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Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op):
I have been with this Ijaw girl (Edo Ijaw) for sometime now and I must say that my relationship with her has been a roller coaster. I have my doubts about her though . I'm considering settling down .

My main concern is infidelity in any woman.

How do Ijaw women fair when it comes to been faithful/unfaithful?
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Nobody: 1:09pm On Oct 14, 2025
Things Dey happen oo. You don’t know somebody well and you’re thinking of marriage already🤦‍♂️

Abi you’re just telling yourself that cos you want to eat out of the honeypot 🍯

After marriage now, you’ll still come and disturb us with how your wife isn’t faithful.

To flog you Dey hungry me 👨‍🦯
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 1:17pm On Oct 14, 2025
SpencerForbes:
Things Dey happen oo. You don’t know somebody well and you’re thinking of marriage already🤦‍♂️

Abi you’re just telling yourself that cos you want to eat out of the honeypot 🍯

After marriage now, you’ll still come and disturb us with how your wife isn’t faithful.

To flog you Dey hungry me 👨‍🦯
Been together for 2 years on and off
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by rtdCivilservant: 1:21pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
Been together for 2 years on and off
U don fucck her before? When u answer then I will tell u all u want to know.
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Nobody: 1:24pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
Been together for 2 years on and off
In the space of this 2 years, have you observed any signs of infidelity??
If you aren’t sure, you can still give yourself time.
Two years is enough to study people. I can study people in 4 months and determine their actions.

Get to know if you’re compatible in all aspects. Sexually, emotionally and even financially. Don’t allow the honeypot to deceive you. I’ve bookmarked your your name😂
If I see your post here later, I’ll still flog you👨‍🦯
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 1:25pm On Oct 14, 2025
rtdCivilservant:
U don fucck her before? When u answer then I will tell u all u want to know.
Yes na... We dey together like man and woman (like couples do)
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op):
SpencerForbes:
In the space of this 2 years, have you observed any signs of infidelity??
If you aren’t sure, you can still give yourself time.
Two years is enough to study people. I can study people in 4 months and determine their actions.

Get to know if you’re compatible in all aspects. Sexually, emotionally and even financially. Don’t allow the honeypot to deceive you. I’ve bookmarked your your name😂
If I see your post here later, I’ll still flog you👨‍🦯
She can be stubborn especially when she doesn't have her way, physically aggressive when angry, great hustle spirit (I give her that ) .

She kept male friends before I met her , had to compel her to cut them off, some of them caused issues between us . She too like to keep male acquaintances,both male neighbours o, some would even even visit her apartment when I'm not there, for months I'd park my car at her compound whenever I get in late from work, past midnight mostly and this prompted my staying over at her place couple of days every week(she's a fashion designer and has her workspace at her flat).
I have made it clear to her that every guy around her wants to Bleep her (she's petite but curvy). that's why I don't trust any man around my woman but she still believes that all men are not like that especially her male acquaintances .

Recently she's started with stories of joining choir, no more fornication etc , that I should go do the right thing .well, we're still intimate specifically on the days she's Hot(ovulating) and wants to copulate . brethren it's been a roller coaster, I have doubts, some days I feel I can wife her, some days I just want to walk away.

She's 2 years away from mid 30's


From my discovery ,at least two of her Ex's , one oversea and one in same city still communicates with her on Whatsapp, same with numerous male acquaintances, former classmates, neighbours etc
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Nobody: 1:48pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
She can be stubborn especially when she doesn't have her way, physically aggressive when angry, great hustle spirit (I give her that ) .

She kept male friends before I met her , had to compel her to cut them off, some of them caused issues between us . She too like to keep male acquaintances,both male neighbours o, some would even even visit her apartment when I'm not there, for months I'd park my car at her compound whenever I get in late from work, past midnight mostly and this prompted my staying over at her place couple of days every week(she's a fashion designer and has her workspace at her flat).
I have made it clear to her that every guy around her wants to Bleep her (she's petite but curvy). that's why I don't trust any man around my woman but she still believes that all men are not like that especially her male acquaintances .

