those expired flesh are ready to grow with him. Abeg, this is distractive

Sonnobax15:

Guy, shouldn't you be thinking of how you'd conquer the labour market after graduation, instead of thinking about bannies wey no equally send you too?

See distraction.
I pray more men real eyes that it is better for them not to marry evils

Host78:
I am going to say this stuff and most guys will probably relate with it.

You may have noticed it too. But if you have not, as I describe this you'll understand it once.

So, when we just gained admission newly and resumed school, for most of us we just want to get the best grades.

But not just grades sha.

I personally made a vow that I'll have my first serious girlfriend from 100l.

My goal was that we could grow together from there and probably get married someday.

Don't blame me, your boy was young and naive then.

Most girls in 100l with us then just won't date us.

I mean some did but never anything serious.

Their eyes were rather on the senior students. These girls were going with guys in 300l and 400l students.

Omo, senior men wey we dey respect as guys naim these girls dey call 'baby'.

100l was tough.

You will toast this girl today and both of you'll be feeling it and the next day same girl will break up with you.

Not that you did anything o. Na senior student Don toast her be that.

Now here's the problem. It's 6 years after and we are in 400l.

We are now the 'highest' in the school.

And the obvious now is some of these girls are now trying to cling to us.

It's funny now sha. Person wey dey feel like say dem no fit look your side a few years ago now wan dey follow you package stuff.

Unfortunately, me no too send them again. Fresh babes are coming in every year and they seem better, look more eager and tends to demand less.

So why would I leave such for my mate who dem chew for my front and she's still demanding something serious?

I also think this same thing happens in the real dating world.

These girls in their younger age will go after matured men leaving boys in their age groups.

A few years later, these boys will catch up and the girls will want to come back but then younger girls go don already dey.

Even in secondary school it was like this.

Me I no give anybody face again.