Recently she's started with stories of joining choir, no more fornication etc , that I should go do the right thing .well, we're still intimate specifically on the days she's Hot(ovulating) and wants to copulate . brethren it's been a roller coaster, I have doubts, some days I feel I can wife her, some days I just want to walk away
You’re still in the dating phase. Don’t ever think you can change people cos you’re married or she just momentarily stopped it. If you can live with it, it’s fine. No one is perfect.

But if you know you can’t, find another lady you can manage with.

Shalom ✌️
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by ManknowThyself(m): 2:04pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
She can be stubborn especially when she doesn't have her way, physically aggressive when angry, great hustle spirit (I give her that ) .

She kept male friends before I met her , had to compel her to cut them off, some of them caused issues between us . She too like to keep male acquaintances,both male neighbours o, some would even even visit her apartment when I'm not there, for months I'd park my car at her compound

whenever I get in late from work, past midnight mostly and this prompted my staying over at her place couple of days every week(she's a fashion designer and has her workspace at her flat).
I have made it clear to her that every guy around her wants to Bleep her (she's petite but curvy). that's why I don't trust any man around my woman but she still believes that all men are not like that especially her male acquaintances .

Recently she's started with stories of joining choir, no more fornication etc , that I should go do the right thing .well, we're still intimate specifically on the days she's Hot(ovulating) and wants to copulate . brethren it's been a roller coaster, I have doubts, some days I feel I can wife her, some days I just want to walk away.

She's 2 years away from mid 30's
My brother as a man you never marry with emotional feelings but with spiritual awakening and clarity of your heart.

You said it has been on and off that’s red flag.
In life any person or shoe that cause you pain is not your size! Those off times was because of disrespect and pain.
She already manipulating you by joining choir,
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by gerizzim: 2:25pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
I have been with this Ijaw girl (Edo Ijaw) for sometime now and I must say that my relationship with her has been a roller coaster. I have my doubts about her though . I'm considering settling down .

My main concern is infidelity in any woman.

How do Ijaw women fair when it comes to been faithful/unfaithful?
Which one be Edo ijaw?
Do you mean the father is Edo and the mother is ijaw? Or we have an Edo tribe in that state?
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by gerizzim: 2:33pm On Oct 14, 2025
can just one person among other million of ladies in a tribe , state or locality give you a reasonable comparative conclusion of how the whole female in that tribe behaves?

You and I know that such analysis can't give you a clear cut answer.

Marry her if you want to or you leave her for another person to marry her.

You are suppose to be the judge. Na you dey see the gal all the time.
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 2:35pm On Oct 14, 2025
gerizzim:
Which one be Edo ijaw?
Do you mean the father is Edo and the mother is ijaw? Or we have an Edo tribe in that state?
They're are indigenous Ijaws in almost all the SS States...Ondo, Edo ,Delta,Rivers etc...Bayelsa is where the bulk of them are
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Jakarta: 3:22pm On Oct 14, 2025
Ijaw girls love sex like Calabar girls. I spent over 2 years in Bayelsa if not for my ability to control my sexual urge, I would have slept with my landlord's wife and his daughter. Sex to those chicks is almost like a handshake.
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Mindlog: 4:58pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
I have been with this Ijaw girl (Edo Ijaw) for sometime now and I must say that my relationship with her has been a roller coaster. I have my doubts about her though . I'm considering settling down .

My main concern is infidelity in any woman.

How do Ijaw women fair when it comes to been faithful/unfaithful?
How do you fare, when it comes to being faithful/unfaithful?
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Kobojunkie: 5:23pm On Oct 14, 2025
natedroid:
➜I have been with this Ijaw girl (Edo Ijaw) for sometime now and I must say that my relationship with her has been a roller coaster. I have my doubts about her though . I'm considering settling down . My main concern is infidelity in any woman.How do Ijaw women fair when it comes to been faithful/unfaithful?
What do Ijaw women do with your experience with one woman? If you find you are not compatible with that particular woman, move on. Stop trying to make your attachment issues about a whole tribe that has nothing to do with it. undecided

If you are not confident in a relationship, the common-sense thing to do is to leave it. Romantic relationships are not by force... stop trying to complicate the simple things. undecided
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 5:28pm On Oct 14, 2025
Mindlog:
How do you fare, when it comes to being faithful/unfaithful?
I'm a loyal cat
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Mindlog:
natedroid:
I'm a loyal cat
Infidelity is not about a tribe but an individual who made the decision to cheat and you shared that you have doubts about her, why not move on from her?
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by Bahamas95(m): 10:58pm On Oct 14, 2025
One thing I have noticed about Ijaw girls is that they're very direct when it comes to asking for sex, they don't pretend like girls from most Nigerian tribes. They have something in common with Cross River/Akwa Ibom and Benue girls.



In terms of cheating I don't think it got to do with a particular tribe, it's a personal decision..... As for me I can't marry a woman with lots of male friends around her, it's a big red flag. You may end up raising another man's child(ren) tomorrow believing they're yours.
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op):
Personally, I believe it is vital to investigate,ask questions, do some digging about the family, lineage or tribe of the partner you want to settle down with. This can reveal valuable information about their values , traits and behaviours. It would help you understand your partner better , why she behaves and acts in certain way subconsciously.

I have been trying to ask some questions both online and offline . So far this is what I gathered



1. Female Autonomy and Economic Independence: Traditionally, Ijaw women have held significant economic power. They are often the primary traders, controlling markets (especially in fish and other goods). This economic independence historically translated into greater social and personal autonomy, including in their relationships.
2. Non Linear Marriage and Family Structures: The Ijaw, like many other ethnic groups in the Niger Delta had practices that differed greatly from the Victorian, monogamous model of marriage.
· Women's Societies: Powerful women's societies (like the Iya or women's council) held sway over social life, including regulating relationships and settling disputes. They served as a counterbalance to male authority.
· Flexible Unions: Concepts of marriage were often more flexible. A woman might have relationships with different men, and the social recognition of paternity was sometimes separate from the biological act. The key focus was on the well-being of the child and its integration into the mother's lineage.
· "Fattening Rooms" (Iria): This pre-marriage ritual, where young women are secluded to be fed, taught domestic skills, and adorned, is not about purifying them for a single man. It's a rite of passage that celebrates their womanhood and prepares them for adult life, which includes sexuality and childbearing, often within a community context rather than an exclusively possessive, monogamous one.
3. A Different Concept of "Virginity": In many traditional Ijaw societies, a high value was not placed on pre-marital virginity in the same way it was in, for example, Hausa or Yoruba cultures influenced by Islam and Christianity. A woman's value was tied more to her fertility, her economic productivity, and her strength of character than to her sexual history

It would also shock alot of people to learn that Ijaw women are typically buried in their father's hometown due to a deeply rooted cultural traditions .

I hope you understand why I'm asking these questions. Things are done differently where I come , this is sort of a culture shock to me
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 11:18am On Oct 15, 2025
Bahamas95:
One thing I have noticed about Ijaw girls is that they're very direct when it comes to asking for sex, they don't pretend like girls from most Nigerian tribes. They have something in common with Cross River/Akwa Ibom and Benue girls.



In terms of cheating I don't think it got to do with a particular tribe, it's a personal decision..... As for me I can't marry a woman with lots of male friends around her, it's a big red flag. You may end up raising another man's child(ren) tomorrow believing they're yours.
I understand your point. How factual are what I just posted above
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by brain54(m): 9:20am On Oct 16, 2025
You have been together with a person for two years...

Even admitting that you have been together as a couple. But you are more concerned about generalisation of the group rather than the individual whom you ought to know better by now after 2 years.

People like you have minds that are easily swayed! undecided
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by AngelicBeing: 1:24pm On Oct 16, 2025
Jakarta:
Ijaw girls love sex like Calabar girls. I spent over 2 years in Bayelsa if not for my ability to control my sexual urge, I would have slept with my landlord's wife and his daughter. Sex to those chicks is almost like a handshake.
Hian , this is Deep ooooooooo shocked
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by natedroid(op): 2:25pm On Oct 16, 2025
AngelicBeing:
Hian , this is Deep ooooooooo shocked
What he said he is very factual
Re: Please Who Can Enlighten Me More About Ijaw Girls by AngelicBeing: 2:27pm On Oct 16, 2025
natedroid:
What he said he is very factual
shocked

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